I have seen many marriages break up and it seems there is a common ground for disintegration.Today I will be as real as usual and it will be in the best interest of any married lady or intending wife to take this piece seriously.

If you are a married lady reading this I want you to understand that these 3 facts are essential for you to experience a happy union.

1. Expect your hubby to cheat on you: I have heard many times that not all men cheat and I sincerely believe but nevertheless, to be on the safer side, expect that man to cheat on you.

By having this expectation, you will not be caught unaware and you would have developed a psychological shock absorber in the advent that he does but if he remains faithful to you then good for you. It is totally foolish for a lady to hinge her marital happiness on her husband's fidelity.

And the moment you start seeing those cheating signs in him,rather that start threatening fire and brimstone which may worsen the situation, i will advice that you simply warn him to do it as far can from you because what you don't know can't hurt you and warn him to use a protection to avoid bringing home STDs.

Once you tell him this, just switch to indifferent mode as regards his sexual faithfulness to you and choose to be happy regardless. Hard I know but this is just how the cookie crumbles and this is one secret to having marital bliss even with a hopeless philanderer.

[b]This is one big secret i want every married lady reading this to know; Yes cheating must be discouraged and guys involved must understand that it is a sure way to hell but no matter how long you preach against it,men who want to cheat will still cheat on their wives but here is the secret...98% of men who cheat on their wives still love their wives so dearly but only want to take advantage of ladies who have willingly offered their-selves as side dishes...NEVER EVER GIVE UP YOUR MARRIAGE FOR A SIDE DISH TO TAKE OVER because that is what she wants you to do and even if you leave your marriage, there is no guaranty that your next man won't do worse. Believe it or not, most men always come back to their wives no matter how many side dishes they take advantage of and many men suffer from mid-life delusion crises where they believe it is their right to be with as any ladies as possible but relax, that euphoria and delusion will soon wear off and you will have your man 100% to yourself...This is one big secret i just revealed to you.[/b]

2. Make your own money: Do you know that if you are really busy with your life and very financially independent, you will care less about who your husband sees, where he goes and what he does outside the home or even what he has in his will? Do you know that men respect financially independent ladies?

What I want many married ladies to know is that once they are married and start having children, the most important thing in their life at that point is self development and that of the child(ren). When you spend time developing yourself, even your hubby will give you great respect. Please don't ever settle to be a full housewife..at worst get a shop around where you stay and do something.

3.Perform your marital duties: Men do not joke with bedroom and kitchen matters. Do you know how to cook your husband's favourite meals? do you know how to make him go crazy in the room?

Most men who cheat are lured by either good food or bed-magics of another lady. While you refuse to go down on him and give him those crazy moves, one lady out there is ready to do stuffs that will make him have an attention at work just by thinking about her.

Many married ladies keep nagging about their husband's infidelity while neglecting those virtues that will endear their husbands more to them..most times when a man is drawn away by another lady, there is usually something that lady is doing that you are lacking so focus first on becoming a great wife before you complain of your husband's infidelity.

And for the man, be communicative and let your wife knows what you want so that she can do her best to make the union a better one.
And if you are so hell bent on cheating on your wife please do it as far away as you can because one of the biggest ridicule and disrespect you can bring on your marriage is to cheat on her to her face.

I believe that if married ladies understand these three points, they will always remain happy in their marriages and infact grow old with their partners till death do them apart. You just understand that no one holds the key to your marital happiness except you.


I hope this makes sense

To be real as usual my friend, only the last point made sense.


In a GODly union, you don't expect any to cheat
and
i can't figure out whats making you believe any woman or man will be happy knowing that the partner is an 'adulterer'.



#SayNoTolegalizedAdultery.

No. 1 is on point. Some gullible women actually get married believing their husbands can never cheat on them. These types suffer d most in marriages.

Toks2008, I hope us women are allowed to cheat since we are expected to expect our husbands to cheat?

Ishilove:
Toks2008, I hope us women are allowed to cheat since we are expected to expect our husbands to cheat?

HungerBad, if you cheat on me we go wear one trouser

In my opinion I see it as her freewill.

Of course same goes for a man..only a foolish man will say his wife can never cheat on him.

The bottom line is that if a lady cheats and she is caught , she should be ready for the consequence and same goes for the man.

No 1 is the harsh truth. Every man will cheat on his wife or Bae at some point. Or if he doesn't, he will want to.

Toks2008:


In my opinion I see it as her freewill.

Of course same goes for a man..only a foolish man will say his wife can never cheat on him.

The bottom line is that if a lady cheats and she is caught , she should be ready for the consequence and same goes for the man.

oh !! The husband should also expect the wife to cheat?




Please where are you from? american?

Ishilove:
Toks2008, I hope us women are allowed to cheat since we are expected to expect our husbands to cheat?

HungerBad, if you cheat on me we go wear one trouser

Ishilove I will not cheat on you.

But I am a man. What man don't cheat?i nearly cheated on you this afternoon with a white woman,who kept telling me she loves my accent.

