I've finally bought my baby things, atleast most of it, now remaining all the big money ones like cots, car seat.
I want a cot that's very portable, small size, and that can be dismantled and folded up when the baby is no longer using it. Any suggestions?
I don't still think I'm done with clothes tho.
Someone should please tell me what's the realistic quantity of clothes to buy, and their sizes. For instance, how many new born, how many 3-6 and how many 6-9. I don't want to have too few that we'd be doing wash and wear , or too many that she would outgrow the clothes before she even gets to wear them.

cc Jazzyjazz, beeblossoms, Zaynie

Good morning mama's is there any pregnant mama here that took lipton tea while/when pregnant. Becos that's the only tea that can pass through my throat 4 now. Though I do add a lot of milk to it with little sugar. Pls I need advice from mama's who has taken it b4. Edd june.

Maaamaaa:
I need to rant...i just locked my husband outside and i actually dont care where he sleeps...

Do i feel bad? NO

I am just stressed out...

The other day this man watched a 7months pregnant woman struggle with a generator to and fro the mechanič..

Im just 25years old and i'm looking over 40 because of stress...

I have decided he should stay out till monday and i dont care where he sleeps...

Clap for yourself.
If I were your husband, I will send you back to your parents house immediately to learn how to keep a home. And you will only return on your knees. That is if I ever change my mind and take you back.
Women breaking their homes with their hands since Bible days.

Flowerlady01:

Clap for yourself.
If I were your husband, I will send you back to your parents house immediately to learn how to keep a home. And you will only return on your knees. That is if I ever change my mind and take you back.
Women breaking their homes with their hands since Bible days.

Hmmmm. Don't judge anyone except you have walked atleast a mile in their shoes.

Other mamas here have told her what she did is wrong. Which ofcourse it is. But they used a better tone with empathy. We should learn to not castigate people because they bring up their personal issues to us. There are so many women who have done worse and didn't bring it here for you to be a judge.
You don't know what she's going through. The least you could do is be nice. Except of course you are not a woman. Pheeeeeeww.

Lol. My dear, I undastand you but you guys were sugar coating the truth. You told her its wrong but you didn't tell her enough consequences. So she can fear God next time devil tries to tempt her to try such acts again. If her home breaks (God forbid), she may wish she had been told some men would never take such rubbish from her.

Her husband did not try. She too did not try.
I wish her well.
cc gratefulaheart

mofy1:
Good morning mama's is there any pregnant mama here that took lipton tea while/when pregnant. Becos that's the only tea that can pass through my throat 4 now. Though I do add a lot of milk to it with little sugar. Pls I need advice from mama's who has taken it b4. Edd june.

Hello teamie, it is very safe to take limited quantities of Lipton tea (black tea) it contains 45-55 mg of caffeine per serving.
On the other hand, decaffeinated black tea contains 2-5 mg of caffeine(choose this).
It is advised that pregnant women do not take over 200mg of caffeine during pregnancy, because the fetus and even breastfeeding babies can't eliminate excess caffeine from their system.
Adding a lot of milk to it is a plus. But don't take the tea the same time u take ur prenatal vitamins, as it reduces /blocks the absorption of iron.
It will interest you to know that coke ,Pepsi, chocolate, energy drinks and a few other food/drinks contain more caffeine.
DRINK RESPONSIBLY!!!

Hi Everyone, Longest time, Mehn!!! this thread runs faster than Usain bolt!

Congratulations to all that have given birth,
the waddlers still waddling - stay strong,
new preggers - congratulations and welcome to the thread, may your journey be smooth and drama free
Ghost members peeping in from TTC - you are in our prayers - your miracle(s) is on the way by the Grace of God

Just a quick one for anyone considering to use cloth diapers / Nappies see below for relevant information:

https://www.nairaland.com/3511128/how-cloth-diaper

http://mameandboo..co.uk/

https://twitter.com/WambyDiapers

https://www.facebook.com/wambydiapers/

i use cloth diapers and i am quite an advocate of it, so it is quite refreshing to see this.

Flowerlady01:

Clap for yourself.
If I were your husband, I will send you back to your parents house immediately to learn how to keep a home. And you will only return on your knees. That is if I ever change my mind and take you back.
Women breaking their homes with their hands since Bible days.

That was really harsh. Frustration must have pushed her to act the way she did. She is pregnant, you should at least empathize with her then you can correct her, just like other mamas have done. That's the best way to teach someone not this. I am surprised you are a woman. I wonder what you would have said if it was the reverse that was the case. Would you dish out the same judgment.

Thank you all for your advice...

I want to leave this marriage, its not working and yes im not a virtuous woman...

My endurance rope is cut, i dont expect anyone to understand...

I feel like killing this child and myself...

Im tired of this world...i am really tired...

