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The Uselessness Of Dating Someone For Too Long by Rapmoney(m): 12:45pm On Sep 04, 2016 |
I grew up with this notion that partners who have dated/courted for a very long time have greater possibility of building stronger relationships. As the years roll by, I'm beginning to see things differently. Dating someone for years without concrete marriage plans is to me, utterly useless! It's even a hopeless case when cohabiting is involved. It's not a bad idea spending time to study someone as you date him/her; it's necessary, yet, it must not necessarily take you years to also know if both of you are fit to tie the knot together or not. Staying in a relationship for years, in the absence of marriage, with that irrelevant idea that you are studying the other person means two things - it's either you are deceiving yourself or deceiving the other person. It's just like a man who builds a house halfway and leaves it for years, telling everyone that he would want the rains to come on it to make the blocks stronger...even when it's clear that he doesn't possess the resources to make it a completed house. I personally don't buy the idea of women staying for years in relationships with the hope that the guy has promised to marry them. The question should be: What is he waiting for after all these years? Is he still studying you? ![]() ![]() ![]() It's the ability to accept the other person's flaws in a relationship that sustains the relationship, even into marriage; it's not by many years of dating/courtship. I know young women who have told me openly in the past that I didn't know what I wanted; yeah, because I left them so early into the supposed affairs before they could get hurt emotionally. I used foresight and not hindsight. I never wanted to waste their time! There's a particular age and stage we get to in life where we need to leave rigmarole and up-and-down relationships for teenagers! Know what you want and sustain it; if you are not ready, work on yourself and your life and stop wasting your time and that of other people!!! Good afternoon and Happy Sunday to everyone! 11 Likes 6 Shares |
Re: The Uselessness Of Dating Someone For Too Long by kingsilly(m): 12:46pm On Sep 04, 2016 |
I was here |
Re: The Uselessness Of Dating Someone For Too Long by dollyjoy(f): 12:48pm On Sep 04, 2016 |
Very insightful Thread. 1 Like 1 Share |
Re: The Uselessness Of Dating Someone For Too Long by Rapmoney(m): 12:52pm On Sep 04, 2016 |
dollyjoy:Thanks, madam. |
Re: The Uselessness Of Dating Someone For Too Long by Rapmoney(m): 12:53pm On Sep 04, 2016 |
kingsilly:Long time no see ![]() |
Re: The Uselessness Of Dating Someone For Too Long by Nobody: 12:53pm On Sep 04, 2016 |
![]() There's nothing wrong of having a long term relationships... Some are not ready financially, some don't have their own house yet, some are jobless ... So, why rush of getting married when u both unstable? I think , I am OK with this as long there's no Cheating ![]() 1 Like |
Re: The Uselessness Of Dating Someone For Too Long by Nobody: 12:55pm On Sep 04, 2016 |
I concur. 1 Like |
Re: The Uselessness Of Dating Someone For Too Long by Romancer(m): 12:56pm On Sep 04, 2016 |
TrapQueen77:
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Re: The Uselessness Of Dating Someone For Too Long by UndisputedBosom(m): 12:58pm On Sep 04, 2016 |
Very lengthy....but informative as well though i stopped half way ![]() |
Re: The Uselessness Of Dating Someone For Too Long by ojun50(m): 1:01pm On Sep 04, 2016 |
Op na yr own u they talk |
Re: The Uselessness Of Dating Someone For Too Long by Nobody: 1:01pm On Sep 04, 2016 |
[quote author=Romancer post=49063088][/quote Who? ME? u call me a guy? ![]() Nawa for u... I'm a female... Ask smellinganus he can testify on tat ![]() |
Re: The Uselessness Of Dating Someone For Too Long by Rapmoney(m): 1:02pm On Sep 04, 2016 |
