Huston1:
Please Nairalanders I need help because I am loosing my patience.
I have been married to my wife for 6years and I have never had dinner before 9PM. Sometimes I'm served dinner past 11pm. My wife doesn't have any job yet. I wake early every day because I have to bath and dress our two kids up in the morning while she makes their breakfast and prepare something for the lunch boxes. I drop the kids at school and go to work from there. I return home before 6pm and dinner is never ready. I have complained and complained and she makes adjustments for two days each time I complain. I got angry at a point and told her I will not eat her food after 7pm. That week, she acted on my instruction and I really ate at 7pm or just before 7:30pm. That is the only week I enjoyed dinner early. I have even developed pot belle due to eating late.
I got home early today and she started picking vegetables to make soup at about 3:30pm. This is 8pm and I still haven't eaten. I am so angry. I really see her busy working in kitchen but I don't know why it takes so long for the food to be ready. Not that she attends to the kids. I assist the kids in their homework and prepare them for bed. I'm very angry. Please advise.

3:30 to 8pm. What is she cooking ?

Even as a man, soup with all preparations wont last me more than one hour.

mugun,
cant you cook yarsef?
why are you waiting for person to feed you?
you no get hand and leg?

donbenedict:
Wen I used to live with my parents, my mum usually does that.. and I sort of developed a potruding belly.



Now dat I live alone, my stomach is as flat as the wall.. and i"ve slimmed down drastically. Eating meals after 5pm is a no-no for me. And I don't even dare eat Garri. It's either I take fufu(just a wrap) with soup or eat oats.



Look ladies should learn. I will totally be angry with my future wife if after all these years I struggled to get a flat tummy and maintained it and once I get married, she starts using her hand to make it grow bak again. Thunder will just fire her.



If she can't prepare my meal early enough, I won't even bother myself as i"d just go out and eat a light food.

Lol... Eating late causes pot belly? I can't even remember when last I ate dinner b4 10 pm...these days I eat by 11, 12 pm. .even ate dinner 1 am last week (cos of d nature of my work) yet I don't have pot belly...though I do sit ups like thrice a week and play competitive soccer every Saturday. ....do light work out on ur belly and d fear of pot belly will go even when married...

tit:
mugun,
cant you cook yarsef?
why are you waiting for person to feed you?
you no get hand and leg?

U b correct wife material..

My wife used to do the. Same thing but now ,I have a new girlfriend and I first go there and chop belleful before I go home
And then if she says why don't you want to service me I will pretend am hungry because my new girl is very strong in bed

Huston1:
Please Nairalanders I need help because I am loosing my patience.
I have been married to my wife for 6years and I have never had dinner before 9PM. Sometimes I'm served dinner past 11pm. My wife doesn't have any job yet. I wake early every day because I have to bath and dress our two kids up in the morning while she makes their breakfast and prepare something for the lunch boxes. I drop the kids at school and go to work from there. I return home before 6pm and dinner is never ready. I have complained and complained and she makes adjustments for two days each time I complain. I got angry at a point and told her I will not eat her food after 7pm. That week, she acted on my instruction and I really ate at 7pm or just before 7:30pm. That is the only week I enjoyed dinner early. I have even developed pot belle due to eating late.
I got home early today and she started picking vegetables to make soup at about 3:30pm. This is 8pm and I still haven't eaten. I am so angry. I really see her busy working in kitchen but I don't know why it takes so long for the food to be ready. Not that she attends to the kids. I assist the kids in their homework and prepare them for bed. I'm very angry. Please advise.

You really have to make a decision and stand by it. My grandfather (God bless his memory) had a standard rule in the house that says breakfast 8 am and dinner must be served at the table by 7pm, and the fear of him will even make you serve the meal minutes earlier. Lol. I grew up with that and it never changed

As he got older, he got sick and was placed on a diet, and because of his drugs, his dinner time changed from 7pm to 8pm. If it's a minute past 8pm, just don't bother because he will never eat that food and that day will be hell for whomever prepared the meal and the worst part of it all is that because he was placed on a diet, what we prepare for him is totally different from what we eat, and it most be served hot! And he eats different kinds of dishes at meal times.

It's all about time management and you standing by ur word. Say 'woman from today I want my dinner to be ready by 7 pm and if it should not later than that, do not make the mistake of even going against ur her

tit:
mugun, cant you cook yarsef? why are you waiting for person to feed you? you no get hand and leg?

how old are you?

Don't eat in dat house for the next one month n always come home wit d left overs frm a gud restaurants n make sure she is d one dat wil take it to dustbin...

