iLegend:


[s]I haven't read any comment on this post. I just read the entire post and I already know 99% of the people that'll comment will be against this post. If I had read this post 10 years ago, I would've said, this girl is mad. Trust me. I'm an insider in the dating world and I also understand psychology. Most people who will read this post will think the way I would've thought 10 years ago. Thank God, 10 years ago is over.

There are only 5 types of faithful men left in this world and they are the types of men most women don't even admire.

1. The man is too poooooor. (Too poor to the point it affects his brain. Just like me Lol).
2. The man is uneducated. (So uneducated to the point he can't spell his name, let alone compose a coherent sentence in front of a lady).
3. The man is too ugly. (So ugly to the point he, himself, is scared to look at himself on the mirror).
4. The man is extremely short. (Too short to the point Aki and Pawpaw will look like giants).
5. The man escaped death or a severe sickness. (He escaped a kind of situation where he asks God to save his life and he will forever serve him and him alone).

If you're a man and you belong to any of the above, then being faithful is your default duty. So, we don't see this as being faithful. It's your job. Any man who does not belong to any of the above CAN NEVER BE FAITHFUL. Although, he'll promise his wife or girlfriend he'll forever remain faithful, and to be honest, he'll try his best to be faithful, but the devil will NEVER let him keep his promises. It's just a matter of time. When this happens, some men will commit suicide for not keeping their vows, other men will confess to their wives or girlfriends, while the rest will forever keep silent by telling themselves, "as long as she doesn't know, there'll be peace." (He'll promise himself never to do this again, but don't worry, it's just a matter of time as usual). The truth hurts and no one likes the truth, including myself. If I'm ugly and you tell me I'm ugly, I won't like it, even if it's the truth. So, the truth hurts and no one likes it.

When I post dating tips for men all the bad boys moderators know it's the truth, but they can never move it to front page, because the truth is bitter. But the moment importexpert goes online and copies other people's dating articles that are untrue and written by Mr. Nice Guys, the moderators move them to front page (knowing fully well dating is not his Jagaban specialty). They do so because that's what the masses want.

Nigerian song lyrics suck, the beats are great, but because the masses like it like that, it will sell. Do anything contrary and no one will give you attention. If only Mode 9 and MI knew, they would've started singing like Olamide at their initial time in the music industry. If they try to sing, they'll call them sell outs. In this world, when you say the truth, they'll call you a fool. When you don't say the truth, they'll call you a pretender. Any lady or man who says anything bad about this 100% truthful post will ONE DAY remember this post. I promise.

They say if you can't beat them, join them. But for me, if I can't beat you, I'll look for someone who will fûcking beat the shît outta you. Tosyne I'm glad you know what's up. If only I wanted to fûck other people's wives, do you know how many of them I would've fûcked. If someone like me who's not extremely good looking can achieve this, then what will the extremely good looking guys achieve? Now, reverse the gender and see the atrocity (or should I say fornication), going on and most will NEVER know. I have so many things I would've said, but this world wants untruthful people.

When I created a thread telling guys to lie soft and resolvable lies to women, they came for my neck. I created another thread telling guys not to lie to women, people also came for my neck saying women love lies. In fact, me I done tire. I wan go back to my village. Lol[/s].

I think it's an indisputable fact that humans, both male and female have a tendency to have multiple sexual relations. So, it's not just a "men" thing. Then again, those categories of faithful men you listed there are totally flawed. Even a man that is too poor can cheat if he wants, because there are women who are too poor too that can fit into his circumstances. Maybe I should try explain in a layman's terms the concept of the reality that some men don't cheat. It's perhaps like Nigerian students taking Jamb to study at the university. Many students end up taking courses that were not their first choice, but some few students actually get admitted with their first choice course and university. Same thing is somewhat applicable in relationships. Many men settle for marriage with women that aren't their "first choice" type of woman. Usually, it is men in this category that cheat. Some few men settle for marriage with their "first choice woman", the woman they truly love more than anything in the world that also loves them reciprocally, and not "alternatives" or "second choice women". Nevertheless, some men in this category might still cheat but some men in this category are totally faithful. Cheating is a complex issue. Some men are promiscuous, some men cheat, but not all. I've had multiple sexual relations no doubt, so to some people, I might fall in the "cheating men" category. But I also know some men who would rather die than cheat on their wives and these men are not poor. Some of them are extra-religious, some of them are just that crazy in love with their wives, and some, that's just who they are and they stay true to themselves. So don't write off the entire male specie of humans in this matter. Some men don't cheat at all!

kimbra:
She's the one lying to herself. My Dad was never promiscuous and I know his likes are out there.

