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Re: A Frustrated Woman by jouslaw1(m): 11:27pm On Oct 25, 2016 |
Thee simple trust is that, you should ask him to stop the MARRIAGE..... Tell him you would have the baby out of WEDLOCK, don't force the marriage on him untill he see it worthy of doing with you else then don't be together because it is dangerous for you and the kid..... It's better you Care for your child as a single mother than living with a man who will soon start beating you on a daily basis... The shame in office will passby soon, agree to tell people that the love is no more within you people and you prefer to start separately and take care of your baby together. 1 Like 1 Share |
Re: A Frustrated Woman by qualitylux(m): 11:28pm On Oct 25, 2016 |
madam... from ur story, it s confirmed d guy doesn't love. Dont go ahead with d marriage. stop cooking for him, expect he buys d cooking materials or gives u d money to buy d material and do d cooking. Also,eat seperately. if i should suggest, raising and catering for a child as single mother wit ur meagre salary wil be a heavy and difficult burden on u. i think an abotion wit be a better idea in dis case. this wil help u delete all memories u hav abt him, kip u focus, and sustain urself on ur salary. if asked abt d pregrency, u can lie u had a miscarriage. the mistake has been made, and u hav learnt ur lesson. moreso, the abortion s necessary, coz u nid to kip body and soul together, move out to a better place wen ur current rent expires, and also feed well. think about the effect of dis current recession on ur well-being, should u give birth to d baby. can ur current salary foot ur upkeeps? |
Re: A Frustrated Woman by TheGoodJoe(m): 11:28pm On Oct 25, 2016 |
Maaamaaa I hope you get to see this. It is not the end of the World if you bring a child into the World without being married. I believe your heart breaks but it will hurt more if you marry someone who does not love you. He loves the other woman and you deserve a man who will love you. You guys are not yet married but he finds you disgusting. Think of how much he will hate you after he marries you. Your beautiful child is on the way and you will get the chance to give and receive love from the child until you find a man who loves you. Do not marry a man you know he does not love you. 1 Like |
Re: A Frustrated Woman by TheGoodJoe(m): 11:32pm On Oct 25, 2016 |
Irishrena1: The hatred he has for her will grow. I think it is better the child grows in a single home than a home filled with hatred. 1 Like |
Re: A Frustrated Woman by Nobody: 11:33pm On Oct 25, 2016 |
rosalieene: You are misreading what's going on. There is nothing wrong in seeing a guy that you like or love and telling him your feelings. But everything is wrong in getting pregnant when you are or he is not ready. Even a man who professes love for you can still ask you to abort an unplanned or unwanted pregnancy, the same reason married people still abort pregnancies. Love should drive a decision to get married but preparedness the one to have babies. Love is never a substitute for careful planning, and if one is not careful what it's called love can rapidly turn to hatred. 1 Like |
Re: A Frustrated Woman by thelish(f): 11:33pm On Oct 25, 2016 |
Dyt: I like u sha. lol |
Re: A Frustrated Woman by Nobody: 11:33pm On Oct 25, 2016 |
I have always been in love with NAIRALAND for a long time but I can't describe how elated I felt presently ....I AM NOW A NAIRALANDER!!! This forum rocks!... Whenever I feel down,I will just click on naira land on my bookmarks and enjoy reading the comments without being able to reply but now I CAN REPLY! Happy mood. 2 Likes |
Re: A Frustrated Woman by thelish(f): 11:35pm On Oct 25, 2016 |
Maaamaaa: Which kind person be this?? Ajebor for love |
Re: A Frustrated Woman by afbstrategies: 11:37pm On Oct 25, 2016 |
I wish you luck but I see an immature man who is unwilling to grow up. I don't feel bad for you but for the baby. You should have used protection if you are not ready for what you are getting from him right now. Good luck. 1 Like |
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Re: A Frustrated Woman by obowunmi(m): 11:40pm On Oct 25, 2016 |
Just walk away. Accept your mistake and walk away. |
Re: A Frustrated Woman by chronique(m): 11:46pm On Oct 25, 2016 |
