Smellymouth:



Hahahahah.. My fellow Barrackian, I have seen guys getting married with absolutely nothing and they are happy with their marriages..

I have also seen people have it all when they get married and then loose it all...

It would be unwise to only consider one aspect of the marriage and ignore the other aspects. You focus on money and ignore the type of spouse you are marrying, you focus on the spouse and ignore the finances..

Considering one aspect in its singularity is not advisable as they are all tied together in an intricate way. the finances are as important as the person you are getting.

Oahray:
well, before a man can expect loyalty from a woman, he has to get her first abi? The thing is, money or a lack of it is a major player in getting her at all. This is reality... Only a few women aren't easily lured by the good thing of life that money can buy.

Money is the easy route. It's results may not last or be satisfying, but it does get the job done to an extent. The other route yeilds better results when successful but is also more tasking with lower success rates.

I don't think everyone wants the exact same things out of marriage.

chronique:
OP's post makes sense. I used to think I'd achieve a lot before getting married but my mentality changed not too long ago cos I decided to deal with reality. I've had to narrow down my set targets to what is realistic in this present day Nigeria. God willing,I hope to sort that out next year so I don't end up paying 5k for baby food that costs 2k now. With or without a working class wife,I'm sure I can cope. But,I'd love to chip in a word or two in the area of finance. If you're earning 30k and you want to marry,pls don't lve in a big city(except you wantto live in a face me,I face you apartment). You'd get frustrated and if your wife aint disciplined,things might begin to happen. Even in a small town,I don't see how that sum would cater properly for a family except of course,you wanna raise kds with red hair(children who lack vitamins). That 30k won't even sort out fuelng and utilty bills for some people. I don't want to discourage anybody but that's a way of gettng yourself frustrated. With 30k a month,I wouldn't menton marriagee to anybody. It's ok to start small but just don't put yourself under any unnecessary pressure. Besides,I don't know how many naija girls of today are ready for such. Let's be real wth ourselves;the streets aint smiling.

Oliviaarims:


Make sure to invite me for the wedding ceremony

chronique:
You!!!! Hmmm. Do I call you trouble maker of finder now?

zicoraads:

Naijaboiy is hopelessly in love

It is sad because he is supposed to be our poster boy for 'single and mingling and not ready to settle'. The bachelor for life kinda thing. But this is what we get...a thread for encouraging guys to get married

Oga nor be so na!

Rapmoney:
I never knew Naijaboiy was a relationship expert!!!

The fault that lies in your post is that you failed to realize the fact that there are many serious responsible hustling young men out there who do not even wish to be raking in millions, as you said, before they settle down...all they are working toward is just to be comfortable first.

I won't advise a guy who cannot afford the basic comforts in life to delve into marriage; things have changed! If you can't provide, your wife might cheat...and I'm very sure you don't expect the wife to do the provision of resources in the home.

Just my opinion

you're welcome sir!

ashjay001:



Are u married?

If no, pls, shut up and pray u marry d right woman!

If yes, well, thank God u married the right woman/aint yet broke!


The only time u enjoy ur marriage without being excessively rich, is when u marry d right woman, who really doesn't care abt material things!

Telling ur wife u can't afford an iphone6 or personal padded ride is quite a different ball game from telling same to ur side chick/bae/prostitute, or wateva u wish to label them!

What's your point oga?

It's either you're brain dead or you refused to read my first post before commenting.

Biko swerve!

stephanie19:
Marriage is beyond money.....a guy should have a good job and he should be very sure that he could take care of his family before he gets married......but the main problem is that meeting the right woman......even if you are wealthy as a man.....and you got married to a wrong woman.......you won't enjoy your marriage and your money......money is secondary.....love is the main thing and finding the right woman.....your woman can help take care of your responsibilities......a woman shouldn't be a liability.....WTF is full-house-wife .......so many ladies outside there are not ready to settle down with a broke dude.....but the thing they don't understand is that 'Love conquers all',even if your man is poor.......you will never think of it for once.......marriage is beyond money.....meeting the right person is the main issue

chronique:
Money isn't everything,but plays a major role. Imagine I'm married to you and we did it out of love,and I earn just 40k a month,how will you as a woman,help me manage it(assume we live in lagos)? Kindly give me a breakdown.

stephanie19:
hmm if you go through my post again....you'd see I said a lady should also find a job and assist her husband....being an understanding wife......she'd be able to maintain her job and family,a lady shouldn't sit at home expecting her husband to bring money for her day and night and welcome him with useless gossips

chronique:
What if she's jobless?

stephanie19:
jobless?why would she be jobless when her husband needs her help?

danbrowndmf:
Mr falconey you wrote well. But for u to actually say u have to dwell in million for you to be able to carter for you and your family. People earn less than 80k a month and they still get married and leave a decent life off their pay. It a matter of setting your piority right.

daretodiffer:
I must be earning at least a 200k before I can think of marriage but if I am not, my partner must earn up to that amount of money o.

FTBOY:
in togo or nigeria

danbrowndmf:
Nigeria.

FTBOY:
do you know what it means to live decently? how is that possible with a package 80k per month? it's not your fault, bro....when you start paying house rent, nepa bills, security bills, school fees for your kids, siblings and upkeep for your parents you'll understand.

FTBOY:
at 35, you still nurse this mentality

danbrowndmf:
do u pay house rent every month? Or do u pay nepa bill every day?

danbrowndmf:
do u pay house rent every month? Or do u pay nepa bill every day?

joseph1832:
Actually you pay house rent every month. Divide the rent you pay annually by 12 and you'll know how much you pay a month.

joseph1832:
Wow!!! She's even older than me. LMAO!.