Timbuktou:

It could be true he hit her, after giving him some lip of course. The sound very lippy to me. Not every man will handle that with calmness.
Ditto.
Women cannot be abusers.

People who barely spent 2hrs with her either physically or on the phone say she is very entitled and cant keep quiet, How do you imagine an older man about 20yrs older than her, probably with kids of about her age will cope with her under the same roof?

toyeem:
I've been following this thread silently but I need to also comment now. If you have ever been with or have someone like this around you, you would understand that petting does nothing but makes them worse. Yes, they need love but tough love. That kind of love that a mother will finish flogging her child and few hours later, they are bonding again. @Onegai, you are doing a great job. I also did the same for a young girl of 24years when she got pregnant the 3rd time for a 3rd man, all the men are married. I got so angry and told her I was disappointed in her. That was what changed her, she wanted to stop being a disappointment, she wanted to live a normal live, she wanted to be responsible. Today she is almost thru with sch, she went back to school and picked up from there and she is doing great. We need to stop raising over-dependent girls that need a man before they can eat,buy recharge cards or even survive and some chicken-hearted girls that would commit suicide because of a boy friend, we need to raise a generation of confident, hardworking and smart girls. Peace.

Hello you and @ all
I have been following thread too, albeit not so silently
I am a sucker for giving kindness (and gifts and money and love and etc) ....and I am a sucker for receiving too, and, " I try"
I have been on NL since 2012 and think I do okay here...this forum has finally ensured that I am a sure step or two away from becoming a hermit/recluse
I lie all the time in real life, about my whereabouts when people wanna see me...just cos I am on here..but don't worry, I still get up and function and even do the dirty too, just like moji . SMH
But I digress, like I majorly do...self involved me

My post is about the people who give tough love. It works, I see that, for instance when I let my adorable niece wrap me round her fast growing finger and manipulate the living daylights outta me...then reports anybody who "looks for her trouble" to me. The Sucker . Then goes right round to respect them more....also knows to ask me for her bicycle and Kindle while massively disrespecting me. I love kids.....I am helpless around them too, and so will most probably make a bad mother, but that is okay, I am not one, and don't think I wanna be. They say my niece uses me to do yeye. True Story. She loves me best though....so I am good. I also know that when I need to discipline her I report her to the NAZI- mother and sisters and brothers, her parents are in this category, one is my sibling. So I know their approach works.
....in that mien, I respect the tough lovers on here......they are making it possible for @ moji to get empowered. I still prefer giving for the sake of giving, cos it makes me happy and I wanna bring a smile to peoples' faces. I do not care that the person I help wants to implode on their face..or is a prostitute, or is carrying a baby that is not theirs to solicit for my help...I just feel grateful that it is not me on the other side and maybe I can make them smile for a while. But remember I am a Sucker...let's just say I have never empowered anyone. False, but still okay

I have seen tough love on display on this topic. It is different and sometimes may be too harsh IMO...but I DO NOT DOUBT the well meaning behind it. My only advice is for you guys to remember that that moji is somebody's well loved even if bad child. Even if she was a prostituting heroin user...her mother would choose her over us, any time. So let us help without belittling is my advice. There are two sides to a story after all, and people get their traits from their parents remember? It is never just black or white. She could be lazy and proud, her mother could be proud and domineering too, these are coulds, I do not care an inch what their different family dynamics are like, every one has their own different family balance or imbalance.
In summary though...I commend the Toughies...

Only one poster disturbed me.....so much that I went to her profile and read many posts of hers. She labelled moji, and mocked victims of Structural Violence, African Americans, the Shanequas et al. She ordered moji not to speak should she call her on the phone, she subtly made fun of MzMyColi with her Patron Saint dig.....she called @thorpido et al to leave with her when somebody called her (only her as a matter of fact) out. She rejected moji's proffered apology cos it was "not sincere" She pontificated and labelled and bullied and railroaded and charmed her way all thru and would become passive aggressive at times. I have diagnosed her to be with a God Complex. And she utterly has no insight with regards to this....so to her, other people are the problem, always...and she always has the solutions (and the anecdotes and similar stories backing it up). I am too wimpy to fight usually, but I think it is a sin to be silent now.

