Glory12345:
Actually this is my first post on nairaland,I'm a comment reader and a post reader and I have observed how people do things here and I feel I should share my story,please don't criticise me or anything, I just need your help or advise,and please do read carefully to understand,and i am also sorry if i dont type this well,i'm not much of a writer.Thanks in advance

There's this guy I met at 3chub Ikeja,I actually went to ask if there was any standard rechargeable fan because i have been scammed alot by all these "fairly used" rechargeable fan,so i decided to buy a new one because they sell home appliances there,even though people say fairly used items are better which I chose to decline because this is 2016,and this buhari regime doesnt accomodate an extravagant spending.

I work in Lagos but I stay in mowe,and the electricity there isn't too good so that's why I'm getting the fan so even when the gen is off,i would have an alternative,so when I got to the store,the sales ambassadors offered me different brand rechargeable fan,but i later got a syinix rechargeable fan,because I was impressed with the number of months the warranty covers so I purchased it with my ATM card since I just came to inquire and not buy and I was cashless,I had to just use the POS *I'm only explaining all if these to give you a clearer understanding of the issue on floor*

After purchasing the fan,there was this guy that came to buy a gas cooker and we happened to meet and we both exchanged contacts with eachother and few months later we developed feelings and we had a relationship and we were doing the normal relationship vibe,until this week,he started acting up because I said no sex until marriage...he's a very nice person anyway,he helped me in so many ways(advices,financially,physically) but just because I said no sex until marriage,he's acting up already,although I have my reasons for abstaining until marriage anyway but my story is sad,and I don't know who to tell and I feel more comfortable telling people online because someone that knows me physically might not say the truth to me,because they don't want to hurt me,please I need matured comments even if it will hurt,just tell me

Although we aren't kids,but I'm just troubled because I love him a lot and I don't know what to do.

I'm a loner right now

Ishilove:

Glory12345, please ignore this kind of misleading 'advice'. They will only further serve to complicate your issues and confuse you.

Are you sure you truly love him? Your mind is disturbed because you're not at peace with what he is asking you. Sister, since he is acting up because of sex, let him go before you will do what will hurt you later in life.

It may be difficult but you will cope, eventually. Let him go to someone else who is ready to give him what he wants since he can't abstain. You have chosen to abstain, stick to it, and God will give you a man who will love and respect your decision.

lilmax:
dump him and get a guy with the same thought, that's all

Oliviaarims:
If truly you've resolutely decided to abstain, the need to create this thread wouldn't have arisen. Your resolve isn't strong enough, you're having second thoughts and that's where you've begun to lose the battle.

Abstinence is good. Don't allow anyone tell you that because you're no longer a virgin, you must continue indulging in premarital sex.

JustHere2Observ:
The more I interact with guys on this forum concerning some topics similar to this one, I just shake my head. There are hardly any intelligent men out there, just few exist.
You see a girl you like, you offer your help because you want to prove you are an alpha and can take care of her, but some how you believe your reward is sex for "providing" for the woman you love even when she didn't ask for it.
I admit some girls are just after your money and will not hesitate to show it when you ask them out.
But the few ladies out there virgins or not that dont want a sexual relationship yet for reasons best known to them, should be respected for their choices. If you feel because you spent some cash on her and that you have a right to her body, then just have a steady harlot. That she said no today doesn't mean she will say no tomorrow, just let it be when she wants to and not because she feels she is paying you for your "generosity".

rosalieene:

Well said..... Most guys on this forum are just something else.

MyPicsSaysItall:
My dear, you are getting it all wrong. Yes, there are few guys out there who just want the sex & that is it BUT to most guys, Its not all about sex. The question is 'What has/can she offered/offer in the relationship?' A relationship is meant to be symbiotic not a 'one-way' thing





@ the highlighted....I guess you are joking

dubbiskelly:
From my experience, most folks who talk no sex before marriage don groove live sotey dem taya come dey old. My dear give him some cookies joor, it's not as though the cookie is still intact and sealed the way it came off the line. After some ruff guys don tear tear the packet finish u wan come use tape to hold am dey tell my poor guy gibbrish.
Free the guy abeg.

CrazyQuinn:
I have and I've also given back, he bought me a gift and I bought him one too to show an appreciation of the gift he bought me. Is that not how it works?

Glory12345:
Actually this is my first post on nairaland,I'm a comment reader and a post reader and I have observed how people do things here and I feel I should share my story,please don't criticise me or anything, I just need your help or advise,and please do read carefully to understand,and i am also sorry if i dont type this well,i'm not much of a writer.Thanks in advance

There's this guy I met at 3chub Ikeja,I actually went to ask if there was any standard rechargeable fan because i have been scammed alot by all these "fairly used" rechargeable fan,so i decided to buy a new one because they sell home appliances there,even though people say fairly used items are better which I chose to decline because this is 2016,and this buhari regime doesnt accomodate an extravagant spending.

