rheether:
You need to show me say you fit take care of me

Cutehector:
Watelse entices women?

alexialin:
Not every woman is the same.
If my man can't spend on me. He should forget me and move on.. He spends I spend.. That's my motto

SPEEDEPITOME:

The comment below you answered your question. All women are not the same. You entice some with money, they'll never see you beyond your money.

Cholls:
my brothers and sisters what is dis one saying?

Cutehector:
I asked a simple question.. And I need a simple answer.. I didn't come here to know what faction of females like money or not..

SPEEDEPITOME:

I didn't say he shouldn't spend on you. My point is money shouldn't be the basis for attraction. For these guys, their 'selling point' was money and that was their undoing.

Backinfront:

If I was a woman I will do exactly what these goldiggers are doing if opportunity presents itself. You lure me with money, you finished.

Lesson: Money cannot buy love or genuine affection. It can only get you her presence.

And just like many people are present in your life without really being into you, So are the women you are luring with material gifts.

SPEEDEPITOME:
So I went to stay at some big brothers' place last weekend and they talked about their relationship issues. One common point in all of their stories was they spent money on their girlfriends and they still left. One of them started dating a girl when she was in 200l, saw her through school, he even got her a laptop for her final year project and after graduation, he spent over 500k on helping her move to a city and start up her business and that was the end of them. He tried with another girl, same thing happened. All of these guys have similar stories.
When I pointed out that they were probably victims of scam, one of them said ' spending on my girlfriend is normal coz she's my responsibility and that does not make me a 'mugun'.
I then came to the conclusion that these girls probably never liked them but chose to stay with them because they were their 'source of livelihood'.
My advice to the ladies, please if you will not stay with a guy, just let him go. Most guys except few like these guys will punish another random lady for your own sin.
My main advice is to the guys: when chasing a girl, stop putting money first. Try to establish friendship and not the I-can-take-care-of-your-needs attitude if not, you'll keep attracting scammers. Reason being that, you lured them with money and that's all they'll be after. These ladies will go as far as marrying you and leave when they are done with you.
Now, I'm not saying you shouldn't take care of your girlfriend but let money not be the reason ladies fall for you. Show them some other side of you. It could be your sense of humour, your level of intelligence or anything. Every guy has that one thing that's gonna keep people attracted to them. What I'm asking is that guys should bring something other than money to the table else your partners will keep cheating on you with guys who are 'poor' coz contrary to what you think, money is not everything.

PS: I know there are no straightjacket rules as to how a relationship should be run .
My conclusion is based on personal experience, observation, talk with guys and my recent discussion with these 4 friends.


cc lalasticlala

Backinfront:
So true. I just laugh at gullible guys who have bought this fallacious "money rules women" shitt.

If I was a woman I will do exactly what these goldiggers are doing if opportunity presents itself. You lure me with money, you finished.

Lesson: Money cannot buy love or genuine affection. It can only get you her presence.

And just like many people are present in your life without really being into you, So are the women you are luring with material gifts.

eezeribe:


Most Nigerian girls are incapable of loving a guy.they only enter relationships for financial gains.most of them are naturally mentally poor,and they only see their bodies as 'assets' for generating cash.

I just hope our Nigerian guys would wisen up and know that they(guys) contribute financially,physically and sexually while the ladies contribute only sexually.
Most of the ladies won't even help you prepare ordinary indomie noodles,but would hungrily ask you for shawama when you return from work.
Even the so called 'big girls' and working class ladies,still have that entitlement mentality.

I KNOW THAT THEY ARE STILL A FEW 'GOOD ONES' OUT THERE...

kimbra:
The one that spent 500k on a gf was stupid!.

Spend on her but wisely.

lefulefu:
even if u preach frm sundown to sun rise...guys wey wan fall maga go fall maga .

lefulefu:
guys who use money to entice ladies tend to be inadequate in other areas .they use money as coverup.even if u preach frm sundown to sun rise...guys wey wan fall maga go fall maga .

SPEEDEPITOME:

They don't see themselves as maga, they think it's normal.

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SPEEDEPITOME:

I didn't say he shouldn't spend on you. My point is money shouldn't be the basis for attraction. For these guys, their 'selling point' was money and that was their undoing.

illuminated93:
Money is important,but it shouldn't be the sole reason for her being with you. But I do believe this,when it's time to spend, spend like a G',if she really likes you, she wouldn't want to strain your pocket. But, if she's doesn't really like you, she would ask for things that would strain your pocket( she doesn't really care about how attractive her manners are to you), she sees you as a means to an end. poor!
A girl that likes you would be bothered about her manners while with you,she would try not to ask for much,even if she wants to.

Finally,to the guys,this is not an excuse to be broke. Spending big on your woman ain't bad,but make sure you spend on someone that you know loves you.

illuminated93:
The undoing of most guys is that they don't see themselves as special beings, that's why they can go so low as spending lavishly on a female just to prove a point

lefulefu:

yes its normal until the relationship goes south thats when they start complaining how much they spent on the lady

SPEEDEPITOME:

This captures everything.

I don't quite understand this part though.

illuminated93:
If a guy considers himself special,he has his self esteem intact, he is in control of his relationship,he is the man,he knows that his girlfriend is lucky to be with him,just as he is lucky to have her around.

solasolasola:
This is one of the most intelligent comments I have seen on Nairaland.