Dis magic works for me n ma Ex

Huston1:
Please Nairalanders I need help because I am loosing my patience.
I have been married to my wife for 6years and I have never had dinner before 9PM. Sometimes I'm served dinner past 11pm. My wife doesn't have any job yet. I wake early every day because I have to bath and dress our two kids up in the morning while she makes their breakfast and prepare something for the lunch boxes. I drop the kids at school and go to work from there. I return home before 6pm and dinner is never ready. I have complained and complained and she makes adjustments for two days each time I complain. I got angry at a point and told her I will not eat her food after 7pm. That week, she acted on my instruction and I really ate at 7pm or just before 7:30pm. That is the only week I enjoyed dinner early. I have even developed pot belle due to eating late.
I got home early today and she started picking vegetables to make soup at about 3:30pm. This is 8pm and I still haven't eaten. I am so angry. I really see her busy working in kitchen but I don't know why it takes so long for the food to be ready. Not that she attends to the kids. I assist the kids in their homework and prepare them for bed. I'm very angry. Please advise.

Bros, just start buying your food from eatery, come. Home a bit late, just tell her to cook for herself and the kids and forget about you.

I swear,Huston1,this thing wey you dey talk dey pain my bele.

Your wife is untidy and can't cook dinner on time? Hmmmm

Doing take outs won't solve the problem,rather your wife will just stop making dinner.
Get someone she respects a lot to talk to her,make your grievances known,your concerns,as it stands now, you are toying with your health, I feel for your kids too because they might end up like their mother. Get that person to talk to her.
For the fact that she adjusts when you complain shows that she can change if she wants to but I don't think she is willingly to make that sacrifice.
If she refuses to change,go into the kitchen,make something light for you and the kids,after that 'bone' her,and I mean BONE,no even eat breakfast or lunch sef, no lovey-lovey, give her monkey yansh for bed make she know say the thing dey pain you reach bone.

And if all these fail,do something dramatic, pretend to have a girlfriend,nothing changes a woman faster than threat or possibility of loosing the man she loves to another woman.

Wait o, Op,does she enjoy cooking?

my brother don't be angry with her..upbringing does a lot...I av been in a family where cooking only rice takes 5 hours..from the time the rice is taken from the bag to when it is poured into the pot...and the pot Is put on fire...etc...they will serve the food and it will be so small...she actually doesn't know time management...or let me ask...hope you have a fully functional kitchen with basic amenities...one thing you can also do is this...stay in the kitchen with her anyday you aren't going to work. ..and just observe her then advice her...if she tries then I think you should give her a chance...

She goes out and around alot to gossip with other women, and then become carried away. find out.

OMG, I can't bear staying in the kitchen for too long or I'd develop a fever. The heat annoys me. And Nigerian foods especially the soups, ogbono and co, take tooo effing long. Yuck. The sweat and stench are motivation enough to go matrix on the foods' arses. Hubby is always wowed at my efficiency to deliver.

Sorry man, I guess you just have to keep giving her that ultimatum. Mayhaps, it'll sink in someday.

Women are very complex, you just have to be patient with her. Talk to her more about the issue, let her understand how it affects you and how it makes you feel unloved. Above it all, this may sound funny to some, but pray over the matter with her.

Oga maybe u don offend her wey she want apology. Try talking to her again but make sure u go easy on her so that u won't trigger some thing else. If u want her to change u must start getting ursef something to eat at that particular time u love eating ur dinner. When she notice that u don't wait for her late night food again she will adjust sharply.

It's either of these. That's probably how she was brought up or... She uses a book, or browses online on how to cook what what..

But wait o! Hope you are not the kind of man that demands fresh food all the time..

You haven't said the ages of your children. Could they possibly be keeping her busy after school?

Candid advice - be gentle and loving even if the hunger induces anger (understandably so). There is no harm in offering to help in the kitchen to speed things up even after you've had a tiring day at work. I know the generally accepted notion in an African society is that kitchen affair is the sole responsibility of the woman but you don't have to conform with that. Help her out and it'll create some bonding time too, even if it is a temporary corrective measure to have food ready in time. Or you switch roles. She can help kiddies with home work one day while you cook and give the family a dinner treat. You'll gradually and lovingly make her improve

yorhmienerd:
The last time I visited a relatives place, it was the day Barca vs Bayern played last, I came back around 11pm expecting to meet food setup and the kids sleeping but was suprised to see the kids watching telemundo while the father is suggestin they cook BEANS, that day I slept around 1am

