waternogetememy:



Na Igbo women and Yoruba men marriage no get wahala?

Guy, one woman from the next village that claimed to be in love with this yoruba Medical Doctor and married him, was pushed down from the first floor wen they were fighting and subsequently died.

Another one that married a yoruba guy and joined him abroad, only to later call the police on him for throwing his telephone at her head during an arguement.

They evicted the guy from the house and marriage don sactter.

U look closely at Nigeria celebrity the few igbo women that married yoruba men, u will see that the relationship did not last.

It often ends with her holding one child and abandoned. Monalisa Chinda, Uche Iwuji, Ann Njemanze and co

Loisemm:
Inter-tribal marriage works o but its not everyone that can handle it successfully. It takes love from the foundation of courtship, ongoing commitment and a broad perspective.
Success in marriage is not determined by speaking the same language at home. If you can communicate in English or pidgin, its OK.

@Op, your wife may also not want to go home with you cause she is embarrassed that children are still on the way.
Also, they may have given her revelations to be careful of certain persons or places. Talk with her about her fears.

About her abuses, lovingly caution her. If that does not work, warn her sternly to desist from such. And probably attach a sanction that you will carry out if she continues. Not divorce o.
You can make ur marriage work if you want. Forget all these negative inter-tribal talk. Yours can be among the positive ones. Nowadays, even the uneducated are inter-marrying. How much more you that sound educated. Broaden your horizon and leave sentiments aside. Its working for me very well. There will be ups and downs but let what drew you guys close, keep you close. All the best

Loisemm:
Inter-tribal marriage works o but its not everyone that can handle it successfully. It takes love from the foundation of courtship, ongoing commitment and a broad perspective.
Success in marriage is not determined by speaking the same language at home. If you can communicate in English or pidgin, its OK.

@Op, your wife may also not want to go home with you cause she is embarrassed that children are still on the way.
Also, they may have given her revelations to be careful of certain persons or places. Talk with her about her fears.

About her abuses, lovingly caution her. If that does not work, warn her sternly to desist from such. And probably attach a sanction that you will carry out if she continues. Not divorce o.
You can make ur marriage work if you want. Forget all these negative inter-tribal talk. Yours can be among the positive ones. Nowadays, even the uneducated are inter-marrying. How much more you that sound educated. Broaden your horizon and leave sentiments aside. Its working for me very well. There will be ups and downs but let what drew you guys close, keep you close. All the best

NIGHTMAREOO7:


U are getting something wrong here.
Yes intertribal marriages work
Buy wen its Yoruba woman and igbo man its always problem most times... It is a bitter truth.
Yoruba women fnt respect igbo men do to wat their parent tells them...

Of all the igboman/yorubawoman woman wedding I kno I can tell u less than 5% is smooth and successful..

Apart from op story.


Oc okeje wedding with yoruba woman is having issues.

Psquare family starts having issues after marring a yoruba woman.. The woman starts claiming psquare elder brother don't respect her.. Wat nonesence!

One of my distant uncle married yoruba woman now the man doesn't come back to d village again.

I know a friend who his brother mareid yoruba woman and its still d same story.

THIS IS THE BITTER TRUTH BUT U GUYS WILL JUST LOGIN HERE TO FORM "ONYEOMA CY".. JUST TO GAIN LIKE.. RUBBISH!

Olanna45:
Apart from your uncle, every other person you used to cite an instance where you there to know their yourba wives is the cause of the fallout their marriages?

I am not after any cheap like, it doesn't put food on my table.
But all am saying us that this your generalization on igbo -yoruba marriages is wrong and not necessary.

ariesbull:


Na now you know....chi efo...I hope they warned you before you married ..But you looked at the sweetness of toto and you thought marriage is all about toto. Know they have warned you and they warned you...


Dude..inter tribal marriages rarely work.a lot of baggages . Most people that are in it but present the picture that is working so that people will not tell them...shey we warned you

Bible is always correct when he said marry your type . Even if you want to marry ..Marry neighbouring tribes not crossing seven seas and seven oceans to get a toto. That's madness and stupidity


Now back to you...Go and thank lord that she doesn't have a child for you. Then do the needful

1Alex4u:


Thanks very much for your concern and advices.
Truth is divorce will only be the very extreme last option when i am fully satistied i made all efforts to make it work. I married my wife because i love her......and coz i believe with God all things are possible irrespective of the situation and circumstances.

I admit i made mistakes not taking adequate actions prior to my marriage but all that is past now. I made a vow before God...for better for worse and i really wana stick by my vow with God.
God has been blessed me abundantly frm grass to grace in last few yrs and i am grateful to Him so much.

