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Guys, Stop Enticing Ladies With Money. by SPEEDEPITOME(f): 5:32pm On Mar 18, 2017 |
So I went to stay at some big brothers' place last weekend and they talked about their relationship issues. One common point in all of their stories was they spent money on their girlfriends and they still left. One of them started dating a girl when she was in 200l, saw her through school, he even got her a laptop for her final year project and after graduation, he spent over 500k on helping her move to a city and start up her business and that was the end of them. He tried with another girl, same thing happened. All of these guys have similar stories. When I pointed out that they were probably victims of scam, one of them said ' spending on my girlfriend is normal coz she's my responsibility and that does not make me a 'mugun'. I then came to the conclusion that these girls probably never liked them but chose to stay with them because they were their 'source of livelihood'. My advice to the ladies, please if you will not stay with a guy, just let him go. Most guys except few like these guys will punish another random lady for your own sin. My main advice is to the guys: when chasing a girl, stop putting money first. Try to establish friendship and not the I-can-take-care-of-your-needs attitude if not, you'll keep attracting scammers. Reason being that, you lured them with money and that's all they'll be after. These ladies will go as far as marrying you and leave when they are done with you. Now, I'm not saying you shouldn't take care of your girlfriend but let money not be the reason ladies fall for you. Show them some other side of you. It could be your sense of humour, your level of intelligence or anything. Every guy has that one thing that's gonna keep people attracted to them. What I'm asking is that guys should bring something other than money to the table else your partners will keep cheating on you with guys who are 'poor' coz contrary to what you think, money is not everything. PS: I know there are no straightjacket rules as to how a relationship should be run . My conclusion is based on personal experience, observation, talk with guys and my recent discussion with these 4 friends. 148 Likes 15 Shares |
Re: Guys, Stop Enticing Ladies With Money. by Nobody: 5:34pm On Mar 18, 2017 |
The one that spent 500k on a gf was stupid!. Spend on her but wisely. 57 Likes 1 Share |
Re: Guys, Stop Enticing Ladies With Money. by rheether(f): 5:38pm On Mar 18, 2017 |
You need to show me say you fit take care of me |
Re: Guys, Stop Enticing Ladies With Money. by Cutehector(m): 5:38pm On Mar 18, 2017 |
Watelse entices women? 13 Likes 1 Share |
Re: Guys, Stop Enticing Ladies With Money. by Nobody: 5:39pm On Mar 18, 2017 |
Not every woman is the same. If my man can't spend on me. He should forget me and move on.. He spends I spend.. That's my motto 9 Likes 2 Shares |
Re: Guys, Stop Enticing Ladies With Money. by Cholls(m): 5:43pm On Mar 18, 2017 |
rheether:my brothers and sisters what is dis one saying? 109 Likes 6 Shares |
Re: Guys, Stop Enticing Ladies With Money. by SPEEDEPITOME(f): 5:46pm On Mar 18, 2017 |
Cutehector:The comment below you answered your question. All women are not the same. You entice some with money, they'll never see you beyond your money. 9 Likes 1 Share |
Re: Guys, Stop Enticing Ladies With Money. by SPEEDEPITOME(f): 5:49pm On Mar 18, 2017 |
alexialin:I didn't say he shouldn't spend on you. My point is money shouldn't be the basis for attraction. For these guys, their 'selling point' was money and that was their undoing. 14 Likes |
Re: Guys, Stop Enticing Ladies With Money. by Cutehector(m): 5:51pm On Mar 18, 2017 |
What are all these ladies saying here sef.. 14 Likes 2 Shares |
Re: Guys, Stop Enticing Ladies With Money. by Cutehector(m): 5:52pm On Mar 18, 2017 |