We women don't like to tell ourselves the truth. Its sad. No wahala. I undastand sha.

modified- maamaa abeg o. All will be well. I think you should get close to a good woman who can guide you one on one. A mentor who will tell you the truth and set you on your feet to a successful marriage. Nothing must happen to you or your baby o. Ok bye

Maaamaaa:
Thank you all for your advice...

I want to leave this marriage, its not working and yes im not a virtuous woman...

My endurance rope is cut, i dont expect anyone to understand...

I feel like killing this child and myself...

Pls dear, it hasn't gotten to this oh. I trust God for strength for u. Oh no don't talk like dis. We are praying for u. After the rain and thunderstorm comes sunshine your better days are head. Don't let the devil rub u of u joy. U and ur child deserves a better life and that's what I pray God gives u today. Just hold on to him.

Maaamaaa:
Thank you all for your advice...

I want to leave this marriage, its not working and yes im not a virtuous woman...

My endurance rope is cut, i dont expect anyone to understand...

I feel like killing this child and myself...

https://www.nairaland.com/3427498/frustrated-woman I remember this post. Pls b strong for the baby. I guess he really never wanted the marriage

Lol. Just leaving the hospital oh. Still on waiting game, contractions not regular yet so let me wait at home

Giddyperson:
hunniesuzie, how are you? where are you? Has it happened yet?

Giddyperson:
I've finally bought my baby things, atleast most of it, now remaining all the big money ones like cots, car seat.
I want a cot that's very portable, small size, and that can be dismantled and folded up when the baby is no longer using it. Any suggestions?
I don't still think I'm done with clothes tho.
Someone should please tell me what's the realistic quantity of clothes to buy, and their sizes. For instance, how many new born, how many 3-6 and how many 6-9. I don't want to have too few that we'd be doing wash and wear , or too many that she would outgrow the clothes before she even gets to wear them.

cc Jazzyjazz, beeblossoms, Zaynie

My Opinion:
dont get too many newborns because you don't know how big your baby will be and it will be out grown before you blink.

Dont waste your money buying any outing clothes that is less than 3 months. - most babies live in vests and sleepsuits and they don't go out much in the first 3 months. however you may want to get something nice for baptism or dedication if you know you will do it before 3 months.
".. but what about naming?" i hear you ask. Have you ever seen anything more than a baby's face at the naming?, at 8 days old, they are all wrapped up so no one will see the clothes underneath the blanket/ shaw. just get a nice blanket for the photos.

Consider how often you will bath the baby and how often you want to do laundry and that will guide you.

For instance- f you want to do laundry like once a week i would say about 10 vests and 10 bodysuits at any one time. however if you want to bath baby twice a day - due to nigerian heat, then you may need to double or at least add half that number to about 15 to 20

may be 3 in newborn size; and 7 in 0-3 months

then when they out grow that you can get:

3 no 3-6 months and 7 no 6-9 months
you really don't want to be buying a new set every 3 months, so you can reduce the number of 3-6 months and get more 6-9 months, as they will grow into it and you will use them for longer)

from about 6 months, note they will be wearing other clothes so you may want to reduce the Bodysuits for nighttime only, but the vests will be used day and night, and also on their own if the weather is too hot. they are also more mobile so you will want to cut down on the oversized sleepsuits so they dont trip or fall so

7 no 9-12 months - sleep suits, 10 no 12-18 months vests - the vests sleeves can be rolled up if long sleeve.

Other cloths like dresses, tops, trousers etc, you can get no more than 4 at any one time for outing, - most likely for church on sunday or the odd party. and always have atlleast 2 of them a size up. because you can wake up one fine sunday morning and bring out your 3-6 month fancy dress, and your 4.5month old daughter has outgrown it.

For house clothes - see how you get on, after like 3 -6 months you will have an idea of how many to buy


get plenty bibs, i ended up having at least 20! you will use like 3 a day on a good day! had only 7 initially and i ended up hand washing every second day to be able to keep up.

Don't buy too many mittens - they always seem to fall off, and get lost. getting the ones with good elastic is ridiculously hard. alternative is to use baby stocks instead - it never falls off. so you may want buy more of the socks.

For the cot, a bassinet is your best bet - they last till about 6 months, they can be dismantled when done, some even have castors so you can easily move them from one room to the other. some also double as a rocker so you can rock the bassinet ...... very useful feature.

if you want something longer lasting and more versatilte, and if you have space in your house, i would say get a travel cot, most can be used for a long time about 9 or 12 months i think and some can be transformed into a play pen when baby is too big to sleep in them. you also get the benefit of them being collapsible and you can easily carry it with you if you are travelling e.g - a weekend at grandma's. you can also get a mosquito net and lay over the top.

hope this helps.

sorry i sabi write plenty.

Buy Graco pack and play. I shared a picture a few pages back. When I get home I'll share a pic of how it looks packed. You can take it from room to room or even for long visits to someones house.

