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Re: Why You Shouldn't Marry A Lady Raised By A Single Parent by SamOgasco(m): 6:40pm On Sep 26, 2016 |
Koolking: Wrong to your face cause you never experienced one. And I pray you never experience such a lady as well. Even just being in a relationship with them na dia, let alone to enter into a marriage with such. Omo that one na hell, except God's intervene.... Omo like I said, I never pray you encounter one... Not all of them are like that though, but majority of them are like that. |
Re: Why You Shouldn't Marry A Lady Raised By A Single Parent by AmazinJoee(m): 6:40pm On Sep 26, 2016 |
i hve always had this notion in mind my brother . i see some logic in ur write up. |
Re: Why You Shouldn't Marry A Lady Raised By A Single Parent by Efewestern: 6:41pm On Sep 26, 2016 |
PaperLace: Reading wat d op said made me wanna run mad.. I really don't get.. Why d hasty generalization .. To me i can marry any woman.. i just Need a GOOD WIFE 3 Likes |
Re: Why You Shouldn't Marry A Lady Raised By A Single Parent by Ghost447(m): 6:41pm On Sep 26, 2016 |
twinklestar:If you're accused for stealing, the best thing to do is to prove that your accuser(s) is wrong, but if you start insulting your accuser people will believe the accusation. |
Re: Why You Shouldn't Marry A Lady Raised By A Single Parent by agobentim: 6:42pm On Sep 26, 2016 |
The only thing I have to say on this matter is, that the writer and his uncle are not informed, they are myopic and acting cerebrally mutilated. How can you judge who will stay in a marriage by that yard stick. What of those who their parents still live together but have divorced up to 2 men. I'm a guy and grew up in a broken home but I have never defaulted in a relationship and my prayer is to marry a girl from a broken home because they are stronger in marriage and relationships. Reason, they don't want their children to go through what they experience. Please you and your uncle need serious deliverance. Call me advice 08022210700, 08091862754 9 Likes |
Re: Why You Shouldn't Marry A Lady Raised By A Single Parent by Nobody: 6:43pm On Sep 26, 2016 |
I do not agree with you, majority of girls raised by both parents are even more wayward, while d ones raise by one parent are very strong, they love been independent, they support their husband becos dy are strong physically and mentally, they do well in life becos some of them want to prove to their father who might have abandoned them DAT dy can become somebody good in life, they are motivated positively becos dy av faced so many challenges, they will always miss their dad and they will not want their children to experience what dy av gone true. 5 Likes |
Re: Why You Shouldn't Marry A Lady Raised By A Single Parent by Nobody: 6:43pm On Sep 26, 2016 |
Timbuktou:I'm quoting you because I see wisdom when you drop your comments ![]() ![]() |
Re: Why You Shouldn't Marry A Lady Raised By A Single Parent by abike12(f): 6:44pm On Sep 26, 2016 |
This makes no sense |
Re: Why You Shouldn't Marry A Lady Raised By A Single Parent by SamOgasco(m): 6:45pm On Sep 26, 2016 |
odogwu2007: Abi oooooo. That is just the right word and to right step to take with such a lady. I mean the word "endure" as used by you up there. A thumb up for you dear. You just spoke my mind. |
Re: Why You Shouldn't Marry A Lady Raised By A Single Parent by brainpower(m): 6:45pm On Sep 26, 2016 |
CuteMorriz: I have never felt as angry about a thread as I feel about this. The OP or any other person that thinks this way no matter how old he is, doesn't have any business advising anyone. I was raised by my mom, actually we are 5 in number and there 2 females. No one turned out the way you are explaining. Did you ever consider that the man was the one that pushed her out? What about the fact that as a responsible mother, she will keep teaching her daughters how to behave, even if she was bad, don't you think she must have learnt her lessons and as such will advice her daughter on how to behave well? Even the daughter herself over the years must have learnt the disadvantages of not living with a father? You are actually insinuating that the guys that grew up with their mother will treat their wives bad just because their father didn't teach them how to love women. Which is worse, growing up in a polygamous home or being trained by a single mum? I pray you nothing happens to you before your time so that your daughters won't be tagged bad for marriage. 10 Likes |
Re: Why You Shouldn't Marry A Lady Raised By A Single Parent by olayinkajnr(m): 6:45pm On Sep 26, 2016 |
SamOgasco: Damn, you are totally right. I couldn't have said it better. Before, I used to allow whatever she says or do get to me, to the extent that I get totally down. But now, I don't give a damn, I granted her the wish of having to break up with her. No more worries......... They are used to saying this kinda sentence "I don't care what will happen, let my PRIDE take me anywhere" |
