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Re: Why Do Nigerian Men Come Back Home To Marry? by AKBliv010(m): 11:14am On Oct 24, 2016 |
icedbeatz: It's to do with both man and woman. Anyone pushed to the wall will fight back man or woman. Take the piss and get ready for the consequences. There are no laws in Nigeria that protect women like they exist in U.K./US...and if there are, they aren't enforced. Men go hear am pass for 9ja if they exist and enforced properly because we walk around with our cave man mentality. 4 Likes |
Re: Why Do Nigerian Men Come Back Home To Marry? by davidif: 11:14am On Oct 24, 2016 |
Talk2Bella: Short answer: because they can. |
Re: Why Do Nigerian Men Come Back Home To Marry? by mikolo80: 11:35am On Oct 24, 2016 |
KingCheezyPuff:you call him a fool yet you want him to believe you're not all ratchet 1 Like 1 Share |
Re: Why Do Nigerian Men Come Back Home To Marry? by Nobody: 11:38am On Oct 24, 2016 |
mikolo80:and he called us b!tches,now what does that make him? Yer logic....it's off 3 Likes |
Re: Why Do Nigerian Men Come Back Home To Marry? by Burgerlomo: 11:43am On Oct 24, 2016 |
icedbeatz: It's very pathetic, though not all of them are like that there is still some among them that are good, one just need to pray to God to provide him with his bone of bone or how do they say it, going to your village to marry and bring the person abroad doesn't give you a guarantee that the person is not going to f**k up, as a matter of fact they're the worst. 3 Likes |
Re: Why Do Nigerian Men Come Back Home To Marry? by mikolo80: 11:46am On Oct 24, 2016 |
AKBliv010:how we go hiaram No be woman de complain so Mgtow o guy Mgtow Na dem go still de find husband upandan |
Re: Why Do Nigerian Men Come Back Home To Marry? by Taryur3(m): 11:47am On Oct 24, 2016 |
KingCheezyPuff: |
Re: Why Do Nigerian Men Come Back Home To Marry? by mikolo80: 11:47am On Oct 24, 2016 |
KingCheezyPuff:he didn't call you a beach. |
Re: Why Do Nigerian Men Come Back Home To Marry? by Taryur3(m): 11:48am On Oct 24, 2016 |
KingCheezyPuff:Yes, I asked of your city...let me pm you for the rest. |
Re: Why Do Nigerian Men Come Back Home To Marry? by Nobody: 11:49am On Oct 24, 2016 |
icedbeatz:He called US b!tches and made some VERY ignorant assertions. ~~ Now AGIAN I ask you ,what does that make him? Ignorant/a fool, whichever word you prefer mikolo80: 1 Like |
Re: Why Do Nigerian Men Come Back Home To Marry? by Burgerlomo: 11:57am On Oct 24, 2016 |
icedbeatz: My advice to anybody in that situation is just to leave everything for God and allow her conscience to judge her instead of doing something stupid because the Bible says though shall not kill |
Re: Why Do Nigerian Men Come Back Home To Marry? by jasmineee(f): 11:59am On Oct 24, 2016 |
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Re: Why Do Nigerian Men Come Back Home To Marry? by Nobody: 12:00pm On Oct 24, 2016 |
Taryur3:but that's not fair Why can't you answer the thread |
Re: Why Do Nigerian Men Come Back Home To Marry? by davidif: 12:05pm On Oct 24, 2016 |
Talk2Bella: That picture is hilarious On a serious note, what's wrong with people getting married to someone of the same culture? |
Re: Why Do Nigerian Men Come Back Home To Marry? by SlimChay: 12:07pm On Oct 24, 2016 |
jasmineee:dear i'm not on bbm,lets do whatsapp instead..i'll send you a pm. |
Re: Why Do Nigerian Men Come Back Home To Marry? by Taryur3(m): 12:09pm On Oct 24, 2016 |
KingCheezyPuff:I based here...the rest u asked of is my private info that is shouldn't be discussed here.reply my pm if you care |
Re: Why Do Nigerian Men Come Back Home To Marry? by Nobody: 12:12pm On Oct 24, 2016 |
Marry who you fancy, i say! |
Re: Why Do Nigerian Men Come Back Home To Marry? by Nobody: 12:47pm On Oct 24, 2016 |
Bollinger: So, 1.you're the only Nigerian who treats his wife like a human being? 2. Anyone who is divorced is so because they don't treat their spouses like human beings? 3. You wouldn't be treating your spouse like a human being if you were in Nigeria? 4. What is denial of the obvious in my first post that you quoted? Isn't that the reason most Nigerian men come to pick a wife in Nigeria? 5. Isn't that obvious enough to you? 6. Is everyone who treats their spouse less than a human being in the US divorced? Try to present your points with logic. 3 Likes |
Re: Why Do Nigerian Men Come Back Home To Marry? by Talk2Bella(f): 12:54pm On Oct 24, 2016 |
davidif: Nothing so long it's genuine that's my point |
Re: Why Do Nigerian Men Come Back Home To Marry? by FarmTech(m): 1:00pm On Oct 24, 2016 |
lestat: justifying evil isn't the way forward. man was not created to act like a he-goat. imorality of any sort shud be condemn - whether it comes from a man or a woman. and also beware that a day of judgement is coming. so u can't just do all sort of evil and think I'll get away with. as for the ladies who will engage in s e x b4 marriage get ready for the consequences. don't blame the man but blame itself for such foolishness. 1 Like |
Re: Why Do Nigerian Men Come Back Home To Marry? by Bollinger(m): 1:11pm On Oct 24, 2016 |
