sirhot:
There's a difference between separated parents and parents staying together. You don't know anything about the love we share.

It's not a matter of being perfect or not.


Use of English is a big issue here.

If indeed you know your English, you wouldn't put that trash up there.

Oh, now it's not about being perfect anymore! What makes you think your own family is free of flaws? You see what it feels like to be judged?

sirhot:
That's the uphill task I'm faced with.

How do I start, because one question that will surely pop up will be, are both parents staying together?

People are just talking as if we don't need our families support.

you need family support but at the same time you need to stand firm about your decision to marry this girl, you are a man,they need to know you love her and you don't care about that she comes from a broken home, they will respect your decision. the ball is in your court, it depends on how you handle this matter.

Justeenaleo:
What exactly is the belief about "children from a broken home?"

The belief is that the often stay in marriages.

I know of a lady whose grand mum divorced, her mum divorced, she was also on the brink of getting a divorce but she determined to stay to break that chain.

It takes zealous and determined people to stay because the scar of the parents broken marriage affects them and if they see any resemblance of such in their marriage they opt out.

Besides it will be difficult for one of the parents to give any advice concerning marriage since they themselves are not married.

It's a popular belief, people are just claiming ignorance.

2kurupt:


If indeed you know your English, you wouldn't put that trash up there.

Oh, now it's not about being perfect anymore! What makes you think your own family is free of flaws? You see what it feels like to be judged?

This man child who his parents are still together, please look at the threads he opens. He's obsession with porn, his acknowledgement that he can't have a healthy relationship. If this is the kind of man that comes from a home where the parents are still together, then I'm tempted to go and ask for my divorce papers

Evidence below :

enny4real23:
you need family support but at the same time you need to stand firm about your decision to marry this girl, you are a man,they need to know you love her and you don't care about that she comes from a broken home, they will respect your decision. the ball is in your court, it depends on how you handle this matter.

Okay, thanks for the encouragement.

LeView1:


This man child who his parents are still together, please look at the threads he opens. He's obsession with porn, his acknowledgement that he can't have a healthy relationship. If this is the kind of man that comes from a home where the parents are still together, then I'm tempted to go and ask for my divorce papers

Evidence below :

There's actually no need for that!


If you read my personal text, i said anything I post here is not a true reflection of my personality.

Quit the hating.


I met so many sex starved married women through that channel and I learnt that all is not well in most marriages.


I had frank talk with people who contacted me.


You have no idea the purpose of that thread.


You are so bitter I see and I bet your parents are separated which isn't my fault!

Cheers

2kurupt:


If indeed you know your English, you wouldn't put that trash up there.

Oh, now it's not about being perfect anymore! What makes you think your own family is free of flaws? You see what it feels like to be judged?

My friend if you've ever filled a form, what you have is

- Single
-Married
-Divorced
-Separated

There's nothing like perfect in that list. It's either a couple is married or they are divorced.


I don't understand your meaning of being perfect. Try to understand how and where certain words should be used. Stop exposing your ignorance online.

There's no perfect couple but there is married couple!

Use of English I insist!

sirhot:
There's actually no need for that!


If you read my personal text, i said anything I post here is not a true reflection of my personality.

Quit the hating.


I met so many sex starved married women through that channel and I learnt that all is not well in most marriages.


I had frank talk with people who contacted me.


You have no idea the purpose of that thread.


You are so bitter I see and I bet your parents are separated which isn't my fault!

Cheers

And even if they are (God forbid) I'm not on nl being a pervert, a hypocrite, and a judgemental self righteous

As long as you are the one behind that keyboard then it's the real you. The one you hide from your married parents and partners

I understand you now. You are a pervert who is unfaithful and you need a wife who will pray and fast for your matter and because this girls mother divorced, you know for a fact that she will leave you in a heartbeat if you do her wrong. Of course being a dysfunctional pervert you know yourself and you know what you are capable of so this girl might not be the right fit.

Anyway. Dump her because she dump you if you step out of line.

