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How Materialistic Nigerian Ladies Are, And How All They Want Is Money by bobbybrown007: 12:36pm On Nov 28, 2016 |
I used to cringe and get angry whenever I heard or
read aboutI used to cringe and get angry whenever I heard or
read about how materialistic Nigerian ladies are, and
how all they want is money. But I stopped as I grew
older and started dating. Not because my brain
matured into accepting such bullshit, but because I
began to see things that justified the statement.
- I saw my friend dump a boyfriend who was treating
her so well just because he couldn't sponsor her
birthday party.
- A cousin of mine filled my ears with nonsense talks
about how her boyfriend could not afford to buy her
designers. Of course, she eventually dumped him for
his 'poverty'.
- I saw girls go into relationships just to financially
drain the unlucky guys... by the way, this is
prostitution.
Although I had seen so many things already, I still
didn't want to believe the stereotype till a friend of
mine broke up an engagement because the young
man who only just started working three months
before, refused to take a loan of two million naira to
sponsor a wedding of her taste.... which she thought
was a taboo for her to contribute a penny to.
*****
I couldn't get used to seeing girls from much poorer
homes than I was spending like I wouldn't dare.
These are girls who don't work, and whose parents
can hardly pay their rents. These expenses were
always courtesy of the men they dated..
I still find it strange, I don't know how they do it. How
do these girls confidently walk up to a man who isn't
their father to demand for things their fathers can't
afford to offer them? Girls, how do you lot do it?
Listen girls, these men are NOT responsible for you.
If you want anything, work hard for those things. Stop
depending on these men. Always remember that you
cannot get everything you want, but you've got to
learn to be happy and content with what you can
offer yourself while you work harder for more.
Financial independence is a non-negotiable
prerequisite for gender equality.
Demanding equality from a man who takes full
responsibility of all your expenses because you have
conditioned him to such is like eating your cake and
still trying to have it. That's demonic.
The fight against gender inequality will remain
hampered as long as the average Nigerian woman
remains comfortable with being financially
dependent on a man, and as long as she thinks it is
her right to be catered for by a man..... because he
who pays the piper, dictates the tune.. But I stopped as I grew
older and started dating. Not because my brain
matured into accepting such bullshit, but because I
began to see things that justified the statement.
- I saw my friend dump a boyfriend who was treating
her so well just because he couldn't sponsor her
birthday party.
- A cousin of mine filled my ears with nonsense talks
about how her boyfriend could not afford to buy her
designers. Of course, she eventually dumped him for
his 'poverty'.
- I saw girls go into relationships just to financially
drain the unlucky guys... by the way, this is
prostitution.
Although I had seen so many things already, I still
didn't want to believe the stereotype till a friend of
mine broke up an engagement because the young
man who only just started working three months
before, refused to take a loan of two million naira to
sponsor a wedding of her taste.... which she thought
was a taboo for her to contribute a penny to.
*****
I couldn't get used to seeing girls from much poorer
homes than I was spending like I wouldn't dare.
These are girls who don't work, and whose parents
can hardly pay their rents. These expenses were
always courtesy of the men they dated..
I still find it strange, I don't know how they do it. How
do these girls confidently walk up to a man who isn't
their father to demand for things their fathers can't
afford to offer them? Girls, how do you lot do it?
Listen girls, these men are NOT responsible for you.
If you want anything, work hard for those things. Stop
depending on these men. Always remember that you
cannot get everything you want, but you've got to
learn to be happy and content with what you can
offer yourself while you work harder for more.
Financial independence is a non-negotiable
prerequisite for gender equality.
Demanding equality from a man who takes full
responsibility of all your expenses because you have
conditioned him to such is like eating your cake and
still trying to have it. That's demonic.
The fight against gender inequality will remain
hampered as long as the average Nigerian woman
remains comfortable with being financially
dependent on a man, and as long as she thinks it is
her right to be catered for by a man..... because he
who pays the piper, dictates the tune. 2 Likes |
Re: How Materialistic Nigerian Ladies Are, And How All They Want Is Money by Bamz555: 12:37pm On Nov 28, 2016 |
Time To Break My Silence. Each time I try to keep silence my conscience won't let me be,just as I recall one that the man in me dies when I keep mute in the place of oppression. Yes I used the word oppression here to justify the suffix on the unjust rustication of a 200L student of the prestigious university of Abuja my alma-mater by the disciplinary panel of the institution because he mobilised students for the peaceful NLC protest over the sudden increment of fuel pump price. Peaceful protest is not a crime in any sane society and why would that of Ameh Destiny be different? The likes of Late Obafemi Awolowo And Nnamdi Azikiwe Zik of Africa fought and protested for the liberation and emancipation of this nation and Africa students during the colonial era. Segun Okeowo of this world also fought and led many struggle for the emancipation and liberation from the shackles of the oppressor. I therefore call on civil society, human rights activist, union leaders both present and past, the leadership of National Association of Nigeria students national body led by Comrade Aruna Kadiri Nans Jcc Fct Axis led by Comrade Abubakar Yahaya M and other concerned comrades to rise and come to the rescue of this young man. Amanga Awetu! We Shall Not Relent!! Okeke Nnaemeka Rolland #WeDemandJustice #BringBackOurDestiny #BringBackOurDestiny #BringBackOurDestiny *BringBackOurDestiny*! *BringBackOurDestiny*!! *BringBackOurDestiny*!!! The entire Unibuja students demand the reinstatement of Comr. Ameh Destiny or show Comr. Felix the exit door too. 1 Like |
Re: How Materialistic Nigerian Ladies Are, And How All They Want Is Money by Nobody: 1:18pm On Nov 28, 2016 |
Not all Nigerian girls are materialistic. There are exceptions! |
Re: How Materialistic Nigerian Ladies Are, And How All They Want Is Money by Mekzyzeus(m): 1:42pm On Nov 28, 2016 |
Oh well... I honestly don't know how the materialistic ladies think! I keep on wondering "how they will address their male siblings should one stupid girl imposes her bills on them?". Why ask for what you and your family can't even afford ?? |
Re: How Materialistic Nigerian Ladies Are, And How All They Want Is Money by Laveda(f): 1:45pm On Nov 28, 2016 |
Another BS. I care less. |
Re: How Materialistic Nigerian Ladies Are, And How All They Want Is Money by makydebbie(f): 1:48pm On Nov 28, 2016 |
Bamz555: Oga you have been breaking silence since morning What's up? |
Re: How Materialistic Nigerian Ladies Are, And How All They Want Is Money by Frankraj: 3:43pm On Nov 28, 2016 |
The issue is that most men are usually stupid . Come to think of it girls don't really force men to give them money .but the problem is that we the guys have failed to appreciate ourselves, one useless girl ask me to buy a her a new phone last week and I refused now my money is still intact with me.. this same useless girl keep begging me to buy her food whenever I come to her shop .this a girl that owns a botique ooh. Nigerian girls are so stupid and useless 1 Like |
Re: How Materialistic Nigerian Ladies Are, And How All They Want Is Money by Bamz555: 5:07pm On Dec 29, 2022 |
makydebbie:Na mistake oh� |
Re: How Materialistic Nigerian Ladies Are, And How All They Want Is Money by FalseProphet1(m): 5:22pm On Dec 29, 2022 |
Can't you make use of paragraph, the way you compressed your article it's almost impossible to read. This I have seen. |
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