5minsmadness:


You quoted that very looooong post?
You, madam, have no conscience.


And then you go and reveal my true identity?
Well done.

5minsmadness:
But jokes apart, you mustn't blame the mother @caveatemptor. You can see that she is still a caring mother to want to know who her daughter is with and what she is up to. The poor old woman must be overwhelmed by this sudden overflow of attention by strangers calling her daughter and knocking at her door.
No vex o bros! At least you tried.



Pls someone here has said something important. The mother must be aware she is starting an account, it is possiblethe woman has refused creating an account for her daughter for a reason. Make una no go help help turn your help to stumbling block.

Caveatemptor:
At about 06.00hrs this morning Moji sent me a what's app message that I should meet her at NNPC early because she was going somewhere with her mum. From my home to the petrol station was about a fifteen minute drive,so by 06.20 hours I was parked inside the NNPC petrol station awaiting Moji and her mum.
I put a voice call through to her line and told her I was waiting for her. She told me she would be with me in about 10 minutes,however from the background sounds itvwas obvious she was in her house and not yet ready.
30 minutes later Moji and her mother were no where in sight. I was worried about sitting in my car in a petrol station without buying fuel. I put another call to Moji,reminding her that I worked in Ikeja and my work was time based,again she promised to be with me in 10 minutes time,but from the background noise it was obvious she was still at home.
By 15/minutes after 07.00 hours,I was ready to climb a wall and was completely exasperated. My boss was calling me that I was needed in the office.
At 07.30 hours,I was still in the fuel station when Moji called that she and her mum were at XYZ petrol station. I almost hit my head on the dashboard. Moji calmly told me that her mother,wanted to see me and that I should turn round from NNPC station and drive down to XYZ station,in the background I could hear her mother shouting at her.
I just started my car and drove off. I found her to be very unserious.
When I got to the Office, Moji called me to tell me her mother said I must be a ritualist. I found that amusing and told Moji I did not owe her money. I was just trying to help because of the kids. I advised her to go to a bank and get a form for a savings account. She was reluctant. I offered to send her recharge cards of 5000 Naira for her to sell and open an account. She was reluctant as she said people would think she wanted to defraud them
I just gave up and told her to try and open an account,send me the number,then I would contribute my widows mite.

Caveatemptor:


Boss, I understand your point.
I was just worried about the unborn baby and the other child. I felt if she had a bank account,things such as antenatal payments in a good hospital would be easier for her. I felt if she had some spending money in her hands she would calm down and the aggression towards her mum would mellow down.
From my conversations with her she is performing her antenatal in a local Baba's place. I warned her of the dangers of using such unregistered maternity homes in case of complications during birth. We both prayed such complications would never be her portion in God's name,but privately I was worried and curious as to why her mother would allow her to register in such an unhealthy maternity home. That is why I feel her mum has her own short comings in these issues or she is financially incapacitated.
In my humble opinion this lady needs our help and we must all rally around to help her in any way we can.
I suggest Thorpido who has been able to get close to the family should continue to work on both mum and daughter and then get back to any body ready to contribute to the cause.
I am readily available to any contributions. Just mention my moniker.
Peace!

Ishilove:

Lmao!

Brother caveat, my apologies in advance for what I'm about to say.

Egbon, you were doing 'fumbule'. 'Fumbulity'. 'Behbehto'.

You 'beh' to go and help a grown ass, educated adult to open a bank account, yet, like onegai pointed, this is someone that has gone through the rigours of immigration and international travel. For pete's sakes, why??

Which kain yeye 'oju aye' petting were trying to pet her? How can she get her acts together when folks are doing things for her? At her age I was working a job I did not like just to raise money for my MA program, but she is sitting at home throwing up excuses for not wanting to join her mum in the family business.

It's acts like these that is giving her that sense of entitlement that she has been having for so long.

If she can't open an account on her own, how can she manage a business? If she is too ill to go to the bank, she should wait until she is strong enough then drag her ass up and go do that sheeit herself. It's about time she gets her acts together and these kind of spoon feeding will only slow down her 'developmental project', while earning you names like 'ritualist'.