TrapQueen77:What should be the priority of a jobless man? Is it not to get a job first? ![]() In the end, everythings comes to emotional wreckage! 3 Likes 1 Share |
Re: The Uselessness Of Dating Someone For Too Long by cruzita(f): 1:02pm On Sep 04, 2016 |
everything has its advantage and disadvantage long relationship has its benefit and also its danger likewise short one but the main thing is to know where your relationship is heading to |
Re: The Uselessness Of Dating Someone For Too Long by Romancer(m): 1:05pm On Sep 04, 2016 |
[quote author=TrapQueen77 post=49063204][/quote]i know... E juss b sey na every thread i dey see u 4 this section |
Re: The Uselessness Of Dating Someone For Too Long by WHIZKIDEFE(m): 1:05pm On Sep 04, 2016 |
Nice one. 1 Like |
Re: The Uselessness Of Dating Someone For Too Long by Rapmoney(m): 1:07pm On Sep 04, 2016 |
cruzita:If there's no concrete reason why long term partners in a relationship are not married, it means the affair is probably heading no where. |
Re: The Uselessness Of Dating Someone For Too Long by McBrooklyn(m): 1:07pm On Sep 04, 2016 |
OP, what about the uselessness of fûcking one chick for too long?? ![]() |
Re: The Uselessness Of Dating Someone For Too Long by Rapmoney(m): 1:08pm On Sep 04, 2016 |
WHIZKIDEFE:Thanks, man. |
Re: The Uselessness Of Dating Someone For Too Long by Rapmoney(m): 1:09pm On Sep 04, 2016 |
Rocktation. |
Re: The Uselessness Of Dating Someone For Too Long by Rapmoney(m): 1:11pm On Sep 04, 2016 |
McBrooklyn:If you search the Sexuality Section, you might find a thread that covers that aspect! |
Re: The Uselessness Of Dating Someone For Too Long by Nobody: 1:13pm On Sep 04, 2016 |
Rapmoney: OK... But my question is... If u have a job, Is ur salary enough to support ur family? How many of us Here have a salary of 500,000naira and above monthly? Doesn't mean if u dont have a job, u don't have a house, u are not allowed to be in relationship... That is why so many are in relationships they are not yet married coz they are not financially stable... They don't want to make their families suffered... |
Re: The Uselessness Of Dating Someone For Too Long by Nobody: 1:15pm On Sep 04, 2016 |
Romancer: U will surely see me in every romance sextion... So deal with it ![]() |
Re: The Uselessness Of Dating Someone For Too Long by utenwuson: 1:17pm On Sep 04, 2016 |
clock |
Re: The Uselessness Of Dating Someone For Too Long by lola024(f): 1:19pm On Sep 04, 2016 |
I don't think so |
Re: The Uselessness Of Dating Someone For Too Long by Rapmoney(m): 1:20pm On Sep 04, 2016 |
TrapQueen77:I blinked my eyes many times before I could clearly see that u wrote 500k up there! 500k monthly? ![]() |
Re: The Uselessness Of Dating Someone For Too Long by McBrooklyn(m): 1:22pm On Sep 04, 2016 |
Rapmoney: L-O-L ![]() ![]() Bruh, how far you now?? I'm just kidding now abi someone cannot play with you again?? ![]() |
Re: The Uselessness Of Dating Someone For Too Long by Rapmoney(m): 1:25pm On Sep 04, 2016 |
McBrooklyn:No shaking! Na my style...u be my guy too nah ![]() |
Re: The Uselessness Of Dating Someone For Too Long by honeygirl17: 1:34pm On Sep 04, 2016 |
I nor fit read abeg, him heart still dey intact or she break am ![]() |
Re: The Uselessness Of Dating Someone For Too Long by Rapmoney(m): 1:37pm On Sep 04, 2016 |
honeygirl17:I guess u read it upside down. |
Re: The Uselessness Of Dating Someone For Too Long by eph12(m): 1:39pm On Sep 04, 2016 |
It makes no sense really to date someone for a long time without marriage in sight |
Re: The Uselessness Of Dating Someone For Too Long by McBrooklyn(m): 1:40pm On Sep 04, 2016 |
Rapmoney: L-O-L ![]() ![]() Oya chop knuckle!!! We gather dey this land now ![]() 1 Like |
Re: The Uselessness Of Dating Someone For Too Long by honeygirl17: 1:40pm On Sep 04, 2016 |
Rapmoney:I wanted to edit after reading. |
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