@ Mz Onegai....this is for you. Darling, you obviously come from money and have stayed in money, you are beautiful, you are uber intelligent and sophisticated, well travelled and skilled...and you move with the right crowds. You also know how to make your "voice" "heard" here. There is something however not okay about you (I read your posts)....that makes me e-cringe instead of e-admiring you. If there was a scale where condescensing help and loving help were at the two ends for everyone.....yours would be vertical, with the loving pole pointing south.

Needless to say, if I was on here, begging or trying to scam, and you entered, all you, and wanting to "help," I would decline. I would rather open my legs (to use Ishilove's very non sisterly words ) and be had and receive money that way. And if I was in any way hormonal from pregnancy or the like, I would throw a bomb at you!! Cos, you dear lady....are full of it! Crappola that is...and I know a lot about who you are here, (from reading maaany posts of yours on here) and trust me, I am not jealous and throwing shades at you cos I have the opportunity to be on the same forum as you. And neither am I climbing on the backs of people who called you out...I wanted to be sure first, and I studied you, just the way you studied moji.
True Story.

@sisisioge, even if all of us should count ourselves priviledged to be on the same forum with angels, mermaids and celebrities, it is not enough for said people to denigrate us with their words. I am too lazy to quote properly, but your post after moji's lash out (rightful) @ someone who was clearly bullying, abusing, labelling, judging and executing her all at once made me pause. I get it, she may be your friend, but you should have said nothing IMO. Your contribution to that ish was a wrong one. Coldfeet actually cussed out moji in e-solidarity...not good too. Think about it, no advice here made that girl feel dehumanised enough to lash out, only @ Onegai's.

(Aside).... Online cliques are uncool in that they can make one defend others' stands instead of our own personal truths....to me, that defeats the point of the blessed anonymity. Makes me sad to see when people clearly climb all over themselves to accommodate the at times, mad and dangerous views of their "friends". At times you see them ignore peoples' posts just because too. Or back-track on some posts etc....It makes me crack up actually, but I am trying to be deep here, so lemme use sad, lol. Then, what do I know!?

My rant/beef ends here.

Please do not ban me for that crazily looooooong impulsive, emotional drivel up there
Jeez
I mean every word though, not that anyone is asking

I also realised I do not know how to spell priviledged....or is it privileged?
I truly dunno

Me I'm sure I'm not donating.

She doesn't need money in my frank opinion.

I'll explain why if anyone is interested in knowing why.

baby124:
Moji, a lot of Nigerians survived by their mother's selling Eko, moin moin, Amala or dry fish on a small try on their heads or in the market. Some their mother's and grand mother's took up housegirl work to feed their kids. A lot of them did this with their kids on their back or while heavily pregnant. Here you are, very comfortable and well fed to the extent that you lack scruples and will rather prostitute than work hard. Until there are reports of you working hard for your mother, please count me out of donation . When there is proof for at least a month worth of hardwork, someone should mention me.

raumdeuter:


[size=5pt]https://www.nairaland.com/2536003/asewo-beer-parlour-share-ashewo[/size]

Oga, that lead to a faraway land o. Jeez!

Timbuktou:


Baba, I no see Moji post o, and that is 561 pages long. 561 pages of konji-curing. . TV01, do you about this link?

Posts from her previous moniker was posted earlier in the thread but I guess was hidden because probably didnt want that to make people biased against helping her

raumdeuter:


Posts from her previous moniker was posted earlier in the thread but I guess was hidden because probably didnt want that to make people biased against helping her

Ah, I see. This girl is in trouble but not in the way she sees it. She has no clue what's wrong in her situation. I wonder how her kids will grow up.

Timbuktou:


Baba, I no see Moji post o, and that is 561 pages long. 561 pages of konji-curing. . TV01, do you about this link?

This is it https://www.nairaland.com/3257265/re-u-need-sex#48005353

raumdeuter:


Ori eja, 5 days ago she was contemplating suicide but she will rather die than follow her mom to shop.

The same shop that puts a roof over your head and feed you as at today

E be like say she think say for heaven when she die people don have responsibilities, they dont go to shop and just need to sleep with men to have a livelihood.

If you wan die go ahead, Dem no dey use big prick scare old woman

Typical Yoruba boy

baby124:

Thumbs up Dami. Don't mind this Moji, she has not had a true struggle or near death experience as a result of hunger. If she has, she won't be doing the nonsense she is doing. In this recession, most people will be grateful if they have a parent that has a shop where they can work and provide for their families. Most people don't even have work right now, so who has time to worry about Moji and her many problems like she thinks.lmao. She's not serious.

