moji26:
infact,let onegai continue, let her continue to judge me as if her life is perfect, I never even tell her directly to give me money, it's who really want to help, some people are very good at castigating people even at d point dat they re dying, she has been calling me since, discussing with me about selling my tablet phones, I think she really ve problem with tablet phones, cos she fantasizes about having one, though I asked nairAlanders for help bt I dnt need all dis insult from her, she ve been insulting me since morning calling me on my phone, pls nairalanders, I take dis as a case of harassment, nobody here is perfect, I do everything I did in d past to care for my baby as my mum is not of support, so dnt blame me, and thorpido tanx vry much for d help u render to me, I pray u see someone too as a helper in life, my God will continue to bless u and ur family and never forget u, thorpido, thank u once again

Caracta:
OP has provoked!

ChemicalReaction:
@Checkengine, Don't be too fast till you get to page 15.

doveda:
Tough love is what she needs. If you give her money now, she will soon be back for more.

I don't even know how these ladies get pregnant sef.

checkengine:


When people don't understand hard time induced situations or pretend not to understand, I wonder the world they live in. Even if one hasn't been through hard times, we can all at least imagine the situation. A no hope situation. A drowning man grabs even a floating nylon hoping it could be the life saver he desperately needs.

This lady before the current pregnancy was going through though times. She couldn't cater for her little one cos her mum couldn't help, feeding sef was a problem then came a man who took her and her child in, sent her to learn a trade, promised her marriage, it is only normal to warm her would be husband's bed. There is a seemingly new life with better promises so giving the man a child doesn't seem a crime if we all can relate with the ladies past to the point she was with the new man that knocked her off now.

It really isn't so difficult to understand that people make some irrational decisions out of desperation. Being desperate isn't really as negative as Nigerians tend to paint it, it's simply a human instinct that kicks-in in times of need.

moji26:
infact,let onegai continue, let her continue to judge me as if her life is perfect, I never even tell her directly to give me money, it's who really want to help, some people are very good at castigating people even at d point dat they re dying, she has been calling me since, discussing with me about selling my tablet phones, I think she really ve problem with tablet phones, cos she fantasizes about having one, though I asked nairAlanders for help bt I dnt need all dis insult from her, she ve been insulting me since morning calling me on my phone, pls nairalanders, I take dis as a case of harassment, nobody here is perfect, I do everything I did in d past to care for my baby as my mum is not of support, so dnt blame me, and thorpido tanx vry much for d help u render to me, I pray u see someone too as a helper in life, my God will continue to bless u and ur family and never forget u, thorpido, thank u once again

Onegai:
Has anyone bothered to read up MojAyo and Suzzy16's previous comments on Nairaland? You guys have been petting and petting and indulging this girl's destructive behaviour for some years and she does not believe she has any problems. And now you want to continue petting her? Okay o

Sanchez01:

Kindly share links to them, please?

Funjosh:





This is one https://www.nairaland.com/1999911/pls-peepshelp-me-out-bad/4

katchycouture:


It didn't look like a suggestion to me though, she kept on hammering on selling the fone, how much wld she has sold d fone, how long wld d money last to feed herself and her child, wld selling the fone be enough to register her for antenatal, wld be pay delivery fee?? Look no one is a saint, I am surprised to see fellow ladies being the ones casting the stone, abeg help me ask them how many abortion most of them don do, all the contraceptives and all of that... My mother will say we are all thieves but only who is caught is stoned to death... The lady has made very very very silly mistakes but she is not the first neither will she be the last... Those God has put in their hearts to help shld plz do so... Even if her fone was brand new sef...

checkengine:


When people don't understand hard time induced situations or pretend not to understand, I wonder the world they live in. Even if one hasn't been through hard times, we can all at least imagine the situation. A no hope situation. A drowning man grabs even a floating nylon hoping it could be the life saver he desperately needs.

This lady before the current pregnancy was going through though times. She couldn't cater for her little one cos her mum wouldn't help, feeding sef was a problem then came a man who took her and her child in, sent her to learn a trade, promised her marriage, it is only normal to warm her would be husband's bed. There is a seemingly new life with better promises so giving the man a child doesn't seem a crime if we all can relate with the ladies past to the point she was with the new man that knocked her off now.

It really isn't so difficult to understand that people make some irrational decisions out of desperation. Being desperate isn't really as negative as Nigerians tend to paint it, it's simply a human instinct that kicks-in in times of need.

