Kelechi2020:
He has achieved his main aim...But after six months of waiting for sex he got it and realized its not worth it...

Exactly... It wasn't worth it joor,i wonder how some girls think imagine you kept him strung for that long not because you are a virgin but because you just wanted to prove one stupid point...I so love the actions of the guy, he also proved his point to show you the world doesn't revolved around you...

I dint read through but from the topic its either ur puna smelt like over night bean or your boobs were like slippers unlike what you packaged them to be...

More so it could be that you left him to do al the straffings and it wasnt to fun.. . Why would he want to come back and suffer these things again...

Move on and make sure you correct all these


And to all those Girls who think when you play hard to get for a year he won't run even if the above issues arr prevailant

Hmmm, guys can go any length just for sex, tfu for some guys.

He waited for six month. That night you guys had sex, something turned him off totally. Your ex could bear it for three years but this guy did not want to waste your time like your ex. So ask yourself what happened during the sex. That's where your answer lies. As for bellanaija, I pity people swallowing your advice. What a feminist you are.

Just to add to my previous comment above, you see, most times i dnt really blame these guys who after sexing you they flew into thin air, you(girls) mostly are the cause....you make sex look asif it's a course we must study and graduate before we can work...and that's why immediately the desperate nigga hits his target, off he goes, in his mind he 'll be like, "wetin again"??, cos you made it look asif that's the only thing you got to offer....girls stop this overhyping of sex, and even if a guy had sex with you and dumps you, why can't you move on huh…i mean what exactly has he achieved from you...asif you didn't shout "ashhhhh, ehhhh", God, some will even shout "blood of jesus", its in, take it slowly and blabla...then after everything they'd still see it asif you are the only one that enjoyed it, mtcheeew.

Next time don't open your thighs for a guy because he says he loves you and promise to give you heaven and earth . In fact a responsible man won't do that, is all this yeye guys that move around sexing girls just to boost their ego.

Talk2Bella:
Bella, I am done for, this guy spent almost 6 months asking me out, promising me he loved me and wanted to marry me, I had just gotten out of a relationship, I was hurt so bad so I took my time with this one.


He would come to my place of work each evening to pick me up, take me on romantic dates, he made me feel special.


Whenever he dropped me at home, he would just give me a light peck on the cheek and that was it. I was proud of him; I thought I had found the right man for me.


Three months after he began asking me out, the demand for sex started, I told him I wasn’t ready, besides I didn’t want sex before marriage anymore, I had wasted 3 years of my life doing that with someone who I thought wanted to marry me.


He was kind and patient, I was so in love, he never asked for sex again, fast-forward six months later, we were at my place, having dinner, he began talking about it, truth be told, I was in the mood that day, so we had more wine and talked some more and before I knew it we were on my bed making passionate love.


It’s been two months after that day, he hasn’t called me back or picked my call, or come pick me from work, I haven’t seen him, it’s like he disappeared, I have been to his house, office, no one’s seen or heard of him, turned out the house was rented for a duration of some months, and the office, well he doesn’t even work there.


Bella, I am scared, did I sleep with a ghost? Because it seems strange that someone who’s been patient for a long time can just disappear after we had sex, I am so ashamed of myself and it’s been making me doubt myself.


What do I do?



Talk2Bella

Honey, we call that a one timer, a one nighter, a hit and run and also a psychopath.


They are prey/leeches who prey on helpless women, twist their emotions, make them fall in love with them and disappear.


Be the strong woman you are and move on, don’t call him anymore, invest time in yourself and work, and for your sake I hope you used protection.


My guess is, he’s married somewhere else with kids, living a normal life, there’s nothing I will say to you that will alleviate the hurt you’re feeling, but I’m going to try, sweetheart you need to let him go!


Love will find you, and when it does do not use this experience to judge someone who might truly love you.


http://www.talk2bella.com/2016/09/he-asked-me-out-for-6-months-we-had-sex.html

this is why i keep saying even if u have sex on the very first date or on th 600th date who wan run go run delaying the sex doesn't prove nothing

Well, maybe what he found down there doesn't worth 6months of waiting..sorry just talking from personal experience..

