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Top 10 Qualities Of A Good Wife That Wives Of This Generations Don't Have! by Glory12345(f): 8:57pm On Feb 15, 2017 |
A woman plays many roles in her life. She is a daughter, a wife and a mother. Every woman obviously wants to be a good daughter, a good wife and a good mother too. She has to give lots of love in order to be all these ‘goods’. But just love is not enough to be a good wife. Some skills and qualities are required to be a good wife and of course for a healthy marriage. My advice to all the housewives is to be a good wife and then expect your man to be a good husband! Also it’s easy to be in unconditional love in the earlier stages of a relationship but to continue your relationship with the same spark in the later years you need to do a lot of things. I dedicate this article to all the married women out there! Here are the qualities that a good wife must have. 10. Quit Nagging There is a proverb that a nagging wife annoys like a constant dripping. I absolutely agree with that. Who doesn’t get annoyed by nagging? Nagging and complaining constantly may create an unwanted rift in your relationship. It can also become a vicious cycle forcing him to avoid you. This will definitely complicate the things between you and make them worse. How do you expect him to like you if he feels personally attacked by your nagging? Nagging doesn’t work, so just quit it. Ask him nicely and I bet that he’ll definitely consider what you are saying. Remember that a good wife doesn’t nag! 9. Look good, Charm him Most women believe that it doesn’t matter how they look after marriage. But the truth is it definitely does matter. Married women tend to gain weight, become fat and lose their shape. Ladies, you have to take care that you look attractive even after marriage or else men can find their own way! So it is necessarily important that you captivate all his attention only on you. This will definitely keep him from cheating you. Husbands really love good looking wives. They will do anything to please them! 8. Be Unpredictable, Surprise him often Even though there is an issue as to whether being unpredictable is a good thing in marriage or not, according to me it just spices up the relationship. Relationships get boring if they are too predictable. You just have to take care that the unpredictable things you do are not disturbing! Surprising your husband with thoughtful gifts every now and then, special candle light dinners or even special romantic nights with you playing the seductress will help you grab his attention! Even small surprises like making his favourite snack or dish once in a while will do. You can also come up with some creative ways of surprising him. The central idea is to give him the thrill of surprise and remember that men like surprises too! 7. Organize the house, be a good maid Keep your house clean and organized. The healthy atmosphere you create in your home will lift his mood. Come up with innovative ideas to make your home a peaceful place for him. Don’t ever feel burdened doing all the chores. It’s not a bad idea after all. Make him dependent on you by doing all his chores. He’ll surely miss you and think about you when you are not around! Let’s be reminded of a quote in this context “A wife is a friend first, a lover second, and third and probably most important, a maid.” 6. All the positive qualities A good wife is pleasant and she is not rude. To be a good wife you must be warm, kind, affectionate, caring, understanding, positive, obedient and friendly. You should also be responsible, reliable and give him confidence to do anything. All these qualities will make your husband comfortable around you. When your husband returns home after a hard day at work a warm welcoming smile will make his day! You have to possess all these positive qualities. You have to be loyal and support him both in his success and failure. You should be at his side especially in times of hardship. Most important of all respect your husband and you’ll definitely get back his respect! 