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Re: My Ex Or My New Man? by Mznaett: 10:08pm On Jan 26, 2017 |
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Re: My Ex Or My New Man? by dinachi(m): 10:09pm On Jan 26, 2017 |
Amelian:Where did I mention marriage in that post? |
Re: My Ex Or My New Man? by Nobody: 10:10pm On Jan 26, 2017 |
dinachi: She is married dumbo She needs a home filled with love and care.. Not just sucking and fucvking.. Smhhh. |
Re: My Ex Or My New Man? by Nobody: 10:10pm On Jan 26, 2017 |
1bkaye: I honestly don't know what's she's waiting for. I don't understand why some women like to be abused. 2 Likes 1 Share |
Re: My Ex Or My New Man? by Nobody: 10:15pm On Jan 26, 2017 |
banttieman: She is scared of the unknown.. That's why But in this life? To be happy one must grow some balls.. Orelse the wind will blow one wherever it wants. |
Re: My Ex Or My New Man? by dinachi(m): 10:15pm On Jan 26, 2017 |
Amelian:Sucking n fucking? You are more terrible than I thought! So you Bleep them too with you rubber Love Machine? You are horrible! |
Re: My Ex Or My New Man? by Nobody: 10:16pm On Jan 26, 2017 |
dinachi: Lol I know your type Thank you. |
Re: My Ex Or My New Man? by Apina(m): 10:21pm On Jan 26, 2017 |
prestigiouslady:How serious are u with church activities? Does your parish priest know you? Is he aware?. Hope u know d church cannot divorce u or acknowledge any form of civil divorce? Hope u know u wouldn't be given communion if u choose to go ahead with civil divorce? And u can not remarry except ur partner is dead?. Abuse in marriages isn't rocket science when it comes to our setting. I will blame u for packing ur load based on ur parents advice who certainly are still together to come back and sit at home with them. St. Peter in his second letter said “Do not give d devil any opportunity, stand up to him strong in faith" but u chose to run away at the most trying moment. I bet ur parents aren't aware u cry urself to sleep cos they are enjoying their own marriage. The book of wisdom tells us that a wise woman builds her home with her hands and d foolish destroys it also with the same hands, many marriages crumble cos most women do not see d wisdom in these words which I guess u read by urself on d altar on ur wedding day. Any marriage that has survived d test of time its always cos of the woman. All being said, learn from ur mistakes and make things work, divorce is never an option. |
Re: My Ex Or My New Man? by Quintessential1(f): 10:22pm On Jan 26, 2017 |
prestigiouslady: That's bad... @Your mother-in-law. 1 Like |
Re: My Ex Or My New Man? by Nobody: 10:24pm On Jan 26, 2017 |
Op do the needful and be happy. It might take a while to bounce back but at the end u are free and at peace. |
Re: My Ex Or My New Man? by Jtmanager(m): 10:24pm On Jan 26, 2017 |
na wa o we men de Bleep up jus imagine *how will u feel if he's got a set of twins sisi file for a divorce and move on I've read all these advise from fellow paid men dem wat de ar givin u is padded advise if ure financially ok pls very fast file for the divorce respectable men still dey the country/world If not abeg try attain financial stability b4 u file anytin o so leav him alone truth be told all the options are wit him if he wants to hav u really wants to , my dear he knows wat todo its gonna be hard sha lol u never cry well sef but no shakin Trust in Jesus He's a more faithful husband U will find peace in him gudnight 2 Likes |
Re: My Ex Or My New Man? by Quintessential1(f): 10:24pm On Jan 26, 2017 |
oshdam2015: He's not ready to make it work... |
Re: My Ex Or My New Man? by Nobody: 10:31pm On Jan 26, 2017 |
Amelian: What unknown? Well she might be confused and the ugly thing is time is not on her side anymore. It's better to find happiness than wait for one that will still bring back sorrow someday. 1 Like |
Re: My Ex Or My New Man? by Quintessential1(f): 10:32pm On Jan 26, 2017 |
greenpasture: Ohh, this is just good! Truly insightful. 1 Like |
Re: My Ex Or My New Man? by kizyalex10(m): 10:36pm On Jan 26, 2017 |
