My sister is about to put an end to her marriage in a very dangerous way. What happened?

She caught her husband sex chatting on whatsapp. She didn't even catch him physically sexing but chatting and she wants to put an end. Their son would be celebrating his 5 years birthday soon and is this the gift they wish to give the young chap?

I have tried my best to talk to her but I have no idea on how to go about this afterall, I'm single. She was like "what do you know about marriage?". The husband on the other hand hasn't taken my calls and he angrily left the house since 3 days.

Big bros and sis In the house, what advice can I give to my sister?

Tell her to proceed on the divorce. Infact, help her pay the bills of the law suit

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To those saying it's not enough. I bet 80% of you are single and you have no idea indeed what contents are of marriage. Yes.

Marriage IS NOT a task! Neither is it some kind of Job or Project. It's not a do or die affair. It's a union where 2 happy people come together as 1. So your sister shouldn't be in such union as her happiness has been slain. Why live with a man knowing well, that he is sleeping with another woman? The thought of it alone can lead to depression. Let's be realistic.

Irrespective of how they sort it out and settle the dispute, the scar would always be there. When she see him making a call, she would be suspicious. If she see him greet a woman she would be suspicious. She would always have the thought that he is sleeping with other women though she may not express this. But she would never forget. And this is not good at all. So what is the point? Is it by force? Why live in depression especially when the woman he is chatting with looks better or sexier than she is.

So let her be.

P.s I'm a married man and yet, I don't encourage anyone to stay in a marriage where infidelity looms.

Strahovski1:
Tell her to proceed on the divorce. Infact, help her pay the bills of the law suit

Guy ar u 4 real?

Strahovski1:
Tell her to proceed on the divorce. Infact, help her pay the bills of the law suit

Despite the fact that she caught him sex chatting its not enough reason for divorce, she should be careful because from this point so many things can go wrong,
Both of them should create room for dialogue.

A married man sexchatting while his wife is right with him is terrible. Too bad tbh. If he's that h0rny, why didn't he get his wife down zi oza room?

Maybe his sex life with your sister is not really going well tho. Your sister should not divorce him, she should instead settle the dispute and try work on their sex life. Apparently, something is wrong with their sex life

Let it happen

BoiledHead:
My sister is about to put an end to her marriage in a very dangerous way. What happened?

She caught her husband sex chatting on whatsapp. She didn't even catch him physically sexing but chatting and she wants to put an end. Their son would be celebrating his 5 years birthday soon and is this the gift they wish to give the young chap?

I have tried my best to talk to her but I have no idea on how to go about this afterall, I'm single. She was like "what do you know about marriage?". The husband on the other hand hasn't taken my calls and he angrily left the house since 3 days.

Big bros and sis In the house, what advice can I give to my sister?

Tell your sister, to find a good man is hard, really hard, really really hard.
If he handles his responsibilities well, the issue of sexchatting or flirting (which can be checked anyways) is a small thing. So she saw a tiny bit of wood in the cereals she's gonna throw away the whole grains?
She had better woke up to her responsibilities, get a damn internet enabled phone and sexchat him too, then fulfil all his sexual fantacies when they meet in private.

If this is true, you have nothing to do here, reason been that both knows the best, sometimes you allow things to happen so that things should be fix, no marriage without challenges even more serious than this, let them fix it themselves, yes, themselves, .....please let the woman know too well that if she backs off another packs in,men are not ready for commitment now............. Many girls are waiting on her to go so that they will enter, plus, including me or her unmarried best friends oooooooooooh

Let her knw dt d devil she knws is better dan d angel outside. Ask her is she performing her duty as a woman does she gives her hubby sex wen he needed does she makes d man comfortableb at hom by d way sex chatting isbcaused by lonelyness ifbsis hubby is notbfeeling lonely in her hom he wont be sex chatting ur sis is d problem except d man is a serial cheater from day 1 of d marriage u can pm me nd lets talk more on advice needed to talk to ur sis bt she is s cause a good woman build her house. Women ds days ignore dia husband quest for sex nd for d hubby nt to be seen as disturbing d womanbthrough sex he wl get it somwia else either forbreal or sexchatting nd bliv me he might not have even seen d lady or their might be distance frombeach oda but dts wat he needs nd hes getting it. Tell ur sis husband is scarce o let her make her hom wok

hopeforcharles:

Despite the fact that she caught him sex chatting its not enough reason for divorce, she should be careful because from this point so many things can go wrong,
Both of them should create room for dialogue.

It's not enough? Until he brings home an STD?

As tereble as this may sound, but the earlier ladies started accepting the fact that men generally speaking, are polygamous in nature, the better for their sanity.



If you eventually find a man who is faithful- there aren't much around nowadays- you'd consider your self lucky, but if you don't, you just try as much as possible to device a means of handling him

Michellla:
Who knows if he has been banging other women and not just sexchat?

Abeg, do not complicate this matter.

Strahovski1:


It's not enough? Until he brings home an STD?