Re: Why You Shouldn't Marry A Lady Raised By A Single Parent by Nobody: 6:46pm On Sep 26, 2016 |
Trina0936: Lol. I just summarize weiten op talk. Face op not me biko ![]() |
Re: Why You Shouldn't Marry A Lady Raised By A Single Parent by olayinkajnr(m): 6:46pm On Sep 26, 2016 |
niggi4life: 100% correct based on what I went and still going through |
Re: Why You Shouldn't Marry A Lady Raised By A Single Parent by Arthurwinner(m): 6:46pm On Sep 26, 2016 |
Ghost447: is based on individuality,and since they are brought up like they will know the real important of complete family because they know what they missed and someone in her right sense will not want her children to experience such. hope I answered your question takes deep breath 2 Likes |
Re: Why You Shouldn't Marry A Lady Raised By A Single Parent by sekem: 6:47pm On Sep 26, 2016 |
CuteMorriz: Are you kidding me? Don't tell me you can't still see it yet. The girl is getting emotional because the post is all about her. She knows it and that's why she's getting so effing defensive and trying to make a comparison with the aim of creating a diversion. Personally, I don't believe in popular opinion or generalization. But in this case, if you take your time to study things closely, you will find that there are some examples here and there that support this claim. Personally, I know a girl whose mom is a single mom. Today, she's divorced. She's now a single mom to her daughter... If you ask me, I'll say that this single mom syndrome is perpetuated simply because the bitter mom will most probably be filling her daughters' heads with lots and lots of bad stories about men while the daughter is still young. When the young girl grows up, she starts watching out for those 'faults' in all men. And at the first sign of those 'faults', she's like: yes, mom said it!!! And out, she bails! And another single mom is created. CuteMorriz if you noticed, the girl you were responding to has already mentioned that there's nothing good about men. Who do you think she learnt that from? You now see what I'm saying? 3 Likes |
Re: Why You Shouldn't Marry A Lady Raised By A Single Parent by Nobody: 6:48pm On Sep 26, 2016 |
Demigods666:I go face you! You must talk why you dey fear independent women after na still una wey go call them ashawo if they are dependent. Men are so confused! ![]() 3 Likes |
Re: Why You Shouldn't Marry A Lady Raised By A Single Parent by Appareil(m): 6:48pm On Sep 26, 2016 |
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Re: Why You Shouldn't Marry A Lady Raised By A Single Parent by Appareil(m): 6:50pm On Sep 26, 2016 |
Very biased write up! 5 Likes |
Re: Why You Shouldn't Marry A Lady Raised By A Single Parent by Dayg88(m): 6:50pm On Sep 26, 2016 |
goingape1: This is the dumbest response I have ever read on nairaland.com. Does a single parent always mean the mother? What happens to guys raised by their fathers alone? Or guys raised by their mothers? I've seen kids raised by single parents more ''marryable'' than those who have both parents who raise them. Its worth noting though, that kids of single parents will always have an/some orientation that is not ideal when it comes to relationships/marriage. 4 Likes |
Re: Why You Shouldn't Marry A Lady Raised By A Single Parent by Princelyod(m): 6:51pm On Sep 26, 2016 |
mecussey:then it would be a struggle...nothing natural as it should have been.There would be many low times,when that trait shows us its ugly head.Basically it will be a struggle all the way which might cause frequent strain in the relationship.It could really be an exhausting experience for the hubby. |
Re: Why You Shouldn't Marry A Lady Raised By A Single Parent by Arthurwinner(m): 6:52pm On Sep 26, 2016 |
back2sender: that's the difference in a persons background and character 1 Like |
Re: Why You Shouldn't Marry A Lady Raised By A Single Parent by DeRay98(m): 6:53pm On Sep 26, 2016 |
Ladies raised by single never-married and divorced or left marriage early moms are the very example applicable here. I have seen it from close quarters. Its quite a different but better situation with widowed or late divorced single mom raised ladies. This category of ladies have experienced to some extent full parental influence. |
Re: Why You Shouldn't Marry A Lady Raised By A Single Parent by Appareil(m): 6:55pm On Sep 26, 2016 |
razortruth:Okay |
Re: Why You Shouldn't Marry A Lady Raised By A Single Parent by DeRay98(m): 6:56pm On Sep 26, 2016 |
sekem: Ladies raised by single never-married and divorced or left marriage early moms are the very example applicable here. I have seen it from close quarters. Its quite a different but better situation with widowed or late divorced single mom raised ladies. This category of ladies have experienced to some extent full parental influence. |
