Run for your life bro when I say run I mean RUN.....

The 1st ran away n d 2nd did d same. There is a 92% possibility dat wat made dem run will still pursue u. So if u want to take dat chance, den good luck is wat I wish u

She might be a very poor judge of character, OR the type that loves so carelessly they go overboard at the first seeming show of affection; the reasons she's that way are quite far and few

but I guess the hard part is where you may find yourself one day coming 2nd on her considerations behind "her" children.

because mehn, those kids are relics of her past and a part of her life, you were never or may never be part of.

With that already between you folks, there's gonna be a lot riding on your emotional depth and psychological maturity in getting involved with her.
You'd have to be miles ahead of her in anticipating and meeting her emotional needs etc for her heart, soul and mind to really rest with you thus switching off her "Solo Mode" Switch.

(Don't kid yourself. It's always there. And it's beneath whatever she says she's feeling for you and professing for you now; it will be there regardless of your meeting current surface emotional etc needs like companionship, provision, sexxx/intimacy, guidance etc.) It's been used to assess your overall suitability on whether you're perfect or just being "managed" currently and subject to change later.

It's always complex with those kinda ladies but if you could up your game, provided she's not a dam o, you should enjoy life with her and her kids.

If you love her go ahead, all the past might be spiritual to destroyed her future by marriage. remember she would be of good behavior, because she would not want to be seen as a bad woman. I am sure she going to do well because of past experience except if she
hadn't learned from it.

Never say Never!

BossEmpire:
Guys can you marry a young lady that is a single mum with two kids from two different guys?

Assuming she says the first child came when she was really young and thought she was in love with the father but then he rejected the pregnancy and fled. The second was also from another guy she was in a serious relationship with and felt they were going to get married but immediately she got pregnant he also took off.

I met a lady like this somewhere and I will love to know if there are guys (not divorced men or widowers) who can still get married to a lady with two kids from different guys?

Are you serious?
She should focus on raising her kids.

You'll get to know why the other two took off when you marry her. Don't be deceived by the word "LOVE".

FTbomb:
they're whores because they decided not to kill their children? do you know the number of abortions your so-called single 'good girls' have undergone? some of them don't even have wombs as young and fresh as they are. that's why i must impregnate my woman before putting a ring on it, coz i might not have the time and patience visiting different medical experts, doctors, amadioha and ifa priests because i need a child..

If u do impregnate her b4 ur wedding abeg no dump am with the belle and make her a single mum like the woman the op is making reference to. Its this kind of "pregnancy b4 marriage" and disappointment afterwards that makes some innocent women single mothers. Cos some men find another woman and disappoint the trusting mumu wey get belle yet people call them whores just becaise they trusted. Na only Baba God make women dey trust. Shikena.

enshi:
A lady with an experience is a lady down to earth
A lady who could not conceed To abortion (s) is a virtuous Mother
A lady who single handedly brought up two Kids is an asset
A lady who has seen it all and probably Done it all is fidel
A lady who after all the rejections from Men still wants to love again is a lady with a forgiving spirit

Then a lady with all these attributes above is a lady i would want to call my wife...

Pls op if that lady is working and earning pls be with her else let me meet her...
Genevieve, anie idibia, onyeka nwenu, even patience Jonathan, to mention but a few were all single mothers at a time and some stil are....

That girl who has had abortions, who sold her Child, or who you think is chasis could end up not getting preggy again...

Infact forget every thing i have written, as far as that girl did not flush those pregnancies yes I will marry her thou my clause is... Is she working and earning

Na wa. The way u just dey emphacise "is she working and earning". Your kind love "strong". Biko are u working and earning? KikikikikikikI.

toshmann:


Are you serious?
She should focus on raising her kids.

Because she has kids. She doesn't deserve to be loved? Hmmmn wehdone sir!

BossEmpire:
Guys can you marry a young lady that is a single mum with two kids from two different guys?

Assuming she says the first child came when she was really young and thought she was in love with the father but then he rejected the pregnancy and fled. The second was also from another guy she was in a serious relationship with and felt they were going to get married but immediately she got pregnant he also took off.

I met a lady like this somewhere and I will love to know if there are guys (not divorced men or widowers) who can still get married to a lady with two kids from different guys?

If the love is reciprocal, marry her!!!!!!
NB: Pls don't get her pregnant and run. Or else she ends up with 3 kids by 3 run away fathers (completely sealing her market)..................

felixeze:
You'll get to know why the other two took off when you marry her. Don't be deceived by the word "LOVE".

Meanwhile u nor know her story o but see as u dey judge like say u be God. Make awon aiye no go re-write ur story. Na dat time u go know say some occurrences in life are not natural but spiritual. Do not judge what u know nothing of so u don't get judged in the same vein. Na only God o. Nobody sabi pass.

Jimi23:


Because she has kids. She doesn't deserve to be loved? Hmmmn wehdone sir!

If you are in love with her, why are you on nairaland sampling public opinion? True love needs no advice. True love acts on impulse.

Decision on whom to marry is one aspect of life where it is moral to be selfish. Pity or sympathy or even forgiveness is not enough reason to marry someone. Love and love alone should be the reason and I feel the poster doesn't have enough love for this girl. . . yet.

Dpes she deserve to be loved? Yes. But does a young man deserve to have a fresh wife? Absolutely.