How sure are u that he will bring back an STIs ?
Is not as if she has caught him in the act, it hasn't reached the level of taking this kinda drastic actions

Only sex chating, she aint serious

Tomjazzy2:
As tereble as this may sound, but the earlier ladies started accepting the fact that men generally speaking, are polygamous in nature, the better for their sanity.



If you eventually find a man who is faithful- there aren't much around nowadays- you'd consider your self lucky, but if you don't, you just try as much as possible to device a means of handling him

I agree with you to an extent
If a man wishes now he can ignore the public /spiritual perceived consequences and marry up to 6 wives and heaven will not fall , but its not same for women
Despite the fact that i know marriages should be respected have u guys thought about things that the woman might not want to do or change for the marriage sake
Sometimes its the women that pushes these men to the arms of other women , who readily accepts them despite that they know the men are married.

hopeforcharles:

How sure are u that he will bring back an STIs ?
Is not as if she has caught him in the act, it hasn't reached the level of taking this kinda drastic actions

And when it gets to that level, he must have gotten a woman pregnant outside and brought shame to the family or brought home an STI.

Besides you don't gamble over STI.

Strahovski1:


And when it gets to that level, he must have gotten a woman pregnant outside and brought shame to the family or brought home an STI.

Besides you don't gamble over STI.

The thing is that u are even talking about solve able STIs, when there are dangerous ones like Hiv.
But the fact remains its not enough to brake a marriage
They need counselling and admonition
And chastening if needed.

hopeforcharles:

The thing is that u are even talking about solve able STIs, when there are dangerous ones like Hiv.
But the fact remains its not enough to brake a marriage
They need counselling and admonition
And chastening if needed.

HIV is an STI. It's included.

Tell me why it isn't enough to break a marriage? What sort of counselling? Can I ask you a question?

Your wife is sex chatting and probably sleeping with men outside. What would you do?

Strahovski1:


It's not enough? Until he brings home an STD?

Are you married or have you prepared for marriage before?

kingreign:

Are you married or have you prepared for marriage before?

I'm a husband and a dad. So yes

Strahovski1:
Tell her to proceed on the divorce. Infact, help her pay the bills of the law suit

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To those saying it's not enough. I bet 80% of you are single and you have no idea indeed what contents are of marriage. Yes.

Marriage IS NOT a task! Neither is it some kind of Job or Project. It's not a do or die affair. It's a union where 2 happy people come together as 1. So your sister shouldn't be in such union as her happiness has been slain. Why live with a man knowing well, that he is sleeping with another woman? The thought of it alone can lead to depression. Let's be realistic.

Irrespective of how they sort it out and settle the dispute, the scar would always be there. When she see him making a call, she would be suspicious. If she see him greet a woman she would be suspicious. She would always have the thought that he is sleeping with other women though she may not express this. But she would never forget. And this is not good at all. So what is the point? Is it by force? Why live in depression especially when the woman he is chatting with looks better or sexier than she is.

So let her be.

P.s I'm a married man and yet, I don't encourage anyone to stay in a marriage where infidelity looms.

I liked your post sir cos you made some valid points. But since the "dog" was sex chatting she could pardon and watch his activities closely. She should divorce him if it goes downward spring.

Michellla:
Who knows if he has been banging other women and not just sexchat?

Are you still dating or married?
Pls, answer this question so I can reply you appropriately

SMH. Your wife is there with you and you're sexchatting with another woman. Odiegwu o! Some men sha.
Anyways If all he did was sexchat and didn't actually sleep with another woman, I'll advice they go for counselling. The wife might be denying him of his husband duties..

kimbra:
I liked your post sir cos you made some valid points. But since the "dog" was sex chatting she could pardon and watch his activities closely. She should divorce him if it goes downward spring.

Someone who is sex chatting is obviously having sex outside. No one wants to be caught so he may never be caught that doesn't mean it should be allowed.

Strahovski1:


I'm a husband and a dad. So yes

Have you heard about proper marriage counselling, and trying to please a partner so as to win back his heart/interest?

Strahovski1:


Someone who is sex chatting is obviously having sex outside. No one wants to be caught so he may never be caught that doesn't mean it should be allowed.

Possibly!, you have a point.

hopeforcharles:

How sure are u that he will bring back an STIs ?
Is not as if she has caught him in the act, it hasn't reached the level of taking this kinda drastic actions

The chances of him getting STIs is 99:1. Trust me

Shortyy:
SMH. Your wife is there with you and you're sexchatting with another woman. Odiegwu o! Some men sha.
Anyways If all he did was sexchat and didn't actually sleep with another woman, I'll advice they go for counselling. The wife might be denying him of his husband duties..

A man who wants to cheat would do so. She needn't deny him sex for such to happen...some of them are "Dogs".

Tomjazzy2:
[s]As tereble as this may sound, but the earlier ladies started accepting the fact that men generally speaking, are polygamous in nature, the better for their sanity.[/s]

Would you say this crap if the tables were turned?

kimbra:
A man who wants to cheat would do so. She needn't deny him sex for such to happen...some of them are "Dogs".

Abi o.. Anyways, regardless if it was just secxchat, I'll advice them to go for counselling, but if he actually cheated? She should just leave. A cheating man doesn't deserve any sort of pity.