SPEEDEPITOME:I asked a simple question.. And I need a simple answer.. I didn't come here to know what faction of females like money or not.. 1 Like |
Re: Guys, Stop Enticing Ladies With Money. by Cutehector(m): 5:53pm On Mar 18, 2017 |
Cholls:as in they are all just confused 14 Likes |
Re: Guys, Stop Enticing Ladies With Money. by SPEEDEPITOME(f): 5:59pm On Mar 18, 2017 |
Cutehector:I don't know because no one knows. This is my opinion. I could be wrong though. 2 Likes 1 Share |
Re: Guys, Stop Enticing Ladies With Money. by Nobody: 6:01pm On Mar 18, 2017 |
SPEEDEPITOME: OK that's true.. Money shouldn't be the selling point. Yur right 4 Likes |
Re: Guys, Stop Enticing Ladies With Money. by Backinfront(m): 6:15pm On Mar 18, 2017 |
So true. I just laugh at gullible guys who have bought this fallacious "money rules women" shitt. If I was a woman I will do exactly what these goldiggers are doing if opportunity presents itself. You lure me with money, you finished. Lesson: Money cannot buy love or genuine affection. It can only get you her presence. And just like many people are present in your life without really being into you, So are the women you are luring with material gifts. 58 Likes 5 Shares |
Re: Guys, Stop Enticing Ladies With Money. by SPEEDEPITOME(f): 12:11am On Mar 19, 2017 |
Backinfront:Coming from a guy, this is good. 22 Likes 2 Shares |
Re: Guys, Stop Enticing Ladies With Money. by McBrooklyn(m): 12:44am On Mar 19, 2017 |
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Re: Guys, Stop Enticing Ladies With Money. by Nobody: 1:04am On Mar 19, 2017 |
guys who use money to entice ladies tend to be inadequate in other areas ![]() ![]() 14 Likes 1 Share |
Re: Guys, Stop Enticing Ladies With Money. by eezeribe(m): 1:09am On Mar 19, 2017 |
SPEEDEPITOME: Most Nigerian girls are incapable of loving a guy.they only enter relationships for financial gains.most of them are naturally mentally poor,and they only see their bodies as 'assets' for generating cash. Even when they initiate se.x and enjoy multiple orgasm.s,they still have the mentality of being rewarded or compensated in cash or have their physical needs met. The best option for guys is never to develop real feelings for the ladies;just know that she sees you as a means of satisfying her sexual,financial and physical needs while the guys should only see them as a means of satisfying their sexual needs. It is still imbalanced in the ratio of 3:1 with respect to the function of guys and ladies in the 'relationship'. I just hope our Nigerian guys would wisen up and know that they(guys) contribute financially,physically and sexually while the ladies contribute only sexually. Most of the ladies won't even help you prepare ordinary indomie noodles,but would hungrily ask you for shawama when you return from work. Even the so called 'big girls' and working class ladies,still have that entitlement mentality. I KNOW THAT THEY ARE STILL A FEW 'GOOD ONES' OUT THERE... 86 Likes 5 Shares |
Re: Guys, Stop Enticing Ladies With Money. by RichieDaVinci01(m): 1:09am On Mar 19, 2017 |
Adon kuku have money before so akant relate Maybe daiz why adon haff gerrlfrenn' 17 Likes |
Re: Guys, Stop Enticing Ladies With Money. by Nobody: 1:12am On Mar 19, 2017 |
Backinfront: 16 Likes 1 Share
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Re: Guys, Stop Enticing Ladies With Money. by SPEEDEPITOME(f): 6:58am On Mar 19, 2017 |
eezeribe: The sense of entitlement ish is one of the problems I have with ladies and sadly guys help in enforcing that mentality. A guy breaks up with a girl and the next thing you hear is 'he used me'. Someone on this thread already said the guy should be able to take care of her while she does what? probably, Nothing. Now I know guys have their own problems which is not what I'm addressing now, this is me talking from a guy's angle. 29 Likes 1 Share |
Re: Guys, Stop Enticing Ladies With Money. by SPEEDEPITOME(f): 7:00am On Mar 19, 2017 |
