Timbuktou:
I'm going to blame the guy for agreeing to enter into a sexless relationship. He knew what he was getting himself into, but I guess he could convince you to reconsider your stance with his "niceness" which might just be because of his aims.

Having said that, the most painful thing about a sexless relationship is breaking up with the chick only to find out that she gave it up to next guy within seconds or that she even cheated while I respected her wishes. Nobody wants to be a chump. . The only reason I would enter a sexless relationship is if the girl we're a virgin.

Thank you my broda.

You just spoke my mind here.

Compliant:


YOU MUST BE THINKING VIA YOUR ANUS GUY

NA PERSON LIKE YOU WOMEN DEY USE AS HOUSE HELP

how?

Please hw do we get in touch, ur just my perfect choice... In fact am loving u already

CrazyQuinn:
No I'm not part of those girls I don't need a guy to take care of me financially and emotionally, I can take care of that myself

Naija girls only get morals when it comes to sex. How about not taking money from him until marriage? How about not being introduced to his family until after marriage? How about not being shown how much he's worth or what he earns until after marriage?
Btw, what if after marriage, he finds out you no sabi do or no dey clean down there?

Oliviaarims:
If truly you've resolutely decided to abstain, the need to create this thread wouldn't have arisen. Your resolve isn't strong enough, you're having second thoughts and that's where you've begun to lose the battle.

Abstinence is good. Don't allow anyone tell you that because you're no longer a virgin, you must continue indulging in premarital sex.

A sensible post

thekingisback:
then she must be willing to refund the guy every penny he has spent on her.

lol Bro,cant you help someone without an ulterior motive?.

Hisduchess:

nice one bro

Thanks sis,how your side?

Glory12345:
Actually this is my first post on nairaland,I'm a comment reader and a post reader and I have observed how people do things here and I feel I should share my story,please don't criticise me or anything, I just need your help or advise,and please do read carefully to understand,and i am also sorry if i dont type this well,i'm not much of a writer.Thanks in advance

There's this guy I met at 3chub Ikeja,I actually went to ask if there was any standard rechargeable fan because i have been scammed alot by all these "fairly used" rechargeable fan,so i decided to buy a new one because they sell home appliances there,even though people say fairly used items are better which I chose to decline because this is 2016,and this buhari regime doesnt accomodate an extravagant spending.

I work in Lagos but I stay in mowe,and the electricity there isn't too good so that's why I'm getting the fan so even when the gen is off,i would have an alternative,so when I got to the store,the sales ambassadors offered me different brand rechargeable fan,but i later got a syinix rechargeable fan,because I was impressed with the number of months the warranty covers so I purchased it with my ATM card since I just came to inquire and not buy and I was cashless,I had to just use the POS *I'm only explaining all if these to give you a clearer understanding of the issue on floor*

After purchasing the fan,there was this guy that came to buy a gas cooker and we happened to meet and we both exchanged contacts with eachother and few months later we developed feelings and we had a relationship and we were doing the normal relationship vibe,until this week,he started acting up because I said no sex until marriage...he's a very nice person anyway,he helped me in so many ways(advices,financially,physically) but just because I said no sex until marriage,he's acting up already,although I have my reasons for abstaining until marriage anyway but my story is sad,and I don't know who to tell and I feel more comfortable telling people online because someone that knows me physically might not say the truth to me,because they don't want to hurt me,please I need matured comments even if it will hurt,just tell me

Although we aren't kids,but I'm just troubled because I love him a lot and I don't know what to do.

I'm a loner right now

Since u r a loner, i am a loner too.

Lets move on

tellwisdom:
Nigerian gurls are very foolish and dull. If he had refused you all these assistance, would you have come here to say "he's very nice"?? You scored him nice becausegphe was able to help you financially and physically. I no blame you, na the eddiot wey leave him mama for village dey take care of a total stranger i go blame...Onye ara jati jati

u got no chill

Glory12345:
Actually this is my first post on nairaland,I'm a comment reader and a post reader and I have observed how people do things here and I feel I should share my story,please don't criticise me or anything, I just need your help or advise,and please do read carefully to understand,and i am also sorry if i dont type this well,i'm not much of a writer.Thanks in advance

There's this guy I met at 3chub Ikeja,I actually went to ask if there was any standard rechargeable fan because i have been scammed alot by all these "fairly used" rechargeable fan,so i decided to buy a new one because they sell home appliances there,even though people say fairly used items are better which I chose to decline because this is 2016,and this buhari regime doesnt accomodate an extravagant spending.