More evidence follows

sirhot:
There's this girl I love and we've been very good friends for sometime now. I consider her to be a nice, sweet loving girl. She loves me so much! But the problem is that she is from a broken home and I'm sure my family members might not accept her based on the popular belief of children from broken homes.

There's always this belief about children from broken homes. We are very good together and I know it will be difficult convincing my family members about her.

Should I hope that they might even like her like that?

Does she have other married siblings who stayed married? Does her family have a history of divorce? Does she exhibit unstable behaviour in your relationship with her? As in when you have misunderstanding, does she quickly tend to withdraw or she earnestly tries to have issue resolved?

LeView1:


This man child who his parents are still together, please look at the threads he opens. He's obsession with porn, his acknowledgement that he can't have a healthy relationship. If this is the kind of man that comes from a home where the parents are still together, then I'm tempted to go and ask for my divorce papers

Evidence below :

u this girl... I pray not to be ur boyfriend else u will kill me

Young man, nobody is hating on you or bitter on this thread. You come here looking for validation of your obnoxious idea & you think it's gonna go down well?

Someone commented that you're immature and you're yet to prove otherwise

broken family is not a problem you should be bothered about

sirhot:


My friend if you've ever filled a form, what you have is

- Single
-Married
-Divorced
-Separated

There's nothing like perfect in that list. It's either a couple is married or they are divorced.


I don't understand your meaning of being perfect. Try to understand how and where certain words should be used. Stop exposing your ignorance online.

There's no perfect couple but there is married couple!

Use of English I insist!

Haha, your lame attempt to divert from the subject matter is as hopeless as the case you brought up on this thread.

Answer my question mummy's boy, is your family perfect? You definitely ain't matured enough to be in a relationship, I'll advise you go back to your porn & wankin'

Sirhot, ladies from broken homes are quite difficult to live with or manage. However, there are determinants that would spell out her actions. For example, if her father is responsible for the breakage, chances are that her viewpoint of men might not be too nice.

I believe her reactions towards you, particularly when you have misunderstandings matter a lot. Have her talk about her father and see her reactions while seeing is at it. It just might help save you or otherwise. I'm shocked at the fact that you are more bothered at what your family would say rather than what you think is best for you.

LeView1:


And even if they are (God forbid) I'm not on nl being a pervert, a hypocrite, and a judgemental self righteous

As long as you are the one behind that keyboard then it's the real you. The one you hide from your married parents and partners

I understand you now. You are a pervert who is unfaithful and you need a wife who will pray and fast for your matter and because this girls mother divorced, you know for a fact that she will leave you in a heartbeat if you do her wrong. Of course being a dysfunctional pervert you know yourself and you know what you are capable of so this girl might not be the right fit.

Anyway. Dump her because she dump you if you step out of line.

More evidence follows

I'll ignore you because you are certainly not worth my time.


You talk about being judgemental but you are already judging me from my post, who is judgmental between us?



So people's comments online reveal their true self. I've read you comment on two other topics.



My dear, you are empty!

obyrich:
Does she have other married siblings who stayed married? Does her family have a history of divorce? Does she exhibit unstable behaviour in your relationship with her? As in when you have misunderstanding, does she quickly tend to withdraw or she earnestly tries to have issue resolved?

She's the only child between her Dad and her mum, she has a step sister who isn't married and another step brother.

She doesn't exhibit any unstable behaviour and she puts in her best to resolve any issues.

Cutehector:
u this girl... I pray not to be ur boyfriend else u will kill me

Hehehe.. a pained, judgemental girl from a broken home

2kurupt:
Young man, nobody is hating on you or bitter on this thread. You come here looking for validation of your obnoxious idea & you think it's gonna go down well?

Someone commented that you're immature and you're yet to prove otherwise

You are attacking me without advising on the issue.


That's what empty brains do!

sirhot:
That's the uphill task I'm faced with.

How do I start, because one question that will surely pop up will be, are both parents staying together?

People are just talking as if we don't need our families support.

