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Re: Before You Marry A Divorcee. by Toks2008(m): 2:21pm On Oct 17, 2016 |
Diddyydiva: On the contrary, you want to believe i am right this time and not that i have been wrong all the while.. |
Re: Before You Marry A Divorcee. by alexiej(m): 2:22pm On Oct 17, 2016 |
drnoel: Well, that's true.. |
Re: Before You Marry A Divorcee. by Toks2008(m): 2:25pm On Oct 17, 2016 |
STFUareyouG0d: On the contrary, a divorcee is a better option anydday anytime but that depends on the type of divorcee you meet which boils down to making a very good due diligence. Are never married single guys any better than the divorcee? Remember that experience is a plus. |
Re: Before You Marry A Divorcee. by Toks2008(m): 2:30pm On Oct 17, 2016 |
drnoel: @ the embolden i totally disagree...there is no bias if you are really interested in the person and even if what you hear is very terrible, at least it will give you an idea of what to do and how to make him or her a better person. The truth is that this piece also applies to single people...if you really want to marry a man or lady and you can do a due diligence and if possible talk to the ex as the case may be,you will save yourself avoidable headache. |
Re: Before You Marry A Divorcee. by Nobody: 2:36pm On Oct 17, 2016 |
Op you are delusional.. Sorry but true So u honestly think the other partner of the divorcee will honestly tell u the truth of what went wrong in their union? For real ![]() Mehn I can't believe this.. My dear op, no need marrying a divorcee..allow them to rest from their traumatic experiences... Do u think people are happy to be divorced..? Honestly I wonder. 2 Likes |
Re: Before You Marry A Divorcee. by Nobody: 2:39pm On Oct 17, 2016 |
Toks2008: There's no ex on this earth that will talk good of their past exs especially when they know someone better is coming to take their place.. U are just inviting more headaches to your life by snooping around too much.. Let the sleeping dogs lie and a better person in the relationship |
Re: Before You Marry A Divorcee. by Toks2008(m): 2:43pm On Oct 17, 2016 |
drnoel: There was a time i had a lady friend who came to visit me and she was just yapping about how impossible it will be for me and my ex to just split up after years together and that i must have done her something really terrible,bla bla bla... You know what i did? I gave her my ex number immediately and asked her to chat her up and that whatever she tells her is the truth. She took the number and told her that she is my friend and she would really want to know me from her perspective and the chatting began. I was not even bothered about their chats cos i know that at the end my ex will only blab and that was exactly what happened as the lady was so dumbfounded after chatting up my ex and she said "toks,your ex needs help because she is not making any sense"...and this is just a lady friend talking and we have nothing to do together else i would have assumed she was bias. Why am i telling you this epistle? Its to tell you that no matter how terrible an ex would like to paint you,even if 90% is a false representation, you will always have an idea of that person which is the most important. If you know why many people divorce,you will pity the new person who marries them..this is not to say there are no good divorced people but at least try your best to really know why he or she divorced and not just jump in. |
Re: Before You Marry A Divorcee. by Toks2008(m): 2:47pm On Oct 17, 2016 |
Amelian: I totally agree with the embolden but then that is the catch..tell me all the lies you can and i will be smart enough to at least bring out the little truth in it..this is very logical innit? |
Re: Before You Marry A Divorcee. by legba1(m): 2:51pm On Oct 17, 2016 |
Toks2008: U been talking about having a one on one with the ex like that will be possible in all cases here. We are not oyinbo meen....ou4 mindset is " if I dont have you , none else will". I know of a lady who eloped cos her partner cant offer her the kinda life she want and return after sometime to "stay with her daughter". My guy refused, she went extra length to destroy the guy...another scenario is a guy who almost battered a friend cos he saw him with his ex whom he divorced.....am not against making findings but......from ex....forget 1 Like |