kimbra:You think this one is stupid? Wait until you hear other people's story. Dem no dey hear word. But for people who have money, 500k is not much of a deal sha. 11 Likes 1 Share |
Re: Guys, Stop Enticing Ladies With Money. by SPEEDEPITOME(f): 7:07am On Mar 19, 2017 |
lefulefu: They don't see themselves as maga, they think it's normal. lefulefu:Errrm, I don't know about the first past sha. 3 Likes |
Re: Guys, Stop Enticing Ladies With Money. by Nobody: 7:42am On Mar 19, 2017 |
SPEEDEPITOME:yes its normal until the relationship goes south thats when they start complaining how much they spent on the lady ![]() ![]() 2 Likes 1 Share |
Re: Guys, Stop Enticing Ladies With Money. by Nobody: 7:58am On Mar 19, 2017 |
It should be vice versa. A healthy relationship should constitute the need for both parties to help out when the need arises. The undoing of most guys is that they don't see themselves as special beings, that's why they can go so low as spending lavishly on a female just to prove a point. God knows I won't waste my time on a female that won't make me the epicentre of her world. Money is important,but it shouldn't be the sole reason for her being with you. But I do believe this,when it's time to spend, spend like a G',if she really likes you, she wouldn't want to strain your pocket. But, if she's doesn't really like you, she would ask for things that would strain your pocket( she doesn't really care about how attractive her manners are to you), she sees you as a means to an end. poor! A girl that likes you would be bothered about her manners while with you,she would try not to ask for much,even if she wants to. Finally,to the guys,this is not an excuse to be broke. Spending big on your woman ain't bad,but make sure you spend on someone that you know loves you. 26 Likes 4 Shares |
Re: Guys, Stop Enticing Ladies With Money. by Nobody: 8:04am On Mar 19, 2017 |
SPEEDEPITOME:This is one of the most intelligent comments I have seen on Nairaland. 5 Likes |
Re: Guys, Stop Enticing Ladies With Money. by SPEEDEPITOME(f): 8:45am On Mar 19, 2017 |
illuminated93:This captures everything. illuminated93:I don't quite understand this part though. 1 Like |
Re: Guys, Stop Enticing Ladies With Money. by SPEEDEPITOME(f): 8:46am On Mar 19, 2017 |
lefulefu:Yeah, true. 2 Likes |
Re: Guys, Stop Enticing Ladies With Money. by Nobody: 9:48am On Mar 19, 2017 |
Guys often make the mistake of appearing as beings with low self esteem. Most guys think of the female as a high and mighty queen that should be pleased at all times,so they go as far they can,even borrowing money from friends just to make her happy. If a guy considers himself special,he has his self esteem intact, he is in control of his relationship,he is the man,he knows that his girlfriend is lucky to be with him,just as he is lucky to have her around, when he wants to spend big, he does, when he wants to spend small,he does, he doesn't act wholly according to the dictates of his girlfriend,he has his common sense intact. It's about time guys know that the girl they love is truly lucky to gain their love and trust. A guy should help because he wants to,not because she's compelling you to or because you think,by helping she would love you more, that's a lie. Guys, don't beg for love! SPEEDEPITOME: 27 Likes 3 Shares |
Re: Guys, Stop Enticing Ladies With Money. by SPEEDEPITOME(f): 9:57am On Mar 19, 2017 |
illuminated93:Very true. Thanks for expatiating. |
Re: Guys, Stop Enticing Ladies With Money. by SPEEDEPITOME(f): 10:00am On Mar 19, 2017 |
. ![]() solasolasola:Thanks Sir. 1 Like |
Re: Guys, Stop Enticing Ladies With Money. by Nobody: 10:01am On Mar 19, 2017 |
Like the idiot that kept spending on my sister even as she kept giving him signs that she wasn't into him..... She ended up using him to start up her life after service year and got married to her husband...Dude wasted two years of resources on her for nothing! 18 Likes 2 Shares |
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