SerRento: You are rambling as usual. You have not denied that the divorce laws in Nigeria are skewered in favor of men. You have not denied that the economic realities is the main reason women are scared to divorce their husbands in Nigeria. You have not denied that a man can wake up one morning and chase his wife out of their home with zero consequences. Even your president has pretty much summed up the attitude of men as regards their perception of women in Nigeria. Again, denying the obvious only perpetuates your ignorance. I wonder how you people think? 4 Likes 1 Share |
Re: Why Do Nigerian Men Come Back Home To Marry? by Nobody: 1:23pm On Oct 24, 2016 |
Bollinger: |
Re: Why Do Nigerian Men Come Back Home To Marry? by Nobody: 1:24pm On Oct 24, 2016 |
Bollinger: Lol. Look, we can do this back and forth till eternity. The divorce laws in Nigeria favour the man, the divorce laws in the US favour the woman; both laws are skewed towards a gender. You have not denied that men in the US would be ecstatic if the divorce laws in America were balanced. Unless, you're saying the divorce laws in the US are infallible and should, thus, be applied in Nigeria. You have not denied that women wake up and decide to divorce their husbands without consideration for his welfare. The women in Nigeria do not divorce for economic reasons, the women in the US divorce for economic reasons. In short, women love money. Read up on the drop in marriage rates in China after divorce laws were changed to not favour the woman. Women have little incentive to work when all their needs are met. You can also read up on that. Women would choose the kitchen over other spheres of life if they had to choose. I do not need to wonder how you think, I know already. You really don't think, you just regurgitate liberal talking points. If you want to see the end point of your western feminism and femcentrism, the Scandinavian axis there for you to study. There is nothing groundbreaking about your worldview, women in Finland and Sweden have been where your women wish to get to and they have discarded the bullshiit. Wake up and stop feeling like you're the only educated, civilised person on nairaland. The reason why you refuse to see my point of view is because you think yours is infallible. Travel more and see the world for what it is. Don't just sir down in your hut and let identity politics define your worldview for you. 3 Likes |
Re: Why Do Nigerian Men Come Back Home To Marry? by Nobody: 1:38pm On Oct 24, 2016 |
FarmTech: Agreed your comment is spot on |
Re: Why Do Nigerian Men Come Back Home To Marry? by davidif: 2:40pm On Oct 24, 2016 |
Talk2Bella: I agree with you on that. Some guys just want to marry someone who shares the same values that they have. Trust me, its hard to date someone you don't have even have the same common denominator with. My sister its a good thing to be married to someone that you share the same world view with: someone who understands you and how you see things and someone you can talk to about anything. 1 Like |
Re: Why Do Nigerian Men Come Back Home To Marry? by ogbonti: 2:42pm On Oct 24, 2016 |
this whole talk by bella is bulls. The gospel thruth is that the western world thrives on 2 things.... (1) pulling men down before women and (2) Mistrust. 1. pulling men down before women is UN-AFRICAN. Men are a little more valuable than robots, with their rights coming third behind women (First) Domesticated Animals (second) then Men (third) in that Order. If you dispute the pets having more rights than men in the Western world, go ask Michael Vicks of Philadelphia Eagles who was jailed for dog fighting 2. Mistrust, the USA for instance promotes mistrust due to overbearing capitalism. Every man is watching over his dollar and the easiest way to mess with your money is having an unvetted olosho[/i] coming to ruin your life because of relationships or marriage wahala. The marriage laws in western world is overprotective of women hence most men are just into nacking [i]congos and moving on. If i tell you the number of single "jaw dropping" beautiful women in my city, here in the USA, who have great jobs and living so well materially but no stable relationship or being married, you will scream until your throat dried up of saliva. Why ? because, Men dont want commitment .. wether white, black, asian or hispanic... SO WHAT IS THE PROBLEM? I hope bela is listening? An African taking out of his natural environment (Africa) is like fish out of water ... most of us live well materially each day in the west, but we are in sorrow as we are not living the life we intend to live; life of morals of a nuclear family, with father, mother and kids being brought up with love and respect and strict discipline. Bela, don't crucify your African brothers. many are still in the immigration system. some come home with paroles or temporary entrance permits with conditions that are scary. They do not have permanent resident cards so, or Citizenship... so if they decide to wait until they get permanent resident card, they may clock 70 easily. Another thing is most naija men are married to women they do not really love in the WEST... FACT! So, when kpali issues make a man marry a woman and before kpali comes, the woman starts hatching kids on the ground, what do u expect the man to do? It is not like naija where u can tell the woman to get out of ur house, NAH... so the man starts to endure. he contemplates ending the whole thing, to go back home and marry his African Queen, who he really loves and feels happy being with... BUT, if the kpali level spoil and he is deported, where will he start his life from?? Will