Bollinger:


You are funny. You think if the societal structure in Nigeria was normal the divorce rate wouldn't be ten times higher than what exists in America? No one wants to be treated like slaves and Nigerian women are basically treated as such. The reason they are afraid to leave their husbands in Nigeria is because of the economic and legal realities that exist in the country. Both factors do not favor them. They know how difficult it would be to survive without the surpport of their husband especially when kids are involved. To make matters worse, the legal system does not favor them. A man can wake up one morning and chase his wife out of their matrimonial home and bring in someone else that same day and nothing will happen. Come and try that shiit over here. The reason the divorce rate in Nigeria is so low is because of fear on the part of women. It is that simple.

Very very good point. See, no perfect system exits anywhere in this world. There is good and bad in every culture and norm.

I would even go out on limb to say that divorce rate in Nigeria will be higher than the west IF women in fact, have the economic, politico-legal and perhaps cultural support to leave abusive and unhappy marriage.

Western women exercise their freedom while African women have very little freedom. Too extremes. Not good.

how sure are you that the so called innocent lady you came back to marry in nigeria ,will remain faithful to you while you hustle abroad!just because you left her with a child does mean she can't be unfaithful. i live in neighbourhood where a certain refugee community leaves their wives behind,due to western laws that favour women in domestic issues.but i can assure you there are rumours a doctor in the neighbourhood has gotten rich,helping this same women left behind abort pregnancies from local hyena young boys.this men have left to service their adulterous wives.

Missolivea:
Does it mean that all of you guys supporting this attitude will do the same thing if in their shoes and you don't mind hurting the feelings of that Nigerian lady who will live a marriage of your perpwt and constant absenteeism. And that oyinbo chick you tie down for years deceiving and manipulating her

They would rather ask me if I have been in the states

A woman close to me almost died during child birth recently the only time her husband comes home is to impregnate her, one night she was in labor no one to take her to the hospital no husband no nothing she was in so much pain till morning, she crawled outside screaming before people saw and helped her to the hospital they called her husband he said its not the time of the year for him to come see her

Talk2Bella:


OK

It's a banter between friends tho

Locker room, grab them by d pusssy.

Talk2Bella:


According to

zowie please find another cure for your love less existence.... am off... the beauty awaits. zowie once again.. the man will come 43 is not too old

Talk2Bella:


They would rather ask me if I have been in the states

A woman close to me almost died during child birth recently the only time her husband comes home is to impregnate her, one night she was in labor no one to take her to the hospital no husband no nothing she was in so much pain till morning, she crawled outside screaming before people saw and helped her to the hospital they called her husband he said its not the time of the year for him to come see her

All this is because society stigmatizes the unmarried ladies and baby mamas. And the oyinbo women too will never learn. Always going after the sexual virilty of Nigerian men and the opportunity to have half caste offsprings whom they can whisk out of the lives of their fathers forever once they decide to kick him out of their lives. Later they go online trying to tarnish the men's image

One thing I have noticed iz when a guy commits a crime againt a lady it becomes a big deal buh when a lady does the same.. it will look as if d guy deserves the punishment.

I still dont get it. Is it that men are meant to be treated bad and women shud be treated good.. Abeg smone help me answer this question

I came across a thread that explains how a lecturer asked a gurl for sex so he can pass her but the lecturer got caught and he was sacked. Now another thread I read show that a girl is actually asking a lecturer to have sex with her so he can pass her and nothing was done about it. So tell me are we meant to be treated bad

khiaa:


Why would they care if you have your own apartment, wouldn't they have their own?

Most of them prefer to stay with someone rather using their hard currency to rent apartment,You may not be able to save money if you own an apartment.Only big guys own apartment abroad

theripper3:
Wetin typical Naija man wan usr all these abroad girls do?

The Latinos chicks can talk you to death, body to die for but no brains with half his brothers in one gang or the other.

The black American chicks are just good for nothing but straffing , dem no even get plan for their own life sef , na make dem dey chop man money onto child support .

White woman fit wake up kill you cuz she dey depressed.

Naija girls dem born there na still same with akata chicks too since na same environment dem grow.

Our naija babes get crase too but dem dey try for marriage matter based on teachings, experiences from motherland and even upbringing so they are least try make their marriages work

The other categories na just waste of time except you wan die young as a man sha. Goodluck

I'm sure those women are treating you like the piece of crap that you are, if you don't want to provide for your babies, common sense should tell you not to straff those African Americans, Latinas, white and Nigerians American women, but like we all know, everyone isn't blessed with common sense. Please do American women a huge favor and straff your naija girls only. On second thought, please continue screwing those white girls, maybe they'll wake up and do exactly what you predicted them to do.

NgcoboP:

zowie please find another cure for your love less existence.... am off... the beauty awaits. zowie once again.. the man will come 43 is not too old

I am in an awesome mood

@Talk2Bella

Do you also have issues with Nigerian girls living in Nigeria who married oyibo they met online? What happen to Nigerian men living in Nigeria?

they nothing but hoes, just wait till their husband that is the white man take those jobs away from them

NgcoboP:

American females have forgotten how to be women .... not worth marrying

Cos they went there to hustle

Bella is going places....