I get her reluctance especially if she has really never had to struggle for anything . I would however have given some sort of pass if she was a teenager without a child and new one on the way. We all did some silly things as teenagers especially if your parents were comfortable enough to give you all you want/need. To be honest I initially hated going to the shop as it was not too far from my school and I also did not want people to 'see me' but bless my Margaret thatcher mothers heart dem no born you well to not go like I said I learnt so much from those stints. I started selling from school sef and when people were carrying aristo to buy baffs I was taking goods from mum and selling with my own profit.Even from my mums friends.

I am glad that I got see the other side of life a bit as that made me or rather makes me appreciate the good times.

Mothers do get fed up but one thing I am sure of that is that a mother who paid international fees will definitely not totally abandon her if she sees a reformed character.

I don't even think she is a charity case and as far as I am concerned does not even need donations.

All she needs is guidance (maybe even counselling )the willingness to be humble and graft hard and she will be fine.

Just to add she also needs to lose the victim /entitlement mentality very fast.

I am naturally very patient with people but people with a constant victim 'everyone is against me ' mindset irritate me .

Onegai:


Sorry but no, I'm not joining this. Carry your whistle, put am for ground. Ginger don leave my bodi, anyone that insults me again, I go no answer. Anyone that praises, I still won't answer. It is not about me, it should not even turn to begging anyone to stay or leave or anything. It's not about us.

chai!!!

no film this evening... make i go back go sidon

cococandy:
Me I'm sure I'm not donating.

She doesn't need money in my frank opinion.

I'll explain why if anyone is interested in knowing why.

You don't need to explain. I also work hard for my money, and I get up to work on days when I feel horrible or sick because I know I have to. With how hard I work, I don't have time or money for anyone that feels they came to this world to enjoy a free ride at the expense of other's. That attitude will never take anyone very far. I have better things to do with my sweat or money for now. Except you have a terminal disease, you can go to work. Even people without arms or legs are working. Pregnancy is not a sickness except you are adviced to have bed rest by doctors. A lot of women are breadwinners and do not have a husband to feed them or even widows that are left without husband or boyfriend and they are pregnant. All the excuses are so irritating to me. Especially from an adult. I can't deal abeg.

5minsmadness:

Why na, this isn't necessary.

na who go first blow me dey wait ke..

Anabell2:


This is it https://www.nairaland.com/3257265/re-u-need-sex#48005353

Really sad. Hopefully, she'll get her head right sooner rather than later.

damiso:


I get her reluctance especially if she has really never had to struggle for anything . I would however have given some sort of pass if she was a teenager without a child and new one on the way. We all did some silly things as teenagers especially if your parents were comfortable enough to give you all you want/need. To be honest I initially hated going to the shop as it was not too far from my school and I also did not want people to 'see me' but bless my Margaret thatcher mothers heart dem no born you well to not go like I said I learnt so much from those stints. I started selling from school sef and when people were carrying aristo to buy baffs I was taking goods from mum and selling with my own profit.Even from my mums friends.

I am glad that I got see the other side of life a bit as that made me or rather makes me appreciate the good times.

Mothers do get fed up but one thing I am sure of that is that a mother who paid international fees will definitely not totally abandon her if she sees a reformed character.

I don't even think she is a charity case and as far as I am concerned does not even need donations.

All she needs is guidance (maybe even counselling )the willingness to be humble and graft hard and she will be fine.

Just to add she also needs to lose the victim /entitlement mentality very fast.

I am naturally very patient with people but people with a constant victim 'everyone is against me ' mindset irritate me .

An adult that can behave like this is even a danger to a mother. She likes money but not hardwork.

merahki:



Hello you and @ all
I have been following thread too, albeit not so silently
I am a sucker for giving kindness (and gifts and money and love and etc) ....and I am a sucker for receiving too, and, " I try"
I have been on NL since 2012 and think I do okay here...this forum has finally ensured that I am a sure step or two away from becoming a hermit/recluse
I lie all the time in real life, about my whereabouts when people wanna see me...just cos I am on here..but dont worry, I still get up and function and even do the dirty too, just like moji . SMH
But I digress, like I majorly do...self involved me

