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Re: People Please Have Mercy On Me Before I Die by southernbelle(f): 12:24pm On Oct 12, 2016 |
tearoses: True talk, reconciling with her mother is the best option she has now, every other form of assistance that can be rendered in terms of helping her earn a living can then follow. That was the major thing on my mind as I went through the thread from page to page. 1 Like |
Re: People Please Have Mercy On Me Before I Die by egbaguy2: 12:25pm On Oct 12, 2016 |
Dyt:. If to say u don do mmm ni.....lol |
Re: People Please Have Mercy On Me Before I Die by Nobody: 12:26pm On Oct 12, 2016 |
But seriously, u guys have time o. I am not trying to sound hard hearted. Not at all. I cry easily. Things like this are not a rare occurrence. I have seen and heard of girls who give birth to one , two , three children under their mothers roof (don't know but its most often under their mothers roof cos fathers won't tolerate such). Everybody joins hands to feed these kids. In most cases, its not easy. When we find one of such young single mothers that indeed is humble and truly needs help, we render. This one I don't know oooo. Her sense of entitlement is nauseating. 3 Likes |
Re: People Please Have Mercy On Me Before I Die by jaybee3(m): 12:26pm On Oct 12, 2016 |
Onegai: Well said!!! That's why i detest morally upright idiots that will shout up and down about their faith or whatever without proffering solutions to the problems at hand This is a girl that has openly prostituted but yet we should be objective with our suggestions Phew 6 Likes 1 Share |
Re: People Please Have Mercy On Me Before I Die by MizMyColi(f): 12:27pm On Oct 12, 2016 |
Sanchez01: She needs to reconcile with her mother. Even if everyone on this thread turns benefactor, we can only do so for a while. She needs her mother's forgiveness. Whether she is at fault or not. She needs to humble herself. However the woman has become to her, it is out of frustration. TV01 touched up on some of the points that made me say I'm weak earlier. I just couldn't get myself to compose my thoughts coherently because I was in the hospital for a lab test that involved those courteous lab attendants drawing my blood bi-hourly. I really appreciate his input even though he harsh. Well, I haven't spoken with her indepth to draw my own conclusions. I have made my silent judgements based on ear/eyewitness reports which is not too cool. I should reach out to her myself and try to see if I can do what I do best when I have recuperated properly. |
Re: People Please Have Mercy On Me Before I Die by Dyt(f): 12:31pm On Oct 12, 2016 |
Re: People Please Have Mercy On Me Before I Die by moji26: 12:34pm On Oct 12, 2016 |
Mynd44:im sorry pls, I need to come in here, I dnt ve any nanny, there is no nanny with me, d old woman with me is d mother of my ex dat I'm pregnant for |
Re: People Please Have Mercy On Me Before I Die by jaybee3(m): 12:37pm On Oct 12, 2016 |
tearoses: No one is pressuring her into making decisions she is uncomfortable with. She is an adult and can make her own decisions but it's necessary to suggest all options that would normally help her get back on her feet. 2 Likes |
Re: People Please Have Mercy On Me Before I Die by missjo(f): 12:38pm On Oct 12, 2016 |
TV01:I read the entire pages and was expecting to see a post by crackhouse,this is what he would have typed I'm sure |
Re: People Please Have Mercy On Me Before I Die by Onegai(f): 12:39pm On Oct 12, 2016 |
moji26: Listen to me. Open your ears and listen to me. You need to get your life in order. It is wake-up time. No more excuses, go and sell that tab NOW. Go and apologise to your mother and you better kneel down for her. I'm going to call you in a short while and I want you to be quiet the entire conversation. We are going to have a talk. Is your whatsapp working now? 2 Likes |
Re: People Please Have Mercy On Me Before I Die by missjo(f): 12:48pm On Oct 12, 2016 |
pickabeau1:She has a family,not a destitute living on the streets. Her case isn't even about money I think,she needs a complete psychological work up. Giving up her baby for adoption or terminating her pregnancy (can't believe some women even advised her to do this,shocking) , selling her gadget, or changing locations has very little to do with her situation. Lagos is a place with more work opportunities than any other state in Nigeria,THE BEST which people in a position to help can do for her is to provide opportunity no matter how little, that will earn her income. Financial assistance can also be considered,but only if it is for a business. 3 Likes 1 Share |
Re: People Please Have Mercy On Me Before I Die by missjo(f): 12:50pm On Oct 12, 2016 |
tearoses:Thank you ma. |
Re: People Please Have Mercy On Me Before I Die by MizMyColi(f): 12:52pm On Oct 12, 2016 |
