OLAADEGBU:
Does an abused wife have to stay with her husband?

jashar:


Once I read the topic, my spidey senses told me you would be here.

SiestaFiesta:


When people take the oath, they believe that they will stick to it and then life happens.

And I won't blame any Christian who believes that adultery can't be the only reason to get divorced. Some people would much rather forgive cheating than abuse and it's understandable. And since the Bible is open to interpretation and has not covered all problems of human experience, people have to seek the answers elsewhere.

Additionally, loving oneself (also in order to be able to love others) is more importnant than a fvcked up marriage:

Love the Lord your God with all your heart and with all your soul and with all your mind and with all your strength.’ 31 The second is this: ‘Love your neighbor as yourself.’ There is no commandment greater than these.”

Victorakats:
Physical Abuse is a Legitimate Ground for Divorce!
No religion supports physical abuse!
And the Law doesn't encourage physical abuse!
If anyone is in a physically abused marriage and he or she have explored every healthy and necessary avenues to reconcile with his or her partner, and they failed, the person has a legitimate right to seek for divorce.
Divorce is legal and Biblical!

Divorce is reversible, Death is Not!

The God that ordained marriage didn't encourage partners to take the lives of their beloved!!!

Thank you!!!

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crackhaus:

My hunter senses tell me you might be a pretty chic.

your hunter senses might just be apt.


But how you gonna verify? For all you know, it could be a dude behind the moniker

crackhaus:

Do my eyes deceive me, or did Mindfulness just quote from the Bible?

jashar:


your hunter senses might just be apt.


But how you gonna verify? For all you know, it could be a dude behind the moniker

Mindfulness:


The part of it that resonates with me and fits into the context of this discussion perfectly.

crackhaus:

I didn't even think there was any part of it that resonates with you. I had the feeling you saw the entire book as a well documented work of fiction.

Mindfulness:


It can also be taken as a history book, at least partly. There are well documented accounts that historians have proven to be true but ...

crackhaus:

I will verify soon.

Muafrika2:


I had a neighbour who used to thoroughly beat her husband then send him outside at night till around midnight. The poor man always went home so drunk no wonder he could not defend himself. So one day, the fight involved kerosene and fire. The man died from severe burns, just like that.

TV01:


Because;
1. Physical abuse could be mild
2. it could be a one-off, situationally driven event
3. It could be dealt with effectively - healing and reconciliation should always be the first recourse
4. It's not given as grounds for divorce
5. There are no grounds for divorce in a consummated marriage

Further, even if you separate (you cannot remarry) unless your spouse dies - I am not counselling murder 0! - even if you call that separation "divorce". That's Christianity - I didn't write the rules


TV

OLAADEGBU:


In such a situation don't you think it would have been safe for the man to separate from the woman till it was safe?

TV01:


Why don't you show us from the bible?

TV

TV01:


Did you know most marriages do fine and deliver even with low levels of conflict - I would term that abuse - should we end them all?

TV01:


No one said it's right, or should be condoned. The bible just says it's not grounds for divorce, and forgiveness, healing and reconciliation should be the initial recourse. Or are forgiveness, healing and reconciliatrion against the law .

TV01:


Don't get into a potentially abusive marriage, and if the signs appear, nip them in the bud. If it happens seek remedies quickly. If you choose separation, fine, it does not mean divorce, or pre-suppose re-marriage without one spouse passing away . Beautifully simply biblical truth .

TV01:


This is not about abuse is it. You wiley ole' divorce campaigner you .


TV

thesicilian:


Unfortunately, I don't know of any, apart from marital infidelity. If its something the church/Christian elders cannot resolve, then its probably better to take a walk until things change for the better.

Ishilove:


Let's not also forget women abuse men too.

Miladi:


Abuse; either physical or emotional (emotional seems even worse, since it will be hard for the outsiders to notice it least of intervening) should be abhorred by any sane people. So, either separation or outright divorce should be applied, whenever it becomes a regular occurrence - life has no duplicate. relationship/association should be enjoyed not endured.

To the question, when you hear most people say they are divorcing due to some irreconcilable differences, abuse (especially emotional type) is usually that unspoken word.

crackhaus:


Well, I can't say people who do those things shouldn't go to church, but they definitely shouldn't call themselves Christians.
And don't get it twisted, a lot of people DO NOT pray for forgiveness. They just assume their presence in church automatically cleanses sins.

Did you know that part of the reason Nigeria is the way it is, has a little something to do with our false sense of religion?
- Politicians do what they want with our collective wealth, but because they go to church on Sundays to give million-naira tithes and donations, they believe all is forgiven.

- The average Nigerian who hates on his/her neighbour, speaks ill of him/her, cheats, envies, fornicates, and basically breaks at least one of the 10 commandments every single day, still assumes Sunday service is enough to cleanse it all.

This is the only reason people can confidently swear an oath that should only be broken by death, and then use all sorts of sentiments to explain why they can't keep the oath—well, news flash: If you can't keep it, don't take it.
The courts and most traditional practices recognize abuse as a very good reason for divorce...so peeps best stick with marrying ONLY within the confines of the law and not the scriptures.

I do not judge though, I just think Christians ought to pick a side.
You are either for God or for the devil, no such thing as one leg in one leg out.

OLAADEGBU:


Especially emotionally with their persistent nagging.

Pandorabox:


Abuse is acceptable cos the wife's life is at stake here.

Mindfulness:


I agree and yet think that it's impossible to love yourself and accept abuse in the name of marriage. And for me it is not the one who divorces who broke the covenant but the abuser who promised to love and cherish and what not in the first place. The moment you disrepect your spouse, is the moment when the covenant is broken. Simple logic.

You are either sticking to the vows or you aren't and the vows contain more than just sticking around for the sake of sticking around.

crackhaus:


You're right, both people broke the covenant at the end of the day.

To avoid all that, people should not take the Christian oath—saves each other from arguing about who first broke it.

RiloKiley:


Good job, my dear fellow. Good job.

RiloKiley:
Good job, my dear fellow. Good job.

RiloKiley:


A man slaps his wife anytime they argue, which is like once a month. Thy have three children. Everything is ok. Is that grounds for divorce?


A woman insults her husband's dead mother anytime there is a misunderstanding. This happens once a month. They have two kids. Everything else is OK. Is that grounds for divorce?



Should it be easy to divorce someone u loved so much that u were willing to spend the rest of your life with them? Doesn't that show you never really loved them but rather loved what they could offer? Doesn't that make u a hypocrite for not even trying for the love u so publicly professed?

SiestaFiesta:


When people take the oath, they believe that they will stick to it and then life happens.

And I won't blame any Christian who believes that adultery can't be the only reason to get divorced. Some people would much rather forgive cheating than abuse and it's understandable. And since the Bible is open to interpretation and has not covered all problems of human experience, people have to seek the answers elsewhere.

Additionally, loving oneself (also in order to be able to love others) is more importnant than a fvcked up marriage:

Love the Lord your God with all your heart and with all your soul and with all your mind and with all your strength.’ 31 The second is this: ‘Love your neighbor as yourself.’ There is no commandment greater than these.”

Jay542:


If she's comfortable with the abuse, she can. If not she can bounce. She's right either ways.

OLAADEGBU:
Would separation not be better than losing your life? What's the use of living with a murderer at the expense of your marriage?

OLAADEGBU:
I asked you the question. It is not a crime to say 'I do not know.'

OLAADEGBU:
Is there any biblical reason for Christian couples to file for divorce when there is the possibility of 'becoming brutalised or ending up dead'?