you not be among the ones gossiping him that he traveled abroad and was deported achieving nothing? I beg, lets call a spade a spade! Do you know I have a family member who is 65, he came to the USA since age 25, he got married at 28 to an african american woman and they have 4 kids... eldest of the kids is 34, last born is 25, none of them have visited Nigeria and they do not hope to ever come. THINK ABOUT THE AGONY THIS MAN FACES EACH TIME HE VISITS NIGERIA.. he looks like a bachelor to members of his family in the village, he starts showing them pictures of his abroad family.... IF THAT IS YOUR RELATION, WILL YOU NOT ADVISE HIM TO GET A LADY PREGNANT AT HOME SO YOU CAN SEE HIS CHILD BEFORE HE DIES? it is easy to cast blame on western based African men living double lives . so, before you talk rubbish about our men, make sure you have actually lived in our circumstances or situations. You think say to get paper na moi moi for jand? mot guys will love to come home, marry their childhood love and settle well abroad, but paper wahala 90% of the time is the yawa... watch AWILO song, le problem de papier... and u will understand. I REST MY CASE! adefizzy: Buy the truth and sell it not, Proverbs 23:23 People dont want to hear the truth, that is why the world is a massive mess! |
Re: Why Do Nigerian Men Come Back Home To Marry? by Bollinger(m): 3:32pm On Oct 24, 2016 |
SerRento: Unfortunately I have a tasking I have to complete. Will enlighten you further when I get back. The focus will be to stress on not making opinions on issue you nothing about. The divorce laws in the West is not skewered to favor women. It favors common sense because it affects both men and women. You can never understand. Till I get back. |
Re: Why Do Nigerian Men Come Back Home To Marry? by erico2k2(m): 3:38pm On Oct 24, 2016 |
Burgerlomo:These days men do not bring wife back to the UK /US but leave them in Nigeria and relocate back hone.thats what's up now. |
Re: Why Do Nigerian Men Come Back Home To Marry? by Nobody: 3:38pm On Oct 24, 2016 |
Bollinger: Why should I take your word for it when other men who have suffered the bitter sting of these laws state otherwise? Are you an authority on divorce laws? . If millions of men who were born, brought up, married and divorced in America say the laws are trash why should it be you I believe? |
Re: Why Do Nigerian Men Come Back Home To Marry? by chrisj2(m): 4:24pm On Oct 24, 2016 |
Can I just add that going home to marry is not just about the doom and gloom that has been expressed in many of the comments to this thread. Also the same from the last 2 similar topics in the last 2 weeks. People need to also consider that it can be hard to really meet and know people when you are of a certain age and at a certain location; wherever you might be abroad... Furthermore, there is nothing wrong with arranged marriage - the two families are most likely to be properly invested in the relationship and the success of it rather than just marrying someone you have met independently for a short while and in a country where a lot of things are permissible and mediation can be hard to come by. At least, if things are going wrong with a Nja/Nja marriage, other family mediation and involvement might help. |
Re: Why Do Nigerian Men Come Back Home To Marry? by Nobody: 4:26pm On Oct 24, 2016 |
AKBliv010:don't call yourself caveman mentality.. don't do that to yourself.. have you ever wondered why every civilized human society across 7 continents had measures to ensure that women are kept in check..go to the bible Koran..Asia america even our old African tradition.. you think it was a coincidence? women in america basically have all the rights these days and they're abusing it..they're saying if you sit on a bus and spread your legs as a man its a sexual crime..if you have sex with a girl who is sober and one day in the future she decides to withdraw consent for something wet Don happen tey tey. you are a rapist..you need a girls consent in order to say hi to her..don't you see women are crazy and cannot handle authority..? oh and they allow women to abuse their partners and if he calls the police without evidence he goes to jail... don't wish something you know nothing about on yourself.. |
Re: Why Do Nigerian Men Come Back Home To Marry? by Nobody: 4:34pm On Oct 24, 2016 |
and its slowly soaking into our culture..girls no get respect again.. look at the equal rights movement of feminists..they just want more favour from the law.. they say no equal pay in jobs but men actually work the longest hours yet women want to get same pay for all their self given holidays ..they struggle for the good jobs and run away from life threatening jobs.. you go see..if world war 3 break now..girls go remember say guys na the stronger sex. me am ranting now because like play like play the same thing wey Don dey happen there Don dey come here o.. women now look for a rich guy..fool him into falling in love for her then after childbirth she'll openly cheat on you..get a divorce and take half of all your money with your retirement pension..marriage is just a deathtrap for those oyibo guys and they're avoiding it like a plague.. imagine if dem bring am here where our girls too like money at default and guys are already being stupid..we might not survive it o 2 Likes |
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