Re: Before You Marry A Divorcee. by Nobody: 2:54pm On Oct 17, 2016 |
Toks2008: Lol, so are you a spirit that can read inbetween the lines if the ex is saying the truth or not? Smiles u make me laugh.. Lol Uv not seen or spoken to pathological liars.. U will be amazed. 1 Like |
Re: Before You Marry A Divorcee. by holluphemydavid(m): 3:07pm On Oct 17, 2016 |
Very insightful |
Re: Before You Marry A Divorcee. by holluphemydavid(m): 3:09pm On Oct 17, 2016 |
Kunlegold:Means u failed to find out wot makes her first marriage failed |
Re: Before You Marry A Divorcee. by Nobody: 3:48pm On Oct 17, 2016 |
Toks2008: People need to understand that some partners are just not compatible . . . no matter how you want to look at it. The fact that MR. A could not put up with my attitude and divorced me doesn't mean that Mr. B will divorce me for the same attitude. If what you posted were true, then people shouldn't even date those who have broken up from any committed relationship in the past. People may, in marriage, make the extra effort to make things work, but a doomed relationship will always be doomed, married or NOT. 2 Likes |
Re: Before You Marry A Divorcee. by nelsonjj: 3:49pm On Oct 17, 2016 |
For This Recession, How Can A Man Think Of getting Married To A Divorcee When Single And Searching Girls N Ladies Abound. Op, This Topic They Somehow Nah. Dont Worry Hunger Don Make Man Wise O 1 Like |
Re: Before You Marry A Divorcee. by Toks2008(m): 3:53pm On Oct 17, 2016 |
nelsonjj: Stop fooling yourself some divorcees are far better than the never married. Technically every man or woman who have been in and out of a committed affair is a divorcee. |
Re: Before You Marry A Divorcee. by lanreni: 4:01pm On Oct 17, 2016 |
Toks2008:Don't waste your time.the stubborn goats will never listen to intelligent advice. my sister almost fell for this. she almost married a "divorced" pastor in the name of desperation. today she is happily married. |
Re: Before You Marry A Divorcee. by marv1: 4:04pm On Oct 17, 2016 |
My dear God bless u. A lot of christians forget the bible says narrow is the way to heaven. An asian woman was taken to heaven and she said the road is so narrow that nothing extra can go in, however little it seems like small small lies, unforgiveness. God's word and standard never change. Only man changes with time. God help us. [quote authorIamMissMarvel post=50275146]Toh. My mum and I still had this conversation yesterday. God NEVER intended for any marriage to lead to divorce. The only ground Jesus gave in the book of Matthew was Infidelity. Yet, both parties can't marry after the divorce else, they become guilty of Adultery. Yet, the bible asked that we forgive our neighbours 70 times 7 times a day (correct me if I'm wrong), so, how can one person commit adultery 70 times 7 times a day that we can't forgive, yet, we ask God daily for Mercy even tho we sin against Him countless times a day. This is why it is very important to seek God's face before jumping into marriage, do things the way God has instructed, so when you're in a fix, you can go to Him and ask Him to fix it. But now, we see biblical standards as "Old School".[/quote] |
Re: Before You Marry A Divorcee. by lanreni: 4:04pm On Oct 17, 2016 |
Ujoan:Its all depending on the attitude in question and the degree of unrepentant nastyness of the attitude. |
Re: Before You Marry A Divorcee. by ogaprime(m): 4:11pm On Oct 17, 2016 |
Femiwilli: Mr man, you better watch your mouth. Know what you say before you say it. If you are not a member of RCCG, please open up your mouth and ask God for forgiveness. Hope you know the devil knows the bible too, so those verse you quoted up there can be quoted by anybody. As a matter of fact do you know Pastor Ituah Ighodalo?? Please make research on Pastor Ituah Ighodalo |
Re: Before You Marry A Divorcee. by viktor01(m): 4:13pm On Oct 17, 2016 |
STENON: You are very quaret but aas the saying goes, a leopard cannnot change its spots. |
Re: Before You Marry A Divorcee. by viktor01(m): 4:15pm On Oct 17, 2016 |
[quote author=nelsonjj post=50279451]For This Recession, How Can A Man Think Of getting Married To A Divorcee When Single And Searching Girls N Ladies Abound. Op, This Topic They Somehow Nah. Dont Worry Hunger Don Make Man Wise O[/quot Exactly my thought.. Why should anyone leave a single lady and get married to a divorcee? |
Re: Before You Marry A Divorcee. by STENON(f): 4:16pm On Oct 17, 2016 |
