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Re: My Friend Is Cheating On His Wife, Putting Me In A Tight Situation by MarieSucre(f): 12:59pm On Nov 14, 2016 |
goingape1: Neither is it your home. but unlike you my view point is fighting so a home won't be broken up through HIV and death. What do you stand for? 1 Like |
Re: My Friend Is Cheating On His Wife, Putting Me In A Tight Situation by goingape1: 1:00pm On Nov 14, 2016 |
nubian999:don't open ya yansh for your husband for more than 6months and know whos fault is it |
Re: My Friend Is Cheating On His Wife, Putting Me In A Tight Situation by Nobody: 1:00pm On Nov 14, 2016 |
adedayoa2: My orientation is not bad.. Am living my career dreams already. U know why? Cause I started early in life, focused on my studies , graduated from the University in an early age, went straight into entrepreneurship, I own 2 companies, no be brag... I made my First million at age 27years old and have set up women both single and married to be entrepreneurs and self independent.. God knows have made an impact in this world, cause most of. My proteges are all over the world, doing what I taught them, and they are making it.. Am here, am. Humble , because this is who I am.. I don't live fake life, or carry my achievements on. My head.. Everything have achieved so far is by God's grace.. And am single but dating a loving man who admires me in every way. And also guess what ?am just 31years old Living my career dreams. 1 Like |
Re: My Friend Is Cheating On His Wife, Putting Me In A Tight Situation by Urukpe: 1:00pm On Nov 14, 2016 |
MarieSucre: Yes it does sometimes. In science negative times negative is positive. lol |
Re: My Friend Is Cheating On His Wife, Putting Me In A Tight Situation by Charly68: 1:01pm On Nov 14, 2016 |
Why walking with a cassanova as friend,your eyes will be cleared when he starts sleeping around with your wife. There are people you don't tolerate around you except you are birds of the same feather. Remember that accompany of a fool shall be regarded as a fool also. |
Re: My Friend Is Cheating On His Wife, Putting Me In A Tight Situation by goingape1: 1:02pm On Nov 14, 2016 |
Caracta:get out! |
Re: My Friend Is Cheating On His Wife, Putting Me In A Tight Situation by Nobody: 1:02pm On Nov 14, 2016 |
Re: My Friend Is Cheating On His Wife, Putting Me In A Tight Situation by xynerise: 1:03pm On Nov 14, 2016 |
For whatever reasons, my wife should not stay away from home for more than a month. Masters or Ph.D abroad is not my business. Every human has a limit to what he/she can endure. Don't get me wrong, I am not trying to defend what the Op's friend did but he must have had a limit to what he can endure. I can't endure not being with my woman for more than a month. That's torture from the pit of hell..Haba 1 Like 2 Shares |
Re: My Friend Is Cheating On His Wife, Putting Me In A Tight Situation by MrTour: 1:04pm On Nov 14, 2016 |
Wait we need to ask buhari. |
Re: My Friend Is Cheating On His Wife, Putting Me In A Tight Situation by goingape1: 1:06pm On Nov 14, 2016 |
MarieSucre:most things in marriage are easily avoidable! she most have know the type of man she is marrying before venture into that marriage. don't tell me you won't know a cheating man miles away? |
Re: My Friend Is Cheating On His Wife, Putting Me In A Tight Situation by RoadsAndGreen(m): 1:06pm On Nov 14, 2016 |
MarieSucre:oh now i get where you coming but how does this change anything? life is not fair baby. no one chooses to be a male or female, beautiful or ugly. sex driven or not... everyone just want to be happy, by doing so we trample on others and cost them pain. finding the perfect solution to situations is best. that's why I said both of them are wrong. in life you need to have scale of preference. you need to sacrifice dreams to fulfil other dreams. if you love your family you need to school closer. 1 Like |
Re: My Friend Is Cheating On His Wife, Putting Me In A Tight Situation by adedayoa2(f): 1:06pm On Nov 14, 2016 |
Amelian:that's you, I am also 31, living my dreams gunning for more. Some people don't have the opportunity we had. I don't blame the woman at all, what if it was the man that went to study and he cheated, who would you blame? The guy in question is just a cheat. 4 Likes |
Re: My Friend Is Cheating On His Wife, Putting Me In A Tight Situation by VERDA: 1:06pm On Nov 14, 2016 |
Fiwasayo: While it's disappointing that some people are blaming the wife and i think the man should be held completely responsible for the possible crash of his marraige,relationships are very complicated and require constant planning and attention to nuture,men and women are totally different when it comes to certain needs,especially after their basic need for food water and shelter are met and higher goals are aimed at,while sexual gratification is not nearly as important for the woman,for the man it is high up,this is not an excuse for the mans lack of control but a word of caution to wives who underestimate this need,i dont know the guy so not sure if he cheats normaly,they have been together for long and should know needs they each have that needs relatively frequent gratification and factor it into their final decision with both willing to make certain sacrifices.While i think its her right to pursue higher qualifications,6 months to 1 year might be too long a period to be away from ur spouse in my opinion,arragements should be made to see each other at 3 to 4 months interval.Might be a lil expensive though,an expense that may be well worth it. |