You may be right, I sometimes think so,... but remember, you only know the aspect of him that he has revealed to you. You don't know the other side.

kimbra:
Ma'am don't force what you think or assume to be true on us "ladies".

Buy condoms for your husband and when he brings home a second wife quietly open the doors to your home for her just because you think all men have the tendency to cheat.

Don't most mind her she just a confused fellow. You think that all men are cheat.Anyway that's your own thinking and don't let that affect you through out your life.
I just want to let you that your writeup says about men that cheats and not all men.
There are faithful husbands outthere and faithful guys too.

I read tonnes of responses and still haven't found the obvious question that should have been asked.
1. If OP's assertions are true, then who are those females that aid the process of cheating. Like they say, it takes two to tango?

2. And then if u romped another woman's husband whether knowingly or unknowingly.. Then do u really have the moral basis to complain when same is meted out to you consciously or unconsciously?

The truth is men do not self-fornicate or engage in mono-adultery. Most time, there are willing ladies (whether hoes or the so called good girls) who indulge the menfolk. I think this is what most ladies fail to understand.

She's kinda right...now y'all know staring at a woman lustfully is already cheating...so let's just say almost all men cheat... Then it now depends on the percentage that acts on it..To take it to a new level...A man can be married to a beautiful lady but still wish to lash that her curvy younger sister...He might not actually put it into action but the "wish" is already cheating in the strict sense..

"Men are wired to cheat." Wired ko, cabled ni. So women are not also wired in the same way? As far as you are human, the tendency to be unfaithful is there. People who exercise self control and think rationally and selflessly will decide to consider their partner and not just themselves and trust me, they don't have two heads.
Problem starts when you marry someone you don't love with the hope of falling in love later. There is a slim chance of loving that person eventually.

I hate when men make excuses, flimsy excuses for their infidelity. Men are polygamous in nature? women can be polyandrous in nature too. Men excuses for cheating should be accepted while a woman is bashed severely for doing same thing? If a man can cheat and you laugh it off saying it's in his DNA, then don't speak foul about a lady after all she's got DNA and she's not a wood or plastic.

From OP's perspective, I grasp the angle she's coming from. I may have have stolen a meat from the pot once or twice without being caught, to others I'm still an innocent girl. The same way people cheat without being caught. In the partner's eyes they are still pure, innit?
But being a cheat isn't just cool.

N.B: To my ladies in the house, you see as I don defend una ehn, please I take God beg you, don't be the one to cheat. If he cheats and you can't take it, please zoom off and BTW, I didn't steal any meat. It was an example

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Explains why a man that has one curvy, beautiful babe at home will see another curvy babe on the streets and his dick will still rise.

PS: Ladies, don't hope for a totally faithful man, just pray for one that doesn't throw it in your face.

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You Sound like a very sad woman.
I can only imagine what you have experienced, the kind of home you come from, and the sort of people that you surround yourself with. And even the kind of marriage you've built (if you're married),
BUT PLEASE. Keep your generalizations to yourself.

Speak for yourself and the kind of men you date.
The bold part alone explains that you know absolutely nothing about how a man's anatomy works, let alone how his mind works.

Ask for enlightenment instead of typing long epistles all-based on ignorance and blind assumptions.

There are green apples,true. But only an idiot would say apples are green.

xcllaxix:
She's kinda right...now y'all know staring at a woman lustfully is already cheating...so let's just say almost all men cheat... Then it now depends on the percentage that acts on it..To take it to a new level...A man can be married to a beautiful lady but still wish to lash that her curvy younger sister...He might not actually put it into action but the "wish" is already cheating in the strict sense..

lash? With koboko or what?

