What is wrong if she get married @ the age of 20...Nigeria with their fucking mentality..when u get married earlier that's when u will know the sweetness of children growing with u..

blesoh:

I got Married three month to my 20th birthday, 6yrs down the line we are still much in love, if your sister is matured why not? Remember ladies marry at 39 still divorce the next month, if she understands her man and the man understand her too then they are good to go. My 2cent.

Thank you so much for this post. Any lady that is not yet mature at 20 is a dummy. I have seen 20year old ladies behaving far more mature than some 35year old ladies.

I believe the lady in question must be a mature girl for the guy to show marriage interests.

Finally, most of the ladies that are insisting that the lady is too young are just jealous because they never had such uportunity in their life.

What's her reasoning capacity like?
What's her general perspective to life?
What's her view of marriage?
What are her priorities generally in life?

As for the guy, are those the only reasons?
Hasn't he seen better ladies?
What guarantee is there that when he meets better lOoking ladies he wouldn't cheat?
What is his level of commitment regarding her education?
What is his educational qualification? Most men wouldn't want their women to advance higher than them educationally. If he has a low qualification, there might be questions.
If he is only looking for a virgin inexposed lady to fill his need for a decent and responsible girl, soon he might complain about her crudeness especially in sex matters etc.
You need assess them both, educationally, psychologically, demographically and above all, seek her position. Let her will prevail above anything else. She is old enough to take responsibility for her choices but if she grew up as an introvert, I'm afraid she doesn't know anything yet and might only be naïve in her decisions and not really deciding from an informed point of view

jaymony:
What is wrong if she get married @ the age of 20...Nigeria with their fucking mentality..when u get married earlier that's when u will know the sweetness of children growing with u..

Don't mind them. Even the oyinbo people we are copying like apes get married less than 18 years sef.

naijamakossa:
our northern ladies are in the right position to answer you sir/madam

because many of them,their bride price was paid when they are still in their moms womb

Our bride price is not paid before we're born sir...Anyway,I've friends who got married even around 18 maybe after secondary school or when they're in their first year of university...and they still continued with their education,some the husbands even continue sponsoring the girl instead of her guardian (though most northern parents don't like that,except if they aren't well off).But what matters is the maturity.Is she matured enough to take care of her house?Most of our ladies marry between 18-23/24,so they tend to be ready for marriage.And the men tend to be very patient.
As funny as it may sound,I've heard of families who even write a contract regarding this education & work issue.
All of my friends who married around 18-20,are still happily married....It's really more about compatibility and being ready.I hope your sister understands the man very well and she thinks he's someone she can bear spending the rest of her life with.Is the man patient,can he over look most of her mistakes?Because,no matter how ready she is;she's still very young and he'll have bear some of the childish things she might do.And his character,what do you know about him?we've a norm in the north,the family of the girl usually take a long time investigating about the man before they accept him.I'll advice you to get as much information as you can,of the type of person he is,if possible.

I hate girls dat mensturates. How can blood coming fron your BIG T0TO wet ur pants and skirt,yet u claim to be sophisticated. *Smells*

...I hate girls dat mensturates. How can blood coming fron your BIG T0TO wet ur pants and skirt,yet u claim to be sophisticated. *Smells*

18 years na for book,my dear she never mature, tell the guy to wait till 25, u can even use dis to test jf he truly has patience and love for ur sis,and in this modern world, u require education to survive so, dont let ur family make a decision that will make her suffer for life......if dis is even true....no offence pls

Feanah:


Our bride price is not paid before we're born sir...Anyway,I've friends who got married even around 18 maybe after secondary school or when they're in their first year of university...and they still continued with their education,some the husbands even continue sponsoring the girl instead of her guardian (though most northern parents don't like that,except if they aren't well off).But what matters is the maturity.Is she matured enough to take care of her house?Most of our ladies marry between 18-23/24,so they tend to be ready for marriage.And the men tend to be very patient.
As funny as it may sound,I've heard of families who even write a contract regarding this education & work issue.
All of my friends who married around 18-20,are still happily married....It's really more about compatibility and being ready.I hope your sister understands the man very well and she thinks he's someone she can bear spending the rest of her life with.Is the man patient,can he over look most of her mistakes?Because,no matter how ready she is;she's still very young and he'll have bear some of the childish things she might do.And his character,what do you know about him?we've a norm in the north,the family of the girl usually take a long time investigating about the man before they accept him.I'll advice you to get as much information as you can,of the type of person he is,if possible.

is dis a novel?

VolT0xic:
My Mum married at the Age of 21-22. She was majoring in nursing at then. Well, 25 years later and counting, she is very, very happy and blessed in the union. And that's cos she loved my Dad. What I'm trying to say is maturity isn't the precursor to a happy marriage. Love is. So I ask is your sister in love with the man? Or is this just a case of arranged marriage? At that age 20, she's physically ready. But socially, mentally & emotionally, I don't know.