5. A Guy needs his Space You must accept that your husband has a life other than you. There are other people too in his life like his family, friends and workmates. He also has his hobbies, interests and passions too. Don’t stop him from having this other life. Give him his space. Let him do whatever he wants to and this will make him love you more. One straight point is that an interfering wife is so irritating. Don’t interfere, don’t irritate and he’ll love you back! 4. Sexual Intimacy is important too If a guy is not met with his sexual needs it can be reflected in his mood. If your husband is frustrated often the reason might be that his sexual desire is not being fulfilled. One of the reasons why most marriages fail is because of lack of exciting sexual relationship! According to a research the reason why most men cheat is mostly physical whereas for women it is emotional! Make your husband happy in bed. The best way to satisfy your husband is to think in his shoes and give him what he needs. 3. Don’t hide your love As you may know hiding your love is of no use. Don’t withhold your love. Express it to him. He’ll definitely appreciate that. Join in his activities and spend as much time as is possible with him. Complement and praise him very often. Small gestures are enough to show your love. Remember the special days in his life, celebrate every small occasion in a simple manner that he will enjoy and get unique gifts for him as a token of your love. Bring joy to him with these small but unique ideas and he’ll never forget the special moments and memories you create. 2. Be open with your feelings A guy will trust you only if you open up to him. Be honest with your husband. Trust him with everything. Don’t keep any secrets from him. You can earn his trust this way. Relationships succeed only if there is mutual trust! Make it compulsory to talk to him daily about how his day was spent. Listen to what he says patiently and understand his feelings. Remain calm if any difficult discussion arises and try to sort it out. Assure him that you are there for him. Good communication will strengthen your bond! 1. Compatibility There are many personality traits that attract you and your husband to each other making you both compatible with each other but they may not hold up over time. And if this dissimilarity arises you can’t suddenly call yourselves incompatible. You should understand that compatibility isn’t something you have but instead it’s something you make. A good wife takes care that she doesn’t grow apart from her husband. She makes herself compatible with her husband. You must be wondering how this can be achieved. The answer is simple, by improving your relationship skills you can get along better with your husband. This includes making compromises and solving your conflicts. You have to tolerate the burden of being bored and dissatisfied. Remember these lines “A perfect wife is one who doesn’t expect a perfect husband”. Create compatibility and eventually you will become soul mates! You may be having doubts whether this will work out or not but trust me, these things that you do for him will not go unnoticed. In fact these will increase his love for you and even inspire him to do things for you. Also most of the things mentioned in this article are not just mere ideas of a writer. They are the opinions of many experts brought to you in a presentable manner that you can understand! 4 Likes 2 Shares |
Re: Top 10 Qualities Of A Good Wife That Wives Of This Generations Don't Have! by collinshush: 9:21pm On Feb 15, 2017 |
2, 3, 5, 9 and 10. Good post! |
Re: Top 10 Qualities Of A Good Wife That Wives Of This Generations Don't Have! by Glory12345(f): 9:29pm On Feb 15, 2017 |
collinshush:the rest? |
Re: Top 10 Qualities Of A Good Wife That Wives Of This Generations Don't Have! by Nobody: 9:31pm On Feb 15, 2017 |
Your title. |
Re: Top 10 Qualities Of A Good Wife That Wives Of This Generations Don't Have! by ReneeNuttall(f): 9:33pm On Feb 15, 2017 |
she should just turn herself to his personal slave,if that will make her a good wife....people seem to forget that ,some men don't appreciate good deeds,if u like use Ur head to scrub d floor for him,a cheating spouse will always be a cheating spouse. same is applicable to women. 8 Likes 3 Shares |
Re: Top 10 Qualities Of A Good Wife That Wives Of This Generations Don't Have! by collinshush: 9:48pm On Feb 15, 2017 |
Glory12345: The rest are equally OK. But as a man, those ones I mentioned are okay for me. 2 Likes |
Re: Top 10 Qualities Of A Good Wife That Wives Of This Generations Don't Have! by joycesims(f): 9:54pm On Feb 15, 2017 |