But if you cheat on me ishilove,the juju of my village will make you run mad.

And if that cheating is with Naptu2, two of una go Gum.

Just saying.

VolTOxic:
No 1 is the harsh truth. Every man will cheat on his wife or Bae at some point. Or if he doesn't, he will want to.

Not all men cheat and I can never cheat on a lady that gives me what I want in marriage.

Toks2008:


In my opinion I see it as her freewill.

Of course same goes for a man..only a foolish man will say his wife can never cheat on him.

The bottom line is that if a lady cheats and she is caught , she should be ready for the consequence and same goes for the man.

And what do you think the consequence should be if a spouse is caught cheating?

HungerBAD:


Ishilove not happening.

I have to cheat,I am a man. What man don't cheat?i nearly cheated on you this afternoon with a white woman,who kept telling me she loves my accent.

But if you cheat on me ishilove,the juju of my village will make you run mad.

Just saying.

Oh ohhhhhhh... so you are allowed to cheat but I'm not allowed to cheat, is that it? Isn't African society lopsided? A man cheats and gets away with it but when women cheat the world cries FOUL!!

What's sauce for the goose is sauce for the gander.

Tell that plywood Oyibo woman to back off!!

Ishilove:

Oh ohhhhhhh... so you are allowed to cheat but I'm not allowed to cheat, is that it? Isn't African society lopsided? A man cheats and gets away with it but when women cheat the world cries FOUL!!

What's sauce for the goose is sauce for the gander.

Tell that plywood Oyibo woman to back off!!

I don modify my post.

No cheating on you.

But no be all oyinbo be plywood. This one na iroko,maybe she get black ancestors.

You don drink that illassa soup for twins?

The Op really made sense. I concur

Toks2008:


Not all men cheat and I can never cheat on a lady that gives me what I want in marriage.

I never said all men cheat.

HungerBAD:




And if that cheating is with Naptu2, two of una go Gum.

Just saying.

Lmaaao! Yeyenatu

My naptu2 is too much of gentleman to have carnal affairs with a woman who is spoken for

VolTOxic:

I never said all men cheat.

You wrote that every man will...

HungerBAD:


I don modify my post.

No cheating on you.

But no be all oyinbo be plywood. This one na iroko,maybe she get black ancestors.

You don drink that illassa soup for twins?

Buhahahahahaha! HungerBad your way no pure. Watchout for these oyinbo women. They will squeeze you for child support

No need for illasa soup. We get am for quadruplets in my lineage. One blow, four land!!

Toks2008:


In my opinion I see it as her freewill.

Of course same goes for a man..only a foolish man will say his wife can never cheat on him.

The bottom line is that if a lady cheats and she is caught , she should be ready for the consequence and same goes for the man.

The notion of a cheating man is a modern day fad. As long as a man is not sleeping with another man's wife, a man cannot be said to be cheating. Cheating on who?

A woman on the other hand is entitled to only one man because more than one deek in a woman's life will mess up her DNA.

Ile aiye ti change sha.

Ishilove:

Buhahahahahaha! HungerBad your way no pure. Watchout for these oyinbo women. They will squeeze you for child support

No need for illasa soup. We get am for quadruplets in my lineage. One blow, four land!!

Deal on the twins then?

Toks2008:


You wrote that every man will...

And if he doesn't, he'll want to.

Ishilove:

Buhahahahahaha! HungerBad your way no pure. Watchout for these oyinbo women. They will squeeze you for child support

No need for illasa soup. We get am for quadruplets in my lineage. One blow, four land!!

Anytime I hear that child support thing I keep wondering how difficult it will be for guys out there as regards misbehaving...when you think of child support for 2 children nobody will teach you before you behave yourself.

HungerBAD:


Deal on the twins then?

Deal

VolTOxic:

And if he doesn't, he'll want to.

Issorite

Toks2008:


Anytime I hear that child support thing I keep wondering how difficult it will be for guys out there as regards misbehaving...when you think of child support for 2 children nobody will teach you before you behave yourself.

My brother, they say they prefer it skin to skin o.

Ishilove:
Deal

Ishilove so you are cheating under my noze?
chai! I have suffered.

Toks2008:


Ishilove so you are cheating under my noze?

chai! I have suffered.

I've got enough love to go round

Ishilove:

I've got enough love to go round

Polyandry is not allowed abeg make I act fast before its too late oya watsup me fast..

I no know say you fine like this..na to come visit you chop your food..once e sweet and you sef sweet for face nah to come dey sleep for your gate be dat

Toks2008:


Polyandry is not allowed abeg make I act fast before its too late oya watsup me fast. Abeg no quote me o cos I go remove the number now...

I no know say you fine like this..na to come visit you chop your food..once e sweet and you sef sweet for face nah to come dey sleep for your gate be dat

Oya modify am oga

Which food should I cook? Efo riro? Obe ila? Ewedu ati ila? Take your pick

Ishilove:

Oya modify am oga

I love smart ladies.

Toks2008:


I love smart ladies.

Tenks sir. I've modified my post