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Re: Married Men And Their Wooing Palaver by uzolexis(f): 11:30am On Dec 08, 2016
torres89:
lol
smart move... blame it on the man

did he put a gun on the girls head


all those talk of the guy doing everything in his power is crap

she could choose to walk away or ignore his calls or presence.... but she won't choose any of those.... Y

she wants him....

we know wat IT students do to ogas in office

is it the man that told them to wear skimpy dresses to work ?


Op look for a better reason joor

actually both parties are equally to be blamed.

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Re: Married Men And Their Wooing Palaver by bettercreature(m): 11:32am On Dec 08, 2016
pinkpebbles:
I agree with you. But not totally. What of the married men that claim polygamous in nature thereby going after any thing under a skirt. A girl will just be on her own and the man will view her as the carrot in his vegetable salad that he must have.
Why you didnt talk about those of you who prefers married men to single guys?
As a man,if you are married,young and rich single ladies won't let you rest either

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Re: Married Men And Their Wooing Palaver by horpilow(m): 11:34am On Dec 08, 2016
Kikikikikikikiki

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Re: Married Men And Their Wooing Palaver by Nobody: 11:36am On Dec 08, 2016
dacblogger:
one offered 2 get me a car just for me 2 sleep with him, they can call you day and night and so on..

One of the reasons why they'll continue to get you single girls!

GREED!! MATERIAL THINGS!!

and you'll continue to fall because you fail to understand that, that bf that can't offer those material things is not thinking of now, but the future. He's husling hard and wants you to hustle with him! He wants to mould you into a virtuous woman!
A lot of you girls are blinded by material things: cars, sophisticated phones, etc!





That's why we have so many "single female oldies"

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Re: Married Men And Their Wooing Palaver by AdisaOwala: 11:37am On Dec 08, 2016
dacblogger:
o.p I understand what you are saying..they will lure you with every possible means, they even shower more love and care than the so-called bfs...you ve 2 be very strong in other to resist their advances. one offered 2 get me a car just for me 2 sleep with him, they can call you day and night and so on..

And you think he is actually gonna get you a car if you eventually fall prey to his antics??

Girls & Fish Brain sha...

With this shallow mentality of yours..You are actually blaming single guys for being honest & sincere with you..

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Re: Married Men And Their Wooing Palaver by pinkpebbles(f): 11:37am On Dec 08, 2016
Next time I will talk about that. For today, I am talking about those that are bored of being married or those that are just polygamouus in nature.
bettercreature:
Why you didnt talk about those of you who prefers married men to single guys?
As a man,if you are married,young and rich single ladies won't let you rest either
Re: Married Men And Their Wooing Palaver by schumastic(m): 11:38am On Dec 08, 2016
ujudiaz:
Most married men, chase after young ladies,or will I say 85% of married men are not faithful in their marriages! Reasons best known to them,i avoid them like a plague! But most times they don't wear their wedding bands,and they swear to heavens that they are single, just to lure single ladies! Marriage is now a sham! In most cases, these married ladies are nt aware of the monsters they marry as husband's! The blame d single ladies and forget to caution their husband's! Even tho u go and pour acid on d lady! He has a thousand and one of them, single ladies should just be careful! Men are dangerous,shekina

WHY ARE THE BLAMES CENTERED ON THE MAN?

WHERE DID YOU GET THAT 85% STATISTICS FROM?

THE LADIES IN ? WHO ARE INTO A SERIOUS RELATIONSHIP BUT STILL END UP SLEEPING WITH A MARRIED MAN WHAT WILL YOU SAY ABOUT THEM?

EVEN CHRIST HIMSELF GOT TEMPTED THRICE BUT HE KEPT QUOTING THE SCRIPTURE FOR THE DEVIL AND WHEN HE REALISED HE COULDN'T HAVE HIS WAY, HE LEFT FOR GOOD!!!

MY POINT IS THIS, FOR LADIES WHO HAVE FALLEN PREY IT WAS YOUR DECISION TO MAKE AND AM VERY SURE DUE TO THEIR SELFISH DESIRE AND THE LUST FOR WEALTH AND LUXURY THEY FELL FOR THE MAN..I DON'T JUDGE OR BLAME THE LADIES BUT THEY SHOULDN'T SAY IS THE MAN'S FAULT CUS WHEN YOU GIVE YOUR WORD THEN STAND ON IT, IS VERY SIMPLE...ADAM AND EVE GOT PUNISHED FOR THEIR SINS DESPITE BOTH OF THEM PUSHING THE BLAME TO THE OTHER.

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Re: Married Men And Their Wooing Palaver by tbcoiner: 11:38am On Dec 08, 2016
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Re: Married Men And Their Wooing Palaver by dominion001(m): 11:38am On Dec 08, 2016
dacblogger:
o.p I understand what you are saying..they will lure you with every possible means, they even shower more love and care than the so-called bfs...you ve 2 be very strong in other to resist their advances. one offered 2 get me a car just for me 2 sleep with him, they can call you day and night and so on..
so did he disappoint?