My post is about the people who give tough love. It works, I see that, for instance when I let my adorable niece wrap me round her fast growing finger and manipulate the living daylights outta me...then reports anybody who "looks for her trouble" to me. The Sucker . Then goes right round to respect them more....also knows to ask me for her bicycle and Kindle while massively disrespecting me. I love kids.....I am helpless around them too, and so will most probably make a bad mother, but that is okay, I am not one, and don't think I wanna be. They say my niece uses me to do yeye. True Story. She loves me best though....so I am good. I also know that when I need to discipline her I report her to NAZI- mother and sisters and brothers, her parents are in this category, one is my sibling. So I know their appoach works.
....in that mien, I respect the tough lovers on here......they are making it possible for @ moji to get empowered. I still prefer giving for the sake of giving, cos it makes me happy and I wanna bring a smile to peoples' faces. I do not care that the person I help wants to implode on their face..or is a prostitute, or is carrying a baby that is not theirs to solicit for my help...I just feel grateful that that is not me on the other side and maybe I can make them smile for a while. But remember I am a Sucker...let's just say I have never empowered anyone. False, but still okay

I have seen tough love on display on this topic. It is different and sometimes may be too harsh IMO...but I DO NOT DOUBT the well meaning being it. My only advice is for you guys to remeber that that moji is somebody's well loved even if bad child. Even if she was a prostituting heroin user...her mother would choose her over us, any time. So let us help without belittling is my advice. There are two sides to a story after all, and people get their traits from their parents remember? It is never just black or white. She could be lazy and proud, her mother could be proud and domineering too, these I coulds, I do not care an inch what their family dynamics are like, every one has their own different family balance or imbalance.
In summary though...I commend the Toughies...

Only one poster disturbed me.....so much that I went to her profile and read many posts of hers. She labelled moji, and mocked victims of Structural Violence, African Americans, the Shanequas et al. She ordered moji not to speak should she call her on the phone, she subtly made fun of MzMyColi with her Patron Saint dig.....she called @thorpido et al to leave with her when somebody called her (only her as a matter of fact) out. She rejected moji's proffered apology cos it was "not sincere" She pontificated and labelled and bullied and railroaded and charmed her way all thru and would become passive aggressive at times. I have diagnosed her to be with a God Complex. And she utterly has no insight with regards to this....so to her, other people are the problem, always...and she always has the solutions (and the anectodes and similar stories backing it up). I am too wimpy to fight usually, but I think it is a sin not to be silent now.

@ Mz Onegai....this is for you. Darling, you obviously come from money and have stayed in money, you are beautiful, you are uber intelligent and sophisticated, well travelled and skilled...and you move with the right crowds. You also know how to make your "voice" "heard" here. There is something however not okay about you (I read your posts)....that makes me e-cringe instead of e-admiring you. If there was a scale where condescensing help and loving help were at the two ends for everyone.....yours would be vertical, with the loving pole pointing south.

Needless to say, if I was on here, begging or trying to scam, and you enetered, all you and wanting to help, I would decline. I would rather open my legs (to use Ishilove's very non sisterly words ) and be had and receive money that way. And if I was in any way hormonal from pregnancy or the like, I would throw a bomb at you!! Cos, you dear lady....are full of it! Crappola that is...and I know a lot about who you are here, (from reading maaany posts of yours on here) and trust me, I am not jealous and throwing shades at you cos I have the opportunity to be on the same forum as you. And neither am I climbing on the backs of people who called you out...I wanted to be sure first, and I studied you, just the way you studied moji.
True Story.

@sisisioge, even if all of us should count ourselves priviledged to be on the same forum with angels, mermaids and celebrities, it is not enough for said people to denigrate us with their words. I am too lazy to quote properly, but your post after moji's lash out (rightful) @ someone who was clearly bullying, abusing, labelling, judging and executing her all at once made me pause. I get it, she may be your friend, but you should have said nothing IMO. Your contribution to that ish was a wrong one. Coldfeet actually cussed out moji in e-solidarity...not good too. Think about it, no advice here made that girl feel dehumanised enough to lash out, only @ Onegai's.
(Aside).... Online cliques are uncool in that they can make one defend others' stands instead of our own personal truths....to me, that defeats the point of the blessed anonymity. Makes me sad to see when people clearly climb all over themselves to accommodate the at times, mad and dangerous views of their "friends". At times you see them ignore peoples' posts just because too. Or back-track on some posts etc....It makes me crack up actually, but I am trying to be deep here, so lemme use sad, lol. then, what do I know!?

My rant/beef ends here.

Wowzer!