Yikes......

justwise:
@Talk2Bella

Do you also have issues with Nigerian girls living in Nigeria who married oyibo they met online? What happen to Nigerian men living in Nigeria?

No I don't have a problem with that, that's the essence of this post, you lay where you make your he'd

As long as it's outta genuine love go ahead, you don't date a white man and when it's time to marry you remember you have African men back home to settle down with

this whole talk by bella is bulls. The gospel thruth is that the western world thrives on 2 things.... (1) pulling men down before women and (2) Mistrust.

1. pulling men down before women is UN-AFRICAN. Men are a little more valuable than robots, with their rights coming third behind women (First) Domesticated Animals (second) then Men (third) in that Order. If you dispute the pets having more rights than men in the Western world, go ask Michael Vicks of Philadelphia Eagles who was jailed for dog fighting

2. Mistrust, the USA for instance promotes mistrust due to overbearing capitalism. Every man is watching over his dollar and the easiest way to mess with your money is having an unvetted olosho[/i] coming to ruin your life because of relationships or marriage wahala.

The marriage laws in western world is overprotective of women hence most men are just into nacking [i]congos and moving on. If i tell you the number of single "jaw dropping" beautiful women in my city, here in the USA, who have great jobs and living so well materially but no stable relationship or being married, you will scream until your throat dried up of saliva. Why ? because, Men dont want commitment .. wether white, black, asian or hispanic...

SO WHAT IS THE PROBLEM?

I hope bela is listening? An African taking out of his natural environment (Africa) is like fish out of water ... most of us live well materially each day in the west, but we are in sorrow as we are not living the life we intend to live; life of morals of a nuclear family, with father, mother and kids being brought up with love and respect and strict discipline. Bela, don't crucify your African brothers. many are still in the immigration system. some come home with paroles or temporary entrance permits with conditions that are scary. They do not have permanent resident cards so, or Citizenship... so if they decide to wait until they get permanent resident card, they may clock 70 easily.

Another thing is most naija men are married to women they do not really love in the WEST... FACT!

So, when kpali issues make a man marry a woman and before kpali comes, the woman starts hatching kids on the ground, what do u expect the man to do? It is not like naija where u can tell the woman to get out of ur house, NAH... so the man starts to endure. he contemplates ending the whole thing, to go back home and marry his African Queen, who he really loves and feels happy being with... BUT, if the kpali level spoil and he is deported, where will he start his life from?? Will you not be among the ones gossiping him that he traveled abroad and was deported achieving nothing? I beg, lets call a spade a spade!

Do you know I have a family member who is 65, he came to the USA since age 25, he got married at 28 to an african american woman and they have 4 kids... eldest of the kids is 34, last born is 25, none of them have visited Nigeria and they do not hope to ever come. THINK ABOUT THE AGONY THIS MAN FACES EACH TIME HE VISITS NIGERIA.. he looks like a bachelor to members of his family in the village, he starts showing them pictures of his abroad family.... IF THAT IS YOUR RELATION, WILL YOU NOT ADVISE HIM TO GET A LADY PREGNANT AT HOME SO YOU CAN SEE HIS CHILD BEFORE HE DIES? it is easy to cast blame on western based African men living double lives .

so, before you talk rubbish about our men, make sure you have actually lived in our circumstances or situations. You think say to get paper na moi moi for jand? mot guys will love to come home, marry their childhood love and settle well abroad, but paper wahala 90% of the time is the yawa... watch AWILO song, le problem de papier... and u will understand. I REST MY CASE!

Cutehector:
Bella is going places....




Yikes......

ogbonti:
this whole talk by bella is bulls. The gospel thruth is that the western world thrives on 2 things.... (1) pulling men down before women and (2) Mistrust.

1. pulling men down before women is UN-AFRICAN. Men are a little more valuable than robots, with their rights coming third behind women (First) Domesticated Animals (second) then Men (third) in that Order. If you dispute the pets having more rights than men in the Western world, go ask Michael Vicks of Philadelphia Eagles who was jailed for dog fighting

2. Mistrust, the USA for instance promotes mistrust due to overbearing capitalism. Every man is watching over his dollar and the easiest way to mess with your money is having an unvetted olosho coming to ruin your life becasue of relationships or marriage.

the marriage laws in western world is overprotective of women hence most men are just into nacking congos and moving on. If i tell you the number of single "jaw dropping" beautiful women in my city, here in the USA, who have great jobs and living so well materially but no stable relationship or being married, you will scream until your throat dried up of saliva.

SO WHAT IS THE PROBLEM?

