Hmmh! This is serious.
Moji, I hope you have learnt something here and won't make the same mistake again because you feel so entitled!

thorpido:
Apologise to Onegai.No one here is not interested in getting you in a better shape even if they say harsh things to you.You need to take it because you're the one who needs the help.

my dear sister, onegai, I apologize to u, I'm vry sorry for what I said, bt I said that out of frustration ,I'm sorry sister, pls forgive me,and Tanx for ur concern on me since morning, may God continue to bless you

moji26:
my dear sister, onegai, I apologize to u, I'm vry sorry for what I said, bt I said that out of frustration ,I'm sorry sister, pls forgive me,and Tanx for ur concern on me since morning, may God continue to bless you

Cc onegai.

Plz kindly accept her apology.

moji26:
my dear sister, onegai, I apologize to u, I'm vry sorry for what I said, bt I said that out of frustration ,I'm sorry sister, pls forgive me,and Tanx for ur concern on me since morning, may God continue to bless you

Better.
Please keep your temper in check. Help is on the way.

I even commented before reading the whole thread. Now that I have read it, OP, you think you are suffering? God forbid if anything happens to that angel of a mother you have because of the trouble you are? You will understand what suffering and suicide is. Your mother is comfortable, you better act fast and take advantage of finishing up school as soon as possible. To feed your kids, ensure you find a job. Your mother is NOT supposed to be responsible for you or your kids at 26. Your mother is an angel, because I would have chased you away a long time ago.

Hun hunmn. See this op sha! Is it now that ur matter is half_way solved that u supposed to be messing up?
Hey,u had better dont misuse this opportunity ur havng now, as it always comes Once in a blue moon. Although no one is above mistake, but U dnt blame nobody as u r the one responsible for ur predicament.

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Onegai:
okay so let's stop playing here

Chai!

Fkforyou:


I'm sure you all those stubborn/wayward type who don't listen to their parents and when things backfire, they begin to claim victim.

This is what my spirit tells me. Toh

Onegai:


Listen to me. Open your ears and listen to me.

You need to get your life in order. It is wake-up time. No more excuses, go and sell that tab NOW. Go and apologise to your mother and you better kneel down for her. I'm going to call you in a short while and I want you to be quiet the entire conversation. We are going to have a talk. Is your whatsapp working now?

I do not like the way you are commanding her.

moji26:
infact,let onegai continue, let her continue to judge me as if her life is perfect, I never even tell her directly to give me money, it's who really want to help, some people are very good at castigating people even at d point dat they re dying, she has been calling me since, discussing with me about selling my tablet phones, I think she really ve problem with tablet phones, cos she fantasizes about having one, though I asked nairAlanders for help bt I dnt need all dis insult from her, she ve been insulting me since morning calling me on my phone, pls nairalanders, I take dis as a case of harassment, nobody here is perfect, I do everything I did in d past to care for my baby as my mum is not of support, so dnt blame me, and thorpido tanx vry much for d help u render to me, I pray u see someone too as a helper in life, my God will continue to bless u and ur family and never forget u, thorpido, thank u once again

You do not need help go and make people's hair. You will be paid for HARDWORK

InformedLola:


As in eh

First baby daddy - wicked
2nd baby daddy - wicked
Mother - wicked
Baby daddy's relatives - wicked

Ahnahn, na only you, everyone around you is wicked. Omolomo larin ero...

Jaygrl:
I read this post from the first page till this very last one. I have this to say about it

I have this type of girl at home,infact she is my immediate younger sis(gave her just 1yr). We were sent to the university almost together,she met a level mate of hers who jointly defrauded my dad,collected house rent and school fees from my dad and both used to open a shop while they lived in the guys apartment and before we knew what was happening she was pregnant in her final year(2012),the guy was beating her blue and black and even when she had her baby my mum left Lagos to the east where she was schooling and had her baby to pay her hospital bill and to also take care of her.

Mum did omugwo(as we igbos call it) for 2weeks and left as she is a very busy person,she employed someone to come help her complete the omugwo,my sis insulted the woman every single day from not knowing how to bath her child well, to not washing clothes properly...the woman left maybe after 1month and I was asked to go tend to my younger sis and her baby since I was in the East at that time for my final clearance. I would wash her clothes and that of her baby,fetch water on my head,walk miles to charge our phones as the idiot she got pregnant for rented a house in the middle of a bush that had no electricity oh yes!!!