Babes, I have tried so hard to quit posting in here because unlike other well meaning NLers( whether kissing her or spanking her) I already bursted a vein trying to contain myself and opinion. This situation here isn't really my monkey...I'm gonna stay put on the fence.

That said, I don't have friends in here. I only know some monikers after having seen a lot of their posts on threads of interest. Thus, easy it to note those who seem like their heads sit well on their shoulders or otherwise. So don't get it twisted, no caucus...no clique, just fellow NLers. As a matter of fact, I run for cover when people accidentally see me logged on and ask for my moniker in real life. Onegai, dyt or even timbuktou would walk by me without me recognizing them and them me . I think they have lovely virtual personalities, and thats that. Hence, anonymity maintained.

You weren't the first that found my opinion on societal strata displeasing so I'm just gonna reiterate that I'm a Nigerian. In Nigeria, we are cultured people and our culture deeply endorses respect. Hypothetically, just because Prof. Wole Soyinka decides to adopt the moniker 5secondscraziness her on NL does not mean he should be disrespected by an uncultured youngun. If that happens, let the fellow imagine him/herself doing that sheet in reality. I was just reminding her to imagine herself in a room full of Nlanders...would you be comfortably foul mouthed in a room full of all Nlers too? Yeah, your grandpa might be reality behind gaboski's moniker. Moji is a Yoruba girl, yorubas are big on respect, especially when we are seeking...Humility.

By the way, you missed the last "si" in my moniker. I wouldn't have seen this if I wasn't reading leaf to leaf It's sisisioge.

Anyways, no offense taken. Enjoy your day.

fluxbush:
Argument kwa? Have you ever seen how contractors act when they are pursuing juicy contracts? They will never raise their voices or be caught in an argument against the ones giving out the contracts. That is when you see a rich man prostrating with his tongue licking the ground,all because he wants that contract. The emphasis here is humility. Which is something this lady completely lacks and instead dishes out large doses of pride and haughtiness. She came on here begging for help. That action alone disqualifies pride. People have followed her case up with a barrage of calls and chats,yet you say she engages in arguments when she is ruffled. Haba! Who does that? Even if some people's comments might annoy her, for the sake of the help she claims she needs, common courtesy demands she keeps quiet and make her point known in a courteous way,instead of gingering.
As far as I see, all she wants and expects is cool hard cash. She didn't expect everyone to get so involved to the extent of speaking with her mum,which is why she is gingering. Una don spoil market for am.
Compare her attitude and that of the other nursing mother in the other thread who had to codedly send her kid to feed off her neighbours. That is what a good mother does. If that lady had a badly damaged tablet to sell, she for don do am tey tey.
I am not trying to dismiss or downplay all the help you ve rendered so far. You ve proven to be a rare human indeed. But I don't think she needs any help at all. The help she needs is in her. If she had put her back into working hard from the moment she had her test results,she would have saved enough for ante natal care. Giving her money and 'encouraging' her will only prove to her that with a little tears and some tantrums,she can always get her way. Life proves otherwise.

Some people here are really pretending to be what they are not in real life, trying to appear all kind while they are the devil themselves, let that girl get off her ass and go to her mum's shop or look for what to do, she is no toddler, this is a full grown woman we are talking about here, pregnant or not, she should think for herself and not expecting people to do everything for her. Yeye dey smell.

mirob:



Some people here are really pretending to be what they are not in real life, trying to appear all kind while they are the devil themselves, let that girl get off her ass and go to her mum's shop or look for what to do, she is no toddler, this is a full grown woman we are talking about here, pregnant or not, she should think for herself and not expecting people to do everything for her. Yeye dey smell.

Gbam!! Imagine waiting for someone to take her to bank for an account opening. Orishirishi

Una good evening o.

To everyone that has been of help one way or the other, may God continue to bless y'all. Some Nairalanders do have a large heart. (Cc thorpido;caveatemptor, et all)

Please, just a comment.

I want to suggest that any line of action to be made should be done in total agreement with the mother or perhaps after proper notification has been given to her. This is to avoid the awkwardness that could arise in the process of rendering help.

First, what if the mother has reasons she wouldn't support for her to open a bank account hence the reason she's holding back on giving the utility bill only for some group of strangers to come and override her authority in the name of 'help'?

Second, except you've established communication with me, I wouldn't just permit my child to go off at odd hours or even any hour if he/she is under my watch to meet up with some stranger. (It wouldn't be too hard for a Nigerian parent to suspect rituals).

