crackhaus:

Clap for yourself. You just proved you lack proper training.

Instead of you to type something like "while I am at work", you are talking about fixing those damn fake hairs.
For who I wonder.
The same husband you left at home to do chores, no?

DarkRebel101:


The word “wimp” is too benign a description.

He's not only arrogant; his submissions reek of utter ignorance. More like one who is arrogant in his ignorance. A pompous Iscarus thinking Daedalus' aerial contrivance would survive the sun despite repeated warnings.

MrPresident1:
Men should stop looking to share household financial responsibilities with their wives, all the financial responsibility in the home is owned completely by the man, the woman may choose to drop something but she is under no obligation to do so.

Men, take care of your home like real men!

SirVintageCock:
Well I don't know what to write again. The first part was clear and succinctly put, so also the second, but then I got lost while reading the rest though I understand that you are still making awesome sense. What was that , Gaelic , Nordic or some mixture of both

Forgive me. I tend to get carried away, infusing analogies hither and thither in my posts without pausing to think whether they might be too recondite.

Iscarus was the son of Daedalus. Daedalus built wings for him so he could escape from prison. Iscarus was warned not to fly too close to the sun, but Iscarus was arrogant and ignorant – like our little friend on this thread –, and defied his father's warning, thereby resulting to his death.

I was only likening our friend here to ignorant Iscarus.

bukatyne:


Apart from money, what is the duty of a husband?

DarkRebel101:


Forgive me. I tend to get carried away, infusing analogies hither and thither in my posts without pausing to think whether they might be too recondite.

Iscarus was the son of Daedalus. Daedalus built wings for him so he could escape from prison. Iscarus was warned not to fly too close to the sun, but Iscarus was arrogant and ignorant – like our little friend on this thread –, and defied his father's warning, thereby resulting to his death.

I was only likening our friend here to ignorant Iscarus.

MrPresident1:


Spiritual leadership
Moral compass and guidance in the home
Physical and spiritual protection
Teaching of his household
Custodian of the household doctrine
Disciplinarian
Loverboy Mr Romantic to his wife
etc etc

bukatyne:


OK

What is the duty of a wife apart from chores?

MrPresident1:


Now you will have to answer that. I am waiting

bukatyne:


I Want Your Answer

What is the duty of a wife to you?

MrPresident1:


She takes care of my home. Simple.

A good man realizes that there will be chore overlaps, he loves his wife, he knows what he passed through to gain her hand in marriage, he does not want her to get worn out too quickly, so in love he partakes of the household chores, not as his duty, but at his discretion.

It is called love.

bukatyne:


Interesting.

Goodluck.

SirVintageCock:
Oh yeah.
What's with him and his constant complaints against women? With his nonstop whimpering, I'd wager maybe they broke his heart or jilted him at the altar, who knows

Perhaps it has to do with his upbringing - his mother and sisters might have been treated like skivvies, perhaps that's his own little way of feeling macho, perhaps he's trying to impress, not knowing it's a misguided bravado.

Who knows? And frankly, who cares?

You! History lecturer or s'thing.? Cool.

Even my 8 and 10 year old cousins know the story of Daedalus.

Yeah, I study and know a lot of History.

Acidosis:
If I have a brother or an uncle who undergoes the named treatments, I will personally find him a side chick, to cook for him, pamper him and treat him right.


Men call the shot where I come from. No room for perpetually lazy gossips and chewing-gum saloon girls.

mysticgal:
Seriously, jeez ancientie

Acidosis:

What?

MrPresident1:


Now tell me what you think are the duties of the man and the wife respectively...

bukatyne:


Whatever the couple need it to be.

I am all for individuals defining what they want/expect from their spouses.

MrPresident1:


There are contextual exigences that may determine overlaps in duties and responsibilities in a marriage, such as the health/aptitude/strength/weakness etc of either spouse, but nature has planned out the roles very wall for both parties.