Fast forward to when I told my dad I was leaving there after 2weeks as I couldn't bear such hard living condition,Dad amidst all the shame he had to bear as we are from a very strict Christian background(deeper life) just said she should come back to Lagos. People insulted my parents that they didn't train her well bla bla bla.... My parents bore all that shame and said she should leave that girl and go back to school which she did.

My dear sweet niece became 1yr in 2013,my sis incured an extra year and had to go back to school again in 2014,we heard again that she was pregnant for the same guy,my parents went berserk with anger. My dad stopped sending her money in school(note:my dad trained the first 3 of us in the University same time and sends 4000naira every week to each of us as he is a business man and sends weekly and he makes profit) so she had no excuse to follow a boy not even a man sef(mtcheeeww).

The guy again started acting up,she was so hungry in school. My dad asked nobody to send her shingbai(no money at all) I had started serving at time and I was using my money to run a professional programme so I no kukuma get to give person wey no get sense(wr were given equal opportunity). My mum had to ask her to come back home,the day she did come home she was like a ghost, she had lost so much weight,her eyes were sunken,she came in October 2014 and by December 2014 she had the 2nd child a male baby(the first is a female). Infact my mum took the delivery, as she is a midwife and wanted to take care of her herself.

To the main story,my sis started her troubles,she would insult my mum at ever given opportunity and even call my mum as in my mama harlot!!! She blamed everybody for what happened to her. She was ready to fight my brother's who is older than by the way but are very much bigger than her. She hated her immediate younger bro so much as he was done with NYSC at that time and she was still at home. She insisted my mum buys SMA gold for her son,golden morn,peak 123 for her daughter,she wastes pampers as she uses them for both children like it isn't bought with money(at that time I decided to stop giving my mum money) my mum adviced her to give her children pap she insulted my mum that day eh and said Pap(ogi) is for povery stricken people and that she isn't poor(she person wey no get money o).

The boy went for youth service that 2014 and finished in 2015 and she hasn't been able to go for youth service as she is owing alot in school and my dad isn't ready to spend one extra dime on her education. So somehow she got a job in a school as read pol.science education and the owner of the school after her story had pity on her and said she would pay half of the school fees for her daughter while her son would be free.

She takes everyone in the house as an enemy,my mum dares not even talk to her about how to take care of her children,she doesn't talk to my brother's,I became her enemy too one day I tried advising her and she asked me not to ever touch her children. She does nothing in the house,as in she doesn't even sweep not to talk of cooking (mumsy had to get a girl to help out at home). As she started working,she doesn't even contribute anything in the house,she will put on the gas and it will just be wasting. When her children is hungry especially the first daughter she just shouts at her to go meet her grandparents abeg.

Fast forward to this year,immediately she heard I was getting married she started keeping malice with me and stopped greeting my husband. I was so happy to move out of the house eh,in my house you can't cough ad if you do she would say you are talking about her so my husband and I planned and wedded in a space of 2months. She had plant her ear on the room of my parents door to hear if they are talking about her,she has been caught doing that on several occasions.

My Parents prayer everyday is for her to leave the house as they don't have the mind to throw her out with her kids.

Dear Moji,which mother do you want to be happy to see her daughter misbehaving and from your previous post 2yrs ago you are supposed to go on your knees this very point and beg that woman for forgiveness....I have watched my mum cry for my sis and even laid a curse on her as it is very painful and frustrating to see your own child rebel against you.

I will tell you what I tell my sister, you need more than just financial help...You need both psychological and spiritual help too.

Sorry for boring you all with a long post. Moji I will call you later in the day.

Mmadu na avu ive. Hmmmm

bellong:
I read only the opening post and it reminds me of a lady who once put up a post here before.

The story sounds similar but different moniker. The previous one also came from South Africa with pregnancy because the guy that impregnated her wasn't treating her well. She was staying with the mum and getting insults.

Is this op same with her?

Has her story been confirmed?

She is the one. Playing hanky panky.

veave:


She is the one. Playing hanky panky.

Why are you still awake? Are you on night duty...

Onegai:
Jaybee3, I agree with your decision.