When we realise that marriage is a covenant not a contract,when we realise that marriage is for better for worse,when we realise that marriage is not full of roses,but thorns as well.when we realise that marriage is nt about love alone but understanding nd edurance.then the idea of divorce won't be cropping up @ any slightest issue.u knw we have been brainwashed by d white who takes marriage as contract.i guess u dated ur man bfor saying I do,so why didn't u spot dos character of his that u can't tolerate,try nd adjust him nd if he fails,u walk out,for u to accept his proposal means u see him as an ideal man in ur life.when u get married because ur mate are getting married,when u get married for material gain,when u get married out of pressure.this is always d result.a bird @ hand is worth more than 100 in d bush,d devil u knw they say is better than d angel u dont.it takes perseverance to be in a marriage.do u think ur mum nd dad don't quarell or even fight but the understand d concept of covenant that's why not even fight or quarell can separate them.do u ever think of ur babe's future?d one u gave birth for ur guy,if u marry another man,will d new man nd ur kids treat her or him equally without fightings?if u decide to return him or her to d dad who happens to marry another woman,hw do u tink ur babe will be treated there knowing fully well that d wife of ur supposed ex husband won't treat ur babe as equal as her biological kids,then u see?u have somehw created a problem for the kids nd ur self cos he or she won't forgive u when he or she sees his siblings @both end,do better than him or her in future.even u,the man who is officially divorced dat wants to settle down with u must have had kids with the white lady which makes dose kids d senior of ur unborn kids in terms of inheritance.where will be the position of ur babe.think well bfor taking a decision u won't forgive urself.say no to divorce.nothing good comes easily,it takes pain to achieve perfection.as a man ages,his power reduces nd u take charge when the kids grow.so u have to take d pain nw.wish dis little advice of mine can go a long way in ur decision making,if it does don't forget to thank me later.cheers!!!! 1 Like |
Re: My Ex Or My New Man? by Nobody: 10:36pm On Jan 26, 2017 |
prestigiouslady:so what other proof that you are not welcomed there do you need?the man and his mother are in alignment , for your own sanity and health stay off that toxic marriage, like others have said, you seem to be the only one willing to put up with his shitty attitude hence the reason he came back, get legally separated first before talking about another relationship, this life is too short, you have done your best by waiting for him that long, you can't hold yourself responsible for his bad attitude, enough of listening to what people will say or are saying, a man who can disrespect you and your parents by sending you packing is not worth all this trouble, I can assure you,that going back to him will not bring you happiness, cos from what you have said so far,I see no changes in him 2 Likes 1 Share |
Re: My Ex Or My New Man? by prestigiouslady: 10:37pm On Jan 26, 2017 |
Apina: My parent told me to come back home but I insisted he will have to send me out himself that I wouldn't give up on my marriage so easily.. But at the end, he had to invite the police to tell me to leave, when asked what I did, he said nothing, he just needed a "break" Did you wife kept extra marital affairs, he said no Then the DPO told me to go to my people, to avoid stories that touch the heart. And ever since I got back, my parents were still supporting him that he'll come around, until they realised that might not be anytime soon. I've tried all I can to make things work but he keeps frustrating my efforts. |
Re: My Ex Or My New Man? by Nobody: 10:38pm On Jan 26, 2017 |
banttieman: Unknown as in? Will another man marry her and care for her baby like she does? Will her ex husband not come back to torment Her new marriage if she succeed in marrying another because of his child? What kind of in-laws will she face in another marriage.. And how she wish she is really financially Independent to make some fast decisions. Those are certain fears that plagues minds of some married women who is tied to a terrible man as a husband 2 Likes |
Re: My Ex Or My New Man? by Nobody: 10:41pm On Jan 26, 2017 |
Amelian: In my opinion, she needs time. Not jump into another relationship. Time heals you know. She must be strong again for her child. There are countless single moms everywhere and they are all not devastated at not having a man in their lives. There's time for everything 1 Like |
Re: My Ex Or My New Man? by Nobody: 10:42pm On Jan 26, 2017 |
banttieman: Sighs.. Yeah time heals.. She needs time to cool off and pick up the pieces after the divorce . It's well. 2 Likes |