Why is she acting the victim part? Two consenting adults had sex, ki wa ni wahala? Ladies be thinking they are doing us a favor by having sex with us.

agrovick:
Why is she acting the victim part? Two consenting adults had sex, ki wa ni wahala? Ladies be thinking they are doing us a favor by having sex with us.

WORD!!!

CrazyQuinn:
She was so stupid to have sex with him, anyways the deed is done, there's nothing she can do about it now, all she have to do is to move on and learn from her mistakes, I hope she learns from her mistake this time. I don't blame the man either

Quit being so judgemental... the girl was in love and consequently had her guards down. Anyone can fall victim. You inclusive!

ayamAgenius:


Quit being so judgemental... the girl was in love and consequently had her guards down. Anyone can fall victim. You inclusive!

Not me I have a stone heart when it comes to situation like this

CrazyQuinn:
Not me I have a stone heart when it comes to situation like this

That's what most people think, till they get struck... God didn't create mankind without feelings. It's part of what makes us unique amongst His other creations...

and it's up to us to control those feelings that God put in us. Your feelings are not meant to control you, it's meant to be the other way around

ayamAgenius:


That's what most people think, till they get struck... God didn't create mankind without feelings. It's part of what makes us unique amongst His other creations...

You might be a graduate but you need to go back to school. This time ,choose BEDMATICS as a course. Even if he doesn't love you, so far you have the formular to solve BEDMATIC EQUATIONS , he'll keep returning visits for more lessons.
To be Frank, he left because you ain't what he builded in his imagination. You have to apologize to him for making him build on wrong imagination. Lolz

CrazyQuinn:
Not me I have a stone heart when it comes to situation like this

why calling her stupid when you do worst than her

6months....that's wickedness!!!
Haba!!for a red blooded man?...when she is not a virgin?...and doesn't look like Kim kardashian?


That guy just wanted to make a statement, and I stand behind him ,she just want make him sperm turn powdery.

Eliba:
why calling her stupid when you do worst than her

Do worse? Have you seen me before? Do we know each other?

CrazyQuinn:
and it's up to us to control those feelings that God put in us. Your feelings are not meant to control you, it's meant to be the other way around

You don't control feelings... the least one can do is mask them once they are born... or avoid trails that'll lead to its inception... it's like a stubborn virus dat must complete it's cycle...

ayamAgenius:


You don't control feelings... the least one can do is mask them once they are born... or avoid trails that'll lead to its inception... it's like a stubborn virus dat must complete it's cycle...

speak for yourself

CrazyQuinn:
speak for yourself

I'm speaking to many of your kinds. No one is fool proof when it comes to matter of the heart. Enjoy your weekend n holiday!

CrazyQuinn:
Do worse? Have you seen me before? Do we know each other?

you may think your too strong at heart but don't call your fellow girl stupid because when it comes to love matters no one is perfect. You may be forming strong here but outside Nairaland, you do worst than her.

CrazyQuinn:
of course, he can't escape it ......human beings are free to do what they want to do, the most important thing is, can you handle or face the consequences of your actions? Or the karma?

maybe she was smelling downstairs

Bluehawk:
maybe she was smelling downstairs

Lolz....that kind smell go dey acidic

CrazyQuinn:
She was so stupid to have sex with him, anyways the deed is done, there's nothing she can do about it now, all she have to do is to move on and learn from her mistakes, I hope she learns from her mistake this time. I don't blame the man either

if i bite your strong yansh

Eliba:
you may think your too strong at heart but don't call your fellow girl stupid because when it comes to love matters no one is perfect. You may be forming strong here but outside Nairaland, you do worst than her.

chaaiiii can i use your tongue to slice yam

dharay99:

Aaah, ohk..I've heard you...

Thanks love

CrazyQuinn:
She was so stupid to have sex with him, anyways the deed is done, there's nothing she can do about it now, all she have to do is to move on and learn from her mistakes, I hope she learns from her mistake this time. I don't blame the man either

Learn from her mistake? So you mean she should wait next 1 year in a relationship before she has any sexual relations with a guy, so it can assure her that it won't be hit and run.