Funjosh:




So you still dey this community

Onegai:
Has anyone bothered to read up MojAyo and Suzzy16's previous comments on Nairaland? You guys have been petting and petting and indulging this girl's destructive behaviour for some years and she does not believe she has any problems. And now you want to continue petting her? Okay o

checkengine:


I don't even know how people will suggest she sells her phone so as to feed. That's like asking someone to donate his/her head so as to get a kidney. How much is she gonna realise from selling the phone and when the money realised from selling it runs out, what's next? If she sells the phone, she has lost her major route to reach out to the world for support thereby deeming her brightest chance of getting the needed help. Selling her phone is just not an option biko.

checkengine:


I don't even know how people will suggest she sells her phone so as to feed. That's like asking someone to donate his/her head so as to get a kidney. How much is she gonna realise from selling the phone and when the money realised from selling it runs out, what's next? If she sells the phone, she has lost her major route to reach out to the world for support thereby deeming her brightest chance of getting the needed help. Selling her phone is just not an option biko.

Eketem:


Don't mind those attacking you they have not read her history. How she insulted everyone who advised her to follow her mother to her shop and learn a trade supported by one grace[b]She cursed and cursed said her level had passed shop girl [/b]
She also insulted those who asked her to use her stylist skills and earn money she said she can't be making cheap cheap hair and that she is not " used to the Nigerian system " meanwhile she spent less than 5 years in South Africa oh.

Those emotionally blackmailing us to fund her entitled lifestyle you people should go and adopt her and her babies na since you can do a better job than her mother has been doing Despite Moji insulting and disrespecting her not to talk about disappointing her for years.
Go and fund her lifestyle WE WILL NOT GIVE HER MONEY NOT WITH THIS MENTALITY

doveda:
Her mum sent her to SA for education but miss decided to go for the guys. She got pregnant and came back with a child. He mum didn't ask her to come back, she was willing to end her back. People advised her not to here on the forum

So she came back because a guy asked her to, she didn't think of what to do or how to appease to her mum. People advised to start going to her mama's shop. Guess what they said she said, she said she can't because people will be seeing her. She was asked to stay brain g hair, she said she doesn't understand Nigerian system.

She met a man with 4 ex wives. Se left her mum to him. How much is contraceptives sir that she can't buy from his money? He sent her to a beauty school, she didn't finish. Why? Because her colleagues were wicked. The man left her.

Now she is broke, she can't feed but our friend would rather hold on to a tab because it was a gift(she has a phone o) than sell it to feed herself and her child. Right now, she claims she can do basic beauty stuff, how hard is it to set up a business right in her bedroom.


Like I said unless you have someone like her, don't judge those who are calling her out.

@TV01, in the western world, they will often take kids from these type of women. If they don't, people like her live on child benefits and to keep it coming they give birth to more kids. In Nigeria, ladies like her keep kids coming for one man with N100 after another with N50000. The society will be the one to suffer the consequences of her poor choices. Given her antecedent, she cannot make any life changing decisions. She feels like she is one smart babe. I don't know if you noticed , she has changed the title of her thread from help me to have mercy on me I don't want to die. That is the type of person you think should make decisions. Well, I believe she has already given the society the right to decide for her.

checkengine:



WHAT?

Sorry to everyone I may have have come off as a jerk. I am done with her case and possibly this thread. She is on a mission to self-destruct and may blow up with whoever tags along at the time.

Damn! What a child? God please save us from prodigal kids.

moji26:
I'm left with no one here, I'm pregnant and very sick and doesn't have any support here, the man dat gave me pregnant is vry wicked, I ve a toddler with me, I came from South Africa with my new born baby because the father is irresponsible and abusive, since I came to Nigeria, my mum pushed me into many trouble, fight me in d house, disgrace me publicly,[size=16pt] refusing to give me and d baby food money[/size], I wanted to work dat time, bt there is no way one can employ me with a baby and d nanny I want to keep my baby with close early and my mum is not ready to help, dis actions of her pushed me outside, I saw a man dat said he will marry me and take care of my problems, as I explained everything to him,he started taking care of my needs and my baby, giving me food money, put me in a training place, things went all good.dis man is a single father of two, he loses his wife to death, he married 4wives after, they all ran away with their babies, and me believing in God changing a man as I see him with good characters, then ive him into my life, then I discovered I'm pregnant for him, immediately he know dat I'm pregnant ,he changed, he started shouting at me in d house, belittling everything I do, treating me vry wickedly, threatening to beat me with belt, he ve sent me to my mum house uncountable times since I got pregnant for him, my mum realized I'm pregnant, I told my mum what I'm encountering with dat guy, dat i dnt want him again in my life, she said No, and started pushing me outside, she beat me to a pulp yesterday using stick all over my body in my pregnant condition, and I'm terribly sick, mum promised to get a shop for me for d past 3years, bt I just think she is playing with my feelings, I want to ve a life of my own, if I go and marry dat man, it will be like I'm signing my death warrant, I can't do dis anymore, my mum ve take action, she said I can't stay with her anymore, yesterday, she didn't give me and my baby money for food, I took d money left with me in Dis entire world to feed me and my baby yesterday, today, I dnt know my fate, I'm pregnant and very sick, I'm thinking of killing myself, becos since I got pregnant I've been facing so much storms with my mum and dis guy, pls nairalanders, help me out before I kill myself, eshanu MI nitori olorun

