KingRex1:
The right guy may come along, but since you've resorted to having a side bf, it would all go wrong again.
And then you'll come back with a new thread.. 'if he has these qualities, he's the one, don't keep a side bf'

Sexytemi:
After reading toke makinwa's book "on becoming" I'm of the idea that if toke had had a back up plan, a guy she could count on if her boyfriend at that time maje(later ex husband) was in his usual act of cheating then maybe he would have taken her serious and respected her more..
I've been there where I gave my all into a relationship and was very loyal to my guy and yet after 5yrs of dating he decided I wasn't good enough for him, and left me stranded, it wasn't funny because I saw the signs but like every other girl in love, I ignored the signs and also ignored guys that would or might have made me more happier than he ever made me.
A friend of mine started dating a guy, and she got to realize he was cheating on her, and not only was he cheating but with a girl so young, when my friend confronted him, this guy practically lied and denied everything even he knew my friend saw all the evidences he still blamed her, and she asked me what she did wrong, all she ever did was love and give him all of her, she ignored all guys because of this guy yet he threw her love to the dogs.
Then another of my friend met up with a guy and ohh she fell for his charm, this my friend has had a fair share in the heart break department, her heart has been broken not once, twice and not even thrice. when she chatted me up and said"babe I've met a guy and he loves me with his all, babe he wants to marry me and babe thank God for me" I got to admit I was happy for her and in fact I thank God on her behalf and used her case as a testimony of good things to happen, I tap into her good luck and believe someday I'd also meet a guy who would love me as much as her guy did, little did I know the guy was nothing short of bastard, a guy who makes ladies curse other guys, a guy who is a disgrace to other guys...this guy impregnated my friend and made her father chase her out of the house, with nowhere to go she moved in with him and got to know who he really was, this guy still went after girls, cheats on my friend even in her condition, lodge in different hotels with different girls, and whenever she confronts him he denies it to her face, and in my friend's voice"babe, I'm so scared of him, he lies so much that when he greets me good morning I go out to make sure its really morning", and I'm sure we all know its wrong for a pregnant lady to think, but oh my friend is always thinking and sad all because she fell in love with an ahole and was loyal.

And this makes me wonder is it wrong for ladies to be loyal in their relationships?, is it a bad thing to fall in love and give you her all?, is it a crime for ladies to do all just to please their guys?, and why can't guys just be faithful to their ladies?. and my answers to these questions is just for ladies to have side boyfriends, with a side boyfriends you won't have the fear of the main guy waking up one day and leaving you for another girl, you won't have the heart attack of thinking of what your boyfriend is doing at the moment, and you won't be so involved in the life of your boyfriend for him to tell you you are choking him or think less of you.

agbonkamen:
this is a good ideal, just same way car owners has spear tyre

Benita27:
To think Toke wrote down all that transpired between her and her bf later husband on that book is to believe Buhari will make N1 equal $1 before he leaves office.

Poo happens and because some1 cheated on you isn't a guarantee that all the guys who'll come your way will be cheats.

"All men are not the same" cheating isn't an option for me.

BabaRamota1980:


Dont do that. You are patching the problem, you are not fixing it.

Sexytemi:



All men aren't cheats, but 90% are.

BiafranBushBoy:
Please I am available as a Side boyfriend..


I can submit my CV ...

Sexytemi:


No vacancy o

Benita27:
What a sweeping generalisation!.
Men have the inclination to cheat, it's natural but i can't say 90% are cheats cos i haven't done any survey on that.

Have seen guys who detest cheating, and real men don't play games, boys do.

BiafranBushBoy:


Do you have a side boyfriend already??

Lol... nawa oo

Sexytemi:


All men aren't cheats, but 90% are.

ItzMePuffPuff:
Wrong.
Volume dating is very beneficial 2 a woman.

Sexytemi:



whether the problem is patched or not, it would save the girl from lots of heartache

Sexytemi:


That's why we have the 10% for the "Real Men", but I can tell you have met so many guys, I mean friends who look so innocent but yet cheat like mad on their loyal girlfriends.