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Re: Why Do Nigerian Men Come Back Home To Marry? by Nobody: 11:08pm On Oct 23, 2016 |
Bollinger: Very very good point. See, no perfect system exits anywhere in this world. There is good and bad in every culture and norm. I would even go out on limb to say that divorce rate in Nigeria will be higher than the west IF women in fact, have the economic, politico-legal and perhaps cultural support to leave abusive and unhappy marriage. Western women exercise their freedom while African women have very little freedom. Too extremes. Not good. 9 Likes |
Re: Why Do Nigerian Men Come Back Home To Marry? by Nobody: 11:08pm On Oct 23, 2016 |
how sure are you that the so called innocent lady you came back to marry in nigeria ,will remain faithful to you while you hustle abroad!just because you left her with a child does mean she can't be unfaithful. i live in neighbourhood where a certain refugee community leaves their wives behind,due to western laws that favour women in domestic issues.but i can assure you there are rumours a doctor in the neighbourhood has gotten rich,helping this same women left behind abort pregnancies from local hyena young boys.this men have left to service their adulterous wives. 1 Like |
Re: Why Do Nigerian Men Come Back Home To Marry? by Talk2Bella(f): 11:11pm On Oct 23, 2016 |
Missolivea: They would rather ask me if I have been in the states A woman close to me almost died during child birth recently the only time her husband comes home is to impregnate her, one night she was in labor no one to take her to the hospital no husband no nothing she was in so much pain till morning, she crawled outside screaming before people saw and helped her to the hospital they called her husband he said its not the time of the year for him to come see her |
Re: Why Do Nigerian Men Come Back Home To Marry? by Nobody: 11:11pm On Oct 23, 2016 |
Talk2Bella:Locker room, grab them by d pusssy. 1 Like |
Re: Why Do Nigerian Men Come Back Home To Marry? by Nobody: 11:14pm On Oct 23, 2016 |
Talk2Bella:zowie please find another cure for your love less existence.... am off... the beauty awaits. zowie once again.. the man will come 43 is not too old |
Re: Why Do Nigerian Men Come Back Home To Marry? by Missolivea: 11:14pm On Oct 23, 2016 |
Talk2Bella:All this is because society stigmatizes the unmarried ladies and baby mamas. And the oyinbo women too will never learn. Always going after the sexual virilty of Nigerian men and the opportunity to have half caste offsprings whom they can whisk out of the lives of their fathers forever once they decide to kick him out of their lives. Later they go online trying to tarnish the men's image 6 Likes |
Re: Why Do Nigerian Men Come Back Home To Marry? by Funkyswagzz(m): 11:14pm On Oct 23, 2016 |
One thing I have noticed iz when a guy commits a crime againt a lady it becomes a big deal buh when a lady does the same.. it will look as if d guy deserves the punishment. I still dont get it. Is it that men are meant to be treated bad and women shud be treated good.. ![]() I came across a thread that explains how a lecturer asked a gurl for sex so he can pass her but the lecturer got caught and he was sacked. Now another thread I read show that a girl is actually asking a lecturer to have sex with her so he can pass her and nothing was done about it. So tell me are we meant to be treated bad ![]() 7 Likes |
Re: Why Do Nigerian Men Come Back Home To Marry? by bettercreature(m): 11:15pm On Oct 23, 2016 |
khiaa:Most of them prefer to stay with someone rather using their hard currency to rent apartment,You may not be able to save money if you own an apartment.Only big guys own apartment abroad 1 Like |
Re: Why Do Nigerian Men Come Back Home To Marry? by khiaa(f): 11:17pm On Oct 23, 2016 |
theripper3: I'm sure those women are treating you like the piece of crap that you are, if you don't want to provide for your babies, common sense should tell you not to straff those African Americans, Latinas, white and Nigerians American women, but like we all know, everyone isn't blessed with common sense. Please do American women a huge favor and straff your naija girls only. On second thought, please continue screwing those white girls, maybe they'll wake up and do exactly what you predicted them to do. |
Re: Why Do Nigerian Men Come Back Home To Marry? by Talk2Bella(f): 11:17pm On Oct 23, 2016 |
NgcoboP: ![]() ![]() ![]() ![]() I am in an awesome mood 1 Like |
Re: Why Do Nigerian Men Come Back Home To Marry? by Nobody: 11:19pm On Oct 23, 2016 |
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Re: Why Do Nigerian Men Come Back Home To Marry? by justwise(m): 11:20pm On Oct 23, 2016 |
