I cried for my first gf wen she broke up wit me but now I don pass that level

dollyjoy:
Read your post again. Pftttttttttttt

babe I use God take beg you, just allow me rest.. No start wetin u no fit finish.. Pftttttttttttt Kor pfeti on the beat ni

Fell in love once stupidly, she broke my heart... saw her intimate with another guy,... cried quietly for some days..., and thankfully my younger brother encouraged me. Moved on, ...but became bad, oh yes, meant it...coz I was too hurt.
Calmed down a bit now tho, coz am in love again...but this time, hopefully, am wiser.

So the assertion, that good guys are changed by women to bad, is true.

Olajay3700:
The post too wack. Cry all u want. Like Arsenal shame, it is ur tears. Mind u. I will laugh if i see you. Nobody give a f*ck....

Guy u desaf a Grammy

So true just like when a man do love he truely do. That's me. I'm not the double dating type, I believe in one man one woman. But it happened I fell in love with one pretty lady who promise me nothing in this world could seperate us. cha... When I discover she was cheating, due to the love I had for her, I really had to forgive always. I was not short of babes, but I saw reasons to always love her above her flaws. But what really broke my heart was when this lady kissed a guy, and told me her boy friend was her cousin, they kissed and embraced each other and uploaded it to facebook and wrote my boo, when I asked why such misconduct, she said; they were playing as cousins. That was when that spirit of naive, the veil in my eyes fell off because de devil is a liar... Jha. And she also used same pic on her whatsapp. I just had to do more finding and with much prove I showed her, she was vexing telling me she is managing me that she has many dude who wants her. Out of vexation I told her it over, but really do not mean it. We reconcile and three days to my birthday dec 14th 2014 she broke my heart with the news that she can't date me again. I cried for her, pleaded, sent her voice note of apology, told my elder brother to plead with her, ask two of my friends to help me beg her, but none worked. I felt like life was of no use, but I just have to thank my God, I've a lovely elder brother who always called me to comfort me with encouraging words then. But early this year she called me, talked normal,during de point of conversation she asked how is my babe. I told her am not in rush of relationship now, but I have someone I care about but I am taking a step soon to professe my love for her. That was the last time she called me.

sadly:
lol exactly like mine. She no fine reach other girls. Na after the heart break my eyes open to fine chikalas so Tey I go ask myself say na this ugly thing I been dey kill myself for?

I'm still trying to get ova my ex gf.....I've been unable to have a steady relationship with some ladies because they dnt measure up

yes

Toks2008:
Ok we know that a man represents the stronger gender but he is also human with emotions and vulnerability.

When a guy breaks a lady's heart people tend to curse and say stuffs like he is wicked,all men are the same,if he knows he won't..why waste her time and so on..

But in the case of the guy getting heart broken they say stuffs like "Be a man, there are many other ladies out there to choose from,don't tell me you are crying because a woman breaks your heart..."

Why is this so? Don't they know that considering a man's ego, it is harder for a guy when he gets heart broken by a lady he really wants and have invested his emotions and time on?
did he not see other ladies before settling with that one and what if he is not interested in any other lady except that one?
it becomes even most painful when the lady breaks your heart without prior notice and you start going bunkers talking to yourself and asking yourself funny questions.

I strongly believe that if you truly desire a lady and she breaks your heart and it happens to be the first time for you...na cry sure pass because if you bottle the emotions,you may react in a terrible way by harming yourself or the lady so its better to let out the pains and anger by crying out loud.

Please when next you see a guy sulking or even crying like a baby over a heart break just let him cry his heart out because we are humans too and it takes so much pain for a man to see the woman he truly wants in the hands of another man.

But I want any lady reading this to know that if a man ever shed tears because you opt out of his life,please go back to that guy because for a guy to break just a drop of tears for you,then that guy really desires you so why lose such for another who will most likely make you cry?

So guys let's drop our macho attitude and do a little confession...Have you ever been heart broken before? and how did you react? Did you cry?

Over to you guys.

hmmm, I can relate bro. Before the incident, I'd said "kojo ,how can I cry because of a girl?" Bros, when I got the heartbreak msg, I was normal, not until when my MP played Sam Smith's "Reminds me of you" Oh boi, rossita made cry

sprinter101:

Don't pray it happens to you, your mind and head will be messed up man,.no pray make u meet karashika

me wey don plan exit from the onset.

Yes oooo, one mumu girl likedat 4 years ago, loved her like mad, after God, my parents, she was the next on the hierarchy, till the mofo broke my heart ooo, the worst part... She did it for no reason... Well my bro asked her n she said i wasnt rich... Lol thank God we hustled hard and we aint broke, now got someone better than her... I almost died tho

is always band to happen but moving on with your life is the best thing to though it pains altimes

Good morning friends i was only once when i was in secondary school infact i cried a little and manned up and vowed never to be in that situation again,went on to break a couple of hearts after that too,now flash back to when i was in uni ibadan,my room mate almost committed suicide,we his close friends became his parents and pastor at the same time,its really hits your ego,self esteem, morale i can go on but all in all its not a good feeling..