@ OP: do not marry that guy for now cos the signs of a scary future stares you in the face but you're trying to turn a blind eye to it. At this point, there's nothing to be ashamed of. Sit your parents down and explain all that has happened to them, and why you're making this decision. There's no point tryna save his face or hide anything. Tell the dude I said he is shameless. A squatter who should have respected his squatting status, ended up going to put his dick in a pussy he can't afford to take care of, and was stupid enough to go in without rainboots. He now realizes he loves the other girl. Any man who doesn't have respect for himself, is disgusting. Pls, stop cooking for him and start saving your little change cos sooner or later, you'll need it. If the shameless dude wants to die of hunger, let him die. How can a sensible man even think of squatting with a woman over a period of time; for what? Just move on with your life and don't attempt to make it worse by going on with wedding plans. Spill the beans and let everyone go their way. You self, try to use wisdom next time and do not give out free accommodation, food and pussy, at the same time except you know your name is sister charity. |
Re: A Frustrated Woman by Nobody: 11:50pm On Oct 25, 2016 |
Maaamaaa:u are not ready to do anything, trust me is all in ur head, lemme propose to you will u marry me with ur baby? U did nothing bad buh u should have protection anywhere u deserve nothing buh happiness and love, take things easy |
Re: A Frustrated Woman by QuietHammer(m): 11:50pm On Oct 25, 2016 |
ItsQuinn:Wow. A reasonable comment from you today 1 Like |
Re: A Frustrated Woman by Mendeblack21(m): 11:50pm On Oct 25, 2016 |
Please be careful when you make decisions base on the advice you are getting here. Everybody is blaming you for everything. Everybody is telling you to break up the relationship and stop the wedding. I disagree with them. The truth is no relationship is perfect. Most of the people advising you to quit are either not married or experiencing worst yet, they are still living with their men. My advice to you is stop nagging. Try not to win all arguments and stop saying horrible things to him. Men are men filled with ego and superiority. When he is in bad mood don't provoke him the more and be nice to him. He will change when you realise you are the problem. He will be the best husband and a father when you gives birth. I experienced this with my fiancee (now my wife) before we got married 1 Like |
Re: A Frustrated Woman by Uptown7(m): 11:53pm On Oct 25, 2016 |
He's confused. Seek a marriage councillor. |
Re: A Frustrated Woman by Nobody: 11:54pm On Oct 25, 2016 |
Mimzyy: Thumbs up Mimzyy |
Re: A Frustrated Woman by Nobody: 11:58pm On Oct 25, 2016 |
Maaamaaa:Please try and move on Cos you won't enjoy that marriage o... Forget about what the society has to say and look out for your happiness cos in the end, that's all that matters. |
Re: A Frustrated Woman by Nobody: 12:02am On Oct 26, 2016 |
Zceesneh:Did u just ask d op to marry you? |
Re: A Frustrated Woman by Nobody: 12:02am On Oct 26, 2016 |
Thank you QuietHammer: |
Re: A Frustrated Woman by chronique(m): 12:02am On Oct 26, 2016 |
Maaamaaa: Furcke it!!! The dude is a prick! He is a user and not a responsible person. 1 Like |
Re: A Frustrated Woman by therapistmrs: 12:02am On Oct 26, 2016 |
One thing i'm very sure is that you never marry anybody out of pity.IT'S A COMPLETE NO NO.if you are not happy then think about what you about to get yourself into.Remember that being pregnant does not mean you must marry the person.the most important to you should be your happiness.it's always better as a woman to marry a man that guninely loves you. Wish you all the best. |
Re: A Frustrated Woman by mcdreeezy: 12:03am On Oct 26, 2016 |
Maaamaaa:Everyone make mistakes, shiit happens. I do hope that you find the strength to come out strong in this phase of your life. All the best ma'am. |
Re: A Frustrated Woman by Carsonv(m): 12:04am On Oct 26, 2016 |
