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Troubled Heart! Advise Me Please. by Eneofall: 1:58pm On Jan 06, 2017
Please guys help give me a piece of advice, I'm dying slowly. I met this guy through an in-law(lady). At first I refused collecting the guys no n told her not to give him mine but she kept pestering and told me a lot of nice things about him so I collected his no and said "hi" on WhatsApp and we started talking. I refused seeing him 3times when he invited me, because I wanted him to look for me and not the other way round. We kept chatting, sending mails and calling each other till we finally met. I fell for this guy cos of the way he reacted the day I sent him a pic of my injured finger. We finally met n from that day he changed from this 'loving and caring' guy. He wouldn't chat or reply my messages, when I asked him the reason (s) he said "I'm sorry that I can't reply you the way I want" I became tired and told him we should be just friends, he didn't object neither did he agree. We stopped calling or chatting till on the 1st when I called to wish him happy new year he couldn't talk cos he was in church, he later called. In the night of that same 1st he came to my house and asked I accompany him to his cousin's house I obliged, when I asked him to take me home he said I couldn't go coz it was late so I spent the night with him (nothing happened, he was a complete gentleman). A lady called him in the morning and he was comfortable talking to the girl in my presence I got angry and left, he later called that he was on the street but couldn't see me (I missed my way). Since that day he hasn't called me, I would be d one to call and initiate chat. I told him I was sick he didn't call to or ask me on WhatsApp to ask about my health. I asked why he made me fall in love with him when he knew he would not be serious with me, he said he won't answer the question. The problem here is, I'm madly in love with this guy that I can't stay for a minute without thinking about him, I cry every second for someone who doesn't have my time( he was really loving caring and romantic, he would make me laugh and happy). Please what will I do to get him off my mind? No insult please. thanks
Re: Troubled Heart! Advise Me Please. by firstking01(m): 2:07pm On Jan 06, 2017
Move on sis, move on...shits like this are inevitable in life.
Re: Troubled Heart! Advise Me Please. by Nobody: 2:08pm On Jan 06, 2017


Can't You See that he's NOT interested? Like he doesn't want you! Biko, He's showing no affection towards you. he doesn't call you, You're always the one to initiate a chat, He only calls you when he needs an escort. cheesy bottom line's bobo is Not interested.


Please, do yourself a favour and delete his number. and all memories of him from your head. Biko! don't call him again! The next thing he'll do is have steaming sex with You and You'd start wailing. leave when it ain't too late.

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Re: Troubled Heart! Advise Me Please. by Eneofall: 2:10pm On Jan 06, 2017
firstking01:
Move on sis, move on...shits like this are inevitable in life.
Thanks
Re: Troubled Heart! Advise Me Please. by Nobody: 2:11pm On Jan 06, 2017
grin



Is he ur first love? wink

That's normal girl.. Most of us experienced this but thank goodness I get over it..

Don't force urself to heal but let the time heal u instead.. Help urself to move on.. Never give up and never lose hope. Remember.. What doesn't kill u, will make u stronger..
Re: Troubled Heart! Advise Me Please. by Eneofall: 2:13pm On Jan 06, 2017
Estharfabian:


Can't You See that he's NOT interested? Like he doesn't want you! Biko, He's showing no affection towards you. he doesn't call you, You're always the one to initiate a chat, He only calls you when he needs an escort. cheesy bottom line's bobo is Not interested.


Please, do yourself a favour and delete his number. and all memories of him from your head. Biko! don't call him again! The next thing he'll do is have steaming sex with You and You'd start wailing. leave when it ain't too late.

Thanks. I actually deleted his no some days back when I called and he picked but refused to talk, dunno why I saved it again from my call log.
Re: Troubled Heart! Advise Me Please. by firstking01(m): 2:14pm On Jan 06, 2017
Eneofall:

Thanks
Lick your wounds, get up from the ground, dust yourself, be a strong lady cos there are many more shits like this on your way....and most of all, learn your lessons so you'd tread with caution next time...



NOTE:...Still be open to loving again cool
Re: Troubled Heart! Advise Me Please. by Eneofall: 2:14pm On Jan 06, 2017
TrapQueen77:
grin



Is he ur first love? wink

That's normal girl.. Most of us experienced this but thank goodness I get over it..

