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Re: People Please Have Mercy On Me Before I Die by Nobody: 11:35am On Oct 15, 2016 |
Ranchhoddas:oga, park well.. 2 Likes |
Re: People Please Have Mercy On Me Before I Die by Dyt(f): 12:00pm On Oct 15, 2016 |
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Re: People Please Have Mercy On Me Before I Die by Dyt(f): 12:02pm On Oct 15, 2016 |
Re: People Please Have Mercy On Me Before I Die by k4kenny(f): 12:27pm On Oct 15, 2016 |
Anabell2: ![]() Na wa o. I didn't come to familyland for a few days, see wetin happen in just a few days. This is serious. What a spoilt, self entitled person she is. Parents- wicked Both baby daddies-wicked Colleagues at fashion school- wicked Familylanders- wicked Seems she have issues with everyone she comes in contact with. It's time to look inwards to see where the problems lies. If you want people's to drop their hard earned cash, you need to convince them you've done everything within your means to provide for yourself and kid. But you keep making excuses and blaming everyone but yourself for your predicament. Your opening posts with the repeated suicide threats were so annoying, who are you trying to blackmail? Onegai, you go girl. Don't stop preaching your truth. She needs a good dose of tough love to clear her eyes. 7 Likes |
Re: People Please Have Mercy On Me Before I Die by moji26: 1:14pm On Oct 15, 2016 |
thorpido:hi Sir, Tanx for ur concerns towards me, I appreciate it sir, my mum ve come around to support me, the guy ve not been yielding anything, so I think it's best if we leave ourselves for good, now, just looking forward to help myself and my kids and take care of my pregnancy, I wanted to call u back Sir, I saw ur missed call, bt I dnt ve airtime to reach u Sir, so I tgink it's best if I reach out from here, thanks again sir 8 Likes |
Re: People Please Have Mercy On Me Before I Die by chizobamgbume(m): 1:28pm On Oct 15, 2016 |
moji26:Thank you lord 2 Likes |
Re: People Please Have Mercy On Me Before I Die by Funjosh(m): 1:32pm On Oct 15, 2016 |
moji26: Good just try as the Lord will help you to make mama be happy towards you. it will end in praise. ![]() Ma Tearoses please read and reply my messages on whatsapp ![]() |
Re: People Please Have Mercy On Me Before I Die by thorpido(m): 1:42pm On Oct 15, 2016 |
moji26:Good thing reconciliation with your mom is working. Every other thing will work fall into place in a matter of time. Just continue to cooperate with your mom. 7 Likes |
Re: People Please Have Mercy On Me Before I Die by TV01(m): 3:21pm On Oct 15, 2016 |
tearoses:CC, how far na? Hope all is well and things are just so in the homestead. You are first up, which ever way I look at it, even, if not especially, based on the Yoruba "age deference" tradition. And if it's age before beauty, then you'll be first and second - did I just dodge a bullet? ![]() I didn't get the "pampering" bit at first either? But then I revisited this contextually. Think about it, in a country where brutalisation - the govt brutalizes the people, leaders brutalise their followers, spouses brutalise each other, parents brutalise children, madams brutalise helps, people routinely brutalise each other (just because). and the economy brutalises nigh on everyone - is the norm, it's perhaps understandable to see that some people may confuse treating others with basic human dignity and a modicum of respect, regardless of their wrong-doings or situation, as pampering - even among the well-to-do foreign educated burghers, in the high-brow rarefied environs of the Island. My initial promise was to come back and acknowledge your first post, so I should probably have started with this. When I first read the kind of dehumanising things being written, I wanted to jump straight in. But I thought our resident feminists will soon be in to right this wrong. After all, I thought, for those that hate feminism, for those that espouse it, for those on the mild end of the spectrum and those on the extreme, one thing they can all agree on is that woman should be free to make their own choices. Not a whisper as OP was discussed like she was a farmyard animal. I waited a few days not a sound. Then just as I was fumbling to post, stopping and starting - with lil' mama on my lap - you said something. Thank you for that glimmer of hope. I find it helps not to have overly high expectations of anyone on here, and even to a degree in real life, but I always have hope. But where is the hope when too many of the women here