Onegai: Ma'am calm down. Please The tab she has on her might be the only internet enabled phone she has. Moreso, selling the tab might not be the best of options. Moji26, please, are both your phones internet enabled? Would you consider selling one? Is it the Tecno tab that is giving you battery issues? How new is it? Can it fetch you a substantial sum? Please reply. Also, please I beg us.. Let us speak to/about her with some iota of respect. Not because she deserves it or not, but because she is human....her bad choices does not make her any less. 29 Likes 1 Share |
Re: People Please Have Mercy On Me Before I Die by abbeyty(m): 12:53pm On Oct 12, 2016 |
Onegai: thank you for that your investigation, who knows maybe it was one of her numerous customers that impregnated her that is only if her story is really true. almost fall for it. |
Re: People Please Have Mercy On Me Before I Die by thorpido(m): 12:57pm On Oct 12, 2016 |
Onegai:I don't think she needs to sell the tab.It's not an expensive one though I didn't really look at the model.It's got a crack on the screen so it's not worth that trouble. 3 Likes |
Re: People Please Have Mercy On Me Before I Die by Funjosh(m): 1:00pm On Oct 12, 2016 |
moji26: Where or when you supposed to be replying or responding to you wont reply 1 Like |
Re: People Please Have Mercy On Me Before I Die by Onegai(f): 1:01pm On Oct 12, 2016 |
MizMyColi: You know what? All this is getting pretty annoying. Allow me to leave this young lady to you guys. Jaybee3, thorpido and ifyalways, let us leave this matter, we have become monsters o. Abeg free this matter. To your tents o Israel And to think that I had called to say I was sleeping on mainland next week to go and see this babe. Thorpido, getting rid of the tab is not about money, it's about her showing she's willing to do whatever it takes: let's start getting rid of all the things that are of the past. I'm not going to be an enabler to silly decisions and pet anybody till we see some progress. Get rid of the tab, beg her mum and then we start. 7 Likes 1 Share |
Re: People Please Have Mercy On Me Before I Die by megawax8: 1:03pm On Oct 12, 2016 |
Onegai: Hi. Please she perhaps would do well with proper advice and counselling. Like TVO1 rightly said, we shouldn't just feel we can lord over her life because she really messed up. She makes poor choices(concluding from what i've read thus far), so if she sells the tab, how long till she is asked to sell something else we deem 'not necessary' to her. Also, not everyone reacts well to being spoken to in a mean way. So maybe you can tone down on the aggressive responses or talks when you call her. 21 Likes 1 Share |
Re: People Please Have Mercy On Me Before I Die by pickabeau1: 1:04pm On Oct 12, 2016 |
missjo: Having a child is enough in some cases to suspend one's drive in life Two is a major challenge She needs to start over with her mom The child may be better off ... especially if adopted in a two person home Steve jobs was raised by adoptive parents |
Re: People Please Have Mercy On Me Before I Die by megawax8: 1:05pm On Oct 12, 2016 |
MizMyColi: I didn't even read this post before i made mine...... Miz, e bu ezigbo mmadu(hope i got it). 4 Likes 1 Share |
Re: People Please Have Mercy On Me Before I Die by thorpido(m): 1:09pm On Oct 12, 2016 |
Onegai:Don't give up just yet. The tab is probably the only internet enabled device she has.I don't think she needs to dispose that. 4 Likes |
Re: People Please Have Mercy On Me Before I Die by Deybesee(f): 1:09pm On Oct 12, 2016 |
Haba Aunty Onegai, you would be a very strict person o, we all know Moji has made wrong choices in life,let's take it easy on her. Moji also needs serious counseling. 6 Likes |
Re: People Please Have Mercy On Me Before I Die by Sanchez01: 1:15pm On Oct 12, 2016 |
MizMyColi:You're absolutely right. There's an obvious broken fence between mother and daughter, and pride seems to be responsible here, coupled with the fact that she is used to the good, easy life. You have just about mentioned everything there is to say. I guess there is a need to mend the sour relationship between them and make the lady in question know she is wrong in every sense and has wronged the mother. This should be a reconciliatory mission now, as opposed to what she painted at first. I trust Thorpido and others to find out the whole truth from the mother. This way, a possible way forward would be looked into. I just couldn't get myself to compose my thoughts coherently because I was in the hospital for a lab test that involved those courteous lab attendants drawing my blood bi-hourly.Sorry about this. It is strong folks that tend to see needles suck out blood from them. Hope you stay strong. 1 Like |
Re: People Please Have Mercy On Me Before I Die by Onegai(f): 1:18pm On Oct 12, 2016 |
thorpido: Yeah, but that guy beat her up, I don't want her holding onto anything from him. And I don't want her surrounding herself with comfortable, material things. Sometimes you have to see life for what it really is so you can value things better. No petting, no arguing, no more excuses. This is old-fashioned but it works. I know too many Mojis in my life and the ones who ran off from my harshness and went to listen to kind, soothing words went on to do even stvpider things. Even I didn't respond to sympathy, so I'm not going to do what I didn't get. 5 Likes |
