Richy4:
If I say what was on my mind now, You might banish me from your thread...Or even deport me to Nigeria

Here is the thing.... U-don't-like- him...Especially when you feel he doesn't regard u as the Queen of England.

>>>Do you Know if he was giving your husband some money for the up keep of the house and you were not aware of it?

>>>Do you know the reason why he was staying in his friend's house?..Do you think he was not dying of shame staying in your house...just look at it this way, his friend was comfortable and settled and he was still finding his feet...Do you think there was any self esteem left in him especially when he knows that you do not like him?
>>>when you were calling the meeting was your husband there? Don't you think what u did was supposed to be what your husband should have done?

I am saying all these Dear because things do change and he might be the one to pick your husband up when it happens....which face are you gonna use to look at him should such situation arises?....His living arrangement was temporary, u should have endured or speak to your husband........I am gonna suggest that in future, try and destroy a bridge when you are 100% sure you won't be crossing over it or in need of it again....

baby124:
You just dey vex because you don't want that guy in your house again. So you are picking things to use to fight him.

I won't be surprised if many things she said about him were false.

Richy4:
If I say what was on my mind now, You might banish me from your thread...Or even deport me to Nigeria

Here is the thing.... U-don't-like- him...Especially when you feel he doesn't regard u as the Queen of England.

>>>Do you Know if he was giving your husband some money for the up keep of the house and you were not aware of it?

>>>Do you know the reason why he was staying in his friend's house?..Do you think he was not dying of shame staying in your house...just look at it this way, his friend was comfortable and settled and he was still finding his feet...Do you think there was any self esteem left in him especially when he knows that you do not like him?
>>>when you were calling the meeting was your husband there? Don't you think what u did was supposed to be what your husband should have done?

I am saying all these Dear because things do change and he might be the one to pick your husband up when it happens....which face are you gonna use to look at him should such situation arises?....His living arrangement was temporary, u should have endured or speak to your husband........I am gonna suggest that in future, try and destroy a bridge when you are 100% sure you won't be crossing over it or in need of it again....

TheeDetective:
MINT; well said . Some women know how to over exaggerate things and don’t know how to handle issues at home discreetly. Now that her hubby’s friend is gone she's still not satisfied. Probably she should go and find out where he moved to and demand he says thank you to her. I am in no way condoning his behaviour; but she's more like a nagging wife. Now wey him don go, make she face front and park well as no one knows tomorrow and one can have nothing today and have more tomorrow and vice versa, hence we should never look down on anyone.

That's really funny.....
I know she might be frustrated with the guy, but the way she did it was not good...She did not even pause to think that the guy might be dying daily in that house due to the husband's success...

His friend probably the same age with him was married>>Got a house that can accommodate 5 people or more>>Got a Job...
But Him, he got nothing<<<Maybe still coping with unemployment...

In her mind she felt he was comfortable staying in her house watching TV all day...And the little dignity he got, she felt she should strip him of it..even if the guy did all those things she wanted, the way I have seen her tone of writing, she will look for a another degrading chore for him to do because obviously he was living in her mansion and ought to say thank you to her for every breath that he takes in that house...

Richy4:


That's really funny.....
I know she might be frustrated with the guy, but the way she did it was not good...She did not even pause to think that the guy might be dying daily in that house due to the husband's success...

His friend probably the same age with him was married>>Got a house that can accommodate 5 people or more>>Got a Job...
But Him, he got nothing<<<Maybe still coping with unemployment...

In her mind she felt he was comfortable staying in her house watching TV all day...And the little dignity he got, she felt she should strip him of it..even if the guy did all those things she wanted, the way I have seen her tone of writing, she will look for a another degrading chore for him to do because obviously he was living in her mansion and ought to say thank you to her for every breath that he takes in that house...

chuksville:
Please give youwr since matured advice, any insulting comment I remove it..
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Goodmorning beautiful people .
Thank you all. Please i need a sincere comments and advice on this...
My husband's friend staying with me is getting on my nerves in the sence that he doesn't help me out in any house chores like washing the cars and helping out in fetching water but two other guys staying with me does these things without being told to.
there was a day i had a misunderstanding with my husband over preparing cat fish brought by someone who I don't like the way he behaves and i rejected his gift in the persons presence my husband got angry and ordered his friend to prepare the fish in her kitchen. .I am someone that accommodates people when they visit buh this one that came, what he does is to eat without saying thank you after meal,sleep without helping out in the house .there are times i will fetch water and the guy will just seat and be watching me fetch water without making any attempt to help out. two days ago i called a meeting and made him to understand that the other two guys staying with my husband are not his errand boys they are here just the way he came too and they are not his servants ,i made him understand that i won't tolerate such act in my house.if he wakes up in the morning he should help out in the house that its a way of showing appreciation for staying with us .
This morning he packed his things and left without saying thank you to the woman of the house or saying at least I am leaving tnx for accommodating me for close a year. the guy is so annoying that he would use the toilet without flushing it .eat and leave the plates for me or other guys to pack it for him.
pls have done anything wrong? Your sincere comments please .

abdulaz:
Women will always be women sha.

Imagine asking your husband's mate and friend to clear the table for you after eating and tell you thank ma for the good you gave him.

Even if you wanted to address his indiscretion, you should have gone through your husband, you know, man to man, since he brought him in the first place. And as a married woman you should know all men have pride in them, that's what makes them men.

The guy try sha, I can only imagine the things he must have overlooked, heard and ignored all the time he spent in that house.

The took the only option available to him though, which is leaving the house. This should be a motivating spirit for him to work relentlessly without letting what had happened in the past to weigh him down.

No one knows what tomorrow will be. So be nice to anyone close to you who is trying to find his feet.

Treat people good because you think it's good to be good and not because you want them to pay you back in the future or be indebted to you.

No condition is permanent and time always changes everything. Peace.

You spoke well my brother...The part I was so concern about was expecting the husband's friend to wash their car.....where in the world does that happen...haba!!

thehedge:
You didn't do anything wrong, some people don't know how to make their presence of any value. They'll have to learn or live alone

and congratulations! you just got rid of an ingrate before situation gets worse.

Richy4:
If I say what was on my mind now, You might banish me from your thread...Or even deport me to Nigeria

Here is the thing.... U-don't-like- him...Especially when you feel he doesn't regard u as the Queen of England.

>>>Do you Know if he was giving your husband some money for the up keep of the house and you were not aware of it?

>>>Do you know the reason why he was staying in his friend's house?..Do you think he was not dying of shame staying in your house...just look at it this way, his friend was comfortable and settled and he was still finding his feet...Do you think there was any self esteem left in him especially when he knows that you do not like him?
>>>when you were calling the meeting was your husband there? Don't you think what u did was supposed to be what your husband should have done?

I am saying all these Dear because things do change and he might be the one to pick your husband up when it happens....which face are you gonna use to look at him should such situation arises?....His living arrangement was temporary, u should have endured or speak to your husband........I am gonna suggest that in future, try and destroy a bridge when you are 100% sure you won't be crossing over it or in need of it again....

LynnPetra:




Someone that can't contribute his little when he has got nothing will not do shiite when he is finally made.People like that hardly succeed, he is very ungrateful and inconsiderate.

chuksville:

This morning he packed his things and left without saying thank you to the woman of the house or saying at least I am leaving tnx for accommodating me for close a year.