JuneOctober:


lash? With koboko or what?

Shey na my mouth u wan hear am?.. How sure wey I dey say u no be undercover mod?.. Mod 007..

xcllaxix:

Shey na my mouth u wan hear am?.. How sure wey I dey say u no be undercover mod?.. Mod 007..

nope I am not a mod at all. yes I want to hear it from your mouth.

It's so sad when I come across ladies who reason like this. They have lost all hope in the men folk.

Yes ofcourse Men do cheat but you can't say all. Also, different circumstances apply to different people but staying with a serial cheat like Tonto's case, is recipe for STDs and HIV.

In Tiwas case, she was prepared to work through the cheating but other factors like Tbills alchohol, drug abuse and defaming her image on social media finally gave her the boot from the marriage.

Some women would rather have their peace of mind than remain in a marriage where they are scared of what next disease their man will bring home to them. Some women don't even need men to feel fulfilled, they can be on their own and be very happy.

So you might be one of those ones who is strong minded to look away, okay but don't think everyone has your strong mind.

JuneOctober:


nope I am not a mod at all. yes I want to hear it from your mouth.

When mods dey watch this thread like eagles.. #wehdonema..i am applying pichikom..

Mizk:
good morals and dignity has been thrown to the dogs and trampled upon by warthogs, i cant believe that people are ok with this

Correct! I wonder what this world is turning into.
I just pray I won't marry a cheater cos I won't cheat myself.
I know one useless cheat who pounces on his wife whenever he sees her having a normal conversation with a guy. The day the idiot hit on my younger sister, I gave him a piece of mind. I'm pretty sure he won't forget that day, the insults, embarrassments and all.
Men think they have an excuse to cheat but their wives don't.
I just pray the op won't marry a man that will give her HIV since she supports cheating.

Front page materials should be intellectually stimulating and not a bunch of pop culture that immoral, unpalatable and unethical. Coming from a lady I can imagine how you have been cheated upon and how you have come to accept a philosophy that is majorly evil. A man should be disciplined to remain committed to a woman if he eventually decides to settle down.

Sgt Ponzi Hater

xcllaxix:

When mods dey watch this thread like eagles.. #wehdonema..i am applying pichikom..

repogirl:
It's so sad when I come across ladies who reason like this. They have lost all hope in the men folk.

Yes ofcourse Men do cheat but you can't say all. Also, different circumstances apply to different people but staying with a serial cheat like Tonto's case, is recipe for STDs and HIV.

In Tiwas case, she was prepared to work through the cheating but other factors like Tbills alchohol, drug abuse and defaming her image on social media finally gave her the boot from the marriage.

Some women would rather have their peace of mind than remain in a marriage where they are scared of what next disease their man will bring home to them. Some women don't even need men to feel fulfilled, they can be on their own and be very happy.

So you might be one of those ones who is strong minded to look away, okay but don't think everyone has your strong mind.

Thank you reogirl

JuneOctober:
"Men are wired to cheat." Wired ko, cabled ni. So women are not also wired in the same way? As far as you are human, the tendency to be unfaithful is there. People who exercise self control and think rationally and selflessly will decide to consider their partner and not just themselves and trust me, they don't have two heads.
Problem starts when you marry someone you don't love with the hope of falling in love later. There is a slim chance of loving that person eventually.

I hate when men make excuses, flimsy excuses for their infidelity. Men are polygamous in nature? women can be polyandrous in nature too. Men excuses for cheating should be accepted while a woman is bashed severely for doing same thing? If a man can cheat and you laugh it off saying it's in his DNA, then don't speak foul about a lady after all she's got DNA and she's not a wood or plastic.

From OP's perspective, I grasp the angle she's coming from. I may have have stolen a meat from the pot once or twice without being caught, to others I'm still an innocent girl. The same way people cheat without being caught. In the partner's eyes they are still pure, innit?
But being a cheat isn't just cool.