I hope bela is listening? An African taking out of his natural environment is like fish out of water ... most of us live well materially each day in the west, but we are in sorrow as we are not living the life we intend to live, life of morals of a nuclear family, with father, mother and kids being brought up with love and respect and strict discipline. Bela, don't crucify your African brothers. many are still in the immigration system. some come home with paroles, not permanent resident cards so, if they wait until they get permanent resident card, they may clock 70 easily

Do you know I have a family member who is 65, he came to the USA since age 25, he got married at 28 to a black american woman and they have 4 kids... eldest of the kids is 34, last born is 25, none of them have visited Nigeria and they do not hope to ever come. THINK ABOUT THE AGONY THIS MAN FACES EACH TIME HE VISITS HOME.. he is like a bachelor.

so, before you talk rubbish about our men, make sure you have actually lived in our circumstances or situations. You think say to get paper na moi moi for jand? mot guys will love to come home, marry their childhood love and settle well abroad, but paper wahala 90% of the time is the yawa... watch AWILO song, le problem de papier... and u will understand. I REST MY CASE!

Where you forced to go there? No

My point is if you're gonna come home to Marry please always come back to check on your wives and kids

I understand the hustle really I do but using others to satisfy ourselves isn't that going too far, you have one wife abroad another home some of their kids don't even know what their fathers look like and their wives here have become like single mothers

If you wanna come home to marry please make provisions for the intended wife and children

Talk2Bella:


No I don't have a problem with that, that's the essence of this post, you lay where you make your he'd

As long as it's outta genuine love go ahead, you don't date a white man and when it's time to marry you remember you have African men back home to settle down with

Great! So how do you know that Nigerian men coming home to marry are not doing it for love? It's good for a Nigerian girl to marry a white man but it's not good for a Nigerian man to come home to marry?

justwise:


Great! So how do you know that Nigerian men coming home to marry are not doing it for love? It's good for a Nigerian girl to marry a white man but it's not good for a Nigerian man to come home to marry?

It's either you didn't read the whole content or didn't watch the video

I have no problem with the genuine ones I don't

I have a problem with the ones who abandon their wives and children here and barely come back home

Talk2Bella:


Where you forced to go there? No

My point is if you're gonna come home to Marry please always come back to check on your wives and kids

I understand the hustle really I do but using others to satisfy ourselves isn't that going too far, you have one wife abroad another home some of their kids don't even know what their fathers look like and their wives here have become like single mothers

If you wanna come home to marry please make provisions for the intended wife and children

This is just careless generalisation

Talk2Bella:


It's either you didn't read the whole content or didn't watch the video

I have no problem with the genuine ones I don't

I have a problem with the ones who abandon their wives and children here and barely come back home

Then narrow your argument. Yes I watched the video and that lady is far too clueless for 2016

Talk2Bella:


What about our Nigerian sisters there? Are they not marriageable? Why do they come back marry and don't come back for years?

They believe they are the boss of their life since they are making money too...most of them will publicly tell you they can't share the house bills with you...

Malakh:
Bella you dont live in the States,I've been in the States for over a decade I will never marry anything American or anyone trying to be American

I am American and I truly thank you for your wise decision, you are doing American women a great justice.

lol, not everybody.
As for me, I'm still undecided

justwise:


This is just careless generalisation

No it is not, from the comments so far we all can see it's a common practice

@op......according to my own personal experience,women are the same...The Good and the bad ones.
I am married with Oyinbo woman in the EU.Of course I have my own PMA as well but I have always been a good husband until she started showing me some bad colours after the delivery of our lil boy....It Got me to the extent of me thinkin of suicide..
Then I thought maybe I should start looking for an African woman most especially Nigerian woman to be precise from my ethnic group.Mind u I didn't 't really care about what part of Nigeria she might come from.Until last year that I went to Nigeria and met few ladies but I only chose one as I am not ready for any trial.
To cut the long story short the Nigerian ladies that I have met are not quite better than the white ladies here...The only different is just the language and culture.
Maybe I ve been unlucky in finding a virtuous woman but my story is the same with many successful young guys I know back in 9ja.The only thing many 9ja girls think they have to offer is round mid-back and the front deep shop.
So maybe this might be one of the reasons our guys also see them as baby factory because that is all the ladies tend to offer.
Maybe if I ll be fortunate enough to meet a fine 9ja babe around Eastern Europe or anywhere around here,maybe I ll consider it.But until then,I remain a living alone married man..
I Don't blame anyone for their choice in marriage or for family.If u haven't walked in their shoes u might never know the reason behind their action.

justwise:
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Then narrow your argument. Yes I watched the video and that lady is far too clueless for 2016

Oh there's nothing clueless about me honey

I am an unquenchable fire

You can't deny there's more than an essence of truth in what I have said

Talk2Bella:


No it is not, from the comments so far we all can see it's a common practice

Of course it's, I don't have a single friend who has a wife in Nigeria and one here

bettercreature:
95% of Nigerian ladies abroad both hard working ones and lazy ones love SEX far more than water
Especially if you own an apartment,they would be begging you to have sex with them

You are almost correct but its only 60% of them.