tearoses:


What type of shop does mum have?

Onegai:

I told her to go and open it yesterday so she only got that message last night and replied it. Good girl! No, no-one should follow her. It's not hard or challenging. I don't really want too much sympathy poured directly on her, let her earn her praise. She'll be better for it.

Don't hold her hand, she can do this, she can fix this by herself and she will be happier.

tearoses and co, when I read her comment here, I laughed. I'm not angry at her, I totally expected her to petulantly lash out. Which is why I said "don't apologise if you don't mean it", because she doesn't and really we should not be shielding her too much. Not unless you're planning on doing it for the rest of your life.

Stop trying to hold her hand, guys. She's got this. Oh, yeah, she's gonna have relapses but that's just human. She is used to people saving her so she is incapable of saving herself and is constantly looking for someone to take care of her. So let her grow up. Don't pet her unless you know you're moving in with her to Igando.

Onegai:
This is a 26 year old mum who entered MMIA 2 and passed through Immigration, boarded a plane and went to SA to school o. Why is someone escorting her to the bank to give them a passport, 2 passport photos, a photocopy of NEPA bill and fill out the form? Is that hard?

Onegai:
Moji26, please decide if you wish to apologise or not, to Caveatemptor. Remember rule no.1: Don't apologise if you don't mean it. You can say the words when you do.

pickabeau1:
Smh

missjo:





What is wrong with you ma'am?
As much as I don't agree with TV on a lot of things,your tone on this issue confirms a lot of what he laid out. You sound like the alpha and omega in this matter when it's even Thorpido that's been doing the visiting,i just don't get you.

I understand your interest may come from a good place,but you need to work on how you reel out directives,you're not the boss of Moji or anyone here for that matter yet you don't even realize how you come off because a lot of people are applauding you.
JEEZ!

Onegai:


Na wa o.

See, I don't care how people view me, I don't care if they clap. Their Likes and quotes didn't send an alert to my bank account. I don't even care much about this, it's not about me or about getting likea or quoting Abraham Lincoln.

What I do care about, and what you are refusing to see, is all the numerous people whom have come here to relate their own stories with people like her and how and what worked to change the situation for the better. And in every case that ended well, same story: someone was strict with the person.

But, I'm gonna do you a solid. I'm going to personally hand over to you and step away, if anyone mentions me I will mention you and I'll check with the people doing the most what your contributions are. How does that sound, good?

So, when are you going to Igando oh, and what do you think we should discuss with the father of the child? Could you help with the antenatal? Thanks

missjo:

She still doesn't get it.
How does your contributing to her case give you the right to dictate? And what has my contributing or not contributing got to do with pointing out to you that you don't talk down or dictate to anyone in the name of being strict?
Are you her mother?

You're terribly sanctimonious and you don't even know it.

missjo:





What is wrong with you ma'am?
As much as I don't agree with TV on a lot of things,your tone on this issue confirms a lot of what he laid out. You sound like the alpha and omega in this matter when it's even Thorpido that's been doing the visiting,i just don't get you.

I understand your interest may come from a good place,but you need to work on how you reel out directives,you're not the boss of Moji or anyone here for that matter yet you don't even realize how you come off because a lot of people are applauding you.
JEEZ!

Why should anyone care what it is you want or how you want it done for the love of God?

Onegai:


Na wa o.

See, I don't care how people view me, I don't care if they clap. Their Likes and quotes didn't send an alert to my bank account. I don't even care much about this, it's not about me or about getting likes or quoting Abraham Lincoln. I dunno, I thought I saw some girl who was just like me and I really got caught up in trying to make sure she didn't waste too much time getting to where she needed to be.

What I do care about, and what you are refusing to see, is all the numerous people whom have come here to relate their own stories with people like her and how and what worked to change the situation for the better. And in every case that ended well, same story: someone was strict with the person.

[s]But, I'm gonna do you a solid. I'm going to personally hand over to you and step away, if anyone mentions me I will mention you and I'll check with the people doing the most what your contributions are. How does that sound, good?
So, when are you going to Igando oh, and what do you think we should discuss with the father of the child? Could you help with the antenatal? How about the beauty course, I had some ideas that maybe I could contact some friends of mine about helping later but I'm sure you have tons of ideas! Thanks[/s]

Onegai:


Na wa o.

See, I don't care how people view me, I don't care if they clap. Their Likes and quotes didn't send an alert to my bank account. I don't even care much about this, it's not about me or about getting likes or quoting Abraham Lincoln. I dunno, I thought I saw some girl who was just like me and I really got caught up in trying to make sure she didn't waste too much time getting to where she needed to be.

What I do care about, and what you are refusing to see, is all the numerous people whom have come here to relate their own stories with people like her and how and what worked to change the situation for the better. And in every case that ended well, same story: someone was strict with the person.