@op are u married? do you have/want a daughter? either way, if this generation of women have lost it, help the world to rectify it by starting to train the females in your life with those qualities in mind. Start the change you seek! 3 Likes |
Re: Top 10 Qualities Of A Good Wife That Wives Of This Generations Don't Have! by Nobody: 9:59pm On Feb 15, 2017 |
Mtcheeeeeew Only the female child has to do this and that to be the perfect slave 3 Likes |
Re: Top 10 Qualities Of A Good Wife That Wives Of This Generations Don't Have! by Acidosis(m): 6:51am On Feb 16, 2017 |
joycesims: Some of us are already doing that. At least, I can speak about some of my cousins.. They'll never watch me go hungry, in fact, one practically ask me whenever we are together whether she could assist with laundry. On my own path, I try to take care of them, understand their needs and make them happy. And no, it isn't about age, education or money. The youngest of them all is a year 3 medical student. Mind you, I've met a girl whom I thought was perfect enough for a relationship/marriage until the day she openly told me she only cook, and clean whenever she's in the mood... Really?! So what happens to the family when the mood disappears for days...weeks? I have no doubt the closest female relatives around me will make good wives and mothers. Its sad that whenever these issues spring up, people are quick to use the word: slavery, and all of that. Relationship is all about serving. A woman who is not ready to be called or seen as a "slave", and a man who isn't ready to be seen or called a "maga" or "woman wrapper" should not bother about marriage in the first place. They're better off wrestling in a WWE ring. Relationship is all about serving. 5 Likes |
Re: Top 10 Qualities Of A Good Wife That Wives Of This Generations Don't Have! by Glory12345(f): 7:03am On Feb 16, 2017 |
Pls just leave all dis ladies/girls oooo doing boss lady they want to feel like a boss too.. I pity all of u.. Am also a lady and I know what am talking about, I work but I believe what is right is right that's Y many don't stay long in there marriages coz they lack it they believe that can't be slaves to any guy but I believe Dats not true.. *i rest my case * Acidosis: |
Re: Top 10 Qualities Of A Good Wife That Wives Of This Generations Don't Have! by Acidosis(m): 7:07am On Feb 16, 2017 |
Glory12345:Nice one, I like it when people speak the truth |
Re: Top 10 Qualities Of A Good Wife That Wives Of This Generations Don't Have! by Glory12345(f): 7:11am On Feb 16, 2017 |
Acidosis:But truth is bitter u know ![]() |
Re: Top 10 Qualities Of A Good Wife That Wives Of This Generations Don't Have! by Acidosis(m): 7:17am On Feb 16, 2017 |
Glory12345:Yea sure, truth is bitter, but it will set us free. 1 Like |
Re: Top 10 Qualities Of A Good Wife That Wives Of This Generations Don't Have! by Glory12345(f): 7:36am On Feb 16, 2017 |
Acidosis:If they like dey hear and if they like dey don't.... |
Re: Top 10 Qualities Of A Good Wife That Wives Of This Generations Don't Have! by jeff1607(m): 7:59am On Feb 16, 2017 |
the only challenge here is will the ladies hear word? compare ladies born in the 60s 70s 80s 90s and then you would understand that certain behaviours are going down the drain like in Arithmetic progression gone are the days when any woman can be matched with any man back in the day all you need do is either ask the family questions or ask people around questions about the family, one doesn't need to even approach the lady to know. now ladies n men ve preferences, I think the issues with change lies with how mothers now train their daughters and how fathers handle their sons 1 Like |
Re: Top 10 Qualities Of A Good Wife That Wives Of This Generations Don't Have! by Glory12345(f): 8:25am On Feb 16, 2017 |
jeff1607:True but I don't have a mother to train me I trained myself. |
Re: Top 10 Qualities Of A Good Wife That Wives Of This Generations Don't Have! by jeff1607(m): 8:35am On Feb 16, 2017 |
Glory12345: I guess you made a resolve at a certain point in life and you had an early perception of life itself and chose a path. takes a lot of self will n discipline tho I duff my hat for you |
Re: Top 10 Qualities Of A Good Wife That Wives Of This Generations Don't Have! by pocohantas(f): 6:50pm On Feb 16, 2017 |