Don't act like she is innocent. Actions have consequences. She wasn't raped. She opened her legs for a man, without condom and without a wedding ring.

Abeg park well joo. Don't play that game with me.

toshmann:


If you are in love with her, why are you on nairaland sampling public opinion? True love needs no advice. True love acts on impulse.

Decision on whom to marry is one aspect of life where it is moral to be selfish. Pity or sympathy or even forgiveness is not enough reason to marry someone. Love and love alone should be the reason and I feel the poster doesn't have enough love for this girl. . . yet.

Dpes she deserve to be loved? Yes. But does a young man deserve to have a fresh wife? Absolutely.

Don't act like she is innocent. Actions have consequences. She wasn't raped. She opened her legs for a man, without condom and without a wedding ring.

Abeg park well joo. Don't play that game with me.

What is ur definition of a fresh wife abeg? Once she isn't a virgin she isn't fresh. If any1 wants her the way she is why discourage him? Is it ur business? How u take know say she wasn't raped? U dey there? I sure say u be woman. Na una dey wicked like this. Biko shift.

newyorks:
my house na IDP camp?

lol..but how many minutes does it take you to think this kind thing

Tread carefully on this one. Some questions to think of: Are you ready to care$$$ for a ready-made family of three? Where are the fathers of these children? Do the fathers provide any support? Some are quick to condemn abortion, but fail miserably in providing solutions for children born out of wedlock and not being taken care of--here, at least, a woman can get an enforceable child support order. Not sure about the laws there. It is not going to be easy financially as we all know children are expensive. Is the woman properly taking care of them by having a well-paying job or has her family stepped in as co-parents? If you have thought about the questions and are satisfied with your answers then, by all means, marry the woman you love. Good luck.

Jimi23:


What is ur definition of a fresh wife abeg? Once she isn't a virgin she isn't fresh. If any1 wants her the way she is why discourage him? Is it ur business? How u take know say she wasn't raped? U dey there? I sure say u be woman. Na una dey wicked like this. Biko shift.

Fresh wife is a nulliparous woman. Woman that has never been pregnant. Yes. Young men deserve such too, especially young men who have no child.

If he likes her, why come to nairaland? Huh?
According to the poster, she wasn't raped. Or do you know something the poster doesn't know?

Now your ogbanje spiritual eyes have told you I'm female abi? Better go find your pastor/doctor/babalawo for further services. If u paid anyone money for those spiritual eyes wey de tell u about my gender, better go back collect your change.

Love indeed. If you love am, marry am. Did I say he shouldn't marry her?

Biko park well joo

Why must it be you. How do you fit in the equation

Yelsnaaw, y not.

rebirthforgoody:





Quote me right.meaning of IDP sir.

idp can b define as a place where boko haram dey pursue people go...eg a place where borno chibok n maiduguri people always gather as 1 big family due to carelessness of ur president.

FTbomb:
well, marriage nowadays is no longer till death do us part; not that i support it, but they call it civilization . two kids from different men... the lady in question might just be a baby factory. but if you truly love her, her kids shouldn't be a barrier to making her your wife. and if, in future, things go bad between you and the relationship turns sour, you file for a divorce..........but take your own kids from her..

haaaa her kids na barrier ooo after like 15yrs u come mess up with der mum my brother na sorry go b ur name ooo.

me i cant, it will be too harsh on me.

gosh were was i when this thing was freely distributed?

I can't....am single nd shld mary single lady

rebirthforgoody:



Understood

You didn't get the sarcasm he was trying to portray.

I hardly comment on these topics but I will give you this piece of advice. NEVER marry a single mum. I repeat, NEVER marry a single mum. I am telling you this from experience. The issue is not because she has a child, no. The issue is that there will be so much drama. If the kids don't like you, then you are in for a long ride. Also, the lady will definitely give more attention to those kids than you. The cost of trying to win the kids over and many other things are not worth it bro. Forget relationships, marriage is a totally different ball game. My apologies to single mums but this is just the way it is. All the best.

BossEmpire:
Guys can you marry a young lady that is a single mum with two kids from two different guys?

Assuming she says the first child came when she was really young and thought she was in love with the father but then he rejected the pregnancy and fled. The second was also from another guy she was in a serious relationship with and felt they were going to get married but immediately she got pregnant he also took off.

I met a lady like this somewhere and I will love to know if there are guys (not divorced men or widowers) who can still get married to a lady with two kids from different guys?

Do you love her? No amount of advice here is capable of changing your emotions when you're in love. Think love first.

Nma27:
If u truly love her and she's a good woman to you, wife her.

U ladies will always support each other.
I can only marry her if she had just only a child to a man or 2 children to a single man and not different men.

BossEmpire:
Guys can you marry a young lady that is a single mum with two kids from two different guys?

Assuming she says the first child came when she was really young and thought she was in love with the father but then he rejected the pregnancy and fled. The second was also from another guy she was in a serious relationship with and felt they were going to get married but immediately she got pregnant he also took off.

I met a lady like this somewhere and I will love to know if there are guys (not divorced men or widowers) who can still get married to a lady with two kids from different guys?

Will she marry me if I have two kids from different women?

Oreoluwa09:
Smh... dats d best choice 4 guys lyk u... ul learn 2 act lyk a great dad 2 oda men's children b4 even being one

my choice....wetin concern you?

Nma27:
If u truly love her and she's a good woman to you, wife her.

Akoshibero