seem to find it so hard to reason factually, cling tightly to a - IMO - shoddy ideology they can't follow through on, and offer nothing more than a therapeutic nod to objective morality. And finally - age, beauty and character ![]() Or even the paternal grandmother in situ? The squad turn up and say "good job tending to the expectant mother", but this sprog is going up for adoption as soon as it's sprung? The mind boggles - let me stop. Don't feel the need to answer me o jare, just musing while la famiglia are out jollying without me ![]() Actually, I do have one question. Given the new age-thingy, would you like to be addressed as mummy, mummy agba, or the more churchy "mother in Israel". For myself, I'm thinking 35+ refer to me as "big unku", while anything below that as "awon daddy wa" ![]() TV 11 Likes |
Re: People Please Have Mercy On Me Before I Die by damiso(f): 4:48pm On Oct 15, 2016 |
moji26: That's good to hear. Your mum really does wish you well after all said and done.I know you are an adult in your own right but you need to also meet her halfway by respecting,helping her when you can. It took me becoming a mother and understanding the expectations,hopes,aspirations that you have for your children to understand (and even appreciate ) the sometimes hard stance of my parents concerning some things. I do sincerely hope it all turns out well for you in the end. 4 Likes |
Re: People Please Have Mercy On Me Before I Die by FynBabe(f): 5:47pm On Oct 15, 2016 |
TV01, are you sure you are a man or a woman claiming to be a man on NL? How can a man be so petty, why? I always read your posts silently but I just decided to address you today. Most men I know do not go on and on....on issues like you do. Haba, since this post, all you and some people have done is to criticise without proferring any solution. Please, you don't need to pull anyone down to make your point Just make your point and move on Moji has come back to say she's now good with her mum so why bring up a forgotten matter? Some of us here need to understand individual differences, upbringing differ. That you do not agree with some one doesn't make the person's opinion irrelevant. Please, this is me speaking/writing my mind. You don't need to agree with me and I don't want any back and forth because I am not a fan of plenty talk/writeup. Thanks. 17 Likes 1 Share |
Re: People Please Have Mercy On Me Before I Die by missjo(f): 6:10pm On Oct 15, 2016 |
*clears throat* |
Re: People Please Have Mercy On Me Before I Die by missjo(f): 6:12pm On Oct 15, 2016 |
Onegai:Madam,my contributions and thoughts were already on this thread before I quoted you. But if you meant outside of here,totally not your beeswax ![]() 1 Like |
Re: People Please Have Mercy On Me Before I Die by missjo(f): 6:15pm On Oct 15, 2016 |
5minsmadness: 5minsmadness:I'm cool always,wasnt trying to start a fight. But certain things can't be overlooked, I'm nice like that. 1 Like |
Re: People Please Have Mercy On Me Before I Die by missjo(f): 6:24pm On Oct 15, 2016 |
merahki:Thanks for this,its possible people were thinking it was just those posts I quoted that evoked my reaction not knowing it was an accumulation of several on this thread and her previous posts. The other day it was how she would take and upload pics of the billionaires in her presence to end an argument, unnecessary talks. someone else beat me to it that day cos I was about responding to it as well. My rant/beef ends here too. This thread has out lived its usefulness. 5 Likes |
Re: People Please Have Mercy On Me Before I Die by Ishilove: 7:43pm On Oct 15, 2016 |
TV01:Oyibo repete ![]() I do love well written prose. ![]() |
Re: People Please Have Mercy On Me Before I Die by TV01(m): 7:47pm On Oct 15, 2016 |
missjo:...not so fast, I'm not done ![]() ![]() MizMyColi:I won’t lie. Sometimes I think you speak a whole load of mumbo-jumbo. And like I do a lot of the posters here, I was just going to leave you be, so far as you did’nt appear to champion immorality or blaspheme. And so it was until you felt the need to take me to task a while back ![]() But you know, you do appear genuine, very “from the heart”. And in some ways I think you at least try and be straight and aim for consistency. And that’s quite rare here. Credit where it is due. One step forward. There’s a theory that women rarely speak truth to power, not unless it’s in their best interest. Indeed, the theory goes, truth or lies are not really a consideration, it’s more about staying onside of power and influence. Keeping