thekingisback:
then she should be ready to return everything the guy has spent on her. Both gifts and money.

CrazyQuinn:
No I'm not part of those girls I don't need a guy to take care of me financially and emotionally, I can take care of that myself

tellwisdom:
Nigerian gurls are very foolish and dull. If he had refused you all these assistance, would you have come here to say "he's very nice"?? You scored him nice because he was able to help you financially and physically. I no blame you, na the eddiot wey leave him mama for village dey take care of a total stranger i go blame...Onye ara jati jati

KingCheezyPuff:
did you see his comment
shouldn't you be concerned with it and not my callin' out of him the logic here.

flokii:
@OP wa se awon orire kan.. Say Amen

I love d fact that you want truth even if it hurts.. Your type is very rare

Well back to d issue.. Sex wnt keep a man, ur morals will. I would advise you not to compromise ur standard for someone you've not gotten married to yet.
Look around you, so many failed and unhappy marriages due to deceit and lies. Dnt rush things, the good Lord is on ur side.. *cheers!

JustHere2Observ:


Wait oo, did she ask the guy to spend on her or force him to spend on her? He should have told her I'm spending on you so you can give me sex. I mean you guys spend on a girl without her asking for it most times, so why are you making it sound like she pointed a gun to his head.

donbenedict:
OK so d guys are saying she should gv him sex and d ladies are advising she keeps it. Alright





My theory of giving any lady money from now henceforth is this.


Work for it. You want money from me? You work for it. U want 5k, u gotta do you work of 5k. U want 50k, same thing. Nothing goes for nothing.



Maybe we can start with washing all my clothes for one week, and I give u 5k. How abt that?



Or u wash my car for a week, I give u 20k.



Or, u clean my house for a month, I gv u 50k.

falconey:

a balance must be maintained in a relationship, it is not necessary a lady should offer sex, i[b]f a guys sees other benefits he may stay. perhaps her humour,company and assistance. the fact is a lady must give me a reason to STAY.[/b]

herald9:

I'm not concerned with the guy's comment. Everyone is entitled to their own opinions.
I only asked a question you're trying to dodge.

Glory12345:
Actually this is my first post on nairaland,I'm a comment reader and a post reader and I have observed how people do things here and I feel I should share my story,please don't criticise me or anything, I just need your help or advise,and please do read carefully to understand,and i am also sorry if i dont type this well,i'm not much of a writer.Thanks in advance

There's this guy I met at 3chub Ikeja,I actually went to ask if there was any standard rechargeable fan because i have been scammed alot by all these "fairly used" rechargeable fan,so i decided to buy a new one because they sell home appliances there,even though people say fairly used items are better which I chose to decline because this is 2016,and this buhari regime doesnt accomodate an extravagant spending.

I work in Lagos but I stay in mowe,and the electricity there isn't too good so that's why I'm getting the fan so even when the gen is off,i would have an alternative,so when I got to the store,the sales ambassadors offered me different brand rechargeable fan,but i later got a syinix rechargeable fan,because I was impressed with the number of months the warranty covers so I purchased it with my ATM card since I just came to inquire and not buy and I was cashless,I had to just use the POS *I'm only explaining all if these to give you a clearer understanding of the issue on floor*

After purchasing the fan,there was this guy that came to buy a gas cooker and we happened to meet and we both exchanged contacts with eachother and few months later we developed feelings and we had a relationship and we were doing the normal relationship vibe,until this week,he started acting up because I said no sex until marriage...he's a very nice person anyway,he helped me in so many ways(advices,financially,physically) but just because I said no sex until marriage,he's acting up already,although I have my reasons for abstaining until marriage anyway but my story is sad,and I don't know who to tell and I feel more comfortable telling people online because someone that knows me physically might not say the truth to me,because they don't want to hurt me,please I need matured comments even if it will hurt,just tell me

Although we aren't kids,but I'm just troubled because I love him a lot and I don't know what to do.

I'm a loner right now

kbright2:
I logged in to comment and tell u the bitter truth. The guy's initial intention was to have his way in between your legs and once his mission is accomplished then he presses NEXT on his control panel that was why he starts showing a discomfort in ur dicision. My definition for love is sacrifice which he must pay by abiding by ur wish so I'm sorry you've not gotten yours, continue searching the right one is just a step ahead.

Mind you, don't also be the pretender by keeping a ocean preserved for the guy to swim even when he agrees tell him all about your past so he won't be disappointed cos they say: Blessed are those who do not expect because they'll neva be disappointed.

#bitterbutthetruth

Sermwell:

Olivia the truth here is that the Op called for that silly demand of her boyfriend! Why was she busy relying on him for her needs when she's not down with the probable consequence? Most girls just want to eat their cake and have it! Would she not be acting up if the guy had refused her emotional and financial needs?

ponti93:
my dear if u dnt want sex before marriage, simply breakup with him and stop wasting the boys time...he can leave you if you give him sex, he can still leave you if you don't give him sex....so make a wise choice







by d way this advise is coming from UMGROOM

Glory12345:
Actually this is my first post on nairaland,I'm a comment reader and a post reader and I have observed how people do things here and I feel I should share my story,please don't criticise me or anything, I just need your help or advise,and please do read carefully to understand,and i am also sorry if i dont type this well,i'm not much of a writer.Thanks in advance

There's this guy I met at 3chub Ikeja,I actually went to ask if there was any standard rechargeable fan because i have been scammed alot by all these "fairly used" rechargeable fan,so i decided to buy a new one because they sell home appliances there,even though people say fairly used items are better which I chose to decline because this is 2016,and this buhari regime doesnt accomodate an extravagant spending.

