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Re: My Ex Or My New Man? by prestigiouslady: 9:27pm On Jan 25, 2017 |
raumdeuter: My own family is indifferent, they respect my decision, though my mum is hell bent on me not going back there, cos of the way he treated me and he really humiliated them by sending me back home His family are wishing we would resolve our issues, though his mum has not uttered a word all through, she has not even checked on me in two years, she has not even checked on her grandchild.. |
Re: My Ex Or My New Man? by raumdeuter: 11:25pm On Jan 25, 2017 |
You dont want to be with him, your parents dont want you to be with him anymore for the sake of your safety His actions shows he doesnt really care for you to stay, His moms actions supports this that she doesnt care f you stay or not Is this a good summary of the situation? 3 Likes |
Re: My Ex Or My New Man? by prestigiouslady: 11:32pm On Jan 25, 2017 |
Yes it is.. I think I'm the only one who is still seeing the possibility of a come back, every other person is keeping quiet and I think their silence means approval that we should part ways 1 Like |
Re: My Ex Or My New Man? by oshdam2015: 1:56pm On Jan 26, 2017 |
Your husband loves you but couldn't help his negative attitude. I think living separately could help you both. Some people tend to know the true value of people and treat them well when they don't get to see them often. Living separately while married could work. You two would just arrange to see and have nice time together probably once in a week or two. This is only if he's ready to make it work too. prestigiouslady: |
Re: My Ex Or My New Man? by Dyt(f): 2:16pm On Jan 26, 2017 |
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Re: My Ex Or My New Man? by Dyt(f): 2:18pm On Jan 26, 2017 |
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Re: My Ex Or My New Man? by miqos02(m): 8:35pm On Jan 26, 2017 |
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Re: My Ex Or My New Man? by kenzysmith: 8:38pm On Jan 26, 2017 |
N so prick to prick is bad |
Re: My Ex Or My New Man? by omooba969(m): 8:39pm On Jan 26, 2017 |
Ok |
Re: My Ex Or My New Man? by enshi(m): 8:40pm On Jan 26, 2017 |
1bkaye: Agent of the devil from the pit of hell |
Re: My Ex Or My New Man? by Nobody: 8:41pm On Jan 26, 2017 |
enshi:Na so 4 Likes |
Re: My Ex Or My New Man? by Opakan2: 8:42pm On Jan 26, 2017 |
Hmmmn.. this your own case is strong At least you're not like some figure head married dummies here whose only purpose in life is to wear bum shorts and spread their filthy legs as slaves that they are for their master whether violent or not They even suck dicks just to please men else na domestic violence straight. Emancipate yourself from slavery dear, go with your mind 1 Like |
Re: My Ex Or My New Man? by DesChyko: 8:44pm On Jan 26, 2017 |
It's unfortunate that our society tends to paint the lady in the darker colours in every fallout in a relationship. These stuffs are too complex to waddle in but what I think is that both families that essentially sealed the union after your consents should sit and seek a permanent solution to the problem, so that at the end of the day, you won't have to take any blame. 2 Likes |
Re: My Ex Or My New Man? by Magicc: 8:45pm On Jan 26, 2017 |
Go back to your husband, he loves you a lot. I am not making a case for his abusive tendencies, I know that he loves you more than anything in this world. I am sure of this. prestigiouslady: |
Re: My Ex Or My New Man? by Nobody: 8:50pm On Jan 26, 2017 |
I don't wanna put asunder but if you were my sister, I will personally write a divorce letter to the court and cut your finger to thumbprint it if you don't want to. Your story is as visible as the sunlight. Please even if you don't wanna divorce that beast of a husband(my bad), start a new relationship for now and make yourself happy. You deserve to live happy my dear. 2 Likes |
Re: My Ex Or My New Man? by AntiWailer: 8:51pm On Jan 26, 2017 |
U know the answer |
Re: My Ex Or My New Man? by montezz(f): 8:51pm On Jan 26, 2017 |
Magicc:Awon Omniknowest! Tuale sir! @op you can see the handwriting on the wall but you chose to follow the other path. I know you really want your man back despite the fact that he is into someone else. His mother no even send u and ur pikin. What kinda marriage is that? Its your life sha. 8 Likes 1 Share |
Re: My Ex Or My New Man? by bbjummy: 8:54pm On Jan 26, 2017 |
OldBeer:War room ; film wey make sense. But it isn't easy sha o |
Re: My Ex Or My New Man? by enshi(m): 8:54pm On Jan 26, 2017 |
1bkaye: But y did you have to advice her in that direction |
Re: My Ex Or My New Man? by ukandi1(m): 8:56pm On Jan 26, 2017 |
Two years counting and u are still waiting expecting miracles? When a man is off u, he is off u. It's okay to hope for a resolution but u had better prepare ur mind for d worst. Better sue for divorce and move on before time runs out on u. U are just a last resort to him now not a priority and that position is so painful beyond description. Free him, put ur mind together and move on without looking back. Spit him out of ur mouth and now. I am not saying d other divorcee is a better option. U may need to look beyond him before u leap. God luk 1 Like |