Maaamaaa: I don't know how deep my comment would have gone but I sincerely hope you read it. I was in this same situation. Had this girl I love and wanted to marry but wasn't ready to marry just yet but somehow she got pregnant and I felt she did that to trap me. Long story short, though I controlled myself not to show how much I hated the situation it still showed. I've handled it and we happy as ever. Now your man is likely getting sad for 2 things 1. He feels you intentionally did it...and you forced yourself inot his life. Maybe you did but from experience it may not be for same reasons you did. 2. He's not ready to lose the emotional bachelor freedom to go after other women And unmentioned 3 3. He's really scared of the financial pressure that may follow all this. Now instead of fighting him, you should do the following : 1. Assure him that with the two of you fighting together you guys will overcome the future and coming challenges and the need to stick together. No matter how he feels you guys are in this together and need to work as a team else your loved are ruined forever. 2. Show him you don't actually NEED him to survive cos right now he feels he's the center of your existence. Be strong, live life, bounce back, cease crying, love your work, hustle like a boss lady. When he sees you holding your end he'll know he's actually just a bloody employee earning salary. And he might rethink his actions. 3. Support him emotionally too...whenever u see he needs it. Trust he'll need very often. And try to make him feel like nothing had changed, he can still be the whoever young chap he was and you can still be the sweet sassy lady or whatever you were. Just try to show him nothing much changes BTW you guys. ..it's a lie that will help. Remember fake it till you make it. Then finally you guys need to hustle like never before. My whole point is that you might need to be the bigger person right now till he comes around to take his rightful place. You guys are in it for the long haul...better just find a way to make it work than ruining the rest of your lives. I know somehow you wanted the pregnancy but that's no longer necessary now. The good thing that happened to me is that I'm doing way better than I was before the marriage and I love my wife like crazy. She's the most caring and selfless woman I've met and my baby girl is an additional bundle of joy. So how you decide to handle this will ruin or lift your lives! I wish you the best. *Edited* I just saw people saying walk away. You're just in the first marriage test and you want to run? Please don't take that advice. Work on your marriage and your man. If you run you'll keep running. P.S. This will most likely not be the last time you'll feel like running so hey prepared. 3 Likes |
Re: A Frustrated Woman by crunchyg: 12:06am On Oct 26, 2016 |
Maaamaaa:Girl hear this one thing, put the wedding on hold get things straight with the guy before you can proceed with the wedding plan, if you are able to talk this out and get his live back then proceed but if not allow sleeping dog to lie. They say a broken engagement is way better than a broken marriage. My humble advice |
Re: A Frustrated Woman by Goldenprinz(m): 12:06am On Oct 26, 2016 |
Dear sorry for what has happened..... please stop making dis guy look so special dat he tinks u can't live ur life without him........is high time u put ur self together nd let him realise is jxt ntin. Don't take him like a god again let him realise u ar ahead of him 1 Like |
Re: A Frustrated Woman by Odani: 12:08am On Oct 26, 2016 |
carammel: Pls how exactly is she a home breaker was he ever married to the woman. Her only crime here is dat she fell in love . And to you my lady the dude never loved u he only took pity on you and now he's tired, my advice is u don't marry him cos all the signs are there now and it wud only get worse after marriage. This one no b prayer matter o be wise now |
Re: A Frustrated Woman by QuietHammer(m): 12:08am On Oct 26, 2016 |
ItsQuinn:I should apologize. I've been very mean yet you never responded harshly |
Re: A Frustrated Woman by Nobody: 12:09am On Oct 26, 2016 |
Nma27:she won't take it serious, her heart is somewhere else |
Re: A Frustrated Woman by oluspicy: 12:09am On Oct 26, 2016 |
Dyt: That's one of Martin Luther King Jnr's quote, not Seal7. |
Re: A Frustrated Woman by delerx(m): 12:11am On Oct 26, 2016 |
There's nothing like shame dear. Bleep those who mock you cos u r pregnant I bet u some of them can't even get pregnant. Be proud of your pregnancy. That thing is rare these days. Maaamaaa: 1 Like |
Re: A Frustrated Woman by cangoallnyt: 12:13am On Oct 26, 2016 |
Dyt:nice words from u i pray u have more wisdom u are d only person who ignored prejudice,instead u tried to show care and understanding May God bless nobody is perfect |
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