Toks2008:


If to sey I never promise myself that I won't woo any lady below 27 I for woo you.........cos you look like responsible lady.

Exactly bro. I now try avoid these young babes cos most of them are quite unstable. Although I would set the age limit at 26 or (lowest) 25.

These young ladies think the world revolves around them in their early twenties. They want to experience all of their fantasies; feel the thrills of double dating; live out the life of a movie character; they want to eat their cake and have it. They are more likely to give drama.

They want a stable guy who would remain stolid but also give them space to run wild without voicing his reservations. Also, they feel he must be ready, waiting to embrace them after their frequent prodigal voyages.

Older ladies seem to realize that the wild and free lives as seen in media and soceity are just scripted for the purpose of income or endorsement. Life is really a mellow affair when you strip it to it's core. Some mature ones are wild too, but you are more likely to find a more stable ladies in this older group. I'm sticking to the mature ones now. Drama queens don show me pepper.

No mind those ladies, they always take man as say we be Robot wey no get emotion. I trust aminat508 no dey among
=> Most guys don't cry outside but if you see them smiling when a girl break their heart, the truth is; they are crying deep inside. Shoutout to all the Good Guys on NL.

If you've never experienced heartbreak, just pray you don't... It takes a lot to get over it, if the love is real.
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Crying when heartbroken isn't a sign of weakness but rather, one is a human being.

misscall247:
ppl r different

like me,i cnt
more ova I Neva intend to marry u#so y sld dat worry me#

Not when you loose a diamond
while chasing stone

nope never

jojosweet:
and I think if a man can cry he is the strongest tho.. but trust me if he truly deeply honestly love her. He won't just cry he might cry in front of her if he could. Heart break is the bitch not the men/women.

Yea true.! Goodmorning.

AfroKnight:


Exactly bro. I now try avoid these young babes cos most of them are quite unstable. Although I would set the age limit at 26 or (lowest) 25.

These young ladies think the world revolves around them in their early twenties. They want to experience all of their fantasies; feel the thrills of double dating; live out the life of a movie character; they want to eat their cake and have it. They are more likely to give drama.

They want a stable guy who would remain stolid but also give them space to run wild without voicing his reservations. Also, they feel he must be ready, waiting to embrace them after their frequent prodigal voyages.

Older ladies seem to realize that the wild and free lives as seen in media and soceity are just scripted for the purpose of income or endorsement. Life is really a mellow affair when you strip it to it's core. Some mature ones are wild too, but you are more likely to find a more stable ladies in this older group. I'm sticking to the mature ones now. Drama queens don show me pepper.

You nailed it bro but ironically my recent ex who will be 34 in few months displays all you wrote...infact I practically asked her to give me breathing space..some ladies are either confused or jinxed.

Toks2008:


You nailed it bro but ironically my recent ex who will be 34 in few months displays all you wrote...infact I practically asked her to give me breathing space..some ladies are either confused or jinxed.

Ah! Still like this at 34? Her case is peculiar. Maybe she has made up her mind to remain single.

Akeem1759:
Seriously this is my current situation, a girl that I love so much suddenly broke up with me with an excuse that she's still in love with her Ex that broke up with her 6years ago.. the crazy thing is the Ex is now a married man and he's far away in Europe, had it been she's a bad girl I could have had said probably she's seeing someone else.. Her mama don curse her tire that she's in lust and not love but this girl no gree ooo, she insist if the guy refuse to come back to her, she won't get married.. I can't just stop crying since last week men, she told me straight face that I'm a good man and if she eventually get married to me, she won't be a good wife 'Gbam'.. I just free her now ni oo

I say some ladies are possessed with ogbanje spirit.

Your married ex abeg what is she thinking? maybe she lied to you cos this is hard to believe ...

joe4real12:
Heart break Weak guys everywhere

you missed out on that beautiful thing didn't you?

Monikween:
I once dated a guy who cried over me when we broke up but he was crying because he was obsessed with me maybe not in love. he hit me because he tot I was sleeping around. he'll make up stories in his head and imagine how my day went where I went why is my hair not in place y do I look like I wasn't coming from home y is there a sweater in my bag? y did u take pictures with that guy y dis y DAT...whenever I'm asleep checks my messages he was too possessive.. I really loved him but it was too much to bear...the few months we were together was hell..He's an athlete so he's well toned and muscular but this made him more aggressive cos am petite and helpless compared to him...I wish he was gentler
but an abusive person will forever be abusive
when we broke up he started hurting himself with objects and crying and everyone was begging me but I couldn't go back to that hell...*heaves* remembering all dis just made me sad

Eyaah

I always tell non abusive ladies that if a man hits you the first time, assume it was a mistake but if he does it the second time please take a walk far far away from him but if you feel the love is strong then report him to the police and make him sign an undertaken and hope he stops the act.