I spoke to her:

1. After getting pregnant for the first time, (she was sent for studies), she came back to Nigeria in 2014 with the baby.

2. She did not open an account in Nigeria and still doesn't have one. She said she didn't have money to put in the account. I believe she even said no-one is giving her money. She's 26 years old.

3. She met the new guy and he started funding her and bought her the tablet. He even told her to go and open an account. He paid for trade classes for Beautician school but she had a problem with them and only learnt Eyelash fixing. So far, she has problems with both men, her mother and everyone.

4. When I asked her why she didn't find a salon to work, she said she didn't want to leave the toddler because the "nanny closes early". So I reminded her of several millions of mothers who back their baby and go to work.

5. She is blaming her mother for not helping her. She had several excuses for the entire situation. None of it is her fault.

I don't know about you, but I think we should only support her if she puts up the child for adoption and gets an implant for contraceptive. Because she only makes poor choices and this will happen again. And she's not going to take responsibility for it.

cc ifyalways, mizmycoli and co, I had to tell her she sounds more helpless than a 15 year old girl. She's not a serious person at all and she's educated. I think she wants money for business but I won't support her till she can show some sense. She's not living alone, so she's certainly not starving. She still has the tablet, I told her to go and sell it today. She startes saying the man bought it for her (you say you have a hungry toddler at home, you're starving but you're holding onto your nice not-necessary gadgets, she has a phone).

Sounds like a drama queen with an over inflated sense of entitlement

moji26:
my dear sister, onegai, I apologize to u, I'm vry sorry for what I said, bt I said that out of frustration ,I'm sorry sister, pls forgive me,and Tanx for ur concern on me since morning, may God continue to bless you

Apologising is not the issue. Being truthful to yourself is the thing. There is honor in hardwork. You are strong and agile. Two hands, leg, eyes, ears, you even have a roof over your heard. You really are unfair to people in idp camp. Did you know they sleep outside under the rain? Without food or clothes. They do not even know where their next meail is coming from. I do not like people that are lazy, deceitful and cunning. And please, stop all these half and half English. We all know you write very well. You really are unfair to people in idp camps

bellong:


Why are you still awake? Are you on night duty...

No. I'm working 6:30 in the morning. I no see sleep collect

misspicy:

I think over pampering is what took the OP to the point she is today,and the tough love her mother is trying to show her now is too late,Coz she is already an adult who has gotten used to receiving without sweating.
Many people think tough love is harsh,but it is also the best and effective especially in formative years.

Haaaa, indeed. This is what struck me as I reflected on the op but I didn't want to be too forward by mentioning it. I'm happy someone else has detected it.

moji26:
infact,let onegai continue, let her continue to judge me as if her life is perfect, I never even tell her directly to give me money, it's who really want to help, some people are very good at castigating people even at d point dat they re dying, she has been calling me since, discussing with me about selling my tablet phones, I think she really ve problem with tablet phones, cos she fantasizes about having one, though I asked nairAlanders for help bt I dnt need all dis insult from her, she ve been insulting me since morning calling me on my phone, pls nairalanders, I take dis as a case of harassment, nobody here is perfect, I do everything I did in d past to care for my baby as my mum is not of support, so dnt blame me

Smh.

Sapphiredamsel:
Oluwa mi oo! What did I just read?

O ya mi l'enu

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https://www.nairaland.com/1999911/pls-peepshelp-me-out-bad#28069355

Is this your first cry out thread?

Whew, finally done with all 17 pages.

Oh well, what can I say that hasn't already been said?

In my opinion, Moji is one of those people with a victim complex and an over blown sense of entitlement, and when things don't go their way they begin to cry foul.

They are stubborn, recalcitrant, proud and blame everyone but themselves for their misfortunes.

I am someone with a very emphatic spirit but strangely enough, from the very first post Moji, I felt this cold detachment. Clinical objectivity, perhaps? That's because I sensed someone who has deeper issues than finance. Judging by her antecedents, she will need more than money to turn her life around. She will need deliverance and complete overhauling in every ramification.

Since she came back from SA with her first child what has she done with her life besides whine about her mum not supporting her (a grown ass adult) and looking for a man to hang her bukata on. Incidentally she hung it on the wrong man.