Re: My Ex Or My New Man? by Nobody: 10:43pm On Jan 26, 2017 |
prestigiouslady: He's tired. Let him go. He has booted you, someone better will catch you. |
Re: My Ex Or My New Man? by henribj(m): 10:51pm On Jan 26, 2017 |
just sue for a divorce pure and simple, forget what people will say. but only do this if you are certain you no longer love your husband, if you still love him then you should keep trying to make it work. #justsaying 1 Like 1 Share |
Re: My Ex Or My New Man? by TonyeBarcanista(m): 10:54pm On Jan 26, 2017 |
@Prestigiouslady Firstly, I sympathise with you on this unfortunate state that you find yourself in. I believe that you will come out stronger and happier. Speaking from the male point of view, I think your husband is yet to understand his bearing and he is driven by his ego. He loves you, he wants you but he is stopped due to inferiority complex and fear of your perceived dominance over his life- No thanks to his family background. My candid advice to you is to allow him the break that he demanded and focus on the kids. You should also find time to visit him with or without his consent but DON'T ask him when you are to move in. Also, kill the thought of the other man, it will do you no good. Not forgetting to do some introspection and see how things can be corrected when you both are back together. If i may ask, does he have any sane friend that he listens to? Does he have siblings he listens to? You may exploit that too. Please, DO NOT heed the advice of some ladies here that always shout "DIVORCE" simply because they are either unfortunate to get a husband despite their advanced age or are in a terrible relationship/marriage due to their misguided choices. As a Christian, you have the responsibility to build your home with your husband as the leader of the joint team, that he isn't keeping his side of the bargain doesn't mean he won't. Most importantly, pray to God for lead and guide. He is the only guide and helper. Don't forget to seek advice of matured Christian ladies (not frustrated singles). May God Help You and your family. 1 Like |
Re: My Ex Or My New Man? by TonyeBarcanista(m): 10:58pm On Jan 26, 2017 |
Amelian:Why are some of you quick to scream divorce? Are you married? Are you a divorcée? |
Re: My Ex Or My New Man? by TonyeBarcanista(m): 11:01pm On Jan 26, 2017 |
banttieman:Bro, God bless you |
Re: My Ex Or My New Man? by RALPHOW(m): 11:04pm On Jan 26, 2017 |
Very sorry for the abuse, especially physical abuse. My advice is that you should involve your pastor if you are a Christian and both of you should attend both church and general counseling meetings. Is lack of wisdom that makes a man to physically abuse his wife and at the same time women cause it when they can not hold their mouths. These issues will addressed by counselor. Do not give in to the new guy, believe me he just want to use you. If he can not keep his first love, he can not keep you , except he married the white lady because of immigration papers. |
Re: My Ex Or My New Man? by SFSNIPER(m): 11:07pm On Jan 26, 2017 |
WHOcarex:You signature even says it all. 1 Like |
Re: My Ex Or My New Man? by enshi(m): 11:08pm On Jan 26, 2017 |
prestigiouslady: Yeah... Then against all odds go back to him 1 Like |
Re: My Ex Or My New Man? by flyforall: 11:10pm On Jan 26, 2017 |
Only God can touch the heart of a man. Pray for your family, Take care of your child. God is in control my sister. Read your bible, pray everyday(*3) If you want to grow. |
Re: My Ex Or My New Man? by Nobody: 11:14pm On Jan 26, 2017 |
TonyeBarcanista: Mind u ,am not the only one offering divorce as a solution. Read all her replies and provide your own solution to her.. It's that simple. It's not hard. What concern of yours If am married or divorced? Is this topic about me or the op's? Proffer your own solution to her. She waiting. |
Re: My Ex Or My New Man? by prestigiouslady: 11:16pm On Jan 26, 2017 |
@Tonyebarcanista All his friends have spoken to him and he keeps on repeating the same thing that he's not fighting me and he will call me back when he's ready.. I just wonder what he thinks of me... I'm giving his break but I'm human, its beginning to tell on me...it's becoming tempting. I'm a Christian and that's why I'm still holding on cos I respect my oaths and I believe my vows are sacred... I pray for him everyday, never has a day gone by without me praying for him. 1 Like |
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