Why bring this matter here when you haven't spoken to or presented the girl to your family? You are worried that your family might not support you right?
I think you are not ready for marriage. I think you have been wasting this girl's time because you'd have some reasons in the future to worry or blame her parents separation if something went wrong.

Leave the girl alone. Stop wasting her time. Find yourself a girl that is not from a broken home.

sirhot:
You are attacking me without advising on the issue.


That's what empty brains do!

I don't advise self conceited folks, am outta here

Sanchez01:
Sirhot, ladies from broken homes are quite difficult to live with or manage. However, there are determinants that would spell out her actions. For example, if her father is responsible for the breakage, chances are that her viewpoint of men might not be too nice.

I believe her reactions towards you, particularly when you have misunderstandings matter a lot. Have her talk about her father and see her reactions while seeing is at it. It just might help save you or otherwise. I'm shocked at the fact that you are more bothered at what your family would say rather than what you think is best for you.

Bro let's not talk like we are not in the African society please. Marriages are between families and not individual. You cannot get married without your parents and siblings.

You started off well but didn't end well. The psychological effect on any broken home if not carefully handled spills into marriage.

Like you said, she didn't use to talk to her dad, intact she used to quarrel with him, verbally abusing and attacking him. I was able to make her stop and today she has a good relationship with the father but the mother and father are still cat and dogs.

my brother u are not serious yet. my friend's milk fell and spilled.... I'm holding onto mine firmly so that it won't fall and spill.

2kurupt:


I don't advise self conceited folks, am outta here

Get lost then... One idiot out, one more to Bleep off my thread!

mirabeldesmond:
my brother u are not serious yet. my friend's milk fell and spilt.... I'm holding onto mine firmly so that it won't fall and spill.

Don't worry you'll give yourself hand in marriage without your dad and his consent.


Irrelevant analogy!

sirhot:
You are attacking me without advising on the issue.


That's what empty brains do!

What advice do you need? Someone who will convince your family to accept her? Someone to banish the paranoid thoughts in your head when you haven't even introduced the girl to your family?

Stop acting weird. Leave the girl alone now and find someone you think your family would accept.

sirhot:
Don't worry you'll give yourself hand in marriage without your dad and his consent.


Irrelevant analogy!

lol... u sound pained.. ppl learn from life experiences.

sirhot:
Don't worry you'll give yourself hand in marriage without your dad and his consent.


Irrelevant analogy!

by d way it's not ur post. we all came to give our own views..why my own kum dey pain u like this...kpele sir!

gbosaa:


Why bring this matter here when you haven't spoken to or presented the girl to your family? You are worried that your family might not support you right?
I think you are not ready for marriage. I think you have been wasting this girl's time because you'd have some reasons in the future to worry or blame her parents separation if something went wrong.

Leave the girl alone. Stop wasting her time. Find yourself a girl that is not from a broken home.

Is that what you'll do if you were in my shoes?


If you don't have any advise to give why not allow people who have an experience of how it went and how they succeeded to give me tips. Why do people think that opting out is the next option rather than resolving issues.

mirabeldesmond:
by d way it's not ur post. we all came to give our own views..why my own kum dey pain u like this...kpele sir!

It didn't pain me but you sounded like I don't need my family at all that I should be a man and get married alone, that's why I also asked you whether you'll be the one to give yourself your own hand in marriage.


You need to comment in a realistic way. Nobody marries without family whether it's one or two family members to witness.

sirhot:
She's the only child between her Dad and her mum, she has a step sister who isn't married and another step brother.

She doesn't exhibit any unstable behaviour and she puts in her best to resolve any issues.

These are points you will present before your parents. You didn't answer questions on divorce history in her family.

sirhot:
Don't worry you'll give yourself hand in marriage without your dad and his consent.


Irrelevant analogy!

ah...it's even ur post. since u already have a solution to ur problem.. why bother us with it.

obyrich:
These are points you will present before your parents. You didn't answer questions on divorce history in her family.

Okay boss. I'm still researching on that.