Concern pierced the cold fog in my heart when she insisted she was very ill, only for thorpido to clarify that it's pregnancy blues (I was thinking it was a life threatening ailment. Negodu)

Two years ago, Nairalanders familiar with her background story all attest to the fact that Moji has an attitude problem and is resistant to wise counsel. Like InformedLola pointed out, EVERYONE, from the two baby daddies, to their relatives, her mother, her sibs, even her beauty school which she didn't complete are all united against her to make life miserable for Queen Mojisola. A classic case of a mad man accusing the entire world of madness.

All I see here is a proud, lazy, disorganised and confused adult who needs counselling and complete overhauling.

I do not feel any iota of sympathy for her. The only souls I feel anything for are her innocent child and the unborn baby. They are the real victims of the actions of a stubborn, conceited and irresponsible adult.

I pray, for the sake of these innocent ones that God uses good people to turn her life around for the better.

Ishilove:
Whew, finally done with all 17 pages.

Oh well, what can I say that hasn't already been said?

In my opinion, Moji is one of those people with a victim complex and an over blown sense of entitlement, and when things don't go their way they begin to cry foul.

They are stubborn, recalcitrant, proud and blame everyone but themselves for their misfortunes.

I am someone with a very emphatic spirit but strangely enough, from the very first post Moji, I felt this cold detachment. Clinical objectivity, perhaps? That's because I sensed someone who has deeper issues than finance. Judging by her antecedents, she will need more than money to turn her life around. She will need deliverance and complete overhauling in every ramification.

Since she came back from SA with her first child what has she done with her life besides whine about her mum not supporting her (a grown ass adult) and looking for a man to hang her bukata on. Incidentally she hung it on the wrong man.

Concern pierced the cold fog in my heart when she insisted she was very ill, only for thorpido to clarify that it's pregnancy blues (I was thinking it was a life threatening ailment. Negodu)

Two years ago, Nairalanders familiar with her background story all attest to the fact that Moji has an attitude problem and is resistant to wise counsel. Like InformedLola pointed out, EVERYONE, from the two baby daddies, to their relatives, her mother, her sibs, even her beauty school which she didn't complete are all united against her to make life miserable for Queen Mojisola. A classic case of a mad man accusing the entire world of madness.

All I see here is a proud, lazy, disorganised and confused adult who needs counselling and complete overhauling.

I do not feel any iota of sympathy for her. The only souls I feel anything for are her innocent child and the unborn baby. They are the real victims of the actions of a stubborn, conceited and irresponsible adult.

I pray, for the sake of these innocent ones that God uses good people to turn her life around for the better.

Sorry to say, her issues may be psychological. Though she is entitled but she's very paranoid as well and acts on impulse. For an adult she also takes quite risky and questionable decisions. Moji it's not an insult, but I think you need some serious counseling and evaluation. Your matter get as e be. At 26 you are talking, reasoning and making decisions of a 12yr old. SMH

Onegai, na you try pass thanks aload.

Moji26, contunu(in patience voice) u are proud and unrepentant, and that's very bad of you.

Of all the comments u read, d advise, d questions, it's only the private chat u could come here and rant about?


That goes along way to show the kind of person that u are.

This ur mum that everyone is asking you to go back to and apologize , do you know it's for your own good.

Well it's left to you, if you choose not to but I can assure you that one day u will really really wish you had, I just pray that by then it won't be too late.

With this behavior you can never av a permanent relationship with anyone. I mean anyone.

moji26:
my dear sister, onegai, I apologize to u, I'm vry sorry for what I said, bt I said that out of frustration ,I'm sorry sister, pls forgive me,and Tanx for ur concern on me since morning, may God continue to bless you

So, let's get some things some things straight:

1. I am quite a good number of years older than you (more than 8 years age difference) and you are a Yoruba girl. There is a chain of command and respect in that relationship. So you will address me as "Auntie" and not "Sis" until I see fit that.

2. You are very right: I have never used a Tecno tablet in my life. I used to use a Samsung and I accidentally broke an Apple tablet maybe that's why I want yours so badly, broken screen and all

3. I have only spoken to tell you that when your mum comes home from church, you should apologise to her. And I told you I won't give you money but I will help you. But I have not insulted you, if I had, you would remember. I am a Delta woman with Yoruba relatives, a quick temper and sarcastic tongue. That combination means you will be in tears when I'm done with you. Promise.