Pele o.

raumdeuter:


Exactly sing dance worship everyday, You no go even get time to book short time and go nack man for money

Even God is omnipresent, Omniscient, Omnipotent, You no see say na work be that. If you too lazy sef dem fit send you back to the earth this time as a female donkey that would be pregnant and still carry load, if the donkey complain of morning sickness na flogging straight

I advised her to go to a bank and get a form for a savings account. She was reluctant. I offered to send her recharge cards of 5000 Naira for her to sell and open an account. She was reluctant as she said people would think she wanted to defraud them

5minsmadness:

You quoted that very looooong post? You, madam, have no conscience.

And then you go and reveal my true identity? Well done.

Caveatemptor:


Sister ishilove,
I accept I might have been wrong to feel I could do what I wanted to do and help someone I felt was in a tight corner but let me tell you a story.
Nineteen years ago my wife,was late into her first pregnancy. I was working in an establishment in Zamfara state,while my poor wife was alone in our house in Lagos.
One night she went into labour.y wife picked up her maternity bags and staggered out of the house. Managed to lock the doors and struggled to walk out of the compound gate in the throes of labour. Outside the gate on the street she was hit by intense contractions. A man driving by in his car saw her bent over,parked his car and asked her what the problem was. She told him between painful breaths that it was labour. This stranger helped my wife into his car and drove her to the hospital where she registered for antenatal,almost two kilometres from my house. He helped her out of the car took her to the labour room and only left after she gave birth to my son and first child about thirty minutes later.
I do not know this man's name till today and have never met him but I am eternally grateful to him because I know that in pregnancy there is a slim line between life and death. The product of that pregnancy is today an undergraduate. I always think about that stranger and always say a silent prayer for him and his family.
So I am sorry if I come across as silly to you but where ever pregnancy is concerned I will always try to help.
Thank you. Sorry for my long story.

Sanchez01:

This killed me

At this juncture, those who didn't follow the thread from the outset should not derail it, either to lash out at others for claiming God over Moji. The most important thing is arriving at a resolution that would make her become a better person.

, thanks once again. Onegai, truth is, you've been the most open person on this. The likes of me are watching from the sidelines at this point since reconciliation is paramount. We can only pray everything work as planned.

Mizmycoli is watching from the sidelines, just as me right. I hope you've been able to get your hands on some mashed chickens?

PS: . Bless you bunch.

enoqueen:
Weldon people. Nobody really know why moji's mother is trying to force discipline into her but for whatever reason I think her wish should be respected.
No parent would like it if he/she is try to deny his/her child rights of somethings and then a stranger come and offer it freely.

On the issue of registering her in general hospital,are you sure she can cope with that.
She will be ask to bring someone to donate blood, who will do that for her since everyone around her are wicked. She will be ask to do some basic test, she might say the stress is too much and she doesn't have the strength to. The waking up early during antenatal days and having to wait for ur turn to see doctor.Trust me on this, av been there thrice and it's not for lazy people.


What is worth doing at all, it's worth doing well I will suggest she use a private hospital around her, those can manage her well at her own convenience since that's the kind of life she like. Besides you can ask her where she had her first.

Except in cases of CS, bills are almost d same with some small private hospitals if not more expensive.


My little cent though, but then what do I know.

Caveatemptor:


Sister ishilove,
I accept I might have been wrong to feel I could do what I wanted to do and help someone I felt was in a tight corner but let me tell you a story.
Nineteen years ago my wife,was late into her first pregnancy. I was working in an establishment in Zamfara state,while my poor wife was alone in our house in Lagos.
One night she went into labour.y wife picked up her maternity bags and staggered out of the house. Managed to lock the doors and struggled to walk out of the compound gate in the throes of labour. Outside the gate on the street she was hit by intense contractions. A man driving by in his car saw her bent over,parked his car and asked her what the problem was. She told him between painful breaths that it was labour. This stranger helped my wife into his car and drove her to the hospital where she registered for antenatal,almost two kilometres from my house. He helped her out of the car took her to the labour room and only left after she gave birth to my son and first child about thirty minutes later.
I do not know this man's name till today and have never met him but I am eternally grateful to him because I know that in pregnancy there is a slim line between life and death. The product of that pregnancy is today an undergraduate. I always think about that stranger and always say a silent prayer for him and his family.
So I am sorry if I come across as silly to you but where ever pregnancy is concerned I will always try to help.
Thank you. Sorry for my long story.

mirob:



Some people here are really pretending to be what they are not in real life, trying to appear all kind while they are the devil themselves, let that girl get off her ass and go to her mum's shop or look for what to do, she is no toddler, this is a full grown woman we are talking about here, pregnant or not, she should think for herself and not expecting people to do everything for her. Yeye dey smell.

greatgod2012:




Well done everyone! You people are really wonderful. Despite the recession and all sorts in the country, you people still prove that, you're loving and caring. Thank you and well done good people!