That's like the 1970's i guess.

Do you know expenses nowadays?

There is no prblm with her age..am from core north..Kaduna precisely.I have seen where 15year old gals get married and settled well..The main problem wil be her education..if the guy is willing to send her to school and encourage her..She should consider giving him a chance...After all 20years is good for marriage..

There is no prblm with her age..am from core north..Kaduna precisely.I have seen where 15year old gals get married and settled well..The main problem wil be her education..if the guy is willing to send her to school and encourage her..She should consider giving him a chance...After all 20years is good for marriage..My opinion

Feanah:


Our bride price is not paid before we're born sir...Anyway,I've friends who got married even around 18 maybe after secondary school or when they're in their first year of university...and they still continued with their education,some the husbands even continue sponsoring the girl instead of her guardian (though most northern parents don't like that,except if they aren't well off).But what matters is the maturity.Is she matured enough to take care of her house?Most of our ladies marry between 18-23/24,so they tend to be ready for marriage.And the men tend to be very patient.
As funny as it may sound,I've heard of families who even write a contract regarding this education & work issue.
All of my friends who married around 18-20,are still happily married....It's really more about compatibility and being ready.I hope your sister understands the man very well and she thinks he's someone she can bear spending the rest of her life with.Is the man patient,can he over look most of her mistakes?Because,no matter how ready she is;she's still very young and he'll have bear some of the childish things she might do.And his character,what do you know about him?we've a norm in the north,the family of the girl usually take a long time investigating about the man before they accept him.I'll advice you to get as much information as you can,of the type of person he is,if possible.

You are right dear..

Jjj

Mosesbutez:
For a 20 years old girl to get married, is it right? .......... According the her parents, the guy came when she who just 18 years and still in secondary school but was rejected by the parents bcoz she was underaged and still in ss3 .

Then after 2 years the guy came back again and still begs the parents to marry her but she had wrote jamb this year and is still waiting for the screening and admission to commence. The only reason that guy wanted to get married to the girl is because he said that he like natural fair skin ladies, intelligent and from the same village ( home town ). He had promised her that he would take care of her education when married to her . From the parents view, the guy is from a very good home.

They asks my opinion on the matter and what I thought is that the girl has not matured enough. I hadn't reply to the parents so I seek to get information first before replying. .

The girl in question is my little sister. .. Please I need advice from married or someone that has an experience of it. .. Please

Listen to me and listen very, I had to come in when I read that YOU DO NOT WANT TO TALK so as not to be seen as an obstacle to prosperity.

If you love that little girl DO NOT , I REPEAT DO NOT let this happen. That guy is just driven by imagination of forking a fresh virgin. He may not really love her. They come in different skin. That is how one came into our home and before we knew it, scammed my mother which later led to her death. NUFF SAID! If that girl end up with that guy nature will not forgive you! Better protect her.

komododragons:
but you dey go fuccck small small girls Girls?

so those small small girls you dey fucck them no dey ready for marriage abi ?


ask your mother when she marry your father she go tell you say she marry at the age of 18......

una dey make things hard for una self joor.

there is no law that say 18 is not ripe for marriage. even the oyinbo were una dey follow.

18 is recommendable for marriage.

coming from someone who i probably f one of his sis, i won't disagree on that but like i said she is not yet ready or is your 20yr old sis ready for marriage?

Amelian:
getting married at 20yrs is not ideal. at this stage,shes infatuated and i bet u, op the guy wont complete her education. my advice:d guy shud b patient, make she gain admission in d university, then year 3,he can marry her,by then shes sure, she truly wants him as a life partner. pls talk to her and yur parents to hold on for some years. suitors are ready to promise heaven on earth.pls let him wait

Why are you young girls so obsessed with going to university before getting married?

Do you study marriology in the university?

I know a young girl who is from poor home and of course the family cannot afford university education.

Fortunately, she has learnt a skill (tailoring) at the age of 18 and has started making money.

So she cannot get married because she is not a university graduate?

CaroLyner:
at 20 what she should be thinking of is her education and how to build a successful career for herself
is your sister ready for the toils and hassles of marriage?
is she willng to get married to im?
is she mentally mature for what comes afterwards?
these are some of the questions you should be asking her

Those that have built a successful career, are they married now?

Mosesbutez:
For a 20 years old girl to get married, is it right? .......... According the her parents, the guy came when she who just 18 years and still in secondary school but was rejected by the parents bcoz she was underaged and still in ss3 .