4. A lot of people here are using you as entertainment and a cautionary tale to their children. They don't care about you. They cannot sustain you even if they dash you credit or N5,000 and will use you as gist and laughter for their friends. And they already are. But I give a shi.t about you because I don't want your next baby to be for the Vulcaniser down your street. Which is where you're heading if you don't stop and do a 180° change in your life.

5. Apology NOT accepted! You didn't mean it. Rule no.1: don't apologise if you don't mean it. I'd respect you more if you did. I have zero respect for you now, which is why I'm being tough on you. If you wanna earn that respect, you'll pull yourself up and become a great mother.

6. Yes, you're gonna start paying rent and feeding in that house. I've asked Thorpido to tell your mum. No more free lunches. Or please move out and try and do it on your own. You should also start thinking of how to pay schoolfees for your son, he's 3. Pre-K starts at 3. That's what ADULTS do: they solve their problems by relying on their skills.

7. I would advise anyone NOT to give you money, NOT to help you open a bank account, NOT to give you money to start a business. YOU ARE 26 YEARS OF AGE AND A MOTHER OF 1. YOUR MATES ARE DANCING AT THE ALTAR EVERY SATURDAY AT THEIR WEDDING AND GOING TO WORK EVERY MONDAY. You have NOT finished school, you have NOT finished your Beautician course, you have NOT held a job down in your life, you could NOT even do Olosho work properly (go to Benin, girls are using ashawo work to build houses, go to VI and Ikeja, babes dey use kitten open store and are paying their parents' bills. You're here).

You need to succeed at something and start turning your "I have NOT" into "I HAVE ACHIEVED".

If you like, please listen to those petting you. I will not pet you, I am hard on you because that means I really think you can change. If I pet you and am gentle on you, that means I assume you are a lost cause and I'm just being kind to you to fulfill my daily dose of Likes and arse-kissing on NL. I owe you nothing, I have not even helped my cousins. Some of them are you, they learned how to born throway from their mothers and now they are doing the same. I could not help them, but I may think of trying with you.

It's upto you to decide what you want yo do now. Rule no.2: you have to start owning your own decisions and accepting their consequences of them.

We cool?

veave:





I do not like the way you are commanding her.

Do you realise it's insensitive for someone with a luxury asset to ask other people that are possibly worse off for help?
Nigeria is tough and a large percentage of people that usually donate on NL probably don't own a tab


So here is a scenario to get you thinking:

How would you advice a business man that owns a house in Ikoyi but unable to continue funding his businesses because of bankruptcy. Wouldn't you advice the business man to downsize since his current status can't fund his usual lifestyle?

Moji26, my life is not perfect, I have never claimed it to be. You want to hear my gist, I will gist you when you deserve to hear it. I am suspicious of people who tell me how wonderful their lives are. I'm speaking to you because you may end up solving your issues in 7 years' time when you can, with maximum effort from you, be steady in 2 years' time. I'm not judging you, I'm just not going to allow to continue throwing yourself a pity party for the rest of your life. You have been doing that for a few years now. "Everyone is attacking me, it's not my fault". Wrong. Nobody except yourself is to blame for predicament.

kristen12:
Madam Moji, someone is trying to help you even though she's kinda harsh and you're saying something like this. Hope you're not high on something? You really don't sound like someone who needs help. People like you don't like hearing the truth.
Rubbish!!!

Not you I wanted to quote.

Please is she verified....


Nowadays, some beggars dey get choice. # just saying #

moji26:
infact,let onegai continue, let her continue to judge me as if her life is perfect, I never even tell her directly to give me money, it's who really want to help, some people are very good at castigating people even at d point dat they re dying, she has been calling me since, discussing with me about selling my tablet phones, I think she really ve problem with tablet phones, cos she fantasizes about having one, though I asked nairAlanders for help bt I dnt need all dis insult from her, she ve been insulting me since morning calling me on my phone, pls nairalanders, I take dis as a case of harassment, nobody here is perfect, I do everything I did in d past to care for my baby as my mum is not of support, so dnt blame me, and thorpido tanx vry much for d help u render to me, I pray u see someone too as a helper in life, my God will continue to bless u and ur family and never forget u, thorpido, thank u once again

If Truly you need help, You don't need all these. Can you please just read and see possibility in every impossible suggestions made by people.