Was thinking about the fellow that jumped into the lagoon the other day and I just couldn't help but feel sad... I spent time wondering what could have moved the young man to such an action. Heard on radio that he was just 35 years...

At 35 he was a doctor... Had a car, and even a driver... from the Nigerian standard that sounds like a successful young man in all ramifications.

There probably were lots of his secondary school mates or his university mates envying him.
But truth is no one knew what he was going through...

I concluded that he was having a bout of depression and it took a bad turn.

I will ask some pertinent questions.
When last did we check on a friend that we haven't heard from in a while?
When last did we visit some one we knew was finding things difficult?
When we see someone who had it going so well and all of a sudden is finding it hard to make ends meet, do we make fun of them?
When was the last time we called the names of particular people in our circle during our prayers with our creator, to intercede on their behalf ?
The economy is tough and truly people are finding it more difficult to survive.
I have noticed personally an increased number of destitutes in Lagos lately.

We need to watch out for each other... We need to call, we need to visit. I am hoping we check in on others from time to time(physically).
We never know who needs just an ear to listen to all the problems he/she is going through.

Let's be more caring... To at least call someone per day just to say hello!

Lets ponder on this for a few seconds and decide to assist each other psychologically& spiritually today.

Nigeria a country were a problem shared is a problem gossiped. May God help us BUT suicide should never be an option!!!

That's why you have to select your friends carefully.

Owing a car at 35 as a Doctor is not new and depression has nothing to do with money. If you graduate at 22, and get a job that pays at least N180,000-N200,000 monthly, you can own an SUV before 25 years.

Why haven't all the almajiri and IDPs committed suicide if poverty is a leading cause of depression?

I'm only surprised because as a Doctor, he should know more about depression and mental health than any other person.

The same way a voice tells someone to go na.k.ed and walk in rags on the street (those we called ma .d men) is the same way a voice spoke to the Doctor to jump into the lagoon. Google hallucinations, clinical depression and psychotic depression.

These guys hear voices, they see stuffs other people can't see. It has nothing to do with money, although a feeling of hopelessness and worthlessness may be a causative factor of depression.

Like you said, we need to be watchful and take good care of those around us by keeping a close watch. What led to the suicide mission started a long time ago, those around him should have seen all that, but they were blinded by the flashy car and driver... You see why I said it has nothing to do with money?

Nigerians worship money a lot, and immediately we see rich men, we assume all is well with them. Some wealthy folks are unhappy and depressed. Meanwhile, some poor men are happy. Go to the IDPs and watch 'hopeless' kids play football.
Watch their parents live happily in harmony with their peers.

As a country, we need to practise and preach contentment. When you fail to meet up with the standards you set, manage what you have and continue to strive. If all these fail to change the feeling, visit a psychiatrist immediately. Nigeria has over 16 specialized psychiatry institutions with over 20 other psychiatry units in all tertiary health institutions in Nigeria.. They are not built solely for the so called unclad "ma. d" men on the streets, they are meant for everyone, including those on suit and tie.

As the body gets weak and sick, so do our minds. The Doctor failed to treat his mind.

Acidosis:
Owing a car at 35 as a Doctor is not new and depression has nothing to do with money. If you graduate at 22, and get a job that pays at least N180,000-N200,000 monthly, you can own an SUV before 25 years.

Why haven't all the almajiri and IDPs committed suicide if poverty is a leading cause of depression?

I'm only surprised because as a Doctor, he should know more about depression and mental health than any other person.

The same way a voice tells someone to go na.k.ed and walk in rags on the street (those we called ma .d men) is the same way a voice spoke to the Doctor to jump into the lagoon. Google hallucinations, clinical depression and psychotic depression.

These guys hear voices, they see stuffs other people can't see. It has nothing to do with money, although a feeling of hopelessness and worthlessness may be a causative factor of depression.

Like you said, we need to be watchful and take good care of those around us by keeping a close watch. What led to the suicide mission started a long time ago, those around him should have seen all that, but they were blinded by the flashy car and driver... You see why I said it has nothing to do with money?