Re: My Ex Or My New Man? by villavic(m): 8:57pm On Jan 26, 2017 |
prestigiouslady: excuse me, am very sure he is only saying that so as to tease you for settlement, or have you heard about the twins? my dear just pray and seek for the presence of God in this issue, Reason being is that if we all support you to go on with the new guy, how are we sure your husband doesnt want you back, secondly if we should advice you to go back to your husband and it turn out he doesnt want you, it might be too late because you would have end up loosing the new lover boy. #GOD#OVER#EVERYTHING 1 Like |
Re: My Ex Or My New Man? by Nobody: 8:57pm On Jan 26, 2017 |
prestigiouslady: Be advised that there are two grounds of divorce under Nigerian law- adultery which needs to be proven + a 2 year continuous separation and abandonment + 3 year continuous separation. Staying together for one night restarts the clock. Divorce is not an easy choice as some would have you believe. I went through it and it is like pulling a tooth without anesthetic. The pain isn't so much due to missing the other person but more due a feeling of failure and the time wasted. Then there are the questions your child will ask and the inevitable social and emotional difficulties you face as they graduate, get married etc. If you are a Christian, I would say you really need to be sure and understandably you will tend towards caution but in this case not making a decision is actually taking a decision. Be aware. Find out what God's word actually says yourself. And I stress [/b]yourself[b] Do NOT get involved with anyone. Do yourself and them a favour. It will only lead to tears. Emotionally you will grow out of anyone you meet right now. Buy yourself something nice, decorate your room, learn a new skill and take care of your child. I would NEVER ask you to divorce your husband but understand that it is not the one that files the papers that initiated the divorce but the one who broke the covenant and who refuses to repent or rethink. The one who hardens their neck. I am very sorry you find yourself in this situation. Will be praying for you - for illumination, direction and above all peace. 15 Likes |
Re: My Ex Or My New Man? by Nobody: 8:58pm On Jan 26, 2017 |
enshi:What would you advise she do? 1 Like 1 Share |
Re: My Ex Or My New Man? by Nobody: 8:58pm On Jan 26, 2017 |
Not everyone is meant to get married,that your husband should not marry at all! It is not compulsory,even God said it (yes quote me anywhere). OP,I no talk say make you divorce am oh,but a child is involved here. Not just a child but an innocent one who doesn't deserve to suffer for the sins of two grown adults. So if you can honestly tell me that your child won't become an orphan if you go back to your abusive husband,then do it else better file for a divorce now and stay alive for your child! I Don talk my own oh ![]() 1 Like |
Re: My Ex Or My New Man? by YTderin(f): 8:59pm On Jan 26, 2017 |
HARDDON:Am I seeing double ni ![]() ![]() |
Re: My Ex Or My New Man? by oluwanoni: 9:00pm On Jan 26, 2017 |
It all boils down to the foundation of your relationship and even the new one your presume to enter, a quick advice is to never start a relationship on a emotional and sensual level. Start with the spiritual, everyone as a religion, it teaches us some very important attitudes, like self control, balance, patience for both parties. Move on to the intellectual, are your goals the same, do want the same things in life, are you in sync or for show. Lastly is the sensual part, and integral part of any relationship, should in most cases come last. Don't enter any relationship because, you feel lonely, if you can't make your self happy, how can you make another person happy, you choose to be the person you are by the way you are. @prestigouslady 3 Likes |
Re: My Ex Or My New Man? by irririchris(m): 9:01pm On Jan 26, 2017 |
You need to seek professional advice from a marriage counsellor,, I will gladly recommend Mrs Tinuola Agbabiaka, A marriage counsellor, Founder of Practical Christian Living Initiative. Kindly contact her via on facebook-Practical Christian Living Initiative Twitter and Instagram- @PCLI_NG https://tinuola.blog/ prestigiouslady: 1 Like |
Re: My Ex Or My New Man? by Mznaett: 9:01pm On Jan 26, 2017 |
prestigiouslady: Your story sounds familiar... Pls,were you a member of HTCC? |
Re: My Ex Or My New Man? by AngelicBeing: 9:07pm On Jan 26, 2017 |
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Re: My Ex Or My New Man? by Tenny05(m): 9:11pm On Jan 26, 2017 |
prestigiouslady:I will advise you to give him a trial, he still loves you so much too. Try and work thiings out with him, You don't know what you ll come across with the new man. So what you both need is amendment of the past ways. God bless you |
Re: My Ex Or My New Man? by Nobody: 9:11pm On Jan 26, 2017 |
prestigiouslady:Well, you sound like a good woman. Please sister, move on with your life. That man doesn't care for you whole-heartedly. He seems totally selfish and discombobulated. I really cannot fathom why some men do not cherish good women. 2 Likes |
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