Re: My Friend Is Cheating On His Wife, Putting Me In A Tight Situation by Nobody: 1:07pm On Nov 14, 2016 |
nubian999: Am not hating anyone.. Have made a mark on my own through God's grace.. And anybody can have PhD. Simply read below: And tell. Me who her PHD epp? Am living my career dreams already. U know why? Cause I started early in life, focused on my studies , graduated from the University in an early age, went straight into entrepreneurship, I own 2 companies, no be brag... I made my First million at age 27years old and have set up women both single and married to be entrepreneurs and self independent.. God knows have made an impact in this world, cause most of. My proteges are all over the world, doing what I taught them, and they are making it.. Am here, am. Humble , because this is who I am.. I don't live fake life, or carry my achievements on. My head.. Everything have achieved so far is by God's grace.. And am single but dating a loving man who admires me in every way. And also guess what ? am just 31years old Living my career dreams. |
Re: My Friend Is Cheating On His Wife, Putting Me In A Tight Situation by Nobody: 1:11pm On Nov 14, 2016 |
Amelian: R.I.P to English I hope your dream career doesn't require you to write in English 4 Likes |
Re: My Friend Is Cheating On His Wife, Putting Me In A Tight Situation by AuroraB(f): 1:11pm On Nov 14, 2016 |
merahki:Such a shame men are the ones trying to knock some sense into her medulla To her; she's the one to wait out on her man to get a PhD What a shame 2 Likes |
Re: My Friend Is Cheating On His Wife, Putting Me In A Tight Situation by isnovic(m): 1:12pm On Nov 14, 2016 |
[b]Be elevated all you want, it is what it is, men are simply moved by what they see. your presence helps dissuade so many habits by your spouse, male and female alike. This sense of woman liberation will vanish to thin air when push comes to shove. When it happens to you, then your quick words and unnecessary grammar will be looking for the street smartness the ladies here, are offering you for free. If you value other things like education, careers and money please do not marry until you get enough of them. As you can not serve both masters, believe me being married takes all of you. If you are married and intends to stay so, negotiate your actions whether studies or career with your spouse, if both can reasonably stay off sex then you may, if not pay for him or her to come with you while you study/work as most men do. Who says it is only the men that must pay for the wife to come along if, he is travelling to study or work in a different country. For this is the actual cost of the work or education, not the tuition. You can win on both sides if you are half as smart as you claim. [/b] DarkRebel101: 1 Like |
Re: My Friend Is Cheating On His Wife, Putting Me In A Tight Situation by nowpresence(f): 1:12pm On Nov 14, 2016 |
The reason the op is acting this way is because he has a crush on the wife. Advice to the op is that he should mind his business. This is a grown up man who is aware of the consequence of his actions and so like wise the man's wife, as human most have thought of the danger of leaving her husband for such a long time. And nobody knows if she is even sleeping with someone where she schools. We are all human, we have needs that should be met at some point even if you don't mean to hurt someone. So @op I will advice you to stay out of this and pretend you did not see or notice anything. Let the both of them handle their mess or you that a chance of being in the center of their drama. You have done enough by speaking to him and let it end there. And least I forget, it's OK to have a crush but don't let your emotions to lead do something that you will regret. 1 Like |
Re: My Friend Is Cheating On His Wife, Putting Me In A Tight Situation by Nobody: 1:15pm On Nov 14, 2016 |
dominique: I now see why there are so many divorce cases out there.. You women are the cause of your marriages breaking up.. I pity your boyfriends , your fiances and yours husbands if any of u here are married or dating.. Am a full blooded lady, but I don't think like the typical Nigerian woman.. And am proud of who I am.. Take it or leave it! 1 Like |
Re: My Friend Is Cheating On His Wife, Putting Me In A Tight Situation by Urukpe: 1:16pm On Nov 14, 2016 |
CecyAdrian: u dey talk like say u dey school with her. What stop her from coming home for more than six months na? master degree is not two years marathon, there is usually holidays |