relationships and favour going, no matter the compromise. Why did you need me to say something, before you spoke? And even then, you spoke more to appease, than to address. Two steps back. It’s why, despite what I hear here, I’ll always believe that men should lead in most areas and in most situations. missjo:As distasteful as I found that tone, I did not mention it. I posted to address the repugnant dehumanising things that were being said about OP and her situation. That I found disgusting. Afterall now, it seems that in context, anyone that is not - by whatever measure - equal to or above another person, may not actually be considered worthy to be treated like one. Anyway, I understand that you both had to coat-tail me. Bowing to male leadership – it’s instinctive ![]() Anyways, have a great weekend ![]() Doveda, originally, I was going to ignore, be scathing, or dismissive of your mention. But I realise none of those refute. So I replied, not really knowing you, and still had to edit a number of times, to ensure I didn’t lose the message in my scorn. But now, having read some of your posts, painting you as someone who claims to be an avid feminist, I really should have gone with my instinct. You actually doubled down on something that was horrible to think, let alone say, whatever you believe, let alone for a self-proclaimed feminist? Ranchhoddas, because of my response to her, you called me womens wrapper. It will sit nicely in my collection, which contains others, including; Pharisee, sexist, misogynist, hater of women, bully of women, talker downer on women, and my personal favourite “chauvinist”. I’ve also been called the M, C and F words, but I’m not actually old or bold enough to repeat those in full. I can’t believe I haven’t be labelled a feminist, upon all my effort ![]() It’s bathtime - not mine ![]() TV 2 Likes |
Re: People Please Have Mercy On Me Before I Die by Kimoni: 8:08pm On Oct 15, 2016 |
![]() ![]() ![]() Like naijababe said, you brought me to this thread and surely, you didn't disappoint. I agree with missjo, this thread has outlived his usefulness. Thorpido, if it's not too much trouble, pls keep on checking on Moji. Pray that all ends well with her and her kids. 4 Likes |
Re: People Please Have Mercy On Me Before I Die by Ranchhoddas: 9:59pm On Oct 15, 2016 |
Sir TV01. Na joke I dey joke oo. Much respect!!! |
Re: People Please Have Mercy On Me Before I Die by MizMyColi(f): 10:20pm On Oct 15, 2016 |
TV01 1. Your opinion ![]() 2. I'm not understanding ![]() But you know, you do appear genuine, very “from the heart”. And in some ways I think you at least try and be straight and aim for consistency. And that’s quite rare here. Credit where it is due. One step forward. *in jenifa's voice* Tanz yew ![]() There’s a theory that women rarely speak truth to power, not unless it’s in their best interest. Indeed, the theory goes, truth or lies are not really a consideration, it’s more about staying onside of power and influence. Keeping relationships and favour going, This is true. It does not apply to women alone, however, I speak for myself here. I am a woman, and more oft than not, I do not carve opinions and words for selfish intent. True to type, I am diplomatic, very diplomatic. I would give my all to grow relationships that mean the world to me, but I would do so under the tenets of openness, sincerity and trust. I compromise when dealing with people, yet I do so mainly for the greater good. It always boils down to one word when it comes to my dealings with humans - SELFLESSNESS (mostly), especially in areas I have become passionately vested in. Why did you need me to say something, before you spoke? And even then, you spoke more to appease, than to address. Two steps back. ![]() men vs women debate? count me out ![]() I mean, I understand the popular saying that "we need each other to survive" But in this context, I didn't exactly need you,TV. Admittedly, on a subconscious (almost unconscious) level if you ask me, I did have this need that could have been met by anyone or anything. You know what that was? Unsolicited inspiration ![]() Here's an analogy. Ever been in that position where a lot of thoughts are going through your head at a time and you feel this need to express yourself in clear terms and you just know that - given your state of mind including the physical/environmental at that moment, your words might not come out as you would ordinarily desire - and then voila! someone drops lines of words and you're like - "There! there! that is