Or God forbid, something goes wrong, who do you think I'd arrest?

She should be in the know of everything from plans to actions(account opening, ante natal, beauty shop, mentoring, therapy, all).

Except we've agreed the mother is out to frustrate her hence our efforts.

#Just a suggestion.

mirob:



Some people here are really pretending to be what they are not in real life, trying to appear all kind while they are the devil themselves, let that girl get off her ass and go to her mum's shop or look for what to do, she is no toddler, this is a full grown woman we are talking about here, pregnant or not, she should think for herself and not expecting people to do everything for her. Yeye dey smell.

As in ehn! The whole matter just tire me.

chizobamgbume:
Gbam!! Imagine waiting for someone to take her to bank for an account opening. Orishirishi

She doesn't have a utility bill to open the account,not that someone has to take her there.

thorpido:
She doesn't have a utility bill to open the account,not that someone has to take her there.

Ok but she can get from her neighbours if she is really serious. As long as it has the same house address.

megawax8:
Una good evening o.

To everyone that has been of help one way or the other, may God continue to bless y'all. Some Nairalanders do have a large heart. (Cc thorpido;caveatemptor, et all)

Please, just a comment.

I want to suggest that any line of action to be made should be done in total agreement with the mother or perhaps after proper notification has been given to her. This is to avoid the awkwardness that could arise in the process of rendering help.

First, what if the mother has reasons she wouldn't support for her to open a bank account hence the reason she's holding back on giving the utility bill only for some group of strangers to come and override her authority in the name of 'help'?

Second, except you've established communication with me, I wouldn't just permit my child to go off at odd hours or even any hour if he/she is under my watch to meet up with some stranger. (It wouldn't be too hard for a Nigerian parent to suspect rituals).

Or God forbid, something goes wrong, who do you think I'd arrest?

She should be in the know of everything from plans to actions(account opening, ante natal, beauty shop, mentoring, therapy, all).

Except we've agreed the mother is out to frustrate her hence our efforts.

#Just a suggestion.

I don't think anything can be done without the mother's knowledge.It's the reason why the account opeing stuff today didn't work because the mother didn't allow her meet up with the guy who wanted to assist.
I wouldn't want to use the word frustrate but the mother is definitely limiting whatever action she wants to take now and understandably,she wants her to first get a grip on herself and cooperate with her.
Hopefully,by the end of this weekend some things would have been sorted and she can make progress.

Caveatemptor:
At about 06.00hrs this morning Moji sent me a what's app message that I should meet her at NNPC early because she was going somewhere with her mum. From my home to the petrol station was about a fifteen minute drive,so by 06.20 hours I was parked inside the NNPC petrol station awaiting Moji and her mum.
I put a voice call through to her line and told her I was waiting for her. She told me she would be with me in about 10 minutes,however from the background sounds itvwas obvious she was in her house and not yet ready.
30 minutes later Moji and her mother were no where in sight. I was worried about sitting in my car in a petrol station without buying fuel. I put another call to Moji,reminding her that I worked in Ikeja and my work was time based,again she promised to be with me in 10 minutes time,but from the background noise it was obvious she was still at home.
By 15/minutes after 07.00 hours,I was ready to climb a wall and was completely exasperated. My boss was calling me that I was needed in the office.
At 07.30 hours,I was still in the fuel station when Moji called that she and her mum were at XYZ petrol station. I almost hit my head on the dashboard. Moji calmly told me that her mother,wanted to see me and that I should turn round from NNPC station and drive down to XYZ station,in the background I could hear her mother shouting at her.
I just started my car and drove off. I found her to be very unserious.
When I got to the Office, Moji called me to tell me her mother said I must be a ritualist. I found that amusing and told Moji I did not owe her money. I was just trying to help because of the kids. I advised her to go to a bank and get a form for a savings account. She was reluctant. I offered to send her recharge cards of 5000 Naira for her to sell and open an account. She was reluctant as she said people would think she wanted to defraud them.
I just gave up and told her to try and open an account,send me the number,then I would contribute my widows mite.

Hmmmm boss it is well. Just don't be offended Please.

sisisioge:


Wowzer!

Babes, I have tried so hard to quit posting in here because unlike other well meaning NLers( whether kissing her or spanking her) I already bursted a vein trying to contain myself and opinion. This situation here isn't really my monkey...I'm gonna stay put on the fence.

