kaziblake:
Not watching

ActOfWar:

Lol I almost forgot you have this sweet side in you. Babe its high time we moved this convo. To a better platform, don't you think?

interloper:

Big guy am kool like dat! Being a whirlwind of relocation and adjusting to new environments that created my scarcity online all along but thank goodness be heading back to Europe in a few weeks from now and I align back to my defacto life.......... offshore work and life not so adventurous sometimes.

I did make a few cameo appearances on that forum in the last few weeks....... Tagged you I believe but every one seems to have upgraded to some hard-core aboriginal names and I really don't know who is who again but I am walking my way back as time and opportunity permits from hence....... Miss you guys dearly.

I hope some kind of Renaissance or social rebirth comes to play in the black family and communities because we are just not holding things down nicely on many fronts.

We need to start looking at ourselves straight in the eyes and tell ourselves some serious home truths, we have not faired fantastically globally in celebrating and nurturing good family units nurtured with love and care within our societies and I think we all share some blame individually and collectively.

Hurts me as a man when I hear the black woman is the least desirable of all races when it comes to interracial dating, might sound racially chauvinistic or stereotypically but for fact statistics don't lie and sadly this is true.........even the Asians and Indians are rated higher than us! Sadly

Am just using this as one of the many examples that the black girl child might internalize her self worth with, why does she have to struggle to be loved by her fellow black brothers? why does she get labeled as an angry black woman when she conveys her pain and frustration with so much passion? why does she get overlooked despite her brilliance in many human endeavors or being told she doesn't fit into the mainstream culture!

I know the system is pretty tough on us melanin folks but we just have to continue the positive conversation and portrayal of our people and hope in no time the burden of proving ourselves beyond all reasonable doubts will cease and the benefits will cascade to the younger girls/boys, hopefully they can in turn find joy and happiness from within and be better self assured to face the challenges of life without having to deal with all this cobwebs of racism, sexism and color bar.

daretodiffer:
Nope! Thanks for offering though

ActOfWar:
Lol never expected a positive reply from you Na, shey be Na you.. How are you?

daretodiffer:
I am good. You?

ActOfWar:
Everything seems boring. You mind telling me how u coined ur monikers(d2d and do.ve.da)

daretodiffer:
I am good. You?

daretodiffer:
I am good. You?

I acceed to the fact that black girls are more susceptible to self-harm than black men due to the emotional fragility of females. But I do not believe that black girls have numerical superiority over black men as regards who is more prone to having a mental illness(es)—I think we are on an equal playing ground in that department.

As this article says, the stigma that we unwittingly attach to mental illnesses and people living with depression is the main reason why people shirk from paying timely visits to a therapist—a move that could have proactively stymied the chances of ugly and very avoidable disaster(s) from making it to the surface—but would rather choose to live in self-denial, which by the way is the first stage of sadness according to the Kübbler-Ross Model. The second being Anger, followed by Bargaining, and then Depression, and then Acceptance.

If one is unable to segue successfully from depression into acceptance, then it leads to self-harm, self-hate, sadism, suicide and many other 'unputdownables'.

I remember Kevin Hart saying this in Central Intelligence when his wife asked that they see a marriage counsellor: "We ain't seeing no therapist, baby!. Black people don't see no therapist. When we are sad we take our problems to the Barber's shop or watch the movie 'Barber Shop

That up there is pretty much the sum and substance of this article.