I work in Lagos but I stay in mowe,and the electricity there isn't too good so that's why I'm getting the fan so even when the gen is off,i would have an alternative,so when I got to the store,the sales ambassadors offered me different brand rechargeable fan,but i later got a syinix rechargeable fan,because I was impressed with the number of months the warranty covers so I purchased it with my ATM card since I just came to inquire and not buy and I was cashless,I had to just use the POS *I'm only explaining all if these to give you a clearer understanding of the issue on floor*

After purchasing the fan,there was this guy that came to buy a gas cooker and we happened to meet and we both exchanged contacts with eachother and few months later we developed feelings and we had a relationship and we were doing the normal relationship vibe,until this week,he started acting up because I said no sex until marriage...he's a very nice person anyway,he helped me in so many ways(advices,financially,physically) but just because I said no sex until marriage,he's acting up already,although I have my reasons for abstaining until marriage anyway but my story is sad,and I don't know who to tell and I feel more comfortable telling people online because someone that knows me physically might not say the truth to me,because they don't want to hurt me,please I need matured comments even if it will hurt,just tell me

Although we aren't kids,but I'm just troubled because I love him a lot and I don't know what to do.

I'm a loner right now

Dear Glory do not displease God just to please your BOYFRIEND! By the way, if he is a christian and is asking you for sex b4 marriage then dear I will advice you cut yourself off. You should be with a GOD fearing man and not an unbeliever. Remember God forbids fornication so don't be tempted just cuz you love him. Stand by what is right and not what your boyfriend wants. Just because sex before marriage has become a popular thing that doesn't make it proper. If he loves you my dear he will wait till when you both become one. "The fear of the LORD is the beginning of WISDOM". The wages of Sin is death. Stick to what is right... Simply tell him if he can't wait then there is nothing more you can do. Frankly speaking I don't know why some guys can't see that there is more to love than SEX.

Glory12345:
Actually this is my first post on nairaland,I'm a comment reader and a post reader and I have observed how people do things here and I feel I should share my story,please don't criticise me or anything, I just need your help or advise,and please do read carefully to understand,and i am also sorry if i dont type this well,i'm not much of a writer.Thanks in advance

There's this guy I met at 3chub Ikeja,I actually went to ask if there was any standard rechargeable fan because i have been scammed alot by all these "fairly used" rechargeable fan,so i decided to buy a new one because they sell home appliances there,even though people say fairly used items are better which I chose to decline because this is 2016,and this buhari regime doesnt accomodate an extravagant spending.

I work in Lagos but I stay in mowe,and the electricity there isn't too good so that's why I'm getting the fan so even when the gen is off,i would have an alternative,so when I got to the store,the sales ambassadors offered me different brand rechargeable fan,but i later got a syinix rechargeable fan,because I was impressed with the number of months the warranty covers so I purchased it with my ATM card since I just came to inquire and not buy and I was cashless,I had to just use the POS *I'm only explaining all if these to give you a clearer understanding of the issue on floor*

After purchasing the fan,there was this guy that came to buy a gas cooker and we happened to meet and we both exchanged contacts with eachother and few months later we developed feelings and we had a relationship and we were doing the normal relationship vibe,until this week,he started acting up because I said no sex until marriage...he's a very nice person anyway,he helped me in so many ways(advices,financially,physically) but just because I said no sex until marriage,he's acting up already,although I have my reasons for abstaining until marriage anyway but my story is sad,and I don't know who to tell and I feel more comfortable telling people online because someone that knows me physically might not say the truth to me,because they don't want to hurt me,please I need matured comments even if it will hurt,just tell me

Although we aren't kids,but I'm just troubled because I love him a lot and I don't know what to do.

I'm a loner right now

Madam, if he cannot wait till marriage then he cannot wait at all for you...Loving a person that is not ready to love you sacrificially can give you enormous heartache, trust me i've been there once! Stop accepting his gifts, stop accepting his gestures, stop accepting his overt kindness and stop condoning his excess...if he is worth it, he'll wait...I am a man so i know what i am talking about!

useless prostitute other guys dey bang u but u refused to give d mister nice guy....olosho i blame d mumu guy...dats y i love play boys

femi4:
Abeg which one be emotional needs

I taya oh!

dview001:
useless prostitute other guys dey bang u but u refused to give d mister nice guy....olosho i blame d mumu guy...dats y i love play boys

Why on earth will you call her a prostitute or have you had her service you b4 Mind the things you say to people bro. Not everyone is the same as you.