That said, I don't have friends in here. I only know some monikers after having seen a lot of their posts on threads of interest. Thus, easy it to note those who seem like their heads sit well on their shoulders or otherwise. So don't get it twisted, no caucus...no clique, just fellow NLers. As a matter of fact, I run for cover when people accidentally see me logged on and ask for my moniker in real life. Onegai, dyt or even timbuktou would walk by me without me recognizing them and them me . I think they have lovely virtual personalities, and thats that. Hence, anonymity maintained.

You weren't the first that found my opinion on societal strata displeasing so I'm just gonna reiterate that I'm a Nigerian. In Nigeria, we are cultured people and our culture deeply endorses respect. Hypothetically, just because Prof. Wole Soyinka decides to adopt the moniker 5secondscraziness her on NL does not mean he should be disrespected by an uncultured youngun. If that happens, let the fellow imagine him/herself doing that sheet in reality. I was just reminding her to imagine herself in a room full of Nlanders...would you be comfortably foul mouthed in a room full of all Nlers too? Yeah, your grandpa might be reality behind gaboski's moniker. Moji is a Yoruba girl, yorubas are big on respect, especially when we are seeking...Humility.

By the way, you missed the last "si" in my moniker. I wouldn't have seen this if I wasn't reading leaf to leaf It's sisisioge.

Anyways, no offense taken. Enjoy your day.

You quoted that very looooong post?
You, madam, have no conscience.


And then you go and reveal my true identity?
Well done.

Caveatemptor:
At about 06.00hrs this morning Moji sent me a what's app message that I should meet her at NNPC early because she was going somewhere with her mum. From my home to the petrol station was about a fifteen minute drive,so by 06.20 hours I was parked inside the NNPC petrol station awaiting Moji and her mum.
I put a voice call through to her line and told her I was waiting for her. She told me she would be with me in about 10 minutes,however from the background sounds itvwas obvious she was in her house and not yet ready.
30 minutes later Moji and her mother were no where in sight. I was worried about sitting in my car in a petrol station without buying fuel. I put another call to Moji,reminding her that I worked in Ikeja and my work was time based,again she promised to be with me in 10 minutes time,but from the background noise it was obvious she was still at home.
By 15/minutes after 07.00 hours,I was ready to climb a wall and was completely exasperated. My boss was calling me that I was needed in the office.
At 07.30 hours,I was still in the fuel station when Moji called that she and her mum were at XYZ petrol station. I almost hit my head on the dashboard. Moji calmly told me that her mother,wanted to see me and that I should turn round from NNPC station and drive down to XYZ station,in the background I could hear her mother shouting at her.
I just started my car and drove off. I found her to be very unserious.
When I got to the Office, Moji called me to tell me her mother said I must be a ritualist. I found that amusing and told Moji I did not owe her money. I was just trying to help because of the kids. I advised her to go to a bank and get a form for a savings account. She was reluctant. I offered to send her recharge cards of 5000 Naira for her to sell and open an account. She was reluctant as she said people would think she wanted to defraud them.
I just gave up and told her to try and open an account,send me the number,then I would contribute my widows mite.

ROTFL!!!Ahhahahahaa!!!

Merakhi I have heard you please don't stop at poking holes on people's comment and tone! Offer solution and see that moji gets the help she seeks.

Onegai are you still interested in this girls matter? You must be mother Theresa then. As you can see many olofofo here don't like the manner and approach you have employed( as if they gave you money and time to keep) please I applaud your efforts but since it's not wanted biko leave moji alone!!!! Let those that know how to sugar coat, enable and pet help her out.

Funjosh:





Hmmmm boss it is well. Just don't be offended Please.

Bros,as I said before I found the ritualistic talk quite amusing. I am not angry. Whenever things even out if there is any contributions to be made to her cause. My widows mite is still available for her. Just holla at my moniker.
No hard feelings.

But jokes apart, you mustn't blame the mother @caveatemptor. You can see that she is still a caring mother to want to know who her daughter is with and what she is up to. The poor old woman must be overwhelmed by this sudden overflow of attention by strangers calling her daughter and knocking at her door.
No vex o bros! At least you tried.