Re: My Friend Is Cheating On His Wife, Putting Me In A Tight Situation by MarieSucre(f): 1:16pm On Nov 14, 2016 |
RoadsAndGreen: No both of them are not wrong. One of them is wrong. The woman is not breaking her marriage vows anymore than the man would if he were the one travelling abroad for his masters. The man is defiling his matrimonial bed. Call a ♠ a spade and stop making excuses for adultery. 5 Likes 1 Share |
Re: My Friend Is Cheating On His Wife, Putting Me In A Tight Situation by xynerise: 1:17pm On Nov 14, 2016 |
Wait, some people are asking the Op to mind his business because it is the man caught cheating abi? If it is the woman, I know a lot of people especially the guys will be first to say "report the bitc''h" to your friend if you care about him. My advise to intending couple, please don't agree to what you cannot endure. Maybe you don't know that staying a bit far from each other for a long time can disorganise your psychology. Sex dey sweet die..and she must be around when it is your peak period. You guys just don't get it. That is why most people cheat. 2 Likes |
Re: My Friend Is Cheating On His Wife, Putting Me In A Tight Situation by MarieSucre(f): 1:18pm On Nov 14, 2016 |
goingape1: So it's now her fault? Why can't men take responsibility for once. -She did not pamper me well. -She did not fly from a storey building and die. -She did not dress like Kim Kardashian. What about you? Yes you? Will your leg break if you decide to be a good person? Or are you excusing the man's cheating? 2 Likes 1 Share |
Re: My Friend Is Cheating On His Wife, Putting Me In A Tight Situation by Nobody: 1:18pm On Nov 14, 2016 |
MizzD: Deus te benedicat |
Re: My Friend Is Cheating On His Wife, Putting Me In A Tight Situation by MarieSucre(f): 1:19pm On Nov 14, 2016 |
Urukpe: Kontinuu I hope you don't fall victim to a cheating spouse. |
Re: My Friend Is Cheating On His Wife, Putting Me In A Tight Situation by AuroraB(f): 1:19pm On Nov 14, 2016 |
Amelian:You are messed up. Did the husband complain? Did he give the excuse or you chose to hold brief for him albeit without pay? You can see men letting you know you got it wrong! Your mentality could be infectious! You are afraid of your husband marrying a second wife or what? I guess if he does... inukwa okwu 2 Likes |
Re: My Friend Is Cheating On His Wife, Putting Me In A Tight Situation by RoadsAndGreen(m): 1:22pm On Nov 14, 2016 |
MarieSucre:you don't even know the significance of your status "we are prisoners to our own desires" what a shame |
Re: My Friend Is Cheating On His Wife, Putting Me In A Tight Situation by arosunshine(m): 1:24pm On Nov 14, 2016 |
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Re: My Friend Is Cheating On His Wife, Putting Me In A Tight Situation by SmartyPants(m): 1:25pm On Nov 14, 2016 |
ephi123: Lol alright we can agree to disagree then. But let me restate that i do not endorse cheating. It is vile and a sin before God and man. |
Re: My Friend Is Cheating On His Wife, Putting Me In A Tight Situation by TheNonce: 1:25pm On Nov 14, 2016 |
nubian999: Your preaching to the choir as long as your trying to convince that child chiam! She's exhibiting the classic naija woman syndrome when it comes to marriage! For example.. "I'm married so I don't need to better myself or further my prospects since my husband has promised my siblings, folks and village people that I'm going to be well looked after by him and if I keep up my end of the bargain with the cooking, cleaning, _shagging and the kids then our utopian marriage is guaranteed" Eventually women like her all learn the truth about marriage and relationships, either when they are in it or at this trial stage! Let her enjoy her Alice years for a little while until REALITY BITES! Lol..... 2 Likes |
Re: My Friend Is Cheating On His Wife, Putting Me In A Tight Situation by goingape1: 1:27pm On Nov 14, 2016 |
MarieSucre:yes! because this world doesn't acknowledged good person! many good men have been turn to monster because of the like of ya women! this particular one is her own fault and nothing but her faults! I have seen many women who work at bank crying because of this same stuff! you don't have time for ya husband who did you think will have time for him? of cause the next woman available! if she is at home and he is cheating on her that will be a different story and he is at fault for that! that excuse is legitimate because she cause it herself 1 Like |
Re: My Friend Is Cheating On His Wife, Putting Me In A Tight Situation by tintingz(m): 1:29pm On Nov 14, 2016 |
SmartyPants:How do you know he's not cheating before the wife traveled? Because the OP didn't mention that doesn't mean he has not been cheating before she traveled. The difference is it was not obvious until she traveled. Again you can't change a man's sexual life. If he lacks self control, monitoring or being present will not even change anything especially in Africa where men get away with anything. 1 Like |
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