lavivaavril:
My sisters good morning, hope we slept well? Hmmm there's this girl in my office that recently got married and just yesterday, I heard that she's pregnant. God I can't describe how I felt! My marriage is over a year and I'm still looking onto God. It is well...

It's not easy. All my colleagues that got married around the same time with me and those that got married after me are all pregnant some have given birth. Even those who had miscarriages have gotten pregnant again, I am almost the only one left. The height is in Church..all the awaiting sisters have gotten their BFPs and children. I even stopped going to church because of the shame but guess what I've made up my mind to return back next Sunday..looking triumphant and dressed up in my best clothes...to glorify God and shame the devil because I'm still alive and standing.

Fpeter, you can go to another church if you feel too embarrassed in this other one. For me I don't like too much attention on my ATC status. Currently, I am not involved in my church and I don't go regularly. We actually relocated so churches changed. I am a bit afraid of getting too involved and people starting to look for signs or news of pregnancy every time. Or them turning me to open prayer point.
Let's see how it goes sha.
Waistbead, we sight you. How bumping, ma?

#2017mums
#We believe

Kudibaby:
Hello fruitful mama's, long time, May the Almighty God visit us soon. Pls who can explain serous cystadenoma of the ovary and how is the treatment? When is the best time to do hsg am currently on af. Thnks

mama's please am still waiting for ur responses.sprinkling baby dust to us all.

lavivaavril:
My sisters good morning, hope we slept well? Hmmm there's this girl in my office that recently got married and just yesterday, I heard that she's pregnant. God I can't describe how I felt! My marriage is over a year and I'm still looking onto God. It is well...

It's okay to have that feeling,if it will make you feel better,it does not happen to only those looking for children,sometimes you see an old classmate and you look at the person and feel like this life self,this lady was always like this but look how she turned out so well.My mum always say "na dem own dem born,dem not go born your own"which is true.Just rejoice with her or anyone and tell yourself it's getting close.

Kudibaby:
mama's please am still waiting for ur responses.sprinkling baby dust to us all.

I have no idea.For the hsg,3 days after af.i.e.to ensure bleeding has totally stopped.

fpeter:


It's not easy. All my colleagues that got married around the same time with me and those that got married after me are all pregnant some have given birth. Even those who had miscarriages have gotten pregnant again, I am almost the only one left. The height is in Church..all the awaiting sisters have gotten their BFPs and children. I even stopped going to church because of the shame but guess what I've made up my mind to return back next Sunday..looking triumphant and dressed up in my best clothes...to glorify God and shame the devil because I'm still alive and standing.

My dear I'm telling you, church is the worst! Anytime they are doing baby dedication, even when I don't know the couple or I feel I can dance there on my spot without coming out, lie lie! Women leader will find me and drag me out to dance to the alter along with people. Other women will be saying words of encouragement! I know they mean well but the attention makes me feel sooo bad!
Pweetymii thanks for the advise

We will all dedicate our own babies soonest! Amen

fpeter:


..looking triumphant and dressed up in my best clothes...to glorify God and shame the devil because I'm still alive and standing.

Hmm,if i start on this one.I am very active in church as a matter of fact,i am still attending the church we had our wedding.I have seen many people get married and have children and even gone to have others.In our awaiting mothers group,i be acting class rep,when we moved,its the same area so most people around kind of know me as per we meet on the road and stuff like that.At work,same thing,but will that change me?if i change my church will i also change my job,change apartment (one i am enjoying so much)or some of my customers that have become personal?Nein!So,my sister,what do i do?i carry myself with so much swag and grace that when those who have children sometimes look at me,i am sure they feel envious (na wetin my mind dey tell me sometimes).Sometimes,when i feel offended at church by any of those women,i get home and cry and my hubby will say stop going to meetings,stop attending the women choir practice if they make you feel bad and so on and so forth.At a time,i noticed a group like a clique all of them got pregnant at same time aah!tani mose?but,i tell myself that God is always on point and nobody go born my own.So far so good,nobody has come to mock me in the face aside mil and fil(story for another day,but as it is now,God don win dem to my side by His grace).
So,sis,wear that fine clothes and dance very well,picture yourself dancing to the altar with your babies for dedication and of course the feeling is euphoric,wen you are imagining it those gbegboruns in church will be wondering what's on your mind and life that is making you look so happy some of them will even start calculating edd for u....

lavivaavril:

My dear I'm telling you, church is the worst! Anytime they are doing baby dedication, even when I don't know the couple or I feel I can dance there on my spot without coming out, lie lie! Women leader will find me and drag me out to dance to the alter along with people. Other women will be saying words of encouragement! I know they mean well but the attention makes me feel sooo bad!
Pweetymii thanks for the advise

We will all dedicate our own babies soonest! Amen

Amen o as in church.... but y will dey drag u forward if u don't want to, to me it not fair but i know it will sha end in praise

Loisemm:
Fpeter, you can go to another church if you feel too embarrassed in this other one. For me I don't like too much attention on my ATC status. Currently, I am not involved in my church and I don't go regularly. We actually relocated so churches changed. I am a bit afraid of getting too involved and people starting to look for signs or news of pregnancy every time. Or them turning me to open prayer point.
Let's see how it goes sha.
Waistbead, we sight you. How bumping, ma?

