Smellymouth:
Nice piece bro..The truth must be said and you have said it all..

Naijaboiy just wan spoil market for some naija ladies..

The way some ladies will enter and leave this thread ==>


The way some look at naijabouy==>

www.nairaland.com/attachments/4190745_angry_jpege1724d0f0469e2374d2f8d329142a998

Make them nor cut my head o!

Laveda:


Yes we have nau.., but in this Era? We all do

Dominique this is worth Fp ma'am, don't you think?

So all of Una dey joke?

Egbami

falconey:
I disagree, first of all the value of money has depreciated due to inflation, what 500,000k could do last year you will be need 1.5m-2m to do it now.

you'll need to be Financially buoyant, swim in millions to at least Carter for yourself and your family for the next 10years no matter the change in government policy and global economy, unless of course your fiancée is ready to support in resource generation,management and solvency.


"It is also an irony that these same guys who said they are hustling and don't want to get distracted by a woman will still spend so much money on drinks and prostitutes. If you're the kind of guy that claims women are distractions but you waste your money on the same women randomly and on drinks then you're your own problem"

funny post, naijaboiy please modern economist(myself) will bash you for this, because I don't spend on what you believe is right doesn't mean I'm wasting my resources(money). we have two major spenders the normative spenders like yourself according to your funny post and me the positive/scientific spender. if I spend on drinks and prostitutes I am being practical because of the benefit i'll derive from them which may go against your norm. and that's doesn't mean it is a waste.

Very well then. Spend well.

Jarizod:
Very well said..but as a man if u are not earning up to 100k (which isn't even sufficient at alll these days) Don't even dare get married.. u'll suffer!

Make sure u are earning a reasonable amount before u get married! Marriage isn't to be rushed!

Chrisrare:
Exactly my thought. The op is obviously deluded. U have to be financially and mentally ready b4 going into marriage, otherwise there will be consequence. Imagine watching ur wife and children starve cos u aren't financially ready for marriage.

Did you even read the OPs post before dropping this comment?

Point out where he advocated for getting married without being financially and mentally ready.
To type and throw irrelevant jabs go just dey itch una for hand

Chrisrare:
Exactly my thought. The op is obviously deluded. U have to be financially and mentally ready b4 going into marriage, otherwise there will be consequence. Imagine watching ur wife and children starve cos u aren't financially ready for marriage.

polariss:
for some reasons some things are just precedents to others.like getting a house before a car,capital before a business,reliable source of income before marriage

this is Nigeria,abyss of hell.how is a family man on a meager 30k thrive in responsibilities st this point in time?

how many nigerian women can stick to the average Emeka,dayo and adamu till they make it?

tying nuptial knots, without finance or a potent source of finance is like asking a nigerian girl to give your car with a flat tire a push.most of them are on high heels.

kinglekan:



Did you even read the OPs post before dropping this comment?

Point out where he advocated for getting married without being financially and mentally ready.
To type and throw irrelevant jabs go just dey itch una for hand

skarlett:


Uncle Gwegwegwe spotted

Chrisrare:
Exactly my thought. The op is obviously deluded. U have to be financially and mentally ready b4 going into marriage, otherwise there will be consequence. Imagine watching ur wife and children starve cos u aren't financially ready for marriage.

Deluded

falconey:
I disagree, first of all the value of money has depreciated due to inflation, what 500,000k could do last year you will be need 1.5m-2m to do it now.

You'll need to be Financially buoyant, swim in millions to at least Carter for yourself and your family for the next 10years no matter the change in government policy and global economy, unless of course your fiancée is ready to support in resource generation,management and solvency.


"It is also an irony that these same guys who said they are hustling and don't want to get distracted by a woman will still spend so much money on drinks and prostitutes. If you're the kind of guy that claims women are distractions but you waste your money on the same women randomly and on drinks then you're your own problem"

funny post, naijaboiy please modern economist(myself) will bash you for this, because I don't spend on what you believe is right doesn't mean I'm wasting my resources(money). we have two major spenders the normative spenders like yourself according to your funny post and me the positive/scientific spender. if I spend on drinks and prostitutes I am being practical because of the benefit i'll derive from them which may go against your norm. and that's doesn't mean it is a waste.

You never ready to marry

Chrisrare:
And what is dis supposed to mean?

skarlett:


www.google.com

Chrisrare:
U no well at all

Chrisrare:
I didn't read d full crap he wrote, it was too long. But what does ''u don't have to be financially buoyant to get married mean''??

Full crap?