Any advice outside divorcing is very welcomed as i want to make my marriage work irrespective of the circumstances.

But all the same, your views are highly appreciated.

NIGHTMAREOO7:


U are getting something wrong here.
Yes intertribal marriages work
Buy wen its Yoruba woman and igbo man its always problem most times... It is a bitter truth.
Yoruba women fnt respect igbo men do to wat their parent tells them...

Of all the igboman/yorubawoman woman wedding I kno I can tell u less than 5% is smooth and successful..

Apart from op story.


Oc okeje wedding with yoruba woman is having issues.

Psquare family starts having issues after marring a yoruba woman.. The woman starts claiming psquare elder brother don't respect her.. Wat nonesence!

One of my distant uncle married yoruba woman now the man doesn't come back to d village again.

I know a friend who his brother mareid yoruba woman and its still d same story.

THIS IS THE BITTER TRUTH BUT U GUYS WILL JUST LOGIN HERE TO FORM "ONYEOMA CY".. JUST TO GAIN LIKE.. RUBBISH!

Vanessa88:
Truth is op, didn't really throw more light on the financial aspect he gains frm this marriage, that is why no matter what the troubles he can't quit the marriage becoz of what he gains from this marriage..frm grass to grace in last few yrs was courtesy of the woman. This marriage is obviously stemmed out of financial gain, and wife knows it and rides on it, albeit she has not yet conceive. Its not all about inter tribal marriage, tho igbo women are more submissive compared to a yoruba woman

1Alex4u:


Thanks very much for your concern and advices.
Truth is divorce will only be the very extreme last option when i am fully satistied i made all efforts to make it work. I married my wife because i love her......and coz i believe with God all things are possible irrespective of the situation and circumstances.

I admit i made mistakes not taking adequate actions prior to my marriage but all that is past now. I made a vow before God...for better for worse and i really wana stick by my vow with God.
God has been blessed me abundantly frm grass to grace in last few yrs and i am grateful to Him so much.

Any advice outside divorcing is very welcomed as i want to make my marriage work irrespective of the circumstances.

But all the same, your views are highly appreciated.

Vanessa88:
Truth is op, didn't really throw more light on the financial aspect he gains frm this marriage, that is why no matter what the troubles he can't quit the marriage becoz of what he gains from this marriage..frm grass to grace in last few yrs was courtesy of the woman. This marriage is obviously stemmed out of financial gain, and wife knows it and rides on it, albeit she has not yet conceive. Its not all about inter tribal marriage, tho igbo women are more submissive compared to a yoruba woman

ariesbull:


U am thinking what I thought...I think it's the woman that is paying the bills and the man won't even say it .


I just don't get it

Vanessa88:
It was so obvious and he can't let go. That is why the wife has the audacity to do all that..he is dependent on her

1Alex4u:


Lol...Alright lemme explain.
After graduation in 2008, i searched for jobs for 2yrs ....fed frm mouth to hand...did all menial jobs like tailoring, painting to keep body n soul.
I later got this job with a multinational company in 2011 here in Nigeria and that was the end of my suffering. i met my wife in 2012. I am currently on an expat assignment in our company headquaters in the USA. My wife was a banker back in Naija and she resigned just before we moved to usa.
So maa'm its not what you think.

ariesbull:



I asked that question , he avoided it...I believe that it is either the woman that made him or that the woman is the one paying the bills


I wonder how a man wand Igbo man for that matter can stomach that shit...


He should be resetting her brains periodically by sing hot slaps

Vanessa88:
My sis u said it all, that lady made him, and he doesn't want to admit it, this is a one sided story.. Imagine no issue and she is giving u all that poo and you re comfortably taking it and willing to continue taking it.. It doesn't add up

ariesbull:



Truth is bitter
Truth is better


And that's what you have done...you said it the way it should be .


He who has ears....Let him hear


If kids come...I doubt if the man will have the capacity to name them Igbo names not to talk of speaking Igbo



My dad will say

You can't say you are lucky untill you get married...

And the OP has proven this



Happy Christmas

ariesbull:


I told you ab initio that I will not encourage divorce because that's the decision you have to take ...But I will advise you to monitor her. She might be sleeping around. Mind my word... MIGHT is the word.



It is better to stay on the roof than staying with a nagging woman...That's Bible



Oh ,you are a man...Take decision...I am a married man also ,so I know what is better



Intertribal marriage, to me is hellish...You have a lot of things to contend and one mistake people make is that ....They always think that love is enough for marriage. Marriage is more than love . It's compatibility..Cultural, psychological,linguistic and others



Let me give you a test


Pretend that you are extremely broke, it's a test

Pretend that you are extremely broke for let's say four months ...Bring little money and stuffs . Watch her relations , watch the way she respects you and talks to you. That will be a litmus test...If she is a nice woman, she won't pretend for that 4 months ...If she is ghetto fabulous what is called Omo alata in Lagos ...It will display


This will show her reactions
Do this from now till Easter and the result will show.