It's very simple, if a guy feels ladies of this generation have lost it...simply marry from the generation that has the qualities you seek. Probably their mother's mate... ![]() Same reason some ladies marry older men. The men of this generation are perfect I guess. Wives of this generation? If only you know the female populace. 6 Likes 1 Share |
Re: Top 10 Qualities Of A Good Wife That Wives Of This Generations Don't Have! by Richy4(m): 7:16pm On Feb 16, 2017 |
Number 5 is lovely....... But OP the headings for number 7 is really funny....it's like looking for Nokia 3010 .....where will one find a maid as a wife....No one play that character anymore in Marriage...not even in the village.... |
Re: Top 10 Qualities Of A Good Wife That Wives Of This Generations Don't Have! by johnson232: 9:01pm On Feb 16, 2017 |
Why do women of this generation misconstrue good manners as slavery? Everyman will always appreciate a good woman... 4 Likes |
Re: Top 10 Qualities Of A Good Wife That Wives Of This Generations Don't Have! by Olufemiolaolu(m): 12:15am On Feb 17, 2017 |
ReneeNuttall:feminist spotted. ![]() 1 Like |
Re: Top 10 Qualities Of A Good Wife That Wives Of This Generations Don't Have! by Glory12345(f): 7:05am On Feb 17, 2017 |
Richy4:Dats where most people get it wrong y don't understand the context it simply means as a wife try to play the role of a maid which means cooking, cleaning the house etc once in a while coz after now if ya maid nau snatch ya hubby u will be shouting around... |
Re: Top 10 Qualities Of A Good Wife That Wives Of This Generations Don't Have! by Dyt(f): 7:09am On Feb 17, 2017 |
I am definitely reading stuffs today Hehehehe |
Re: Top 10 Qualities Of A Good Wife That Wives Of This Generations Don't Have! by Richy4(m): 7:30am On Feb 17, 2017 |
Glory12345: I just want to ask you madam, All this you stated in your write ups, do you do half of it?.......Just a harmless question...It's Okay if you do not feel like answering that. |
Re: Top 10 Qualities Of A Good Wife That Wives Of This Generations Don't Have! by Glory12345(f): 7:34am On Feb 17, 2017 |
Richy4:Yes I do, tho am not in a relationship at the moment but am certain I do.. |
Re: Top 10 Qualities Of A Good Wife That Wives Of This Generations Don't Have! by babseg(m): 11:12am On Feb 17, 2017 |
So many idiotic ladies on this thread. So loving your spouse, don't nag, dress well, etc are what itss now considered for been a slave. I would rather remain single 2 Likes |
Re: Top 10 Qualities Of A Good Wife That Wives Of This Generations Don't Have! by Nobody: 2:04pm On Feb 17, 2017 |
Acidosis:no offense but this is utter hogwash. ![]() why don't you also train The men to be better house husbands? why Can't The society Also teach men what they should and shouldn't do? Why can't men also learn how to cook? Why is cooking a chore Exclusive to only women? don't men eat too? Why does it have to always be the women making these dumb sacrifices? why does the society feel the need to Order and tell women what to do with their lives? don't nag. don't Talk back at your husband. obey your husband. charm him. please, we're tayad of all these rules!!!! we don't care anymore!!! 2 Likes |
Re: Top 10 Qualities Of A Good Wife That Wives Of This Generations Don't Have! by Nobody: 2:31pm On Feb 17, 2017 |
Smile and wave ![]() |
Re: Top 10 Qualities Of A Good Wife That Wives Of This Generations Don't Have! by babseg(m): 2:36pm On Feb 17, 2017 |
Estharfabian: Then you should be ready to be a single parent ![]() |
Re: Top 10 Qualities Of A Good Wife That Wives Of This Generations Don't Have! by vcente(m): 2:39pm On Feb 17, 2017 |
Estharfabian:see eh all these rules were made for a reason cos some women can be troublesome.besides if u still see cooking as a chore then u aint ready for marriage.personally I will get a vacuum cleaner and a washing machine so everyone can maintain the household 1 Like |
Re: Top 10 Qualities Of A Good Wife That Wives Of This Generations Don't Have! by Acidosis(m): 6:29pm On Feb 17, 2017 |
Estharfabian: I'm aware men have bigger roles to play, and some were rightly stated in my post. Chill babe... |
Re: Top 10 Qualities Of A Good Wife That Wives Of This Generations Don't Have! by Berbierklaus(f): 7:00pm On Feb 17, 2017 |
Acidosis:Then the husband takes over ![]() that's what marriage is about,help yourselves 1 Like |
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