@Talk2Bella Do you also have issues with Nigerian girls living in Nigeria who married oyibo they met online? What happen to Nigerian men living in Nigeria? 4 Likes |
Re: Why Do Nigerian Men Come Back Home To Marry? by Malakh: 11:21pm On Oct 23, 2016 |
they nothing but hoes, just wait till their husband that is the white man take those jobs away from them NgcoboP: |
Re: Why Do Nigerian Men Come Back Home To Marry? by Jay542(m): 11:22pm On Oct 23, 2016 |
Cos they went there to hustle 2 Likes |
Re: Why Do Nigerian Men Come Back Home To Marry? by Cutehector(m): 11:23pm On Oct 23, 2016 |
Bella is going places.... ![]() Yikes...... 1 Like |
Re: Why Do Nigerian Men Come Back Home To Marry? by Talk2Bella(f): 11:24pm On Oct 23, 2016 |
justwise: No I don't have a problem with that, that's the essence of this post, you lay where you make your he'd As long as it's outta genuine love go ahead, you don't date a white man and when it's time to marry you remember you have African men back home to settle down with 2 Likes |
Re: Why Do Nigerian Men Come Back Home To Marry? by ogbonti: 11:25pm On Oct 23, 2016 |
this whole talk by bella is bulls. The gospel thruth is that the western world thrives on 2 things.... (1) pulling men down before women and (2) Mistrust. 1. pulling men down before women is UN-AFRICAN. Men are a little more valuable than robots, with their rights coming third behind women (First) Domesticated Animals (second) then Men (third) in that Order. If you dispute the pets having more rights than men in the Western world, go ask Michael Vicks of Philadelphia Eagles who was jailed for dog fighting 2. Mistrust, the USA for instance promotes mistrust due to overbearing capitalism. Every man is watching over his dollar and the easiest way to mess with your money is having an unvetted olosho[/i] coming to ruin your life because of relationships or marriage wahala. The marriage laws in western world is overprotective of women hence most men are just into nacking [i]congos and moving on. If i tell you the number of single "jaw dropping" beautiful women in my city, here in the USA, who have great jobs and living so well materially but no stable relationship or being married, you will scream until your throat dried up of saliva. Why ? because, Men dont want commitment .. wether white, black, asian or hispanic... SO WHAT IS THE PROBLEM? I hope bela is listening? An African taking out of his natural environment (Africa) is like fish out of water ... most of us live well materially each day in the west, but we are in sorrow as we are not living the life we intend to live; life of morals of a nuclear family, with father, mother and kids being brought up with love and respect and strict discipline. Bela, don't crucify your African brothers. many are still in the immigration system. some come home with paroles or temporary entrance permits with conditions that are scary. They do not have permanent resident cards so, or Citizenship... so if they decide to wait until they get permanent resident card, they may clock 70 easily. Another thing is most naija men are married to women they do not really love in the WEST... FACT! So, when kpali issues make a man marry a woman and before kpali comes, the woman starts hatching kids on the ground, what do u expect the man to do? It is not like naija where u can tell the woman to get out of ur house, NAH... so the man starts to endure. he contemplates ending the whole thing, to go back home and marry his African Queen, who he really loves and feels happy being with... BUT, if the kpali level spoil and he is deported, where will he start his life from ![]() Do you know I have a family member who is 65, he came to the USA since age 25, he got married at 28 to an african american woman and they have 4 kids... eldest of the kids is 34, last born is 25, none of them have visited Nigeria and they do not hope to ever come. THINK ABOUT THE AGONY THIS MAN FACES EACH TIME HE VISITS NIGERIA.. he looks like a bachelor to members of his family in the village, he starts showing them pictures of his abroad family.... IF THAT IS YOUR RELATION, WILL YOU NOT ADVISE HIM TO GET A LADY PREGNANT AT HOME SO YOU CAN SEE HIS CHILD BEFORE HE DIES? it is easy to cast blame on western based African men living double lives . so, before you talk rubbish about our men, make sure you have actually lived in our circumstances or situations. You think say to get paper na moi moi for jand? mot guys will love to come home, marry their childhood love and settle well abroad, but paper wahala 90% of the time is the yawa... watch AWILO song, le problem de papier... and u will understand. I REST MY CASE! 28 Likes 4 Shares |
Re: Why Do Nigerian Men Come Back Home To Marry? by Talk2Bella(f): 11:25pm On Oct 23, 2016 |
