Koolking:
Unpardonable misconception in High Definition. I's pathetic how people feel it's ok to force their subjective opinions on others.

This subject happened to be the wrong, wronger and wrongest opinion I have heard for the first time in a long time.

PaperLace:


oh...hush it and don't play that gender card with me.
I asked you a simple question Mr Logic, ain't they better than people brought up by abusive parents?
Yes or No?
What of men brought up by single mothers?
Women brought up by single dads?
The ones brought up by two abusive parents?

I think you're the one that lacks logical reasoning, you expect everyone to come in and agree with you?
So much for a logical man.

Maybe the single mothers should have thrown away the child. Do you guys even remember Nigeria's population before churning out these preposterous and facile assertions? ?

What is even your definition of single mum?
A widow?
Divorcee?
Never been married mother?

twinklestar:

This write-up is an absolute nonsense created from a shallow and parochial observation. To declare a bleak future outlook and rubbish the marital aspiration of any lady due to her challenging background reeks of a repugnant thought process. It is thesame reprehensible, uncanny reasoning that has held back the development and consolidation of our national potentials across different ethinic lines.
At best, your deductions and conclusion are very stereotyped

Timbuktou:
The thread title is a little too simplistic and ven though it may have some merit. It would have been better framed as a quite risky to marry someone raised by a single parent or from a broken home.

odogwu2007:
This is 100% so true. I know of one and it's as if you where talking about her. But that don't mean u can't married them, if u really love the lady in question why not but u will have to endure

CuteMorriz:
I am not saying ladies raised by single parents are all bad, you may get lucky finding some exceptional ladies raised by single mums. Evidently you seldom find single men raising a child but it's quite prevalent with the opposite sex.

A relation of mine was dating this lady and when the time came for the union to be made official, his parents advised him to discontinue becos after they had made enquiries and investigation they discovered the lady's mother left her husband many years ago over some frivolous reasons. Then I asked my uncle why did he side with family and not allow his son take the bold step then he said:

1. Women raised by single parent (mother) are usually strong willed hence may end up like their mother.

2. A lady who has seen no need for a father will be swift to end a union because she will have the courage to train her children alone afterall she was raised by a mum.

3. How will she get marital advice from her mum when things are tough and you know ladies often run to their mum when they need advice (remember the mother took the easy way out)

4. Sooner or later my son may become a bachelor again...the odd is high and is glaring..

5. A lady who have spent 21 years of her life without a father cannot be psychologically stable even if she appears to be.

6. Ladies raised by single parents did not experience the beautiful and ugly part of the union called marriage from her parents hence they don't have their parents as their role model.

7. Amin (as he fondly calls me) when the baton gets to you, look at the mother of your fiancèe closely because with time she will display those traits you observed in the mother......

Then I asked him what if the lady's father is dead and the mum decided to train her alone?...my uncle said we may also enquire about the untimely death of the father but "Amin that is a topic for another day"......

SamOgasco:


You're right. And they are kind of proved uncontrollable as well. They will never yield to any form of correction as well, they seems to know it all as well. People people like them always find it difficult to apologize even when they are 100% wrong and obviously at fault as well.

Trina0936:

Cowards are always scared of independent and confident women that's why y'all go for weaklings and doormats so you can validate your feigned superiority. Real men don't need any validation from women. They know who they are and know how to command respect.
Deal with it

niggi4life:
90% of my Ex GFs and female friends who were raised by sinlge parent are not yet married and some are over 30yrs.
The 10% who are into relationships or married are usually rude and they are too quick to judge the guys easily.

I am not blaming anyone here, it's just what i have observed.

Ghost447:
Let's hear your perception please.

CuteMorriz:
lol...don't get emotional...I was not trying to make comparisons...with abusive parents et al...I can see you are trying to empathise with single mums...just see the topic the way it is don't try to modify...

Demigods666:



Lol.

I just summarize weiten op talk.

Face op not me biko

oglalasioux:
Generalisations such as yours is the manure that nourishes prostitution among girls and criminality among boys raised by single parents.

When we segregate the society into people who deserve to live and those who deserve to die don't forget that those condemned to death will not go down alone. Oh Thank you so much for this response!

We should watch our mouths!

goingape1:
if you find out that there are raise by single parent pls abort that mission.

those women are wayward and would put that same cursed on you.


she will later leave and repeat the same process again.

mecussey:
True to an extent, however some of the girls are super willing to prove to there mum that she does not have enough reason to leave there father hence, will manage there marriage by all means

back2sender:

Its not an impaired perception, my uncle also said the same thing when i was getting to settle down. He advised i stay away from Ladies raised by a single parent - the mum secondly he mentioned before i marry a lady i should watch the lady mother closely because she is very likely to exhibit the same character as her mother.
If her mother is a trouble Maker or ride for instance she is most likely to be one

razortruth:
My brother, I was surprised too. If not that I went with the people that met her pastor, I wouldn't have believed it. I can mention her name and even the branch of the church but it's not necessary here

sekem:


Are you kidding me?

Don't tell me you can't still see it yet.

The girl is getting emotional because the post is all about her.

She knows it and that's why she's getting so effing defensive and trying to make a comparison with the aim of creating a diversion.

Personally, I don't believe in popular opinion or generalization.

But in this case, if you take your time to study things closely, you will find that there are some examples here and there that support this claim.

Personally, I know a girl whose mom is a single mom. Today, she's divorced. She's now a single mom to her daughter...

If you ask me, I'll say that this single mom syndrome is perpetuated simply because the bitter mom will most probably be filling her daughters' heads with lots and lots of bad stories about men while the daughter is still young.

When the young girl grows up, she starts watching out for those 'faults' in all men.

And at the first sign of those 'faults', she's like: yes, mom said it!!!

And out, she bails!

And another single mom is created.

CuteMorriz if you noticed, the girl you were responding to has already mentioned that there's nothing good about men. Who do you think she learnt that from?

You see what I'm saying?

Trina0936:

I go face you! You must talk why you dey fear independent women after na still una wey go call them ashawo if they are dependent.
Men are so confused!

Dayg88:


This is the dumbest response I have ever read on nairaland.com. Does a single parent always mean the mother?
What happens to guys raised by their fathers alone?
Or guys raised by their mothers?
I've seen kids raised by single parents more ''marryable'' than those who have both parents who raise them.
Its worth noting though, that kids of single parents will always have an/some orientation that is not ideal when it comes to relationships/marriage.

Demigods666:



Lolz calm down Na why you they vex?

I am not afraid of any woman.

I can tame anyone in my hands.

SamOgasco:

Wrong to your face cause you never experienced one. And I pray you never experience such a lady as well. Even just being in a relationship with them na dia, let alone to enter into a marriage with such. Omo that one na hell, except God's intervene.... Omo like I said, I never pray you encounter one...

Not all of them are like that though, but majority of them are like that.

Trina0936:

Na so