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Re: People Please Have Mercy On Me Before I Die by Nobody: 2:54pm On Oct 12, 2016 |
Hmmm...And I warned madam Onegai o. U ppl now want to make her look and feel bad, abi?! I admit she overdid it in some of her posts considering the Op is a young adult unrelated to her. I know she sounded like she was trying to dictate to the OP and control her life. But that's cos she was only trying to be like a strong mother. That's what our strict disciplinarian mothers/fathers did for us too. And today we are thanking them for setting us on the straight and narrow path. Remember the bible verse -'Train up a child in the way he should go and when he is old, he won't depart from it' Abeg free Onegai jare... The Op suppose happy say ppl don full ds her thread. Maybe at the end, something go drop. I pray o. 9 Likes |
Re: People Please Have Mercy On Me Before I Die by pickabeau1: 3:11pm On Oct 12, 2016 |
missjo: Well that is life Every decision has a consequence 1 Like |
Re: People Please Have Mercy On Me Before I Die by confusedlady(f): 3:12pm On Oct 12, 2016 |
Onegai: Sorry ma but why are you calling Jaybee3,ifyalways and Thorpido to leave the thread with you? I am a tad bit confused. 7 Likes |
Re: People Please Have Mercy On Me Before I Die by doveda: 3:12pm On Oct 12, 2016 |
I don't know why people are castigating Onegai. For me, I think, she has spoken well. 8 Likes |
Re: People Please Have Mercy On Me Before I Die by thorpido(m): 3:16pm On Oct 12, 2016 |
doveda:The Op needs tough love no doubt.She doesn't have a grip on herself. 12 Likes |
Re: People Please Have Mercy On Me Before I Die by Teespice(f): 3:26pm On Oct 12, 2016 |
doveda: she has really tried her best. tough love is what the op needs. unfortunately, not everybody seems to agree. 10 Likes |
Re: People Please Have Mercy On Me Before I Die by doveda: 3:39pm On Oct 12, 2016 |
I agree. She needs to see where she has erred. She will soon find herself another man and before you know it, she is pregnant again. thorpido: 2 Likes |
Re: People Please Have Mercy On Me Before I Die by doveda: 3:40pm On Oct 12, 2016 |
Tough love is what she needs. If you give her money now, she will soon be back for more. I don't even know how these ladies get pregnant sef. Teespice: 3 Likes |
Re: People Please Have Mercy On Me Before I Die by ayobase(m): 4:00pm On Oct 12, 2016 |
Dyt:There is train na...first class! And more secured and adventurous. |
Re: People Please Have Mercy On Me Before I Die by Jaygrl(f): 4:19pm On Oct 12, 2016 |
I read this post from the first page till this very last one. I have this to say about it I have this type of girl at home,infact she is my immediate younger sis(gave her just 1yr). We were sent to the university almost together,she met a level mate of hers who jointly defrauded my dad,collected house rent and school fees from my dad and both used to open a shop while they lived in the guys apartment and before we knew what was happening she was pregnant in her final year(2012),the guy was beating her blue and black and even when she had her baby my mum left Lagos to the east where she was schooling and had her baby to pay her hospital bill and to also take care of her. Mum did omugwo(as we igbos call it) for 2weeks and left as she is a very busy person,she employed someone to come help her complete the omugwo,my sis insulted the woman every single day from not knowing how to bath her child well, to not washing clothes properly...the woman left maybe after 1month and I was asked to go tend to my younger sis and her baby since I was in the East at that time for my final clearance. I would wash her clothes and that of her baby,fetch water on my head,walk miles to charge our phones as the idiot she got pregnant for rented a house in the middle of a bush that had no electricity oh yes!!! Fast forward to when I told my dad I was leaving there after 2weeks as I couldn't bear such hard living condition,Dad amidst all the shame he had to bear as we are from a very strict Christian background(deeper life) just said she should come back to Lagos. People insulted my parents that they didn't train her well bla bla bla.... My parents bore all that shame and said she should leave that girl and go back to school which she did. My dear sweet niece became 1yr in 2013,my sis incured an extra year and had to go back to school again in 2014,we heard again that she was pregnant for the same guy,my parents went berserk with anger. My dad stopped sending her money in school(note:my dad trained the first 3 of us in the University same time and sends 4000naira every week to each of us as he is a business man and sends weekly and he makes profit) so she had no excuse to follow a boy not even a man sef(mtcheeeww). The guy again started acting up,she was so hungry in school. My dad asked nobody to send her shingbai(no money at all) I had started serving at time and I was using my money to run a professional programme so I no kukuma get to give person wey no get sense(wr were given equal opportunity). My mum had to ask her to come back home,the day she did come home she was like a ghost, she had lost so much weight,her eyes were sunken,she came in October 2014 and by December 2014 she had the 2nd child a male baby(the first is a female). Infact my mum took the delivery, as she is a midwife and wanted to take care of her herself. To the main story,my sis started her troubles,she would insult my mum at ever given opportunity and even call my mum as in my mama harlot!!! She blamed everybody for what happened to her. She was ready to fight my brother's who is older than by the way but are very much bigger than her. She