Pls someone here has said something important. The mother must be aware she is starting an account, it is possiblethe woman has refused creating an account for her daughter for a reason. Make una no go help help turn your help to stumbling block.

fluxbush:
Argument kwa? Have you ever seen how contractors act when they are pursuing juicy contracts? They will never raise their voices or be caught in an argument against the ones giving out the contracts. That is when you see a rich man prostrating with his tongue licking the ground,all because he wants that contract. The emphasis here is humility. Which is something this lady completely lacks and instead dishes out large doses of pride and haughtiness. She came on here begging for help. That action alone disqualifies pride. People have followed her case up with a barrage of calls and chats,yet you say she engages in arguments when she is ruffled. Haba! Who does that? Even if some people's comments might annoy her, for the sake of the help she claims she needs, common courtesy demands she keeps quiet and make her point known in a courteous way,instead of gingering.
As far as I see, all she wants and expects is cool hard cash. She didn't expect everyone to get so involved to the extent of speaking with her mum,which is why she is gingering. Una don spoil market for am.
Compare her attitude and that of the other nursing mother in the other thread who had to codedly send her kid to feed off her neighbours. That is what a good mother does. If that lady had a badly damaged tablet to sell, she for don do am tey tey.
I am not trying to dismiss or downplay all the help you ve rendered so far. You ve proven to be a rare human indeed. But I don't think she needs any help at all. The help she needs is in her. If she had put her back into working hard from the moment she had her test results,she would have saved enough for ante natal care. Giving her money and 'encouraging' her will only prove to her that with a little tears and some tantrums,she can always get her way. Life proves otherwise.

At last!!!

Someone else with my exact same thoughts.
The guys on NL offering both the "soft" and tough love have her time.
Frankly speaking, some of us - ME don't give a rat's ass about her matter.
The power to succeed is in each person's hands.

I will give it to you wonderful NLs though, Onegai, thorpido, caveatemperor and all the others are one of a kind. You guys are really wonderful, though I personally feel its a lost cause, and can't be bothered to exert a drop of energy on her case.
Even typing this is just to encourage you guys so you can be gingered for real indigent cases.

Caveatemptor:
At about 06.00hrs this morning Moji sent me a what's app message that I should meet her at NNPC early because she was going somewhere with her mum. From my home to the petrol station was about a fifteen minute drive,so by 06.20 hours I was parked inside the NNPC petrol station awaiting Moji and her mum.
I put a voice call through to her line and told her I was waiting for her. She told me she would be with me in about 10 minutes,however from the background sounds itvwas obvious she was in her house and not yet ready.
30 minutes later Moji and her mother were no where in sight. I was worried about sitting in my car in a petrol station without buying fuel. I put another call to Moji,reminding her that I worked in Ikeja and my work was time based,again she promised to be with me in 10 minutes time,but from the background noise it was obvious she was still at home.
By 15/minutes after 07.00 hours,I was ready to climb a wall and was completely exasperated. My boss was calling me that I was needed in the office.
At 07.30 hours,I was still in the fuel station when Moji called that she and her mum were at XYZ petrol station. I almost hit my head on the dashboard. Moji calmly told me that her mother,wanted to see me and that I should turn round from NNPC station and drive down to XYZ station,in the background I could hear her mother shouting at her.
I just started my car and drove off. I found her to be very unserious.
When I got to the Office, Moji called me to tell me her mother said I must be a ritualist. I found that amusing and told Moji I did not owe her money. I was just trying to help because of the kids. I advised her to go to a bank and get a form for a savings account. She was reluctant. I offered to send her recharge cards of 5000 Naira for her to sell and open an account. She was reluctant as she said people would think she wanted to defraud them.
I just gave up and told her to try and open an account,send me the number,then I would contribute my widows mite.

Lmao!

Brother caveat, my apologies in advance for what I'm about to say.

Egbon, you were doing 'fumbule'. 'Fumbulity'. 'Behbehto'.

You 'beh' to go and help a grown ass, educated adult to open a bank account, yet, like onegai pointed, this is someone that has gone through the rigours of immigration and international travel. For pete's sakes, why??

Which kain yeye 'oju aye' petting were trying to pet her? How can she get her acts together when folks are doing things for her? At her age I was working a job I did not like just to raise money for my MA program, but she is sitting at home throwing up excuses for not wanting to join her mum in the family business.

It's acts like these that is giving her that sense of entitlement that she has been having for so long.

If she can't open an account on her own, how can she manage a business? If she is too ill to go to the bank, she should wait until she is strong enough then drag her ass up and go do that sheeit herself. It's about time she gets her acts together and these kind of spoon feeding will only slow down her 'developmental project', while earning you names like 'ritualist'.

Pele o.