Re: People Please Have Mercy On Me Before I Die by MizMyColi(f): 1:22pm On Oct 12, 2016 |
Sanchez01: Thank you. And Thank you again Jarey. I just need to eat fried rice and mashed Chicken and I will become strong again 2 Likes |
Re: People Please Have Mercy On Me Before I Die by Young03(m): 1:28pm On Oct 12, 2016 |
GOD THANK U OO,...I DON READ FROM GENESIS REACH MALAKAI,...BUT IAM SUPRISED NO ONE HAS ASKED ABOUT HER FATHER OR OTHER MEMBER OF HER FAMILY. FROM WHAT I CAN SEE ,SHE HAS A PSYCHOLOGICAL PROBLEM AND HER MAIN POINT HERE IS MONEY TO START UP A BUSINESS. EVEN IF AFTER REGISTERING HER FOR ANTE-NATAL, SHE GIVES BIRTH AND NO INCOME...SHE WILL STILL GALIVANT AROUND I DON MAKR MY POINT 3 Likes |
Re: People Please Have Mercy On Me Before I Die by Caveatemptor(m): 1:31pm On Oct 12, 2016 |
Onegai: Haba, madam this is too much! Why are you so obsessed with this poor misguided girls tab. Someone has told you the screen is cracked and it would be of poor resale value. Let us learn to speak to people in a dignified manner,please. She may be down today and might have made wrong choices but that does not give anyone the right to play god almighty. If you would not help her,others gladly will. Naa waooo. 28 Likes |
Re: People Please Have Mercy On Me Before I Die by missjo(f): 1:54pm On Oct 12, 2016 |
pickabeau1:I agree with all you saying,i was just looking at this adoption or abortion thing from another perspective. I'm an optimist,and I believe people who make an attempt to move do not remain stagnant for very long. So let's say in two or three years from now,she becomes stable financially and psychologically, she would definitely regret giving up her child for adoption or terminating it before it gets to full term. I hope you understand my perspective now. 4 Likes |
Re: People Please Have Mercy On Me Before I Die by missjo(f): 2:09pm On Oct 12, 2016 |
Onegai:You may not like this,but I'll share it all the same. President Abraham Lincoln was on his way to give a very important speech in Congress,he was riding with the presidential guards and aides. At a point during the ride,he noticed a man at the side of the road who seemed like his carriage was stuck in the mud and was desperately trying to free it. The president ordered his aides to stop,then he alighted and went ahead to assist this stranger. When he got back on his own carriage to be on his way,his aides seemed upset so he asked them to speak up freely. One of them said, "Sir you are on your way to Congress to give a speech and now your clothes are soiled with dirt and mud because you helped that man. Why did you have to help him seeing as you are in a hurry,or better still, why didn't you instuct one of us to do the kind gesture on your behalf at least to avoid getting dirt on you?" President Abraham Lincoln replied, "I didn't help that man just because he needed help,I did it because I wanted to improve my mood before standing in front of Congress. I find that whenever I help people regardless of the circumstances surrounding it,I feel happy and my mood improves." Hopefully you see the point,you should do what it is you want to do if you really intended to. What anyone says here should not be a deterrent to that. The best way to help someone is for yourself,not for the person and certainly not to impress anyone. Thanks 20 Likes |
Re: People Please Have Mercy On Me Before I Die by cococandy(f): 2:17pm On Oct 12, 2016 |
I remember her too. A lot of folks were mad at her for returning to an abusive ex. Eketem: 2 Likes |
Re: People Please Have Mercy On Me Before I Die by Nobody: 2:23pm On Oct 12, 2016 |
Miss/Mrs onegai is one hell of a wierdo 5 Likes |
Re: People Please Have Mercy On Me Before I Die by misspicy(f): 2:31pm On Oct 12, 2016 |
Onegai:[b]I have been on the sideline reading and monitoring this thread since the OP opened it,and I must commend your dedication and willingness to be of help to a total stranger,who is not even entitled to your sympathy or money,it is a rare show of tough love even if she was initially trying to shroud her real self just to get quick relief(money),it was you who sniffed her real person out and let the world realise that she needs more than money. Every one here might condemn your approach but I won't because I have experienced first hand How effective 'tough love' is,most especially if the benefator is receptive. I think over pampering is what took the OP to the point she is today,and the tough love her mother is trying to show her now is too late,Coz she is already an adult who has gotten used to receiving without sweating. Many people think tough love is harsh,but it is also the best and effective especially in formative years.I would have loved to share some experiences but it will make this post too long and lose its relevance,which is "WELDONE MA'AM" do not let anybody make you look like you were too harsh, and don't stop what you want to do to for the OP (in your own way),that could be all she needs to be a better person in life..... Continue impacting lives [/b] 22 Likes 1 Share |
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