I work in Lagos but I stay in mowe,and the electricity there isn't too good so that's why I'm getting the fan so even when the gen is off,i would have an alternative,so when I got to the store,the sales ambassadors offered me different brand rechargeable fan,but i later got a syinix rechargeable fan,because I was impressed with the number of months the warranty covers so I purchased it with my ATM card since I just came to inquire and not buy and I was cashless,I had to just use the POS *I'm only explaining all if these to give you a clearer understanding of the issue on floor*

After purchasing the fan,there was this guy that came to buy a gas cooker and we happened to meet and we both exchanged contacts with eachother and few months later we developed feelings and we had a relationship and we were doing the normal relationship vibe,until this week,he started acting up because I said no sex until marriage...he's a very nice person anyway,he helped me in so many ways(advices,financially,physically) but just because I said no sex until marriage,he's acting up already,although I have my reasons for abstaining until marriage anyway but my story is sad,and I don't know who to tell and I feel more comfortable telling people online because someone that knows me physically might not say the truth to me,because they don't want to hurt me,please I need matured comments even if it will hurt,just tell me

Although we aren't kids,but I'm just troubled because I love him a lot and I don't know what to do.

I'm a loner right now

Glory12345:
Actually this is my first post on nairaland,I'm a comment reader and a post reader and I have observed how people do things here and I feel I should share my story,please don't criticise me or anything, I just need your help or advise,and please do read carefully to understand,and i am also sorry if i dont type this well,i'm not much of a writer.Thanks in advance

I'm a loner right now

JustHere2Observ:


I am most definitely not joking, it is literally exhausting reading what some guys type here, the way they think makes me wonder why they are surprised they end up dating girls that have nothing to offer them.

lol


I'm happy you admitted that some ladies have nothing to offer. Some ladies are seen as sex objects by some guys because of the impression they (the ladies) create.

The truth is 'Real Men cherish/respect ladies who are independent with high self esteem'

CrazyQuinn:
No I'm not part of those girls I don't need a guy to take care of me financially and emotionally, I can take care of that myself

falconey:


first paragraph - ofcourse not, just inform your lover once a while and see if he'll keep assisting. if he does it means it wasn't about sex. how many will do that? knowing it may impair his assistance.

second- no but in boyfriend and girlfriend relationship that's the farthest assumption, isn't receiving from boys the reason girls accept their proposal? and same to guys with the expectation of enjoying intercourse. both are not strangers who met on a subway and the guy chooses to help her pay for the train ticket.


2nd paragraph- whatever principle a lady coddle when a guy approaches her, she need to inform him and constantly remind him, I have been in a no sex relationship ,I stayed for two years, we romance, do all sort but never had sex because I respect her cannon and had other reasons to stay.

a balance must be maintained in a relationship, it is not necessary a lady should offer sex, if a guys sees other benefits he may stay. perhaps her humour,company and assistance. the fact is a lady must give me a reason to STAY.

KingCheezyPuff:
I think this is the 1st time I've seen you comment on a personal issue
......terrible advice you give.
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Is she a proustite that his favors buy sex with her?
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AlanSugar:


Na waoh, kids everywhere!

CrazyQuinn:
I really don't understand why girls will allow a guy to take care of your needs financially and emotionally

rosalieene:
Op, don't listen to most of the advices given to you by most guys on this forum. Tomorrow they will still be the ones to call you cheap, slut, olosho, ashewo. since you've decided to keep yourself till marriage, don't give in to your bf, highest he will leave you but you would move on with your life. You will still meet someone who would respect your wish. Giving into sex doesn't mean he will stay with you. We all know that there are some many guys that pester girls for sex, when they get what they want, they flee.
I am really disappointed in most comments here mostly by the guys.
HYPOCRITES everywhere

sapiosexual1:

Madam you can lie ehn!
This is your most recent topic,let alone post.
Nothing turns me off like dishonesty, makes me feel you just thought up this scenario out of the blues .

beautiful232:
when you guys started dating,did you tell him no sex??

his been helping you in all ways and now your saying no sex till marriage

guy shine your eyes ok
Cause I have a girl like that who told the foolish boyfriend no sex till marriage

but she is fu*king her choir master

and the dull boyfriend is der saying I have a virgin girlfriend

yeye the smell

winkmart:


If you are a marketer, you will understand this story only advertised an item, SYNIX RECHARGEABLE FAN, every other thing na lie

thatsall

lilmax:
dump him and get a guy with the same thought, that's all