Clothes sha take it easy. People will still gift you stuff and you can buy as you go along. I bought very few 0-3 and focused more on 3-6. Can't remember the exact quantity

Giddyperson:
I've finally bought my baby things, atleast most of it, now remaining all the big money ones like cots, car seat.
I want a cot that's very portable, small size, and that can be dismantled and folded up when the baby is no longer using it. Any suggestions?
I don't still think I'm done with clothes tho.
Someone should please tell me what's the realistic quantity of clothes to buy, and their sizes. For instance, how many new born, how many 3-6 and how many 6-9. I don't want to have too few that we'd be doing wash and wear , or too many that she would outgrow the clothes before she even gets to wear them.

cc Jazzyjazz, beeblossoms, Zaynie

Maaamaaa:
Im tired of this world...i am really tired...

Pull yourself together. Immediately rid yourself of all negative thoughts. What has happened has happened.

Na way forward we need now.....

What options are available to you? Many mamas are available here for you to talk to privately and otherwise..

Flowerlady01:
Lol. My dear, I undastand you but you guys were sugar coating the truth. If her home breaks (God forbid), she may wish she had been told some men would never take such rubbish from her.

Her husband did not try. She too did not try.
I wish her well.
cc gratefulaheart

one has to be careful with people like you o; u dont counsel an obviously pained person who prolly has a story /act of regret dt way. I wonder why u later remembered to refer to her husband's deed sef.
u said we women refuse to tell ourselves d truth; yes u can tell sm1 a hard truth bt situations av 2 b observed.individuals differ in emotional strength.despite d mild way mamas here av corrected her, we all can see d outcome still.
peace

Maaamaaa:
Im tired of this world...i am really tired...

I remember ur early threads when u had just taken in. Pls don't entertain thoughts of suicide. Are u in touch with ur parents? Ur mum will be glad to help out. U cld take time off work to go spend some time with them. Don't expect too much from ur child's father.
U don't have to ans this if u don't want to
did u guys eventually get married?

AlphaHandMaiden:
Hi Everyone, Longest time, Mehn!!! this thread runs faster than Usain bolt!

Congratulations to all that have given birth,
the waddlers still waddling - stay strong,
new preggers - congratulations and welcome to the thread, may your journey be smooth and drama free
Ghost members peeping in from TTC - you are in our prayers - your miracle(s) is on the way by the Grace of God

Just a quick one for anyone considering to use cloth diapers / Nappies see below for relevant information:

https://www.nairaland.com/3511128/how-cloth-diaper

http://mameandboo..co.uk/

https://twitter.com/WambyDiapers

https://www.facebook.com/wambydiapers/

i use cloth diapers and i am quite an advocate of it, so it is quite refreshing to see this.

Hi, From what age did you start using it for your baby? Are there other diaper brands apart from wamby something? Are there different types of cloth diapers? I received two for a present. They have inserts in them and i have no clue how to use it.

See i rarely give marriage advise cos my own thinking is different from normal people's own but as I see kill yourself I can't but comment

I believe in making marriage work but when e don reach life or death please choose life. Marriage is not the beginning and end of it all. I don't know what your specific situation is but please abeg, where there is life there's hope.

I believe you're a grown woman and have weighed your options very well. If leaving is the best thing biko leave.

Suicide is not an option. May God guide you to make a decision that is best for you and your unborn child

Maaamaaa:
Thank you all for your advice...

I want to leave this marriage, its not working and yes im not a virtuous woman...

My endurance rope is cut, i dont expect anyone to understand...

I feel like killing this child and myself...

Thank you all for your concern...

My story is too long for me to share and im very tired.

I'll be strong...

I want to end this marriage, i cant continue with it anymore, i got married out of family pressure and societal stigma and i regret it everynight..

I cry every night and i hate myself badly...
I feel worthless and i have started hating this child...

Doctors say my blood level is really low 6.0....

All i have in life now is God.

Maaamaaa:
Thank you all for your concern...

My story is too long for me to share and im very tired.

I'll be strong...

I want to end this marriage, i cant continue with it anymore, i got married out of family pressure and societal stigma and i regret it everynight..

I cry every night and i hate myself badly...
I feel worthless and i have started hating this child...

Doctors say my blood level is really low 6.0....

All i have in life now is God.

I have to login to comment on your issue. Let us call a spade a spade, you need to grow up. I see no reason why you post here when you won't listen to reasonable advice. You were warned before entering it. I remember commenting on your post then but you never listened.
I know some people will say I sound HARSH but if you followed this her posts you will know she really need someone to talk sense to her.

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Hi, From what age did you start using it for your baby? Are there other diaper brands apart from wamby something? Are there different types of cloth diapers? I received two for a present. They have inserts in them and i have no clue how to use it.