Onegai:


So, let's get some things some things straight:

1. I am quite a good number of years older than you (more than 8 years age difference) and you are a Yoruba girl. There is a chain of command and respect in that relationship. So you will address me as "Auntie" and not "Sis" until I see fit that.

2. You are very right: I have never used a Tecno tablet in my life. I used to use a Samsung and I accidentally broke an Apple tablet maybe that's why I want yours so badly, broken screen and all

3. I have only spoken to tell you that when your mum comes home from church, you should apologise to her. And I told you I won't give you money but I will help you. But I have not insulted you, if I had, you would remember. I am a Delta woman with Yoruba relatives, a quick temper and sarcastic tongue. That combination means you will be in tears when I'm done with you. Promise.

4. A lot of people here are using you as entertainment and a cautionary tale to their children. They don't care about you. They cannot sustain you even if they dash you credit or N5,000 and will use you as gist and laughter for their friends. And they already are. But I give a shi.t about you because I don't want your next baby to be for the Vulcaniser down your street. Which is where you're heading if you don't stop and do a 180° change in your life.

5. Apology NOT accepted! You didn't mean it. Rule no.1: don't apologise if you don't mean it. I'd respect you more if you did. I have zero respect for you now, which is why I'm being tough on you. If you wanna earn that respect, you'll pull yourself up and become a great mother.

6. Yes, you're gonna start paying rent and feeding in that house. I've asked Thorpido to tell your mum. No more free lunches. Or please move out and try and do it on your own. You should also start thinking of how to pay schoolfees for your son, he's 3. Pre-K starts at 3. That's what ADULTS do: they solve their problems by relying on their skills.

7. I would advise anyone NOT to give you money, NOT to help you open a bank account, NOT to give you money to start a business. YOU ARE 26 YEARS OF AGE AND A MOTHER OF 1. YOUR MATES ARE DANCING AT THE ALTAR EVERY SATURDAY AT THEIR WEDDING AND GOING TO WORK EVERY MONDAY. You have NOT finished school, you have NOT finished your Beautician course, you have NOT held a job down in your life, you could NOT even do Olosho work properly (go to Benin, girls are using ashawo work to build houses, go to VI and Ikeja, babes dey use kitten open store and are paying their parents' bills. You're here).

You need to succeed at something and start turning your "I have NOT" into "I HAVE ACHIEVED".

If you like, please listen to those petting you. I will not pet you, I am hard on you because that means I really think you can change. If I pet you and am gentle on you, that means I assume you are a lost cause and I'm just being kind to you to fulfill my daily dose of Likes and arse-kissing on NL. I owe you nothing, I have not even helped my cousins. Some of them are you, they learned how to born throway from their mothers and now they are doing the same. I could not help them, but I may think of trying with you.

It's upto you to decide what you want yo do now. Rule no.2: you have to start owning your own decisions and accepting their consequences of them.

We cool?

Funjosh:





This is one https://www.nairaland.com/1999911/pls-peepshelp-me-out-bad/4

jaybee3:


Do you realise it's insensitive for someone with a luxury asset asking people that are possibly worse off for help?
Nigeria is tough and a large percentage of people that usually donate on NL probably don't own a tab


So here is a scenario to get you thinking:

How would you advice a business man that owns a house in Ikoyi but unable to continue funding his businesses because of bankruptcy. Wouldn't you advice the business man to downsize since his current status can't fund his usual lifestyle?

JUSTbuchi:
she really said this??

veave:



i'm not saying the op is right, in fact if you ask me i'll say she even needs therapy. There are so many ways one can make another do his/her bidding without imposing. doesn't sound nice at all.

Eketem:



Great, offer your services or pay for therapy sessions. Onegirl has said her own