I work in Lagos but I stay in mowe,and the electricity there isn't too good so that's why I'm getting the fan so even when the gen is off,i would have an alternative,so when I got to the store,the sales ambassadors offered me different brand rechargeable fan,but i later got a syinix rechargeable fan,because I was impressed with the number of months the warranty covers so I purchased it with my ATM card since I just came to inquire and not buy and I was cashless,I had to just use the POS *I'm only explaining all if these to give you a clearer understanding of the issue on floor*

After purchasing the fan,there was this guy that came to buy a gas cooker and we happened to meet and we both exchanged contacts with eachother and few months later we developed feelings and we had a relationship and we were doing the normal relationship vibe,until this week,he started acting up because I said no sex until marriage...he's a very nice person anyway,he helped me in so many ways(advices,financially,physically) but just because I said no sex until marriage,he's acting up already,although I have my reasons for abstaining until marriage anyway but my story is sad,and I don't know who to tell and I feel more comfortable telling people online because someone that knows me physically might not say the truth to me,because they don't want to hurt me,please I need matured comments even if it will hurt,just tell me

Although we aren't kids,but I'm just troubled because I love him a lot and I don't know what to do.

I'm a loner right now

Mustack:

Guy don't decide like that.. I have this girl that i love and i want her as my future inhabitant after i gave my sweet dick but what happen she left me broken into pieces. So girl if he cant wait let loose and run.

Glory12345:
Actually this is my first post on nairaland,I'm a comment reader and a post reader and I have observed how people do things here and I feel I should share my story,please don't criticise me or anything, I just need your help or advise,and please do read carefully to understand,and i am also sorry if i dont type this well,i'm not much of a writer.Thanks in advance

There's this guy I met at 3chub Ikeja,I actually went to ask if there was any standard rechargeable fan because i have been scammed alot by all these "fairly used" rechargeable fan,so i decided to buy a new one because they sell home appliances there,even though people say fairly used items are better which I chose to decline because this is 2016,and this buhari regime doesnt accomodate an extravagant spending.

I work in Lagos but I stay in mowe,and the electricity there isn't too good so that's why I'm getting the fan so even when the gen is off,i would have an alternative,so when I got to the store,the sales ambassadors offered me different brand rechargeable fan,but i later got a syinix rechargeable fan,because I was impressed with the number of months the warranty covers so I purchased it with my ATM card since I just came to inquire and not buy and I was cashless,I had to just use the POS *I'm only explaining all if these to give you a clearer understanding of the issue on floor*

After purchasing the fan,there was this guy that came to buy a gas cooker and we happened to meet and we both exchanged contacts with eachother and few months later we developed feelings and we had a relationship and we were doing the normal relationship vibe,until this week,he started acting up because I said no sex until marriage...he's a very nice person anyway,he helped me in so many ways(advices,financially,physically) but just because I said no sex until marriage,he's acting up already,although I have my reasons for abstaining until marriage anyway but my story is sad,and I don't know who to tell and I feel more comfortable telling people online because someone that knows me physically might not say the truth to me,because they don't want to hurt me,please I need matured comments even if it will hurt,just tell me

Although we aren't kids,but I'm just troubled because I love him a lot and I don't know what to do.

I'm a loner right now

MrTruth4real:
If u are not a virgin, den give it to him. I dont see wat u are keeping there. After all d guy is helping u also. I have actually broke up wit a girl for same reason, she not a virgin n she's telling me no sex b4 marriage. Wtf is that.

KingCheezyPuff:
if we're so entitled,why won't you allow me 1 have my view/opion about his post?

herald9:

The question was not in relation to his post. I just asked to know.

Can you tell me, please?

no but it was 2 my opion/view of his post ,which according 2 you I'm entitled 2.
Have you changed yer mind about that?

MrTruth4real:

Jesus will come down from heaven and marry u na.

jacko4real:
my dear, do u actually love him for whom he his or because of his money?if u love him for whom he his and u feel u can Marry him,then stand to ur words.it will help u alot.A friend has been into that kind of relationship b4.the girl told him that no sex b4 marriage, my guy thought that the girl was joking not knowing that the girl meant what she was saying. the fact is that the girl in question was a wife material the guy now decided to dump the girl because she told the guy no sex b4 marriage,after some months the guy decided to go back to the girl because he later saw the wife material in her.the guy had no choice than to go and apologized to the girl b4 they now got married. so stand to ur words and be diligent if the guy is really serious about u,he will hold u down

dahmie2013:
Op, pls don't listen 2 dose ppl dat asked u 2 give him. I once did dat & till 2moro I regret it. D truth is, if u have some ounce of the fear of God in u, u won't do it. Remember, heaven is a personal race. Any relatnship dat will take u far 4rm God, pls avoid it.
D bitter truth is, we all know dis things, may God have mercy on us.

stuffs4me:



What's the difference? She didn't point a gun at his head and said buy me this and that but she was manipulative.

KingCheezyPuff:
no but it was 2 my opion/view of his post ,which according 2 you I'm entitled 2.
Have you changed yer mind about that?