Can you be a man to show this

kaziblake:
And you call yourself a married man?
Assuming someone wife of sleeping around
Don't go and face your own marital woes,im sure your home is in deep mess now..
1Alex4u na you cause am,washin your dirty linen in public...some of these people advising you home Are worst o...
Don't leave ur wife for any reason,talk to her or probably show her this thread and let her see people reactions.

NIGHTMAREOO7:


Exactly bro

1Alex4u:


Lol...Alright lemme explain.
After graduation in 2008, i searched for jobs for 2yrs ....fed frm mouth to hand...did all menial jobs like tailoring, painting to keep body n soul.
I later got this job with a multinational company in 2011 here in Nigeria and that was the end of my suffering. i met my wife in 2012. I am currently on an expat assignment in our company headquaters in the USA. My wife was a banker back in Naija and she resigned just before we moved to usa.
So maa'm its not what you think.

BellaElla:


Nwanne m nwoke don't mind all these people that are trying to castigate ur choice of a wife. I am sure u saw something in her that made you leave the igbo women and go for a Yoruba woman.
I am a full bred igbo woman and I am married happily to a full bred Yoruba man. Truth is once you have an marital problems some people are quick to chalk it down to the Internet tribal marriage because their minds are too small to fathom how two people from different cultures can stay together.
Both inter and intra tribal marriages have challenges, try to find way to work round those challenges.
Its obvious your wife does not recognize you as an authority figure in her life. I am sure she would never insult her boss in public regardless of how caustic her mouth is.
You have to find a way to reinstate your head ship in her eyes, please do not see this as tribal thing. It's a behavioral problem.
I think it's time for you to bring a sibling or a family member over to spend time with u people.
She has to get used to ur culture weather she likes it or not.
Play your igbo songs, make your calls in igbo, watch igbo films in her presence. Do not cower while displaying ur culture. She should know that your children would bear igbo names from now. If she doesn't want to go to the village with you. Go alone with all joy. Tell your people to arrange enough enjoyment for u in her presence, let her know u are in charge.
I have my reservations about my husbands culture but I don't voice them aloud as they do not harm me in any way. My son bears a Yoruba name as his first name. I was the one that even researched and gave the name to my hubby and he accepted.
Whatever issues I want to voice about his tribe I do so in jest only and he retaliates.
Inter tribal marriage is sweet biko. Put effort into taking leadership of your home.

ariesbull:


And you are in USA...It's a pity...You can't do much. You can't even slap her, you can't divorce her..There you will pay alimony tire.. she might even want you to divorce her so that you can pay for her upkeep . I think the best thing is to tell her to sign a document if eventually you've divorce

Or better, get another woman , don't divorce her but give the woman belle ...She will call for the divorce herself


Or are you not satisfying her sexually...Because you haven't said that


"When a woman is greasy ,is when a woman is restless "

Al Pacino
Scent of a woman

1Alex4u:


Well said but sorry this is not my point of view. I think most of your assumptions are a bit wrong.

Amhappy:
Marriage is tough,tougher if it is inter tribal. I'm Igbo,dated Yoruba guy but couldn't marry him because I no get liver for inter tribal wahala. Marriage between people from different Igbo states no be beans. Whatever I do my husband people must ascribe Anambra to it,Whatever he does my people must attach Imo to it. For your wife,she will be called nwanyi onye ofe mmanu,annoying stuff.
I also don't like going to my hubby village because i don't know people there and it can be boring and lonely. He will leave me and be grooving and that doesn't help matters. So how you act when you get to the village matters. Make it fun for her. Also the no child yet issue can be a problem. Put your home in order babies will come.
Teach her about the Igbo culture because as at today all she knows are assumed. Encourage her to learn the language. One of the reasons why I didn't settle for my Yourba ex was because I tried but couldn't learn the language. It makes one feel like an outcast.

Her Acid mouth is a big problem I must confess. Her own is already part of her and only the Holy Spirit can help. You should pray for her.

ariesbull:


Oga...I am not in the position to argue this...I know the decision that I will take and also if it is me. But one thing I insist is that I will never advise the dude to leave his wife...That decision is his and he will take it ...Not me


As of my home...Who told you that I am having woes....If I do, I would have told you but I didn't tell you..So bounce


I have noticed you now...Get out of my mention....I didn't even mention you


Some peeps can be irritants

kaziblake:
Old man,dont go and face your life and family..