LMAO

op did you not court before marriage why did you not change it during courtship if she is that slow give her enough money to always cook all the varieties you like and keep in the freezer or if you want a special soup that day tell her ahead so she can start on time and even call her to remind her .Women of these days tend to change alot once they are married abi op you are the picky type cos i know some people can be picky the meal prepared is Beans you come back and say you want moi moi and expect it to be ready in 30 mins lots of things are invovled op give us more details cause i dont see any big issue in this if she is that slow tell her to start cooking immediately you leave for work lol

I dont know why some people take joy in eating late.
if there is anything am good at, is keeping to time when cooking. This evening, i started cooking around 4:30 and i finished cooking by 5:45...clean the kitchen, had my bath by 6:30, ate my dinner at 7:12.
some people like night food too much..kai.
no matter how hungry I am, once it's 10pm i don't eat!
even wen i eat, i take light food like tea.
When i was in school, i was amazed that people actually eat at 12am, beans for that matter, i sometimes ask them how do they do it .

I remember how a family that live in my street always eat pounded and egusi every night...the next morning when they wake up, their face will look all swollen. .

@op i will advise you to employ a cook since your wife is not ready to change. She doesnt work or have anything doing, yet she is this lazy and slow like a snail..hmmm to top it all, she is not tidy..wow.
your visitors must have mock both of you behind your back.
The reason i Dont visit people's house in Nigeria is because most of them have dirty bathrooms and toilet.
you will see a fine duplex, but the inside is nothing to write home about. .

Smh..
guy carry your cross yourself.

On a second thought, try and help her out in the kitchen, when she sees how fast u are in the kitchen, maybe...i say maybe she will learn from you...
if she is learned!!!

This is one of the reason why I am scared about marriage.Bro,jst bear your cross.

I laff at folks who take these kinda threads seriously. Coined up stories just to generate traffic.
Anyways, these are things you watch out for while dating. I have left girls for far less and by the time they come back begging, I have moved on. Why should I eat breakfast at 11am or dinner at 10pm when as a bachelor, I prep my meals as earlier as 7, latest 8am. My current gf wakes up at same time I do, 5am. And while she s cooking we are chatting. I can start my cooking and finish by 7:30 since I m alone.
I seriously don't understand how men marry or even date girls who can't do anything on time talkless of do anything at all. Our mamas taught us the old school way.
All those people saying talk to her, if she aint got it, she ain't got it. Marry her/him at ur own peril.

You're right. But i think he should buy different set of plates and keep at work, then come home daily with different plates of food and when all the plates has bern exhausted, he should wash and take it back to work quote author=byvan03 post=49334928]Just start coming home with takeaway pack, eat and go to bed. She will get the message.[/quote]

Maski87:
My wife used to do the. Same thing but now ,I have a new girlfriend and I first go there and chop belleful before I go home
And then if she says why don't you want to service me I will pretend am hungry because my new girl is very strong in bed

when another man go dey service her for outside,that time ur eye go clear like mirror.

uwagimboo:
OP, ur wife is possessed by Snail Spirit..

AreaFada2:


Chai! Beans at night?

I cannot even eat beans after 4pm. Na wa o.

Guy,I am even suprise too.Cooking beans at 11pm? Are they vampires dat dosen't sleep?

oyomii:
She probably used to eat late while she was at her parents' and got used to it. I think the threat thing might work bt u guys shl'd talk abt it sha. And pray too

Yes I think u re ryt, Was a victim to that too, mum hardly serves dinner at 8pm

Only 1 reason maybe two or three: Telemundo, zee tv..

sinaj:
This one serious o!


Does she use manual to cook

U really need to stay in d kitchen with her to see what delays her

Bros i beg i no feel laugh.

Aroh48:
This is one of the reason why I am scared about marriage.Bro,jst bear your cross.

Be scared really cos marriage no be beans.

Huston1:
Please Nairalanders I need help because I am loosing my patience.
I have been married to my wife for 6years and I have never had dinner before 9PM. Sometimes I'm served dinner past 11pm. My wife doesn't have any job yet. I wake early every day because I have to bath and ... I assist the kids in their homework and prepare them for bed. I'm very angry. Please advise.

Tomorrow when you come back at 6pm and dinner is not ready, and if course you see her struggling to get it out, JUST JOIN HER IN THE KITCHEN AND HELP HER! You married her and so you have to also help her to be complete. STOP COMPLAINING!!!

get rid of her on time, life is too short to contemplate.