Don't let anyone push you into what you're not ready for.
Sex isn't a payment for financial assistance. Except you guys have a prostitution arrangement. If he doesn't want to wait and you want to wait, then the relationship won't work. So it's best you decide if you want to leave for that or give in to his demands in order to keep him but it should never be as a repayment for whatever monies he spent.

Don't listen to these hypocrite dudes. You can never please them. If you asked him for money because he had sex with you, they will call you a prostitute. But they feel it's okay for you to pay back money in sex. Don't even.

P.S you know the dude more than we do. So can you tell if he's helping you financially in order to get into your panties or if he's helping you because he wants to?

If it's the former, just break up with him and go your way or one day he will rape you in the name of taking his reward. As we can see by the random sampling that is nairaland, many guys don't have problems with rape and many of them feel they are owed sex for monies no one forced them to spend. Be wise and know who you're dealing with.

My humble submission

Glory12345:
Actually this is my first post on nairaland,I'm a comment reader and a post reader and I have observed how people do things here and I feel I should share my story,please don't criticise me or anything, I just need your help or advise,and please do read carefully to understand,and i am also sorry if i dont type this well,i'm not much of a writer.Thanks in advance

There's this guy I met at 3chub Ikeja,I actually went to ask if there was any standard rechargeable fan because i have been scammed alot by all these "fairly used" rechargeable fan,so i decided to buy a new one because they sell home appliances there,even though people say fairly used items are better which I chose to decline because this is 2016,and this buhari regime doesnt accomodate an extravagant spending.

I work in Lagos but I stay in mowe,and the electricity there isn't too good so that's why I'm getting the fan so even when the gen is off,i would have an alternative,so when I got to the store,the sales ambassadors offered me different brand rechargeable fan,but i later got a syinix rechargeable fan,because I was impressed with the number of months the warranty covers so I purchased it with my ATM card since I just came to inquire and not buy and I was cashless,I had to just use the POS *I'm only explaining all if these to give you a clearer understanding of the issue on floor*

After purchasing the fan,there was this guy that came to buy a gas cooker and we happened to meet and we both exchanged contacts with eachother and few months later we developed feelings and we had a relationship and we were doing the normal relationship vibe,until this week,he started acting up because I said no sex until marriage...he's a very nice person anyway,he helped me in so many ways(advices,financially,physically) but just because I said no sex until marriage,he's acting up already,although I have my reasons for abstaining until marriage anyway but my story is sad,and I don't know who to tell and I feel more comfortable telling people online because someone that knows me physically might not say the truth to me,because they don't want to hurt me,please I need matured comments even if it will hurt,just tell me

Although we aren't kids,but I'm just troubled because I love him a lot and I don't know what to do.

I'm a loner right now

Well, just like u introduced urself earlier. i'm also a guy dat reads post and comments. but i feel like u might b making a big mistake here. i believe u denied him sex for a reason u consider good enough especially ur faith. please hold on 2 what u believe and say no to "Sex before marriage". what if you finally grant access into ur pant and he leaves u anyway?...stand for what u belive ma'am. there are guys out there who appreciate and respect ur choice. wish i could hav a proper counselling session with u on this sibject. u can hit me up on whatsapp. 07039370264. God bless u!

Well it's okay 4 u to feel kinda ungrateful though, i mean who wouldn't? But gal dat doesn't mean u have to let loose just to gratify him. I understand u, but u have to understand that d best things in life r worth waiting. You made a choice ryt? Then stand by dat choice no matter what, and if he chooses not to, then fyn, let him walk out. It's not going to be easy i promise u buh nevertheless the best is yet to come gal. Ask God to see u thru.

Nigerian girls are very funny,why won't i test the woman i tend to marry,that's how i dated a girl that's was running from sex the day i force her to have sex was the day i know one of her breast not good,now imagine i didn't test her,that's how i will marry someone with one breast looking bad.

My dear, true love always respect each others decision and will. it doesn't go against one's integrity but protects it wit full vigor.
if the guy loves you, he should respect your will.
dont do what u will stand to regret tomorrow just because you want to please someone today.
abstain from premarital sex and let your bed be undifiled till marriage, that is the virtues of a virtous woman.

"a bon chat, a bon rat".. anyway, no one takes relationship that serious these days jare.. people are in it for fun.. what do you expect.. you give, i give and when we fed up, we go find someone else.. relationships are now more of a celebrity marriage.. they are more of a commedy these days.. trapqueen77 i lie? where have you bn?

sekem:


Exactly!!!

In the WARPED minds of most Nigerian girls(most especially those who have nothing else to offer),


[size=15pt]SEX > Everything else you can ever do for her.[/size]

Seriously, I look forward to that day when people will start having sex just like they do in foreign countries simply because they want to and not necessarily because there's something in it for them like they do in this country.