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Re: Why Do Nigerian Men Come Back Home To Marry? by Talk2Bella(f): 11:30pm On Oct 23, 2016 |
ogbonti: Where you forced to go there? No My point is if you're gonna come home to Marry please always come back to check on your wives and kids I understand the hustle really I do but using others to satisfy ourselves isn't that going too far, you have one wife abroad another home some of their kids don't even know what their fathers look like and their wives here have become like single mothers If you wanna come home to marry please make provisions for the intended wife and children 2 Likes |
Re: Why Do Nigerian Men Come Back Home To Marry? by justwise(m): 11:30pm On Oct 23, 2016 |
Talk2Bella: Great! So how do you know that Nigerian men coming home to marry are not doing it for love? It's good for a Nigerian girl to marry a white man but it's not good for a Nigerian man to come home to marry? 4 Likes |
Re: Why Do Nigerian Men Come Back Home To Marry? by Talk2Bella(f): 11:32pm On Oct 23, 2016 |
justwise: It's either you didn't read the whole content or didn't watch the video I have no problem with the genuine ones I don't I have a problem with the ones who abandon their wives and children here and barely come back home |
Re: Why Do Nigerian Men Come Back Home To Marry? by justwise(m): 11:32pm On Oct 23, 2016 |
Talk2Bella: This is just careless generalisation 6 Likes |
Re: Why Do Nigerian Men Come Back Home To Marry? by justwise(m): 11:33pm On Oct 23, 2016 |
Talk2Bella: Then narrow your argument. Yes I watched the video and that lady is far too clueless for 2016 6 Likes |
Re: Why Do Nigerian Men Come Back Home To Marry? by Taryur3(m): 11:33pm On Oct 23, 2016 |
Talk2Bella:They believe they are the boss of their life since they are making money too...most of them will publicly tell you they can't share the house bills with you... 2 Likes |
Re: Why Do Nigerian Men Come Back Home To Marry? by khiaa(f): 11:33pm On Oct 23, 2016 |
Malakh: I am American and I truly thank you for your wise decision, you are doing American women a great justice. |
Re: Why Do Nigerian Men Come Back Home To Marry? by OluDare01(m): 11:34pm On Oct 23, 2016 |
lol, not everybody. As for me, I'm still undecided |
Re: Why Do Nigerian Men Come Back Home To Marry? by Talk2Bella(f): 11:34pm On Oct 23, 2016 |
justwise: No it is not, from the comments so far we all can see it's a common practice |
Re: Why Do Nigerian Men Come Back Home To Marry? by onelife97: 11:36pm On Oct 23, 2016 |
@op......according to my own personal experience,women are the same...The Good and the bad ones. I am married with Oyinbo woman in the EU.Of course I have my own PMA as well but I have always been a good husband until she started showing me some bad colours after the delivery of our lil boy....It Got me to the extent of me thinkin of suicide.. Then I thought maybe I should start looking for an African woman most especially Nigerian woman to be precise from my ethnic group.Mind u I didn't 't really care about what part of Nigeria she might come from.Until last year that I went to Nigeria and met few ladies but I only chose one as I am not ready for any trial. To cut the long story short the Nigerian ladies that I have met are not quite better than the white ladies here...The only different is just the language and culture. Maybe I ve been unlucky in finding a virtuous woman but my story is the same with many successful young guys I know back in 9ja.The only thing many 9ja girls think they have to offer is round mid-back and the front deep shop. So maybe this might be one of the reasons our guys also see them as baby factory because that is all the ladies tend to offer. Maybe if I ll be fortunate enough to meet a fine 9ja babe around Eastern Europe or anywhere around here,maybe I ll consider it.But until then,I remain a living alone married man.. I Don't blame anyone for their choice in marriage or for family.If u haven't walked in their shoes u might never know the reason behind their action. 7 Likes 1 Share |
Re: Why Do Nigerian Men Come Back Home To Marry? by Talk2Bella(f): 11:36pm On Oct 23, 2016 |
justwise: Oh there's nothing clueless about me honey I am an unquenchable fire You can't deny there's more than an essence of truth in what I have said |
Re: Why Do Nigerian Men Come Back Home To Marry? by justwise(m): 11:36pm On Oct 23, 2016 |
Talk2Bella: Of course it's, I don't have a single friend who has a wife in Nigeria and one here |
Re: Why Do Nigerian Men Come Back Home To Marry? by Taryur3(m): 11:38pm On Oct 23, 2016 |
bettercreature:You are almost correct but its only 60% of them. |
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