Don't force urself to heal but let the time heal u instead.. Help urself to move on.. Never give up and never lose hope. Remember.. What doesn't kill u, will make u stronger..
He isn't my first love oo. Thanks
Re: Troubled Heart! Advise Me Please. by lytech1(m): 2:18pm On Jan 06, 2017
At first,delete his number(it will be better if you dont know it offhand). Give your self a task,divert your attention on how to accompnish the task... Before you know it,You are back to your normal self
Re: Troubled Heart! Advise Me Please. by sexymoma(f): 2:24pm On Jan 06, 2017
one thing about me
if a guy is hurting me
i'll find one weekend, just a day, think about him, sit and think, sleep nd think, eat and think, bath and think, sh1t nd think about the same guy.
then have a deep sleep... omo if i go wake the guy nor go exist for my memory ooo.. it'll look as if i formatted my brain ni

i'll ignore him to the core
ignore the fool my dear, ok jos sit and imagine if you've mistakenly gotten married to him and he behaves this way, what would you have done..divorce him?
my dear guys doesn't worth all these stress.. they don't worth it at all...
Re: Troubled Heart! Advise Me Please. by Eneofall: 2:28pm On Jan 06, 2017
lytech1:
At first,delete his number(it will be better if you dont know it offhand).
Give your self a task,divert your attention on how to accompnish the task...
Before you know it,You are back to your normal self
Thank you dear
Re: Troubled Heart! Advise Me Please. by firstking01(m): 2:28pm On Jan 06, 2017
sexymoma:
one thing about me
if a guy is hurting me
i'll find one weekend, just a day, think about him, sit and think, sleep nd think, eat and think, bath and think, sh1t nd think about the same guy.
then have a deep sleep... omo if i go wake the guy nor go exist for my memory ooo.. it'll look as if i formatted my brain ni

i'll ignore him to the core
ignore the fool my dear, ok jos sit and imagine if you've mistakenly gotten married to him and he behaves this way, what would you have done..divorce him?
my dear guys doesn't worth all these stress.. they don't worth it at all...


Ifa heargrin...
Re: Troubled Heart! Advise Me Please. by sexymoma(f): 2:28pm On Jan 06, 2017
firstking01:
Ifa heargrin...
nor be only ifa, u nor sabi amadioha angry
Re: Troubled Heart! Advise Me Please. by Eneofall: 2:29pm On Jan 06, 2017
sexymoma:
one thing about me
if a guy is hurting me
i'll find one weekend, just a day, think about him, sit and think, sleep nd think, eat and think, bath and think, sh1t nd think about the same guy.
then have a deep sleep... omo if i go wake the guy nor go exist for my memory ooo.. it'll look as if i formatted my brain ni

i'll ignore him to the core
ignore the fool my dear, ok jos sit and imagine if you've mistakenly gotten married to him and he behaves this way, what would you have done..divorce him?
my dear guys doesn't worth all these stress.. they don't worth it at all...


Lolz! funny you. Thanks
Re: Troubled Heart! Advise Me Please. by ikp120(m): 2:29pm On Jan 06, 2017
***Dancing alingo***

Bad baddo baddest!


That's a guy that knows this game very well... I guess that guy has learnt
some stuff from experience. grin grin


Oya

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Re: Troubled Heart! Advise Me Please. by Nobody: 2:30pm On Jan 06, 2017
cheesy cheesy obviously u are still a kid.
Re: Troubled Heart! Advise Me Please. by firstking01(m): 2:33pm On Jan 06, 2017
sexymoma:
nor be only ifa, u nor sabi amadioha angry
Re: Troubled Heart! Advise Me Please. by Nobody: 2:33pm On Jan 06, 2017
it's obvious he is hiding something from u... before u guys met face to face, has he seen ur full pictures.. u know most of u girls really miss endowed on social media, whereas in reality, you really just the opposite (no offence intended)



open, just be patient, he might realize what he is missing.. but if he doesn't, please move on.. there are better guys out there....goodluck dear
Re: Troubled Heart! Advise Me Please. by Eneofall: 2:35pm On Jan 06, 2017
I feel a bit relieved. I couldn't talk to any one except my niece who stays far. Only told a little to the person that introduced him to me.