Hello. If we may chip in ,

depending on the weight of your baby and the product you have, most mums tend to start cloth diaering after 6 weeks (they are first time mums and we are mums too, we recommend giving yourself time to get your breastfeeding routine down and adjust to having a newborn and their demands). 2nd time mums start from the hospital because now they have more experience with babies.

there are other foreign brands of cloth diapers. Like Flip, Chelory, Bumgenious etc. Wamby Diapers is Nigerian owned and Nigerian-made (at least 50% of our stock). 6 months before Wamby Diapers launched, we contacted mums we found out were cloth dispersing and sent them our products to test. We wanted to compete with the best. And that is why they still support us till today. The mothers behind Wamby Diapers are scientists, a couple of engineers (with extensive experience in production). We are a woman-owned business and we feel we would like to empower our own people instead of continually giving money to people who keep signing laws making it harder for us to even visit their country (you want Nigerian money but not our presence ).

Another reason why we started was every cloth diapering mum who was in Nigeria complained that there was no customer service or aftercare. Why should you be sold a product and not be told how to use it? We cannot speak for other products (unless we know the brand) but if you read our blog www.mameandboo..com, I'm pretty sure you will find answers on how to use that cloth diaper product you were gifted. Our mums writing the posts are well-versed in a lot of cloth diaper product usage from a lot of brands.

Thank you

Maaamaaa:
Thank you all for your concern...

My story is too long for me to share and im very tired.

I'll be strong...

I want to end this marriage, i cant continue with it anymore, i got married out of family pressure and societal stigma and i regret it everynight..

I cry every night and i hate myself badly...
I feel worthless and i have started hating this child...

Doctors say my blood level is really low 6.0....

All i have in life now is God.

pele. according to u, u allowed other(irrational) factors lead u into taking a 'not well thought out' step. please don't let ur present predicament lead u into taking a rash decision this time.get wise elders to guide u; may God lead u aright

ladecrown:

I have to login to comment on your issue. Let us call a spade a spade, you need to grow up. I see no reason why you post here when you won't listen to reasonable advice. You were warned before entering it. I remember commenting on your post then but you never listened.
I know some people will say I sound HARSH but if you followed this her posts you will know she really need someone to talk sense to her.

Seconded.....me I hardly comment on issues like this.maamaa this z not the time to cast aspersions.take some time off....go to your parents place to cool off for sometime.pls stop striving in negativity.

Hmmm.
Help her if you want to help her. The wounds of a friend is better than the poison coated kisses of an enemy. The truth is harsh sometimes but it can reset the brain.

Maamaa , I know you won't take my advice or any other persons advice here that seems harsh. Of course, many mamas will continue to pet you and call me names. Its Ok. No shaking.

U are not the first woman to enter her husband's house through pregnancy. You won't be the last. Some were able to make it work later on. If you want to leave, fine. But me thinks with wisdom and calmness, you can make it work since you are already in. And I repeat, dont harm urself or ur child. Its not worth it.

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Hi, From what age did you start using it for your baby? Are there other diaper brands apart from wamby something? Are there different types of cloth diapers? I received two for a present. They have inserts in them and i have no clue how to use it.

I started from 3 months, although it was because i just felt a bit overwhelmed with being a new mom, and i had like 10 packs of disposables as gifts so decided to use those first.
You can use them from birth, and there are even tiny sizes for pre-term babies or newborns with low birth weights.


There are many cloth diaper brands out there, there are popular US and UK brands which are what i have but Wamby is practically the only Naija brand that seem to know what they are talking about regarding modern cloth diapers. i.e they are not just selling for selling sake, they genuinely know their products and what works, with tips and ideas on how to use cloth diapers.


Cloth diapers all come in different styles for instance All-in-ones, All-in-twos, pocket diapers, Fitted diapers, flats, inserts, covers/ wraps... etc etc but in essence you get an absorbent part and a waterproof part.

For the one(s) you have, post a few pictures and i will know what type it is before i can tell you how it works.

My parents believe in endurance...

Im supposed to reason this out but i actually dont know what to do...i'm really confused...

Please, if youve experienced this or you know someone, please i want to talk with you

Maaamaaa:
My parents believe in endurance...

Im supposed to reason this out but i actually dont know what to do...i'm really confused...

Please, if youve experienced this or you know someone, please i want to talk with you

You can reach me on geze911@gmail.com if you want to talk! I may have a word or two that may be useful.

Suicide is never an option out of anything! Be brave and face the challenges head on.

Liftedhands:
You can reach me on geze911@gmail.com if you want to talk! I may have a word or two that may be useful.

Suicide is never an option out of anything! Be brave and face the challenges head on.

I sent a mail but it bounced back..

AlphaHandMaiden:


My Opinion:
dont get too many newborns because you don't know how big your baby will be and it will be out grown before you blink.

sorry i sabi write plenty.

Oh my..We have really missed you!