N.B: To my ladies in the house, you see as I don defend una ehn, please I take God beg you, don't be the one to cheat. If he cheats and you can't take it, please zoom off and BTW, I didn't steal any meat. It was an example

yeah I wonder how they can say it's in their DNA to cheat as if women don't also have blood running through their bodies? Cheating is a choice. You either choose to or don't, it's that simple.

frisby:


Thank you reogirl

you're welcome, I was also feeling your post. You made good points.

Ol' boy!!! This post is full of hypocrites and self righteous people (especially those males running there mouths that they would/cannot cheat on their present or future spouses). Most don't even have experience concerning regular boyfriend-girlfriend relationship not to talk of marriage. Boys and girls.. Hear this and listen with rapt attention. Marriage isn't all about the lovey-dovey butterfly-in-your-stomach type feeling u get when u think ur in love. It's a practical school with no real tangible graduation date.
OP knows what she's talking about.. And it shouldn't be misconstrued as a sign of weakness or stupidity. It's just plain fact. Men do a bunch of stuff and get away with it.. Women try same things and get a battering from society. We didn't make things this way, we all just met it and have to deal with. For those women (girls) who can't deal with a cheating man.. 2 possible way out. 1st, cheat back but make sure to do it codedly cause if caught u know what's up. 2ndly, just take a walk if u can't deal with it.
Don't mind these men (or boys) running their mouth that they can't or won't cheat on their present or future spouses. All na lie. No mind them jare.

There are faithful men out there!
And those are the men we women want and dream of. Not a cheat!

There are terrible things a woman can endure in marriage but cheating??!! That's the height!

If you have ever cheated on your woman, and she is aware, and you still have a peaceful home then man, you are blessed among men!

*thumbs down*

Ol' boy!!! This post is full of hypocrites and self righteous people (especially those males running there mouths that they would/cannot cheat on their present or future spouses). Most don't even have experience concerning regular boyfriend-girlfriend relationship not to talk of marriage. Boys and girls.. Hear this and listen with rapt attention. Marriage isn't all about the lovey-dovey butterfly-in-your-stomach type feeling u get when u think ur in love. It's a practical school with no real tangible graduation date.
OP knows what she's talking about.. And it shouldn't be misconstrued as a sign of weakness or stupidity. It's just plain fact. Men do a bunch of stuff and get away with it.. Women try same things and get a battering from society. We didn't make things this way, we all just met it and have to deal with. For those women (girls) who can't deal with a cheating man.. 2 possible way out. 1st, cheat back but make sure to do it codedly cause if caught u know what's up. 2ndly, just take a walk if u can't deal with it.
Don't mind these men (or boys) running their mouth that they can't or won't cheat on their present or future spouses. All na lie. No mind them jare.

Bumbae1:
Many relationships are out there with faithful men that only see one woman
Please ladies don't lower your bar if he cheats and you feel you can't live with one go . Never ever condone rubbish
Your life deserves happiness and a good man ! Yes no one is perfect but let the imperfections not be unfaithfulness ..


If its guys and lady cheats in marriage hope they will keep her too

GBAM ....I concur. Faithful men still dey though they might not flamboyant and most times you ladies are not attracted to them

repogirl:
yeah I wonder how they can say it's in their DNA to cheat as if women don't also have blood running through their bodies? Cheating is a choice. You either choose to or don't, it's that simple.

They are not serious. Using same old excuse. I cannot be firm and self disciplined while my spouse is reckless and loose. Never! And they'll tell you it's in their DNA! DNA my foot. Ladies are not DNA-less neither are we lifeless objects without feelings.

vedah:


I just did. So do too. Remember its really hard for me to smile these days.

Okay. Thanks a mill..

Cheating is not something you do suddenly. You sit to think about how to lay with another lady or visit a sexworker. This world yaff taya me small.

femi4:
GBAM ....I concur. Faithful men still dey though they might not flamboyant and most times you ladies are not attracted to them

Guy!! Most "nonflambouyant" men are that way mostly due to their average financial status. Make man make better money come get small power join am.. Then u go know what's up. Trust me on this one Bro.. I have witnessed alot of transformations in my time. And I no be small boy ooo.
Sure a few good men still stand but unfortunately I can't vouch for anyone. Sorry!