Then after 2 years the guy came back again and still begs the parents to marry her but she had wrote jamb this year and is still waiting for the screening and admission to commence. The only reason that guy wanted to get married to the girl is because he said that he like natural fair skin ladies, intelligent and from the same village ( home town ). He had promised her that he would take care of her education when married to her . From the parents view, the guy is from a very good home.

They asks my opinion on the matter and what I thought is that the girl has not matured enough. I hadn't reply to the parents so I seek to get information first before replying. .

The girl in question is my little sister. .. Please I need advice from married or someone that has an experience of it. .. Please

dis ur story looks like my coursin sister story ,in my own case my sister is 19 years still seeking for admission but d man agreed to pays her school fees.they get married last week ,he did her traditional marriage and weeding.

UmmKhalifah:
dat is ur mum ma dear, marriage is more dan that

Are you married? What is this difficulty in marriage that some of you always talk about?

Is her mother not a human being?

If she can do it, why cannot others do it?

No it is not okay, she should discover herself, to avoid stories that touch the heart

Cletus77:
18 years na for book,my dear she never mature, tell the guy to wait till 25, u can even use dis to test jf he truly has patience and love for ur sis,and in this modern world, u require education to survive so, dont let ur family make a decision that will make her suffer for life......if dis is even true....no offence pls

Those that have finished school with certificate that turned down marriage offer then, where is their husband?

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blesoh:

I got Married three month to my 20th birthday, 6yrs down the line we are still much in love, if your sister is matured why not? Remember ladies marry at 39 still divorce the next month, if she understands her man and the man understand her too then they are good to go. My 2cent.

My dear, don't mind the girls advising her against it. Some of them are just jealous and envious of a young lady getting married.

What happens when you have all the B. Sc, M. Sc and PhD and there is no husband?

My only problem with the guy is his reason for deciding to marry her.

My daughters will marry from 18 years.

I don't want any advice from a 35-year old girl who might have rejected many suitors when she was younger.

jokerphilics:

Those that have finished school with certificate that turned down marriage offer then, where is their husband?

its just an advice..o go do what u like,.....i wish i knew i for no kip shut? Abeg park well...o, see my leg o

jokerphilics:

Those that have finished school with certificate that turned down marriage offer then, where is their husband?

GOD BLESS YOU!

One girl (her name is Yami) who is 19 years has better qualities and will make a better wife than some M. Sc holders.

A father was complaining about the fact that her graduate daughters could not get married at the age of 30. He regretted sending them to university that basic education of literacy could have been enough for them

Onyiridike:


My dear, don't mind the girls advising her against it. Some of them are just jealous and envious of a young lady getting married.

What happens when you have all the B. Sc, M. Sc and PhD and there is no husband?

My only problem with the guy is his reason for deciding to marry her.

My daughters will marry from 18 years.

I don't want any advice from a 35-year old girl who might have rejected many suitors when she was younger.

Hhh

geronimoedeh1:
jealousy... jealous girls advicing her against getting married cox dey are in dere late twenties,wit d so called education n career n yet no husband....so dat she wil get into school n start fuckin around lik all u girls....my daughter wil get married,finish having her babies b4 i wil let her go to part tym school..

With this your mentality I pray you don't have a girl, just boys.

jokerphilics:
Those that have built a successful career, are they married now?

Leave them! They will learn their lesson when they turn 40 years. From my assessment, most men want to marry ladies who are between 18-25 years.

Onyiridike:


My dear, don't mind the girls advising her against it. Some of them are just jealous and envious of a young lady getting married.

What happens when you have all the B. Sc, M. Sc and PhD and there is no husband?

My only problem with the guy is his reason for deciding to marry her.

My daughters will marry from 18 years.

I don't want any advice from a 35-year old girl who might have rejected many suitors when she was younger.

Hahahahahaha you have same view with my husband, I told him my girls can't marry until 25 he just laughed at me. Lol

Feanah:


Our bride price is not paid before we're born sir...Anyway,I've friends who got married even around 18 maybe after secondary school or when they're in their first year of university...and they still continued with their education,some the husbands even continue sponsoring the girl instead of her guardian (though most northern parents don't like that,except if they aren't well off).But what matters is the maturity.Is she matured enough to take care of her house?Most of our ladies marry between 18-23/24,so they tend to be ready for marriage.And the men tend to be very patient.
As funny as it may sound,I've heard of families who even write a contract regarding this education & work issue.
All of my friends who married around 18-20,are still happily married....It's really more about compatibility and being ready.I hope your sister understands the man very well and she thinks he's someone she can bear spending the rest of her life with.Is the man patient,can he over look most of her mistakes?Because,no matter how ready she is;she's still very young and he'll have bear some of the childish things she might do.And his character,what do you know about him?we've a norm in the north,the family of the girl usually take a long time investigating about the man before they accept him.I'll advice you to get as much information as you can,of the type of person he is,if possible.

I hear u sir