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Re: Married Men And Their Wooing Palaver by pinkpebbles(f): 11:40am On Dec 08, 2016
You know what that means? It means while they were in J.S. 3, they wia also been grromed to sleep with another woman's husband. Theory of what goes around
horpilow:
Kikikikikikikiki
Re: Married Men And Their Wooing Palaver by uzolexis(f): 11:41am On Dec 08, 2016
lefulefu:
some of u ladies would just be blaming married men.if not i see what these married men go through frm single ladies then maybe i would agree with this ur post but then i see what they go through and sometimes i even feel for them.NO married man would just just wake up one day and be looking for single girls to devour except if he is a seasoned Aristo.And the aristoes prefer hooking up with professional runz girls.The thing is girls who hang out with married men are either full time or part time runz girls.

"the bold, very wrong, some married men chase single ladies and some single ladies go after married men. There are guilty pple on both sides of the equation.

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Re: Married Men And Their Wooing Palaver by humilitypays(m): 11:44am On Dec 08, 2016
pinkpebbles:
Married men are the most desperate men. They can go any length to get a girl. Infact eh, if a married man means you, it will take the Grace of God for you to not fall. They have all kinds of tricks down their sleeves.

When I see married women cursing on girls who fall for their husband, I actually feel sorry for them. They are attacking the wrong people. You do not know how many times the girl has said no but your desperate husband does everything withing his humanly power.

Things single men dont do. Once you tell a single man no, he moves on already. So this is cheers to all the sisters that have not fallen prey to all the married men's tatics. You guys are strong and I commend you for that. And for those that fell, I cant blame you, but I urge you to be stronger and they will not succeed again. And for the wives, pls try and start apportioning more blames to your husbands .They are actually the problem.
I is suspecting you for cheatings within married mens, them wives will catching you once day angry angry

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Re: Married Men And Their Wooing Palaver by pocohantas(f): 11:54am On Dec 08, 2016
Lol.
I looked up and saw Romance section, wasn't surprised at the comments.
OP, sorry o. grin
Re: Married Men And Their Wooing Palaver by naijaboiy: 11:55am On Dec 08, 2016
dacblogger:

what you dnt know is that those ladies that jump from one sugardaddy to another are the ones that marry on time, so those ones you see in church looking for husbands are the good ones... and I have solid proof 2 back up my claim, do u
That's a very big lie and btw how does getting married early become an achievement?

If what you're saying is true then it's no surprise. After all when these girls were jumping from dykes to dykes their fellow women were hustling and trying to be independent. When those ones are tired they'll be looking for a man that will marry them quick.

It's 100 times better to be a good woman and marry late than be a bïtch and get married early with problems here and there.

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Re: Married Men And Their Wooing Palaver by soji1992: 11:59am On Dec 08, 2016
pinkpebbles:
Do you know the law of falling inlove? If a person consistently show you care and support for a stretch of 20days, you are likely to fall inlove with the person. A normal girl can become powerless and fall prey. It could happen. Like i said, it takes the grace of God to overcome. They live with women. They know all tricks to win a woman's heart.
anty na lie joor
it all depends on d gal
sum na 20mins,20hours,20days,20wks,20months and sum cn even take 20years lol
Re: Married Men And Their Wooing Palaver by starlingbawa(m): 12:08pm On Dec 08, 2016
lefulefu:
All what u saying does not happen in Nigeria.i am talking with a nigerian perspective.Lol a nigerian lady with the mind to be independent? Are u located outside Nigeria?

I was going to ask the same question too?

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Re: Married Men And Their Wooing Palaver by sekem: 12:08pm On Dec 08, 2016
lefulefu:
True there are some randy old men who run after young ladies but then if the lady is not the type who sells herself to old men in exchange for material things she can always say no.But then what i am saying is that nowadays its single young ladies who chase and run after married men.You see a number of young single ladies giving reasons why they prefer dating old married men cos younger men who are single can't provide for them financially.These ladies waste their youth running after old men and when they are past the bloom of youth these men dump them for more greener pastures and the ladies end up at shiloh crying for a husband.Am not judging though but if u were to use a microscope on some of those ladies who go to church looking for a partner u will see they are the ones who wasted their youth jumping frm one sugar daddy to the other.

You mean single young ladies like the OP, right? tongue

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Re: Married Men And Their Wooing Palaver by Nobody: 12:09pm On Dec 08, 2016
pinkpebbles:
I beg to differ. An average lady wants to be independent and self- sufficient not necessarily date a ready made man. A below average girl falls into that category. Most of the married men do not even offer money to the girls. They offer availability. They want a regular relationship. So it is not like they are paying the girls. So i do not think it is about the money

I hardly comment on issues like this.

So here goes.

This should be taken as it is meant. It is not an excuse for wicked rapacious men, More an explanation for the confused married man.