No wonder, I have heard so many guys say that EVERY Nigerian girl is a POTENTIAL ŝlut simply because they always see sex as something to trade with.

Hence you often hear most of them use the term "I GAVE HIM SEX."

There are few ladies that are wife material bt most of them are sex mates

lilmax:
dump him and get a guy with the same thought, that's all

ok but if they do that to you asin dump you and also go for another person even you fore parent will cause you as say to you MY SON WHY YOU NO .......... Am

cococandy:
Don't let anyone push you into what you're not ready for.
Sex isn't a payment for financial assistance. Except you guys have a prostitution arrangement. If he doesn't want to wait and you want to wait, then the relationship won't work. So it's best you decide if you want to leave for that or give in to his demands in order to keep him but it should never be as a repayment for whatever monies he spent.

Don't listen to these hypocrite dudes. You can never please them. If you asked him for money because he had sex with you, they will call you a prostitute. But they feel it's okay for you to pay back money in sex. Don't even.

P.S you know the dude more than we do. So can you tell if he's helping you financially in order to get into your panties or if he's helping you because he wants to?

If it's the former, just break up with him and go your way or one day he will rape you in the name of taking his reward. As we can see by the random sampling that is nairaland, many guys don't have problems with rape and many of them feel they are owed sex for monies no one forced them to spend. Be wise and know who you're dealing with.

Didn't ur parents teach u that having good morals also means asking men to pay for things you wouldn't ordinary afford by yourself?
Would u date a guy who doesn't offer material benefits to you

Supermarket boyfriend!

Some people can lie ....this not your 1st or 2nd post .....

From d topic supermarket boyfriend . I hope he is. On nairalasnd to C hoW. FoOliSh hE. HAS been

You have made your decision. a good one by the way.
Don't allow that man or any nairalander for that matter to tell you otherwise.
Sit him down and tell him from your heart your reasons for your decision. Make him understand.
Give him a hug and shed some tears if it gets difficult. If he really loves you and wants a future with you, He'll stay.

Besides, no time for long courtship these days oh. if he can't hold body, let him marry you.
simple and short. You can't keep opening yourself for everyman that you have a relationship with. Life is Much more than sex. Don't allow anyone deceive you.

what about the castrated men. have they died?

Glory12345:
Actually this is my first post on nairaland,I'm a comment reader and a post reader and I have observed how people do things here and I feel I should share my story,please don't criticise me or anything, I just need your help or advise,and please do read carefully to understand,and i am also sorry if i dont type this well,i'm not much of a writer.Thanks in advance

There's this guy I met at 3chub Ikeja,I actually went to ask if there was any standard rechargeable fan because i have been scammed alot by all these "fairly used" rechargeable fan,so i decided to buy a new one because they sell home appliances there,even though people say fairly used items are better which I chose to decline because this is 2016,and this buhari regime doesnt accomodate an extravagant spending.

I work in Lagos but I stay in mowe,and the electricity there isn't too good so that's why I'm getting the fan so even when the gen is off,i would have an alternative,so when I got to the store,the sales ambassadors offered me different brand rechargeable fan,but i later got a syinix rechargeable fan,because I was impressed with the number of months the warranty covers so I purchased it with my ATM card since I just came to inquire and not buy and I was cashless,I had to just use the POS *I'm only explaining all if these to give you a clearer understanding of the issue on floor*

After purchasing the fan,there was this guy that came to buy a gas cooker and we happened to meet and we both exchanged contacts with eachother and few months later we developed feelings and we had a relationship and we were doing the normal relationship vibe,until this week,he started acting up because I said no sex until marriage...he's a very nice person anyway,he helped me in so many ways(advices,financially,physically) but just because I said no sex until marriage,he's acting up already,although I have my reasons for abstaining until marriage anyway but my story is sad,and I don't know who to tell and I feel more comfortable telling people online because someone that knows me physically might not say the truth to me,because they don't want to hurt me,please I need matured comments even if it will hurt,just tell me

Although we aren't kids,but I'm just troubled because I love him a lot and I don't know what to do.

I'm a loner right now

my dear read hebrews 13:4-5... Ask the holy spirit to give you a quick understanding to what that portion is saying..

iwatch:
I am impress

you need not be, I was just stating the obvious
anyways thanks

@gloria.. . Dont do it. If truly he loves u as he claim he will wait till marriage... And if do u will end up regretting it.. The choice is yours... Stay blessed