Toks2008:


You nailed it bro but ironically my recent ex who will be 34 in few months displays all you wrote...infact I practically asked her to give me breathing space..some ladies are either confused or jinxed.

kai... I wanted to respond to that guy with something like this but refrained from it. I had to after seeing this.

Like you said some girls are jinxed.

I have this 32 year old lady I like. She has good manners, well bred BUT she does not seem to know what is good for her in terms of guys she choose to date because they do not value her.

We served together where she dated a guy younger than her. He never treated her right but she stayed put. Post NYSC I approached her and she still tell me she has someone else at 32? I feel pity for her but just want to give her till next year. Anything after that, she should have herself to blame.

You might feel why wait but truth is that the girl is good, a perfect wife material BUT her choice of piking guys is her greatest undoing and she is the type that does not leave a relationship even if it's not favouring her. Pathetic.

Debbywills:
Op,
I know You heartbroken and One Sissy is Trynna cheer u up by giving you those words of consolation.

Cheer up, There are plenty girls out there

it seems you don't understand. maybe you have never experience heart break.

profem1:

Bros, na you o.

naso bro,heartbreak can kill,if I wasn't strong enof,maybe I would have committed suicide.... No foolishness can be more Dan that

shurlermoz:
eyah, den don do OP strong thing. don't worry, you will get over it.
e nearly happen to me once but as the girl start to dey misbehave me sef just jejely hold my side, e pain me o but it wld have been disastrous if she actually say those words.

Take heart bro, you can cry if you feel like it but let this be the last time any woman will do this to you.

lol! not really dude in fact I believe that no lady can dump me because I'm too real for that.

The first lady who broke my heart about 16yrs ago came begging just after 3months and even the last break up I had about 4years ago, the lady still came back but I had moved on in the first instance but I gave the recent one another chance but I realized she is still wavering so I had to tell her to give me space.

Once it happens once to you, it will likely never happen again.

Nevertheless I have realized my faults and that is going for naive ladies who always want to explore latter..this time I want an experienced lady who have realized that there is nothing out there.

If you like pamper a naive lady with love, money, care and everything...she will always bliv their is something better out there not until she tries it out to know she was fooling herself.

CaptainCodes:
Fell in love once stupidly, she broke my heart... saw her intimate with another guy,... cried quietly for some days..., and thankfully my younger brother encouraged me. Moved on, ...but became bad, oh yes, meant it...coz I was too hurt.
Calmed down a bit now tho, coz am in love again...but this time, hopefully, am wiser.

So the assertion, that good guys are changed by women to bad, is true.

good you calmed down. I allowed mine to get too much till I missed an angel.

sadly:
kai... I wanted to respond to that guy with something like this but refrained from it. I had to after seeing this.

Like you said some girls are jinxed.

I have this 32 year old lady I like. She has good manners, well bred BUT she does not seem to know what is good for her in terms of guys she choose to date because they do not value her.

We served together where she dated a guy younger than her. He never treated her right but she stayed put. Post NYSC I approached her and she still tell me she has someone else at 32? I feel pity for her but just want to give her till next year. Anything after that, she should have herself to blame.

You might feel why wait but truth is that the girl is good, a perfect wife material BUT her choice of piking guys is her greatest undoing and she is the type that does not leave a relationship even if it's not favouring her. Pathetic.

This thread is really making guys reveal deep stuffs that we would ordinarily keep to ourselves.

Guys go tru shits but becos we don't talk mu h abt it no one seems to know.

How can you describe a case when you met a sweet 19yr old lady while you were just 27 and being her first guy you loved her so well like kilode.

After 6yrs you had intro and legal wedding then she suggested you both wait for some reasons before doing the trad wedding then both of you started stayn tgthr as man and wife then suddenly after 11yrs of sweet union and at 30 she started saying stuffs like..she feels caged..she has spent all her life with you...she did not enjoy her freedom...

Omo when she started saying this I knew it was time to let go and I painfully did cos I knew she wanted to see what the outside has in store.

People begged her family begged but for where? This lady is what you will call a super perfect wife material but the sudden madness no get part two.
..in fact she said we were never married because I have not paid her bride price that the legal wedding was mere charade and I said LOBATAN!

They say if you love something let it go..if its yours it will always come back so she did come back by herself around may this year..unremorseful and when I realized she is still unstable I asked her why she came back just for her to say she is not really back yet but just want to observe things and that was when I got scared that she must be possessed or how do I explain a 34 yr old lady who seem to be blessed with good virtues but acting so weird...abeg if there is one person to be observed should that not be her?I had to tell her to leave.

Trust me dude, things dey happen for this life o and some things are better left to imagination.

People tell you go and marry and you just shake your head at their ignorance...there is madness everywhere..may God help us.

AfroKnight:


Ah! Still like this at 34? Her case is peculiar. Maybe she has made up her mind to remain single.

In fact she uses words like..must a lady be with a man..I'm happy as I am..bla bla bla

Nna abeg make I run..I still young small..may God help her.

Heartbreak is something you don't wish your enemy to go through, it disorganize ones mind.