Re: Why You Shouldn't Marry A Lady Raised By A Single Parent by itzgbengene: 6:58pm On Sep 26, 2016 |
It's Quinn vs Cute morriz, 5-2 Quinn on d lead. 1 Like |
Re: Why You Shouldn't Marry A Lady Raised By A Single Parent by Nobody: 6:59pm On Sep 26, 2016 |
Trina0936: Lolz calm down Na why you they vex? I am not afraid of any woman. I can tame anyone in my hands. |
Re: Why You Shouldn't Marry A Lady Raised By A Single Parent by prettyzee11(f): 7:00pm On Sep 26, 2016 |
I actually don't want to comment on D's but is so disheartening to hear one judge others even when u don't know what they might have gone through. What do u even understand by single mother?? A. The widows B.divorced C.out of wedkuck D. Raped cases... Etc A.The widows, is it their wish to lost a dear soulmate they have had kids for? And if death eventually come knocking should they kill there offsprings too? B.The Divorced, I have read severally about abusive marriages and we all read how some end up killed by their husband.this is as a result that they don't want to be called names by the society or their kids been mocked in future by people like most of u here. C.Out of wedlock, most of us also know D's category in as much as am not encouraging this set of people but rather than aborting or even trying things that might end one life I kind of envy such people to have taken a bold step carrying DT child. But funny enough this kind of comparison is d reason y some of such calibers end up throwing d child away. Lastly The Raped Cases,please what should people of D's category do? Should they go hang themselves or kill the child? WELL ALL IN ALL B IT SINGLE MUM OR SINGLE DAD BROUGHTUP WE ALL SHOULD ENDEAVOR TO KNOW OUR WEAKNESS N WORK TOWARDS MAKING IT PERFECT FOR OUR FUTURE PARTNER. WE CANT CHOOSE OUR PARENT BUT CAN CHOOSE HOW TO BRING OUR CHILDREN UP. SAY NO TO CRITICISM, SAY NO TO ABUSE!!! 4 Likes |
Re: Why You Shouldn't Marry A Lady Raised By A Single Parent by Betapikin101: 7:06pm On Sep 26, 2016 |
It is only an idiosyncratic person that will agree with this kind of bullshit .those who come from a very good home nko and still end up with divorce. There is this adage in Yoruba that says if u are given birth to u need to reborn/rebirth urself. I have seen alot of ladies that are products of single mum thriving well in their marriage when God is not the foundation of the marriage it is bound to fail. The fact that u av not met the right lady for u does not mean shes not a good wife material.its funny how some guys talk as if they don't have background issues of which na their family devil dey dance azonto 4 Likes |
Re: Why You Shouldn't Marry A Lady Raised By A Single Parent by goingape1: 7:07pm On Sep 26, 2016 |
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Re: Why You Shouldn't Marry A Lady Raised By A Single Parent by Nobody: 7:11pm On Sep 26, 2016 |
Demigods666:Na so. But you can't marry one who is independent and prolly earns more than you. If that isn't the height of cowardice,then what is? This is why I can't marry a guy am richer than! He would always look for a way to blame his inferiority complex on me ![]() 3 Likes
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Re: Why You Shouldn't Marry A Lady Raised By A Single Parent by Shym3xx: 7:16pm On Sep 26, 2016 |
SamOgasco: Lol. I think your inclination is based more on perception than reality. The problem with most people is that they're close minded and linear like robots. At the end of the day, no matter the number of parents you had growing up - you're still an individual. There are loads of chics raised by two parents who were either sexually molested or physically abused by their dads growing up. And that also plays a role in their outlook. At least, those raised by single mums don't have to deal with the mental trauma these ones have to deal with. You lot just need to be more flexible and adopt the culture of adaptability. People's experiences are different and once you can adapt to other people's experiences, you won't have a problem with them. I've only been relationships with chics raised by single mums, despite the fact that I've checked loads of chics raised by both parents. They just stood out and got me on smash. And I won't trade it for anything else cos they made me grow fast. They also love hard and would move mountains for you, hence we're still very close. Find yourself and stop discriminating against people. They're victims of circumstance and they didn't choose the space they were raised in. 5 Likes 1 Share |
Re: Why You Shouldn't Marry A Lady Raised By A Single Parent by Nobody: 7:17pm On Sep 26, 2016 |
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