Since you didn't read it, you have no moral or ethical justification to criticize the write up. Its like insulting a book titled "Eat that frog" just because the literal translation sounds gross. Next time read through then criticize constructively, rather than dropping pesky comments and still saying the same thing the OP had already said.

joseph1832:
Bro, I'm glad you do. If you earn a living, and what you earn isn't even enough to carter for your own very need(s) then my friend, you shouldn't be thinking of even getting married, or having a kid.

Spending money on women is not the same as spending money on a family. As spending money on women isn't an everyday thing, but spending money on family is a life time endeavour.

Marriage and having kid(s) is a life time investment. You should ask any married couple you know how much they spend on pampers and baby food alone for a start.

kinglekan:



Full crap?

Since you didn't read it, you have no moral or ethical justification to criticize the write up. Its like insulting a book titled "Eat that frog" just because the literal translation sounds gross. Next time read through then criticize constructively, rather than dropping pesky comments and still saying the same thing the OP had already said.

falconey:
I disagree, first of all the value of money has depreciated due to inflation, what 500,000k could do last year you will be need 1.5m-2m to do it now.

you'll need to be Financially buoyant, swim in millions to at least Carter for yourself and your family for the next 10years no matter the change in government policy and global economy, unless of course your fiancée is ready to support in resource generation,management and solvency.


"It is also an irony that these same guys who said they are hustling and don't want to get distracted by a woman will still spend so much money on drinks and prostitutes. If you're the kind of guy that claims women are distractions but you waste your money on the same women randomly and on drinks then you're your own problem"

funny post, naijaboiy please modern economist(myself) will bash you for this, because I don't spend on what you believe is right doesn't mean I'm wasting my resources(money). we have two major spenders the normative spenders like yourself according to your funny post and me the positive/scientific spender. if I spend on drinks and prostitutes I am being practical because of the benefit i'll derive from them which may go against your norm. and that's doesn't mean it is a waste.

joseph1832:
Bro, I'm glad you do. If you earn a living, and what you earn isn't even enough to carter for your own very need(s) then my friend, you shouldn't be thinking of even getting married, or having a kid.

Spending money on women is not the same as spending money on a family. As spending money on women isn't an everyday thing, but spending money on family is a life time endeavour.

Marriage and having kid(s) is a life time investment. You should ask any married couple you know how much they spend on pampers and baby food alone for a start.

Xiadnat:
Naijaboy,

This is a great, well written and educational piece. I agree with your premise.

To be honest, I think to certain extent, women are partly the reason many men reason like that--ie; money before women.

Women of nowadays to be exact--who want to "keep up with the Karda...."....

And, perhaps the economic rationale--as raising a family is terribly expensive these days.

In the earlier days of our grand parents and parents, things were much different.

My uncle has a very successful business; but he was married wayyyyy before he became successful.

My dad married my mother before he even dreamed about a way of steady income. But she stayed, they got "there" together.

I keep telling young men who think "money before women": just find a good woman by your side to help you get there, then enjoy it with her. Then you are certain about the quality of woman you have and you have a memory to share with--the memory of the hustling days when all you had was each other and LOVE.

That's better than raking in the dough, and get one chick whom is probably attracted to your money; the risk is; if you go broke in your marriage, you are in trouble because she may just pack and leave. That's the problem, you are not certain the woman you get the money loves you or the money and things you can get her.

Anyway, good piece. A word is enough for the wise (men) out there thinking they have to make before getting married.

Unfortunately, though, If you find a woman today who is willing to dig up the dirt with you, consider yourself finding rare element or the proverbial "needle in haystack".

kinglekan:



Did you even read the OPs post before dropping this comment?

Point out where he advocated for getting married without being financially and mentally ready.
To type and throw irrelevant jabs go just dey itch una for hand

Oliviaarims:



You're missing the point. If a man decides that he cannot get married because he doesn't have enough to cater for his family, it becomes ironic when he spends much more than that on prostitutes and other frivolities. And of course, that's as good as "wasting."

Thanks Biko! I just had no strength to explain anything to him.

zicoraads:
I don't subscribe to this piece, well, maybe some part of it.

First, you said something about being financially buoyant, and then in the next sentence you said something about 'raking in millions'. Being financially buoyant doesn't necessarily mean one has to be raking in millions. What it means is that you can provide the three basic needs of food, shelter and clothing. That is financial buoyancy. And if you honestly think those things shouldn't play a very vital role in the plans of someone who is planning to get married, then think again.

However, I honestly agree with some sections of your write up. Especially the part where someone's marriage brings goodluck to his family. It is something that has happened and still happens everyday.