#2017mums
#We believe

I've been thinking of it too. But my sisters think i should stay back so i won't be tagged a bitter or jealous person , honestly I am not happy anymore. Last time I was in Church my pastor laid his hand on everyone but went ahead to also lay hand on my stomach..He meant well but i was embarrassed seeing that i was the only one he did that to. Again, I was told to sit with nursing mothers and pregnant women...I just dey feel one kind.

@ pweetymii

Ko easy sha but God dey...having my pastor call me every time sef dey add to my anxiety.. I know he is trying to help me but mehhnn...I would have felt better in a bigger church where nobody sabi my prayer point.

pweetymii:

@curvilicious curvy,this your moniker reminds me of one girl on the same floor with us in the hostel then her hips was wiiiiiiddddeeeee that most times my roommates and i used to stare at her(imagine wetin guys go come do).We eventually named her "hippie" not bad shey....if you are not too busy,you should make out time to attend the "carry your baby"tomorrow.
#confessionbringsconception#

Hehehe my own used to be hippo

My dh no dey gree me go anoda church

Hope u don chop o

fpeter:


It's not easy. All my colleagues that got married around the same time with me and those that got married after me are all pregnant some have given birth. Even those who had miscarriages have gotten pregnant again, I am almost the only one left. The height is in Church..all the awaiting sisters have gotten their BFPs and children. I even stopped going to church because of the shame but guess what I've made up my mind to return back next Sunday..looking triumphant and dressed up in my best clothes...to glorify God and shame the devil because I'm still alive and standing.

yes my sister, u must shame d devil n have d last laugh. U need to get closer to God like never bfor. Ur testimony is near sis

After I got married, it was dsame with me. Even when pple were not talking, I felt they were. But courage n God kept me going.
I remember I n my husband fasting every Wednesday #familyagreement# for dat purpose, until God surprised us with a Bfp. My daughter will be a year by June, it can only be God.

He is dsame God. He will do it for u n everyone here.
Cheer up

many are the afflictions of the righteous but the Lord delivereth him at of them all. psalm 34:19.
the Lord Will deliver us all from every form of shame both in our offices,neighborhood and Church. in Jesus Name. Amen

Godanswerprayer:
many are the afflictions of the righteous but the Lord delivereth him at of them all. psalm 34:19.
the Lord Will deliver us all from every form of shame both in our offices,neighborhood and Church. in Jesus Name. Amen

Amennnnn

Godanswerprayer:
many are the afflictions of the righteous but the Lord delivereth him at of them all. psalm 34:19.
the Lord Will deliver us all from every form of shame both in our offices,neighborhood and Church. in Jesus Name. Amen

Amennnnn we shall all testify soon

lavivaavril:
My sisters good morning, hope we slept well? Hmmm there's this girl in my office that recently got married and just yesterday, I heard that she's pregnant. God I can't describe how I felt! My marriage is over a year and I'm still looking onto God. It is well...

My dear you will have your own when it is time. It is God who gives children. I remember at a point during my ttc journey the only people I took note of were pregnant women. Once I see them I will be looking longingly at them. I loved children so much right from when I was a child, I would play with babies, beg to be allowed to carry them,I I would spend hours with children. My SIL who was 11 years older than me was getting pregnant easily even with fibroids. Even at work my colleagues were passing it on to each other. My friends who married around the same time. as I did all had children even some two some pregnant with the second. I stopped going to some places because people who knew me would always look at my belly, my hubby actually caught one lady starring at my stomach. Relatives were calling my parents asking after me. I withdrew myself from keeping in touch with friends except about 3,who were childhood friends and doctors. All of hubby's friends who got married after him all had children, but we kept trusting in God. I kept praying for God to direct me.
When it was time God blessed me with a bfp. After 2years and 8 months of marriage, and I am sure he will complete what is remaining, carrying my bundle of joy.
Truck load of baby dust to you all. I always remember you in my prayers.

Abeg i need help
I have always experienced very dry and almost peppery vagina few days before af.
Serious rumbling stomach the sound sometimes make me cry feeling so very helpless.

