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What Counts As Cheating In A Relationship? by raphy(m): 2:04pm On Dec 12, 2016 |
When people find out about infidelity, they often make all kinds of assumptions about how and why people have affairs. The assumptions, however, are probably wrong. For example, would you believe it if I told you that most of time affairs happens to people who aren’t looking for it? We live in a hush-hush culture – when it comes to infidelity, there’s a lot of BS out there – and most of what you think is true just isn't. Here are the nine most common misconceptions about infidelity, and the real take on what you need to know. 1. Once An Affair Is Out In The Open, A Couple Can Never Be Happy Again Affairs happen, and people do recover – you hardly ever hear success stories because no one's talking. Couples can learn to successfully rebuild their relationships, and many of my patients say their bonds are even stronger once they’ve worked things through. Distinguishing infidelity fact from fiction can help you and your partner gain a better understanding of how an affair happens, what to expect if one does and what you can do to prevent infidelity. Truth is a powerful tool that can help you recover. 2. Infidelity Is Never About Sex; It's About Other Marital Issues Sometimes a cigar is just a cigar, and sometimes extramarital "sex" is just about sex. For sure, some affairs are about unmet emotional needs, but for other people – not the majority – an affair is just about going out and getting laid. 3. You Can't Call It Cheating If Sex Wasn't Involved Many affairs happen without any sex at all. Is staying up half the night secretly texting an old classmate about your most intimate thoughts being unfaithful? The person doing it may not see it as cheating, but you can bet your partner sees it this way. When you give an emotional part of yourself to someone with whom you could potentially cheat one day, it's cheating. 4. Affairs Are All About Sexual Attraction Sure, some affairs are only about the sex, but lots of the time, affairs happen because of an emotional connection. Sometimes, hanging out together and sharing feelings is as far as the affair ever goes, although it’s true that the sense of emotional closeness often leads to sex. 5. Affairs Happen Because Of Problems In The Marriage Here's the truth: almost every marriage has problems. Affairs don't happen because something’s wrong with the marriage; they happen, in part, because couples don't know how to work together to solve the issues they have. Having problems in your relationship doesn't justify cheating. 6. Once A Cheater, Always A Cheater Yes, there are some real scumbags out there, but not everyone who cheats is evil incarnate. Many affairs are a one-and-done thing. What happens after the affair can set a marriage on a course for stability, or blow it out of the water. After ending the affair, for healing to take place, the cheater has to tell the whole truth about the affair. Knowing the truth is the first step toward healing. 7. After An Affair, Kiss Your Marriage Goodbye Not so quick! Over half of marriages survive infidelity. Although the relationship may break up from other issues in the future, when couples are willing to work together, they're surprised to find they can rebuild the trust. The most common reasons for marriage dissolution, at 53 to 55%, is “growing apart” and not being able to talk to each other. 8. Affairs Happen With People Much Younger Or More Attractive OK, sometimes the 60-something corporate CEO might seek out younger playmates, but, typically, paramours are no younger, richer or more attractive than spouses – they're just someone new. 9. Affairs Happen Because Guys Are On The Prowl No – most of time, an affair happens to people who aren’t looking for it. This is particularly true in cases in which a partner has only cheated with one person. Affairs often begin as feeling really comfortable with someone, like the person in the cubicle next to you at work. That cosiness is followed by sharing intimate secrets, which can then shift into an emotional connection that's consummated with a full-blown tryst. feel free to add yours am still celebrating my 10years on nairaland.. |
Re: What Counts As Cheating In A Relationship? by naijaboiy: 2:10pm On Dec 12, 2016 |
Observing |
Re: What Counts As Cheating In A Relationship? by raphy(m): 2:11pm On Dec 12, 2016 |
help me to put it in fp to save a marriage thanks guys. |
Re: What Counts As Cheating In A Relationship? by Nobody: 2:11pm On Dec 12, 2016 |
emotional cheating is cheating everything else is fair game |
Re: What Counts As Cheating In A Relationship? by Martinola(m): 2:22pm On Dec 12, 2016 |
i av ntn to say since i dnt knw wat a relationship is...Olosho all d way |
Re: What Counts As Cheating In A Relationship? by Nobody: 2:52pm On Dec 12, 2016 |
Cheating is when you do stuffs with someone else. Stuffs meant to be done with your companion. It's not just sex 1 Like |
Re: What Counts As Cheating In A Relationship? by shirley26(f): 3:54pm On Dec 12, 2016 |
Floxyluv: Exactly! |
Re: What Counts As Cheating In A Relationship? by doctorofgirls(m): 2:14pm On Dec 14, 2016 |
shirley26:How u |
Re: What Counts As Cheating In A Relationship? by EmperorKross(m): 2:16pm On Dec 14, 2016 |
Sex no be cheating na. |
Re: What Counts As Cheating In A Relationship? by Nobody: 2:22pm On Dec 14, 2016 |
Floxyluv: Can you give us an example |
Re: What Counts As Cheating In A Relationship? by dntaskme(m): 4:00pm On Dec 14, 2016 |
Floxyluv Cheating is when you do stuffs with someone else. Stuffs meant to be done with your companion. It's not just sex Wat exactly do u mean? Wat den should we call it wen u girls call/chat/text oda guy u aren't dating? |
Re: What Counts As Cheating In A Relationship? by Nobody: 8:54pm On Dec 14, 2016 |
dntaskme: I wasn't gender specific in my statement, am sure you noticed where i stated thus 'stuffs meant to be done with your companion' . |
Re: What Counts As Cheating In A Relationship? by raphy(m): 11:21pm On Dec 21, 2016 |
Ok you guys try o. Doing stuff not meant to do with some one that's not your wife but you have a feeling for.and you call it cheating. |
Re: What Counts As Cheating In A Relationship? by Divay22(f): 11:46pm On Dec 21, 2016 |
Is cheating a choice or we unconsciously do it, then later get to realize |
Re: What Counts As Cheating In A Relationship? by Jaynom(m): 11:57pm On Dec 21, 2016 |
Divay22:My dear cheating is a conscious experience. It could be mental, physical and emotional. Matter of fact any act you wouldn't want your partner to know about is cheating. It could be as simple as a text message |
Re: What Counts As Cheating In A Relationship? by Divay22(f): 12:05am On Dec 22, 2016 |
Jaynom:So you mean it's a choice |
Re: What Counts As Cheating In A Relationship? by schumastic(m): 8:05am On Dec 22, 2016 |
IN THIS LIFE, EVERYTHING BOILS DOWN TO ONE THING "CHOICE", YOU CAN CHOOSE TO CHEAT OR CHOOSE NOT TO BUT AT THE END OF EACH FRIENDSHIP AND AFFAIRS YOU MADE A CHOICE. SO DON'T BLAME IT ON THAT GUY THAT WOOED YOU WITH MATERIAL THINGS, AFFECTION OR ATTENTION, THE GIRL THAT SEDUCED YOU OR YOUR PARTNER FOR FAILING TO MEET UP TO YOUR NEEDS CUS DESPITE ALL OF THIS YOU WILL STILL ASK YOURSELF ONE QUESTION. SHOULD I CHEAT ON HIM OR HER?..THE CHOICE IS YOURS TO MAKE |
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