hated her immediate younger bro so much as he was done with NYSC at that time and she was still at home. She insisted my mum buys SMA gold for her son,golden morn,peak 123 for her daughter,she wastes pampers as she uses them for both children like it isn't bought with money(at that time I decided to stop giving my mum money) my mum adviced her to give her children pap she insulted my mum that day eh and said Pap(ogi) is for povery stricken people and that she isn't poor(she person wey no get money o). The boy went for youth service that 2014 and finished in 2015 and she hasn't been able to go for youth service as she is owing alot in school and my dad isn't ready to spend one extra dime on her education. So somehow she got a job in a school as read pol.science education and the owner of the school after her story had pity on her and said she would pay half of the school fees for her daughter while her son would be free. She takes everyone in the house as an enemy,my mum dares not even talk to her about how to take care of her children,she doesn't talk to my brother's,I became her enemy too one day I tried advising her and she asked me not to ever touch her children. She does nothing in the house,as in she doesn't even sweep not to talk of cooking (mumsy had to get a girl to help out at home). As she started working,she doesn't even contribute anything in the house,she will put on the gas and it will just be wasting. When her children is hungry especially the first daughter she just shouts at her to go meet her grandparents abeg. Fast forward to this year,immediately she heard I was getting married she started keeping malice with me and stopped greeting my husband. I was so happy to move out of the house eh,in my house you can't cough ad if you do she would say you are talking about her so my husband and I planned and wedded in a space of 2months. She had plant her ear on the room of my parents door to hear if they are talking about her,she has been caught doing that on several occasions. My Parents prayer everyday is for her to leave the house as they don't have the mind to throw her out with her kids. Dear Moji,which mother do you want to be happy to see her daughter misbehaving and from your previous post 2yrs ago you are supposed to go on your knees this very point and beg that woman for forgiveness....I have watched my mum cry for my sis and even laid a curse on her as it is very painful and frustrating to see your own child rebel against you. I will tell you what I tell my sister, you need more than just financial help...You need both psychological and spiritual help too. Sorry for boring you all with a long post. Moji I will call you later in the day. 66 Likes 9 Shares |
Re: People Please Have Mercy On Me Before I Die by treasuredkids(f): 4:21pm On Oct 12, 2016 |
Well said. Being following this thread quietly and I wnt fail to commend Onegai for her efforts towards the op's issue. I'm sorry but I strongly believe th op needs tough love at this point if the desired results must be achieved. Im not surprised she fails to subject herself to her mothers discipline cos I strongly suspect her mother supported most of her choices and seeing the consequences now trying to correct the errors in her child but clearly at the wrong time. The op needs beyond monetary help and I'll advise the likes of Onegai who can administer this tough love approach be around her for strict follow up. She may be an adult cos of her age but in other aspects she's clearly a child who needs a firm hand to guide her back on track. If she has not gotten kids involved it would have been a different ball game entirely. Many thanks to Onegai, Thorpido and co who helped in bringing out the truth behind this entire issue. misspicy: 2 Likes |
Re: People Please Have Mercy On Me Before I Die by treasuredkids(f): 4:31pm On Oct 12, 2016 |
@ jaygrl, thanks for that post. Some people need this kind of practical and supporting life experiences to understand the kind of person the op is and why certain reactions are being manifested here. 4 Likes |
Re: People Please Have Mercy On Me Before I Die by Nobody: 4:32pm On Oct 12, 2016 |
Loisemm: Onegai has spoken her mind and she is right. I have a slightly different perspective but I respect hers 100%. Someone needs to wake this girl up. Sometimes compassion helps, other times you need to kick someone's azz. Like Onegai said, those who feel the need to preach, better help the girl to raise these innocent kids. Talk is cheap. 7 Likes |
Re: People Please Have Mercy On Me Before I Die by ayobase(m): 4:33pm On Oct 12, 2016 |
moji26: What about drug related addiction as pointed out here? Can you see now that your issue is causing issues on here. You need to listen more and talk/complain less whenever you are being called wrt this matter on ground. With your age and level of exposure, I'm sure you know how to settle with your mother, UNLESS you are punishing her intentionally for SOMETHING. |
Re: People Please Have Mercy On Me Before I Die by Dyt(f): 4:48pm On Oct 12, 2016 |
ayobase: Lemme jor |
Re: People Please Have Mercy On Me Before I Die by Nobody: 4:56pm On Oct 12, 2016 |
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Re: People Please Have Mercy On Me Before I Die by Ranchhoddas: 5:29pm On Oct 12, 2016 |
TV01:If men were God... 4 Likes |
Re: People Please Have Mercy On Me Before I Die by Funjosh(m): 5:39pm On Oct 12, 2016 |
Hmmmmmmmmm......... |
Re: People Please Have Mercy On Me Before I Die by Coldfeet(f): 7:13pm On Oct 12, 2016 |
Following |
Re: People Please Have Mercy On Me Before I Die by ifyalways(f): 7:38pm On Oct 12, 2016 |