I think over the next 10 years we will a re balancing of society. A lot of single woman are too mature for their age mate bf's. The development cycle of females and males is quite different. I am not talking about superiority here but timing/ need difference. This is why many single women appear to be after material times sometimes it is so, but sometimes they are just further along the curve than their age mates. They want a security that they can't get from younger guys. They want someone they can lean on who can handle their quirks without throwing a fit. Someone they can look up to; who can father them as well as husband them. On the older men side many of them married quite early and conventionally. They married for society and not always for their heart. They lacked the courage of their convictions and they are not resolute to live with their decision.

My advice to a male corper for instance is to take a good look at those 18 year olds entering or about to enter uni. Don't give yourself the palpitations of a woman further up the curve than you. You may not be able to give her the security they need and she will be reluctant to give you the significance you crave.

I think things will sort themselves out over the next decade as men wait later and women marry earlier. The societal barriers that precluded 5-10 year age differences is falling.

Having said all this by way of explanation I believe that a married man should live with his choices joyfully. That new car will ultimately lose its sheen over time and there is merit in partnering with experienced woman towards the attainment of your goals. A firm figure will not necessarily be enough for the high goals you have set yourself. Unless of course your identity is completely sexual.

Caveat: I have seen many great marriages between people who were classmates in pre degree studies! It's a know yourself thing.

I am Married with many boys and I do not subscribe to extra marital affairs. It brings pain into the family. Many of us grew up with this. Why repeat?

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Re: Married Men And Their Wooing Palaver by Osama10(m): 12:10pm On Dec 08, 2016
Treasuredlove:
Well, I think it's about time single girls stop whining about the attention they get frommarried men, even married women get such attention too(fact). I think if you stop making yourself so available to them, they wouldn't bug you...I mean, you give them your all your phone numbers, what's app, BBM pin, email sef, Facebook page name, IG ID, twitter handle etc...availability my dear sisters, availability. And you say you don't like the attention? You cannot put chicken on the table and expect no one to eat it or ask for it.
On Point.

Don't give your details out & if he calls just answer the phone without talking.

I think that would pass the message across.
Re: Married Men And Their Wooing Palaver by wokomabest(m): 12:10pm On Dec 08, 2016
dacblogger:
o.p I understand what you are saying..they will lure you with every possible means, they even shower more love and care than the so-called bfs...you ve 2 be very strong in other to resist their advances. one offered 2 get me a car just for me 2 sleep with him, they can call you day and night and so on..
mtchwwwww
Re: Married Men And Their Wooing Palaver by ephi123(f): 12:12pm On Dec 08, 2016
pinkpebbles:
My sister. It takes the grace of God. And their wives dont know what we pass through.

What do you pass through? Is NO not in the dictionary? Say No with your words and your actions. Not the one you will be saying No but still accepting recharge card and giving out your mobile no tongue

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Re: Married Men And Their Wooing Palaver by Tajbol4splend(m): 12:13pm On Dec 08, 2016
This OP sef her own too much, see as she dey yab person on top this small chikini matter
Re: Married Men And Their Wooing Palaver by Nobody: 12:19pm On Dec 08, 2016
A married man is a big turn off for me....It's like dating your relative.....yuck!!! lipsrsealed angry sad
Re: Married Men And Their Wooing Palaver by olipo: 12:24pm On Dec 08, 2016
pinkpebbles:
So that is all you could deduce from this post. Your orgasm is not just soft, I think your brain is too. sad
the same 15 likes and 4shares from the op post are here also
Re: Married Men And Their Wooing Palaver by wokomabest(m): 12:28pm On Dec 08, 2016
pinkpebbles:
Like i said, there are girls out there lookimg for watever from men. I am talkin abt a normal girl goin about doing her business. Trust me, d push is almst the same measure as a gun on the head
which single girl that walks the streets of Nigeria is normal.also remember mediocrity
Re: Married Men And Their Wooing Palaver by Ezeego1(m): 12:28pm On Dec 08, 2016
truthsayer007:


So did you accept the car? I would have accepted the car tho. Who cares anyway undecided


Send me a PM let's talk. I have got a nice package for you.
Re: Married Men And Their Wooing Palaver by mrsfavour(f): 12:29pm On Dec 08, 2016
Married men can woo. na so one promised me heaven and earth when i was single. they find it hard to spend on family issues but not on girls.
Re: Married Men And Their Wooing Palaver by torres89: 12:30pm On Dec 08, 2016
uzolexis:

actually both parties are equally to be blamed.
that's valid

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Re: Married Men And Their Wooing Palaver by babooshka: 12:31pm On Dec 08, 2016
This article is complete BS. We know abt temptation, Joseph was tempted, but he fled. If u know that u want a peaceful home in future, dat should be enough motivation not 2 get involved with a married man. Even if d man is being silly, d ladies should try very hard 2. Any married woman dat curses such ladies, is very well in her own right, cos there r some ladies 2 dat actively pursue married men. They make it very difficult 4 d man 2 say no. So dose curses must catch dose girls, somebody say amen.

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Re: Married Men And Their Wooing Palaver by torres89: 12:31pm On Dec 08, 2016
mrsfavour:
Married men can woo. na so one promised me heaven and earth when i was single. they find it hard to spend on family issues but not on girls.

did u ever fall for one

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