I've done everything i know and still without a child

Aww Dazzle86 your story is touching... congrats and thanks a lot. May your pregnancy be smooth and you shall give birth like a Hebrew woman!

fpeter:


It's not easy. All my colleagues that got married around the same time with me and those that got married after me are all pregnant some have given birth. Even those who had miscarriages have gotten pregnant again, I am almost the only one left. The height is in Church..all the awaiting sisters have gotten their BFPs and children. I even stopped going to church because of the shame but guess what I've made up my mind to return back next Sunday..looking triumphant and dressed up in my best clothes...to glorify God and shame the devil because I'm still alive and standing.

what will I say... me that I got pregnant and was already showing bump and later lost it, the pastor told me it was because I didn't attend the programmes in church. so immediately I got pregnant I was practically living in church and I still lost it. The fact that I was showing bump and the church members knew I was pregnant when I lost it I still went to church see all of them looking at me somehow o, I got home and told my husband he said I must continue going there. So I always dress well and dance in church like David.but the problem is the way they look at me like I don't know what's next in my life. Was happy when my husband said I should change church this year. About my friends almost all have their 2nd or 3rd, when I got married I can remember 5 of my friends that I was advicing to have a serious relationship now they are married with babies, even the younger ones we grew up in same hood. My bestfriend that we were ttc together also had miscarriage when I had mine but now she has her child. But in all am still thankful and believe a miracle will happen this year infact starting from this January by God's grace.

curvilicious:
Abeg i need help
I have always experienced very dry and almost peppery vagina few days before af.
Serious rumbling stomach the sound sometimes make me cry feeling so very helpless.

I've done everything i know and still without a child

Sorry dear, why not schedule a visit to see a doc if you haven't done that previously?

it is well

lavivaavril:


Sorry dear, why not schedule a visit to see a doc if you haven't done that previously?

I have seen gynae he said it's normal??

@all is very dry and almost peppery vajayjay normal?

curvilicious:


I have seen gynae he said it's normal??

@all is very dry and almost peppery vajayjay normal?

Pls I think you should seek second opinion. The vagina is a membrane and even during 'dry' Cervical mucus days, it's always moist or wet. Just like the mouth that doesn't exactly get dry no matter how thirsty one is. So for you to describe it as very dry and peppery...I think it has to be checked.
Other mamas, what do you think?

fpeter:



I've been thinking of it too. But my sisters think i should stay back so i won't be tagged a bitter or jealous person , honestly I am not happy anymore. Last time I was in Church my pastor laid his hand on everyone but went ahead to also lay hand on my stomach..He meant well but i was embarrassed seeing that i was the only one he did that to. Again, I was told to sit with nursing mothers and pregnant women...I just dey feel one kind.

That is why i no gree join anything for my new big church make them no know me. Come dey make me dey vex so vex like my formal small church

It is well

jamesbridget13:
yes my sister, u must shame d devil n have d last laugh. U need to get closer to God like never bfor. Ur testimony is near sis

After I got married, it was dsame with me. Even when pple were not talking, I felt they were. But courage n God kept me going.
I remember I n my husband fasting every Wednesday #familyagreement# for dat purpose, until God surprised us with a Bfp. My daughter will be a year by June, it can only be God.

He is dsame God. He will do it for u n everyone here.
Cheer up

Thanks for the encouraging words. I will adopt that weekly fast with DH. I use you as a point of contact.

Where is my boo? Mummykyrti??

curvilicious:


That is why i no gree join anything for my new big church make them no know me. Come dey make me dey vex so vex like my formal small church

It is well

I tell you. I dey sneak into church dey sneak out too. To worsen my plight, my friend wey I carry come church wey we dey TTC together got pregnant and hid it from me until i busted her. Imagine how i feel every Sunday?

lavivaavril:


Pls I think you should seek second opinion. The vagina is a membrane and even during 'dry' Cervical mucus days, it's always moist or wet. Just like the mouth that doesn't exactly get dry no matter how thirsty one is. So for you to describe it as very dry and peppery...I think it has to be checked.
Other mamas, what do you think?

Abi i shld start m2tone again?
I know it helped abit.
I stopped cos as a stay at home mom i cldnt afford to buy at 2500 every 5days but one mama don show me where to get at 1500

Sometimes i begin to tink maybe my mucus are too harsh. Is there a test to check cm acidity?

Mamas, Let's rekindle our prayer fire o....enough slacking and dulling.
Let's start February on a clean slate..let's pray again and fast if possible.


cc:mumredeemer , @ 4realwoman

Mamas the strangest thing happened to me yesterday,i was having lower back cramps in d morning d type I hv b4 AF,i thought maybe I'm ovulating cus it was CD 20,so I kpekus,in d evening after peeing,i wiped and saw blood,dark red like old period blood,i hurriedly put tissue cuz I was in church,now today same lower back cramps in d morning,peed and wiped blood again but with a clot.pls has anyone experienced this,i'm on CD21

curvilicious:


I have seen gynae he said it's normal??

@all is very dry and almost peppery vajayjay normal?

No, its not o
The only time I had that peppery burning vjay during kpekusing, was just after one month on antibiotics and clomid cycle. I see shege. Down there was burning like fire. I only continued that night cos I wanted to collect that liquid gold.
Seek a second opinion. I would have said just try more pre-intimacy or get preseed lubricant but for the peppery feeling.

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