Yesterday my sis asked after him I told her he's travelled (can't tell her the truth). She asked because she's not been seeing any call from him. I'm this type that doesn't fall in love or trust guys easily, but when I do I do it with the whole of my heart. Now see where I am. it's well anyway
Re: Troubled Heart! Advise Me Please. by Eneofall: 2:37pm On Jan 06, 2017
Ewilonco:
it's obvious he is hiding something from u... before u guys met face to face, has he seen ur full pictures.. u know most of u girls really miss endowed on social media, whereas in reality, you really just the opposite (no offence intended)



open, just be patient, he might realize what he is missing.. but if he doesn't, please move on.. there are better guys out there....goodluck dear
Yes dear, he saw my full pix, I'm not the take that over make up before taking pic or edit pic before posting. Besides love shouldn't be based on beauty or physical appearance.
Re: Troubled Heart! Advise Me Please. by Eneofall: 2:40pm On Jan 06, 2017
ikp120:
***Dancing alingo***

Bad baddo baddest!


That's a guy that knows this game very well... I guess that guy has learnt
some stuff from experience. grin grin


Oya
What kind of experience do you think he has learnt? I want to know
Re: Troubled Heart! Advise Me Please. by Eneofall: 2:41pm On Jan 06, 2017
ActOfWar:
cheesy cheesy obviously u are still a kid.
How do you mean my father?
Re: Troubled Heart! Advise Me Please. by Nomfanelo99(f): 2:44pm On Jan 06, 2017
cry as much as u can . curse if u hv to .get mad at him . ask yourself this ...Is this way I want a guy I love to treat me ? you deserve so much better . focus on healing . the right guy will come along when u atleast expert it . U a Queen n deserve to be treated like one

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Re: Troubled Heart! Advise Me Please. by ikp120(m): 2:55pm On Jan 06, 2017
Eneofall:

What kind of experience do you think he has learnt? I want to know
You mean you don't know what the average girl does to guys who give them attention? shocked shocked


Girls must have dealt so badly with him because he tried to be the "nice guy" who is always there like a jobless guy; always chatting her up, calling her, et al, while she sits there enjoying all the attention... So he doesn't wanna repeat that same mistake with you.

The more girls deal with guys that way, the more they are gonna harden and become harder to deal with. Your guy has been hardened. He doesn't care if you jump into River Niger or River Bauchi or River Kano grin grin.

In summary, he has learnt not to give any girl who really loves him too much attention; just be dropping the attention every once in a while; to just let her be ever yearning for his attention like some men pray everyday for their daily bread cool

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Re: Troubled Heart! Advise Me Please. by skylane: 2:56pm On Jan 06, 2017
Take a trip,take urself out,go to the cinemas.treat yourself well, the answer will naturally come on its own
Re: Troubled Heart! Advise Me Please. by Eneofall: 2:57pm On Jan 06, 2017
Nomfanelo99:
cry as much as u can . curse if u hv to .get mad at him . ask yourself this ...Is this way I want a guy I love to treat me ? you deserve so much better . focus on healing . the right guy will come along when u atleast expert it . U a Queen n deserve to be treated like one
I'm grateful.
Re: Troubled Heart! Advise Me Please. by Eneofall: 2:59pm On Jan 06, 2017
ikp120:

You mean you don't know what the average girl does to guys who give them attention?


Girls must have dealt so badly with him because he tried to be the "nice guy" who is always there like a jobless guy; always chatting her up, calling her, et al, while she sits there enjoying all the attention... So he doesn't wanna repeat that same mistake with you.

The more girls deal with guys that way, the more they are gonna harden and become harder to deal with. Your guy has been hardened. He doesn't care if you jump into River Niger or River Bauchi or River Kano grin grin.

In summary, he has learnt not to give any girl who really loves him too much attention; just be dropping the attention every once in a while. cool
You may be right.
Re: Troubled Heart! Advise Me Please. by Eneofall: 2:59pm On Jan 06, 2017
skylane:
Take a trip,take urself out,go to the cinemas.treat yourself well, the answer will naturally come on its own
Thanks dear
Re: Troubled Heart! Advise Me Please. by skylane: 3:04pm On Jan 06, 2017
Eneofall:

Thanks dear
besides today is friday................ No time to sulk.... And worry,take the opportuinity
Re: Troubled Heart! Advise Me Please. by Nobody: 3:05pm On Jan 06, 2017
Eneofall:

Yes dear, he saw my full pix, I'm not the take that over make up before taking pic or edit pic before posting. Besides love shouldn't be based on beauty or physical appearance.
don't get yourself worked up over it... next time look very well before u leap...
Re: Troubled Heart! Advise Me Please. by Eneofall: 3:58pm On Jan 06, 2017
Ewilonco:
don't get yourself worked up over it... next time look very well before u leap...
Lesson learnt

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