There is more to the story that meets the eye, I don't see myself running from a girl i just hit, that i waited 6 months for. Believe me he must have seen something that made him run. I would continually hit her.

The guy was spending money and his time, and doing romantic dates. Spending both time and money for a girl is really a big sacrifice.
Do you know what it means to wait for a lady EACH EVENING just to pick her up from work for 6 months, and they are working at separate places ?

Can you that if you were a guy?

This is clearly not a Hit and Run story. Something someone is not saying.

Talk2Bella:
Bella, I am done for, this guy spent almost 6 months asking me out, promising me he loved me and wanted to marry me, I had just gotten out of a relationship, I was hurt so bad so I took my time with this one.


He would come to my place of work each evening to pick me up, take me on romantic dates, he made me feel special.


Whenever he dropped me at home, he would just give me a light peck on the cheek and that was it. I was proud of him; I thought I had found the right man for me.


Three months after he began asking me out, the demand for sex started, I told him I wasn’t ready, besides I didn’t want sex before marriage anymore, I had wasted 3 years of my life doing that with someone who I thought wanted to marry me.


He was kind and patient, I was so in love, he never asked for sex again, fast-forward six months later, we were at my place, having dinner, he began talking about it, truth be told, I was in the mood that day, so we had more wine and talked some more and before I knew it we were on my bed making passionate love.


It’s been two months after that day, he hasn’t called me back or picked my call, or come pick me from work, I haven’t seen him, it’s like he disappeared, I have been to his house, office, no one’s seen or heard of him, turned out the house was rented for a duration of some months, and the office, well he doesn’t even work there.


Bella, I am scared, did I sleep with a ghost? Because it seems strange that someone who’s been patient for a long time can just disappear after we had sex, I am so ashamed of myself and it’s been making me doubt myself.


What do I do?



Talk2Bella

Honey, we call that a one timer, a one nighter, a hit and run and also a psychopath.


They are prey/leeches who prey on helpless women, twist their emotions, make them fall in love with them and disappear.


Be the strong woman you are and move on, don’t call him anymore, invest time in yourself and work, and for your sake I hope you used protection.


My guess is, he’s married somewhere else with kids, living a normal life, there’s nothing I will say to you that will alleviate the hurt you’re feeling, but I’m going to try, sweetheart you need to let him go!


Love will find you, and when it does do not use this experience to judge someone who might truly love you.


http://www.talk2bella.com/2016/09/he-asked-me-out-for-6-months-we-had-sex.html

This is a deliverance case o. well if he was after you for sex he would have stayed back no man wait for 6 months spends a lot just to have sex with her once at least he would gone more rounds. my dear friend abeg u need serious prayers and counselling he has taken something from you

Enockia:


this is why i keep saying even if u have sex on the very first date or on th 600th date who wan run go run delaying the sex doesn't prove nothing

That's true but sometimes abstinence works too

Fajs:


This is a deliverance case o. well if he was after you for sex he would have stayed back no man wait for 6 months spends a lot just to have sex with her once at least he would gone more rounds. my dear friend abeg u need serious prayers and counselling he has taken something from you

Cos of the way he disappeared right?

truthsayer007:


Learn from her mistake? So you mean she should wait next 1 year in a relationship before she has any sexual relations with a guy, so it can assure her that it won't be hit and run.

There is more to the story that meets the eye, I don't see myself running from a girl i just hit, that i waited 6 months for. Believe me he must have seen something that made him run. I would continually hit her.

The guy was spending money and his time, and doing romantic dates. Spending both time and money for a girl is really a big sacrifice.
Do you know what it means to wait for a lady EACH EVENING just to pick her up from work for 6 months, and they are working at separate places ?

Can you that if you were a guy?

This is clearly not a Hit and Run story. Something someone is not saying.

A married man did exactly the same to someone I knew back then in school for three months we didn't even know he was married so it's very possible dear