Oga Caveat, your story is so inspiring, I love it. God bless you, the stranger who helped, the child and your other children, and then your wonderful wife.

I just want to bring some things out from this your story.
Your wife was alone, while you were far away in Zamfara state, when your wife went into labour, she HERSELF carried her maternity bag, staggered out of the house, still locked the door, staggered out of the gate again, and when intense labour hit her, she bent down before a stranger came around to help. YOUR WIFE HELPED HERSELF THROUGH OUT BEFORE FURTHER HELP COULD COME FROM THE STRANGER. KUDOS TO YOUR BRAVE AND STRONG WIFE.

Let's now juxtapose, sincerely, Moji needs to help herself first before being offered help. She needs to do some things on her own which should be stepped on for further assistance. She doesn't need all these petting and pampering, believe me, the pampering cannot help her, if it does, it will only be momentarily and temporarily, it's the help that she offers herself like being humble, hardworking, respectful, good discretion, good human relationship that can only be permanent. She's not a kid, she's a grown up and a mother, she should know the importance of all these, not waiting to be pampered by her aged mother and strangers. She need to take her life serious, not always dependant, it's only after this that she can appreciate any help that comes her way.

If money or other materials should just come her way without her working for it, she won't appreciate it and whenever the money finishes, she'll be back to square one, begging for money again.


Once again, thanks to everyone on this thread, even me have learnt greatly here. God bless us all.

Caveatemptor:



Bros,as I said before I found the ritualistic talk quite amusing. I am not angry. Whenever things even out if there is any contributions to be made to her cause. My widows mite is still available for her. Just holla at my moniker.
No hard feelings.

Ishilove:

You are very wise

greatgod2012:



Thanks, my sister.
Only God is wise, we are only but humans, saying all sorts of things as we can comprehend, whether right or wrong, but however we see it, we present it. All honor to all knowing-God who's never wrong.



Aunty CC, sorry, Tearoses, e ku ojo meta o, she enjoys being pampered, that what she's been used to, there is need for change from her part, she really need to show that she's ready to change, not to be forced or begged to change. The change must come from within her. Though, counseling and therapy may be needed to achieve this, but is she herself ready and willing to change. This is my concern. If she's not willing to change, but because of people's intervention and pressing, she obliged, such change will not last. The changes begin with her.

Timbuktou:

It could be true he hit her, after giving him some lip of course. She sounds very lippy to me. Not every man will handle that with calmness.



Ditto.


Women cannot be abusers.

tearoses:


Good Morning dear
Please what do you all mean by "she enjoys being pampered"
Please give me examples


To also come in from another angle don't we all enjoy being pampered?

tearoses:



Dyt Ive told you to send me N1500 MTN recharge card so I can send you the details of the donation transaction
as soon as I receive it, I will send you the details
You better hurry up sha before I spend it on Brazillian and Iphone

greatgod2012:



Aunty, first, I don't want this to lead to argument, I love dodging argument. Secondly, i don't want to judge her but from her previous thread and this one, it is glaringly obvious that she's someone who enjoys easy ride without lifting a finger, that is one of the reasons she has been falling into wrong hands relationship wise.
She has been enjoying virtually everything without working and not willing to work for it, and she expects that such should continue. When her mother got tired of all, she refused to continue which led her here asking for financial help from strangers, instead of trying to work for what she really needs legitimately.


Yes, we all like to be pampered, but when it's one-directional, it becomes overdependence. Before you're pampered, you must have pampered who is pampering you. I still maintain my stand, she must be willing to change, being forced or begged to change means the change not from within and will not last.





But then, what do I know? Ki l'omode no?

Dyt:
Where's that meme of an angry woman when you need
I think I should make a thread so you people will know I am serious