viktor01:It is a matter of time...They would soon start to exhibit their worst character. |
Re: Before You Marry A Divorcee. by dotedote: 4:20pm On Oct 17, 2016 |
[[b]what about gambling habits, shameless infidelity acts, stealing and every rehabilitation exercise has proved ineffective?[/b] quote author=Toks2008 post=50259506] Many people now use flimsy adjectives to buttress their premeditated act of divorce..emotional abuse,irreconcilable differences bla bla bla.. Talk about physical abuse and i will agree and i mean wife or husband battering...any other reason is a facade. But then as i wrote, investigate and you wil know if the divorce is justified.[/quote] |
Re: Before You Marry A Divorcee. by Gkemz: 4:30pm On Oct 17, 2016 |
Makes sense. No matter how badly you're driven by love, always ensure to study the past because oftentimes it revolves around just like a trend cycle. |
Re: Before You Marry A Divorcee. by Realhommie(m): 4:36pm On Oct 17, 2016 |
alexiej:GBAM |
Re: Before You Marry A Divorcee. by Sayelabola(m): 5:41pm On Oct 17, 2016 |
ednut1: Some divorcees are better than the young and unmarried ladies. |
Re: Before You Marry A Divorcee. by Google63(m): 5:53pm On Oct 17, 2016 |
hamilton62:I agree with you, but how about a case of domestic violence where the woman is being turned to a dumping bag on a daily basis. Will you agree she risks her life for a marriage that isn't going anywhere? |
Re: Before You Marry A Divorcee. by histemple: 6:01pm On Oct 17, 2016 |
Mimzyy: I doubt seriously if you are married because of your submissions herein. The OP is spot on. There is no perfect marriage anywhere in the world, the happy families you see, are products of continued resilience and tolerance. First, you must understand that the institution called marriage is under serious and CONTINUOUS attack by the devil. So, some things happening in marriages are spiritually manipulated and can only be understood by married people. So, if a husband/wife offends the other and he/she is truly sorry, then the one insisting on divorce is either unforgiving or has no regard for marriage. Such person will always have reasons to walk away from subsequent marriage (s). He rightly captured it when he said "there is a party that isn't willing to divorce". If you are lucky to have a remorseful and apologetic partner who wants the marriage intact, you should be happy and forgiving. Then follow up with prayers. From experience, the party who is insistent on divorce thinks the grass is greener on the other side. 1 Like |
Re: Before You Marry A Divorcee. by Toks2008(m): 6:51pm On Oct 17, 2016 |
lanreni: As I wrote, there is absolutely nothing wrong in marrying a divorcee but what I advised is that due diligence be done to know why he or she was divorced. Some people have good reasons for divorcing while some have lame excuses and if the divorcee you are considering marrying falls into the latter category then I will simply tell you to run or stand the risk of wasting your time with such. |
Re: Before You Marry A Divorcee. by Toks2008(m): 6:53pm On Oct 17, 2016 |
histemple: Brilliant. |
Re: Before You Marry A Divorcee. by Excuzeme: 6:54pm On Oct 17, 2016 |
Toks2008: This does not make sense one bit! How did you ever come about the coloured part? There are millions of people who found TRUE LOVE in their second marriage, Male and Female, and lived together till death! BTW: there are things that cant be forgiven, or "forgotten", which makes re-unification IMPOSSIBLE and DIVORCE the ONLY ALTERNATIVE! For[b] example[/b], Man caught his wife with his Brother! Also, there are times when a divorce is better alternative than forcing two "mad humans" to live under the same roof! Although, l think it should not be taken for granted, due to its effects on the children, if any |
Re: Before You Marry A Divorcee. by Toks2008(m): 7:00pm On Oct 17, 2016 |
dotedote: Do you know that 90% of women who go into marriages with supposedly bad guys or guys with bad habits knew all along that the guy has such traits but the problem is that they always believe they can change that person. So the truth is that marriage is not a walk in the park and every marriage has its own peculiar problems and until we are ready to have high level of tolerance,we should not bother getting married. |
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