@Thorpido, can you also seek the mother's opinion of the baby daddies, for all we know, Moji26 could be lying about them especially the last one. @Onegai, . Nothing new, it's the nld way. 3 Likes 1 Share |
Re: People Please Have Mercy On Me Before I Die by thorpido(m): 7:44pm On Oct 12, 2016 |
ifyalways:I will ask her. |
Re: People Please Have Mercy On Me Before I Die by baby124: 8:16pm On Oct 12, 2016 |
Let Tehn confirm first. Usually I won't even answer or reply on such a thread, but just because she is pregnant. Op, you need to know that you have acted very stupidly in your short life. You already have a toddler you can't feed. Instead of finding a job, you jump and spread legs for a man whose 4 wives have run away with their kids. And then you blame your mother for chasing you away! With this mumu sense how did you even get in SA? I am sure with a shady man and you got deported. Looks like you are the lazy type that thinks all she needs to do is spread legs for a man to feed. You better wake up and close your legs and pray to God you have not caught a deadly STD. You need to get checked up, that is why I even considered giving this page attention. 2 Likes |
Re: People Please Have Mercy On Me Before I Die by katchycouture(f): 8:22pm On Oct 12, 2016 |
Onegai: Sorry to ask but what exactly is your problem with the tab... Do you know my internet enabled fone is something I can't do without, it keeps me sane, I read, interact and socialise with it...plz render your help if you want to, if not leave others to help her without demanding she sells her phone... You have been shouting sell the tab sell the tab... Can you do without the internet?? 2 Likes |
Re: People Please Have Mercy On Me Before I Die by pickabeau1: 8:42pm On Oct 12, 2016 |
Internet is not a priority Baby food vs Subscription I know which one is more important 14 Likes |
Re: People Please Have Mercy On Me Before I Die by Caveatemptor(m): 8:44pm On Oct 12, 2016 |
My simple point is nobody holy pass.(Excuse my French). It is easy to be wise after an event. It is even easier to point sanctimonious fingers and talk down on others mistakes,but in reality we all have our short comings,only that some are more devastating to our life's than others. Some kids are very delicate,and no two persons/kids are the same. We should all come off our high horses and see what we can do to practically help this poor confused girl called Moji. What has happened has happened and we can not turn back the hands of the watch on Father Times wrist. I personally will find time to call this poor girl up and find time to trace her house to see what can be done to reconcile her with her mother and see how I can help her open an account in any bank near her vicinity. I think that is the first practical way to take her off the road to perdition she is presently on. She has cried out for help. I believe those who want to help her should do so,while those who do not want to do so are also in their rights,but I plead we should stop talking down on her because she found/put herself in this position because nobody can predict tomorrow. 4 Likes |
Re: People Please Have Mercy On Me Before I Die by Sapphiredamsel(f): 8:46pm On Oct 12, 2016 |
Thanks for sharing jaygirl. I'm weak, just too weak. 1 Like |
Re: People Please Have Mercy On Me Before I Die by baby124: 9:10pm On Oct 12, 2016 |
Caveatemptor:No body holy pass, but this girl will not change if she is not berated. Right now what is on her mind is how to feed herself. They never think of tomorrow, just right now. She can still go out tomorrow and make the same mistake. I know someone who had a madam that was going to send her to the university. She kept going around the area having sex for money as young as 15 to bleach and buy okrika. She got pregnant about 3 times and is now a young mother with no secondary school certificate, the man has run away and she works in a quack shop trying to survive. She's not even 20 but now looks 40. They won't learn at all till they hit the very bottom. 12 Likes |
Re: People Please Have Mercy On Me Before I Die by ChemicalReaction(f): 9:18pm On Oct 12, 2016 |
@Checkengine, Don't be too fast till you get to page 15. |
Re: People Please Have Mercy On Me Before I Die by InformedLola(f): 9:22pm On Oct 12, 2016 |
thorpido: But she's learnt a skill that can bring her income already... |
Re: People Please Have Mercy On Me Before I Die by Coldfeet(f): 9:24pm On Oct 12, 2016 |
katchycouture:Leave onegai alone biko! If I have a hungry child I WILL SELL THE VERY CLOTH ON MY BACK TO FEED HER! HOW MUCH MORE A TAB THAT IS JUST A LUXURY TO HER? But since Mr thorpido has seen the phone and says it's rough selling it might not be an option, but be reminded that onegai made that suggestions before the condition of the phone was made known. 7 Likes |
Re: People Please Have Mercy On Me Before I Die by katchycouture(f): 9:33pm On Oct 12, 2016 |
Coldfeet: It didn't look like a suggestion to me though, she kept on hammering on selling the fone, how much wld she has sold d fone, how long wld d money last to feed herself and her child, wld selling the fone be enough to register her for antenatal, wld be pay delivery fee?? Look no one is a saint, I am surprised to see fellow ladies being the ones casting the stone, abeg help me ask them how many abortion most of them don do, all the contraceptives and all of that... My mother will say we are all thieves but only who is caught is stoned to death... The lady has made very very very silly mistakes but she is not the first neither will she be the last... Those God has put in their hearts to help shld plz do so... Even if her fone was brand new sef... 5 Likes |
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