Hmm see as u just dey reply pple u get time ooo this is just your opinion oo not the constution, grandpa's story is one story hav you not heard of other stories of faithful men and foolish wives, my dear remove dat mentality from your head ooo the few men dat are modest are being scarred by the bad ones, no one is perfect not even you...going into marriage with the mentality that ur man is a cheat is very dangerous u will ruin ur marriage...a word is enuf for the wise

JuneOctober:
Cheating is not something you do suddenly. You sit to think about how to lay with another lady or visit a sexworker. This world yaff taya me small.

Make e no taya u my fine sister. Like I said earlier.. We didn't invent cheating we all came and met it. The polygamous instinct resides in all of us (both male and female alike). Societal taboos suppress the ladies from freely indulging however the male folks are in a way permitted. But read my earlier submission to get more insight before u begin dey fire me.

VivJohn:


Guy!! Most "nonflambouyant" men are that way mostly due to their average financial status. Make man make better money come get small power join am.. Then u go know what's up. Trust me on this one Bro.. I have witnessed alot of transformations in my time. And I no be small boy ooo.
Sure a few good men still stand but unfortunately I can't vouch for anyone. Sorry!

I know what I m talking about. It has nothing to do with money. Infact ladies tagged them boring. You don't normally see ladies around them. They have few or no female friends

missyelegant:
Hmm see as u just dey reply pple u get time ooo this is just your opinion oo not the constution, grandpa's story is one story hav you not heard of other stories of faithful men and foolish wives, my dear remove dat mentality from your head ooo the few men dat are modest are being scarred by the bad ones, no one is perfect not even you...going into marriage with the mentality that ur man is a cheat is very dangerous u will ruin ur marriage...a word is enuf for the wise

From ur moniker it shows ur still single (miss)
Life is funny. I believe I'm older and more experienced. Have seen some pretty bizarre things in my time. Ur right. It's quite lethal for a lady to enter marriage with the mindset that her spouse would cheat on her somewhere down the line. I think u should desist from reading such posts and articles cause u may develop a very sour taste for matrimony going at ur pace.
I have had all sort of women confide in me on what they are passing thru in marriage. When I mean all sort I mean all sort.

femi4:
I know what I m talking about. It has nothing to do with money. Infact ladies tagged them boring. You don't normally see ladies around them. They have few or no female friends

So the obvious question that begs.. Would a lady prefer being with a faithfully "boring" social misfit or be with a socially balanced guy regardless of whether he would cheat on her or not? Go figure.
I won't answer on behalf of the ladies. But I guess u do get the general consensus on this one.

JuneOctober:
"Men are wired to cheat." Wired ko, cabled ni. So women are not also wired in the same way? As far as you are human, the tendency to be unfaithful is there. People who exercise self control and think rationally and selflessly will decide to consider their partner and not just themselves and trust me, they don't have two heads.
Problem starts when you marry someone you don't love with the hope of falling in love later. There is a slim chance of loving that person eventually.

I hate when men make excuses, flimsy excuses for their infidelity. Men are polygamous in nature? women can be polyandrous in nature too. Men excuses for cheating should be accepted while a woman is bashed severely for doing same thing? If a man can cheat and you laugh it off saying it's in his DNA, then don't speak foul about a lady after all she's got DNA and she's not a wood or plastic.

From OP's perspective, I grasp the angle she's coming from. I may have have stolen a meat from the pot once or twice without being caught, to others I'm still an innocent girl. The same way people cheat without being caught. In the partner's eyes they are still pure, innit?
But being a cheat isn't just cool.

N.B: To my ladies in the house, you see as I don defend una ehn, please I take God beg you, don't be the one to cheat. If he cheats and you can't take it, please zoom off and BTW, I didn't steal any meat. It was an example

Terror squad..see dem.. Wey dey divide piece of meat from pot like red sea.. To maintain the count so malee no go find out.. God don catch u today..