it. You took these words right outta the quagmire going on in my head. Thank you!" I really don't believe in "an eye for an eye" "if they give you hot, give em hot too" Everytime I try to be that kind of person, I fail woefully and feel so disjointed. However, I find fulfilment in addressing issues in an appeasing/appealing manner. I find fulfilment when I address issues with a warm and gentle spirit, not the belligerent kind. I am called to be the factor that unites, not divide. The major thing I did not agree with was the last part of your post. I do not perceive her as having shady intentions. As much as I did not approve of the public rebuke and persecution on her part....I could sense she meant well. There's no one perfect, is there? ![]() 1 Like |
Re: People Please Have Mercy On Me Before I Die by tundeblack: 4:27am On Oct 16, 2016 |
Email tundeblack1@yahoo.com your fone number |
Re: People Please Have Mercy On Me Before I Die by Funjosh(m): 5:21am On Oct 16, 2016 |
You people should speak English na ![]() 5 Likes |
Re: People Please Have Mercy On Me Before I Die by Ishilove: 5:01pm On Oct 16, 2016 |
Funjosh:As in ehn |
Re: People Please Have Mercy On Me Before I Die by missjo(f): 8:14pm On Oct 16, 2016 |
TV01:You're a real piece of work,you know that? 4 Likes |
Re: People Please Have Mercy On Me Before I Die by Nobody: 6:34am On Oct 17, 2016 |
Coach Tv01 Porting to the boys room Happy for Moji Moji Dont forget the advise that you have been given Its not just about you now but mainly about your kids Mum has decided to take care of you, but don't take it for granted or go back to your old ways or she will withdraw that help and support Make sure you get yourself sorted out and make sure you do all that your mum has asked you/asks you to do, even without her needing to ask you. Be proactive and mature. You are 26 and a now mother of 2. No time for kiddish behaviour. You can do it if you really want to Your mum has really tried for you. DO NOT DISAPPOINT HER OR YOURSELF It is well with you all. Take care 7 Likes |
Re: People Please Have Mercy On Me Before I Die by knowme(m): 7:11am On Oct 17, 2016 |
It's been an interesting read, I just hope I don't get to work in the field today cos I might just sleep and fall from a mast lol I deprived me sleep to see how it all ended a lot of you did really well in brokering peace between this girl and her parent which was actually the main help she needed and I will suggest someone keeps a close tab on her so she wouldn't go Astray again. 2 Likes |
Re: People Please Have Mercy On Me Before I Die by doveda: 5:24pm On Oct 17, 2016 |
TV01, 1) I have always stopped myself from giving you a befitting reply with every one of your illogical opinions. I eventually did and I was COURTEOUS but you decided not to respect yourself. 2)I never claimed to be anything and I will never be whatever you so badly wish that I am. Please stop deluding yourself sir, I believe you are still too young to be going s........ sir! 3)If you had tried to be snide with me, I would have replied in you kind! I don't do Agbayas. 4) You are so sanctimonious that you stink of it. You are so full of it, man. You can do us all a favour, shove it where the sun doesn't shine. 5) Until you have had to deal with this type of shit, please hold your peace. You should have stopped the first time you replied me ![]() You are welcome. 12 Likes 1 Share |
Re: People Please Have Mercy On Me Before I Die by doveda: 5:43pm On Oct 17, 2016 |
Too bad you didn't see the last thread, if you had you would agree with everyone here. And I wouldn't want enumerate those things again . I mean the events that transpired after the first guy. What she needs now is a mentor with lots of tough love to give (TV01, I want you to pluck your eyes at the bolded) tearoses: |
Re: People Please Have Mercy On Me Before I Die by doveda: 5:55pm On Oct 17, 2016 |
Hustling is hustling Mr man ![]() Ranchhoddas: 1 Like |
Re: People Please Have Mercy On Me Before I Die by Ranchhoddas: 6:11pm On Oct 17, 2016 |
doveda:Wetin happen?? Why you dey bring me back here?... The moderators should have shut this thread down by now!!!!!!!!! |
Re: People Please Have Mercy On Me Before I Die by Collenshy2020(m): 6:38pm On Oct 17, 2016 |
There's more to this story, i have encountered different persons who hid the real revealation about their plight. |
Re: People Please Have Mercy On Me Before I Die by Ishilove: 7:48pm On Oct 17, 2016 |
Thorpido, please I sent you a PM |
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