But, I'm gonna do you a solid. I'm going to personally hand over to you and step away, if anyone mentions me I will mention you and I'll check with the people doing the most what your contributions are. How does that sound, good?
So, when are you going to Igando oh, and what do you think we should discuss with the father of the child? Could you help with the antenatal? How about the beauty course, I had some ideas that maybe I could contact some friends of mine about helping later but I'm sure you have tons of ideas! Thanks

thorpido:
She told me someone offered to open an account for her.When I asked why she couldn't do it herself,she said she doesn't have a utility bill(her mum won't give her any).
I didn't get the nairalander's name on phone because the line wasn't clear.Anyway,I told her opening a bank account was not an emergency.

The reconciliation with the mom is still ongoing.She told me the mother spoke with the baby daddy but his response has not been encouraging.He is yet to show up at their house.
She says she can't go with her mum to the shop today due to nausea and vomiting.

Onegai:


Na wa o.

See, I don't care how people view me, I don't care if they clap. Their Likes and quotes didn't send an alert to my bank account. I don't even care much about this, it's not about me or about getting likes or quoting Abraham Lincoln. I dunno, I thought I saw some girl who was just like me and I really got caught up in trying to make sure she didn't waste too much time getting to where she needed to be.

What I do care about, and what you are refusing to see, is all the numerous people whom have come here to relate their own stories with people like her and how and what worked to change the situation for the better. And in every case that ended well, same story: someone was strict with the person.

But, I'm gonna do you a solid. I'm going to personally hand over to you and step away, if anyone mentions me I will mention you and I'll check with the people doing the most what your contributions are. How does that sound, good?
So, when are you going to Igando oh, and what do you think we should discuss with the father of the child? Could you help with the antenatal? How about the beauty course, I had some ideas that maybe I could contact some friends of mine about helping later but I'm sure you have tons of ideas! Thanks

Caveatemptor:
At

Onegai:


Screw that. You missed where because someone couldn't help her, she immediately reverted to type and called the guy a ritualist. You missed when she came and read it here, she sent me a message that it was her mum's fault, that her mother doesn't want anyone helping her and said he was a ritualist and that I'm also attacking her. I used to assume I wanted only a nice tone from people to help me with until the day I was in trouble and the only people who came to save my life (literally I was on the floor blacking out) were those who always took a harsh tone with me. You think I like being this hard, you think I don't feel bad, you think I don't worry I'm not being too hard on her?? Abegi. Truly I'm stepping back, I have my own problems and I'm chopping nonsense from all sorts of people and for what, some chick that thinks I hate her.

5minsmadness:
Onegai and missjo.


Pls take it easy. Both of you are trying in your own ways to help. Dont turn the thread to another thing, it has been progressing remarkably well till this point. Apologies for fraying nerves. You ladies are doing very well for a total stranger.
Take it easy biko.

veave:



Anybody that wants to fight should fight. The day is boring already. Let me go and bring my refree's whistle. So because person go vex, make dey no tell am the truth again?

veave:



Anybody that wants to fight should fight. The day is boring already. Let me go and bring my refree's whistle. So because person go vex, make dey no tell am the truth again?

Ishilove:
What happened with CaveatEmptor?

Eketem:



The first and most serious sign of change is for her to follow her mother to the shop. That pride and arrogance needs to go. And she can only show real change when she humbles herself and learns under her mother's guidance

patriotic9jaboy:




U are a very beautiful woman

Caveatemptor:
Good day,
I am the Nairalander that promised to help Moji open an account. Although a few people have questioned my motive and intentions for doing this,I must state with all honesty that my reasons for wanting to help Moji out of the quagmire she found herself in stems purely for the children she is bringing into the world without any consideration for how she will feed/cloth/take care of them.
My interaction with Moji has been through the phone and through Whatsapp. On Whatsapp she came across as a very articulate young lady but across the phone vocally she comes across as some one who does not listen to contrary opinion and some one who is obstinate and not ready to listen to a contrary opinion except her own. She would talk on end and it was very difficult to get a word in,when she was in full flow.
When I started communication with Moji.I told her I wanted to open an account for her so she could pay for her antenatal process and any sundry expenses. I requested she open an account at any bank but she told me she had no idea of how to go about the process.
I explained she needed a utility bill. A couple of passport photographs or an international passport.
She claimed she had an international passport but appeared lost about the process. I asked where she lived and she told me Obadore off Igando. I asked if I could visit the house and that she should give me directions to the house. I actually wanted to meet her mother in order to get her perspective on issues,however Moji suggested we meet at Igando bus stop. If you know Igando very well you know it is a mad house. A bedlam of chaotic traffic of cars,okada,Maruwa and trailers. I therefore suggested I wait for Moji inside the NNPC petrol station at Igando,from where we could proceed to First Bank Igando.