The man rules the home.
The woman runs the home.

Most times, the one who runs the home owns the real power. Or what is the head without the neck?

mysticgal:

Side chick support...... Jeez

kaboninc:
Hmmmm.. .

Chaiomsy:
This topic is something I really want to talk about, because it is something I see every day, in public places, some homes I visited and so on. It is becoming a norm in today’s marriages where you see a man, a grown man, husband of the house, doing dishes in the kitchen, while the wife goes to make her hair or something!

We tend to like to copy everything the ‘white man’ does wrongly, because not everything that applies to them (over there) that applies here.

I have been to a neighbour’s house in the past (they just moved in), so I decided to say hello properly as a Nigerian, before they will say I didn’t welcome them well or don’t like their presence. so I rang the door bell, and the man, the husband of the house answered the door, he smiled and ushered me in.

I made myself comfortable in their sitting room, while he disappeared into one of the rooms, I sat there thinking he went to inform his wife of my presence, but he came back to the sitting room alone, obviously dressed more appropriate, as I met him in work clothes.
When I didn’t see his wife, who looked almost his age, I asked him; what of madam? he said she had gone to the salon to have her hair done.

I also asked after their 2 year old son, he said he was sleeping. I took a deep breath and smiled, he felt a bit uncomfortable with the look on his face. He offered me a drink which I declined because, as madam nor dey, I nor fit shout!

After a bit of conversation about work, Lagos traffic and all that, he excused himself and said he needed to get back to work, (he still had laundry to do and the bathroom to clean!), I almost froze with shock!

How can a woman leave all the house chores to her man to do? Is it normal for a good marriage? Was it an agreement? These were all the questions running through my mind as I called out to him that I was leaving because I had a meeting to attend.

Leaving your husband/man to do the house chores automatically makes you the boss, yes! and if there is anything that wrecks marriages, it is the woman playing the man while the man plays the woman.

You might think the man loves you so much to want to do all the dirty jobs, no, he is only trying so hard to please you because you are obviously calling the shots!

I know some women hate men who do house chores, I am one of them. A survey reveals that most men who do house chores are lazy men, they would rather do house chores than go out there and fend for their families! it is appalling, unacceptable.

I am not saying a woman should work her ass off because she is a wife, but it shouldn’t be a daily occurrence, something we watch in movies. For my neighbors, it was normal because, he goes as far as washing her underpants as well, yuck!

I don’t understand why some men enjoy being called the ‘nice’ guy? when at the end of the day they end up hurting themselves and the ones they’re trying to please.

know your place as a man, and know your place as a woman, it is a 2 way traffic thingy.

like I always say, I am not a relationship expert, but these are little things I see every day that makes me want to talk about them.

I have seen a husband, shopping in the open market while the wife sits in the car with the kids, not that she is pregnant or something. I don’t know their reason for that but I thought it was kind of weird.

At this point, I remember my maternal uncle, who wanted to play ‘oyinbo’ husband by going straight to the kitchen as soon as he jumps out of the car from work, lol

Then I always wondered if he would maintain it, but no, he didn’t because it wasn’t quite long before his friends started ‘yabbing’ him, he then stopped even his wife didn’t find it funny.

You confine your husband to the kitchen because he doesn’t complain, tomorrow he gets a babe who he goes to her house to 'chillax', and gets pampered and served and bleeped well! shame on you!

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bukatyne:


Why hmmmmm......?

kaboninc:


I better not say what I want to say oh

bukatyne:


Talk na

Acidosis:


Forget the frequent hypocrisy on Nairaland. Let's speak reality (I'm a realist).


How would you feel if in the course of your visit to your brother, you see him cutting vegetables and pounding yam on a daily basis, while the wife sits daily with telemundo?

Don't tell me you will smile and mind your business as perpetual hypocrites say ONLINE (to attract likes from like minds hopefully)?

kaboninc:


E heavy to type on