Nigerians worship money a lot, and immediately we see rich men, we assume all is well with them. Some wealthy folks are unhappy and depressed. Go to the IDPs and watch 'hopeless' kids play football.

As a country, we need to practise and preach contentment. When you fail to meet up with the standards you set, manage what you have and continue to strive. If all these fail to change the feeling, visit a psychiatrist immediately. Nigeria has over 16 specialized psychiatry institutions with over 20 other psychiatry units in all tertiary health institutions in Nigeria.. They are not built solely for the so called unclad "ma. d" men on the streets, they are meant for everyone, including those on suit and tie.

As the body gets weak and sick, so do our minds.

100% correct!

Acidosis:
Owing a car at 35 as a Doctor is not new and depression has nothing to do with money. If you graduate at 22, and get a job that pays at least N180,000-N200,000 monthly, you can own an SUV before 25 years.

Why haven't all the almajiri and IDPs committed suicide if poverty is a leading cause of depression?

I'm only surprised because as a Doctor, he should know more about depression and mental health than any other person.

The same way a voice tells someone to go na.k.ed and walk in rags on the street (those we called ma .d men) is the same way a voice spoke to the Doctor to jump into the lagoon. Google hallucinations, clinical depression and psychotic depression.

These guys hear voices, they see stuffs other people can't see. It has nothing to do with money, although a feeling of hopelessness and worthlessness may be a causative factor of depression.

Like you said, we need to be watchful and take good care of those around us by keeping a close watch. What led to the suicide mission started a long time ago, those around him should have seen all that, but they were blinded by the flashy car and driver... You see why I said it has nothing to do with money?

Nigerians worship money a lot, and immediately we see rich men, we assume all is well with them. Some wealthy folks are unhappy and depressed. Meanwhile, some poor men are happy. Go to the IDPs and watch 'hopeless' kids play football.
Watch their parents live happily in harmony with their peers.

As a country, we need to practise and preach contentment. When you fail to meet up with the standards you set, manage what you have and continue to strive. If all these fail to change the feeling, visit a psychiatrist immediately. Nigeria has over 16 specialized psychiatry institutions with over 20 other psychiatry units in all tertiary health institutions in Nigeria.. They are not built solely for the so called unclad "ma. d" men on the streets, they are meant for everyone, including those on suit and tie.

As the body gets weak and sick, so do our minds. The Doctor failed to treat his mind.

You made a valid point

Lalasticlala, Mynd44

lalabrother:
Was thinking about the fellow that jumped into the lagoon the other day and I just couldn't help but feel sad... I spent time wondering what could have moved the young man to such an action. Heard on radio that he was just 35 years...

At 35 he was a doctor... Had a car, and even a driver... from the Nigerian standard that sounds like a successful young man in all ramifications.

There probably were lots of his secondary school mates or his university mates envying him.
But truth is no one knew what he was going through...

I concluded that he was having a bout of depression and it took a bad turn.

I will ask some pertinent questions.
When last did we check on a friend that we haven't heard from in a while?
When last did we visit some one we knew was finding things difficult?
When we see someone who had it going so well and all of a sudden is finding it hard to make ends meet, do we make fun of them?
When was the last time we called the names of particular people in our circle during our prayers with our creator, to intercede on their behalf ?
The economy is tough and truly people are finding it more difficult to survive.
I have noticed personally an increased number of destitutes in Lagos lately.

We need to watch out for each other... We need to call, we need to visit. I am hoping we check in on others from time to time(physically).
We never know who needs just an ear to listen to all the problems he/she is going through.

Let's be more caring... To at least call someone per day just to say hello!

Lets ponder on this for a few seconds and decide to assist each other psychologically& spiritually today.

He actually didn't own the SUV,it belonged to his mom and the driver was employed to take him around.
There are indications the family knew all was not well because the mother visited him often while at work.The driver was for someone to be around him.