Hi guys, i greet you all. I'm just a guy in his early 20's and i don't have a talent, i can't even do any stuff well, i can't fix things perfectly. Example, as a dude i can't even sketch a simple drawing of anything, meet me to sketch a simple african map it will be a problem. The other day i was trying to fix a memory card on a phone, i couldn't, i asked a friend for help, he did within seconds.
I read for exams, yet i don't remember anything. I do assigments in school but i don't do it neatly no matter how i try. I just can't seem to do anything well at all, nothing including even simple house chores.
It affects me alot because someone may need my help on something, i will do it but wouldn't be able to satisfy that person, it hurts when i see the person redoing it or giving it to someone else. Please guys, what could really be the problem, cos me i'm just tired.

Are you by the slightest chance from Benin?

I'm failing to see how this post is romantic hence your posting it in the romantic section except you also mean you can't do that thing well

U need to concentrate on your strengths.

When u dwell too much on your weakness you will suffer a confidence crisis.

There are things you are good at doing that u can convert.

Get motivational books and read.


On your academics are you procrastinating ?
For you to have survived all these while, trust me you are not an 1mbecile.

If your level for energy requires that you read a course 5 times before you grab all, waiting till exam is 2 or 3 weeks time might not help you.

Just study yourself. You are much more better than you think.

It is normal and natural that some subject just dnt interest you.

I cnt draw and hate drawing with passion too and had D/E in most drawing related courses in my under graduate days but that does not stop me from graduating as a 4 pointer.

Does not knowing how to draw make me less creative ?

Naaaaa. My core area of specialisation requires smartness and creativity more that u can imagine and if u permit me to be a bit proud, " I am one of the best".

Also run away from those who doubt your ability and rub it on your face. They can Kill your dreams before you catch it.

On the issue of perfection. Screw it ! U dnt need perfection for anything.

All the students you look up to as gods in terms of their academic performance only scored above 70 from 100 to get A and having it in all major courses is what they grade as first class.

So forget perfection and do whatever u set ur mind to do and do it well to the best of your ability.

Please start working on this. If you dnt believe in urself, nobody will believe in you.

Perhaps you don't concentrate enough or just a very high degree of nonchalance. Identify something that interests you and learn to take your time.

I still don't know how this is romantic to fall into romance section.

your village people be like... ' Issawa work o!

You are not a man. Visit the jungles of Congo and come back.

Takebanana

Op I have the same problem with you but much more worse. I think you may have anxiety disorders, depression or ADHD. I have all of the above disorders and more

Magician1503:
your village people be like...
' Issawa work o!

soft work

Young Man everyone mustn't be Equal in Talents and skills. Stop i repeat STOP COMPARING YOURSELF WITH OTHERS; your friend may be good wid books and you may be good in entertainment, wrestling, soccer et a tal.... BOTTOM LINE is go rediscover your passion and i bet that would be the first pointer into molding the MAN in YOU...

if u have something similar to my dp
congrats just got a contract

Just sit down alone and think of what you like,that thing that gives you joy,pick it and work on it......
And for your books it a step by step thing......if today didn't work out,you can always try again tomorrow and even the day after.....

Peace

The truth is you have low self esteem, you already see yourself as not being able to do stuffs like regular people do.

Truly, you might have failed in your attempts to do some of the things you mentioned above but the biggest truth is that most skillful people you see out there acquired those skills over time.

About your school works, it's up to you to work hard and pick yourself up. Complaining won't help you. It's not easy for so many others too.

I know you are thinking you have a problem but all of that is in your head. Did you compose and type this post yourself or someone did that for you? If you did it yourself, then trust me, you are ok.

Start seeing yourself differently, acquire skills, life is a process, learn new things, study hard, try harder when it seems difficult.

And you'll see things falling in place for you.

Accept all the things you can't do. I know the feeling. I have been called a lot of things just because I could not do things in a particular order.

Just accept it.

Now, focus your mind on what you can actually do. Increase your skill set. Dwell on one thing at a time. What makes the difference is persistence and determination.

very simple
start thinking you can do this right and see yourself doing things right.
then practice on your weakness

op if u are to ever learn anything on this thread it should be that everyone has a talent it must not be drawing or singing or dancing it could be maths. communication. cooking. skating. running. teaching. there are countless just look for one and be good at it you will progress remember the sky is not your limit only you can decide your limit

Why not Google up I'm sure you'll find something. My bet is you have Attention Deficit Disorder (ADD). I hope you find something that helps.

Mayor21:
Hi guys, i greet you all. I'm just a guy in his early 20's and i don't have a talent, i can't even do any stuff well, i can't fix things perfectly. Example, as a dude i can't even sketch a simple drawing of anything, meet me to sketch a simple african map it will be a problem. The other day i was trying to fix a memory card on a phone, i couldn't, i asked a friend for help, he did within seconds.

ADD

But you were able fix Nairaland passport and always remembers to put it correctly each time you're logging in,then there's big hope for you.

AntiWailer:
U need to concentrate on your strengths.

When u dwell too much on your weakness you will suffer a confidence crisis.

There are things you are good at doing that u can convert.

Get motivational books and read.


On your academics are you procrastinating ?
For you to have survived all these while, trust me you are not an 1mbecile.

If your level for energy requires that you read a course 5 times before you grab all, waiting till exam is 2 or 3 weeks time might not help you.

Just study yourself. You are much more better than you think.

It is normal and natural that some subject just dnt interest you.

I cnt draw and hate drawing with passion too and had D/E in most drawing related courses in my under graduate days but that does not stop me from graduating as a 4 pointer.

Does not knowing how to draw make me less creative ?

Naaaaa. My core area of specialisation requires smartness and creativity more that u can imagine and if u permit me to be a bit proud, " I am one of the best".

Also run away from those who doubt your ability and rub it on your face. They can Kill your dreams before you catch it.

On the issue of perfection. Screw it ! U dnt need perfection for anything.

All the students you look up to as gods in terms of their academic performance only scored above 70 from 100 to get A and having it in all major courses is what they grade as first class.

So forget perfection and do whatever u set ur mind to do and do it well to the best of your ability.

Please start working on this. If you dnt believe in urself, nobody will believe in you.

I want to say a very big thank u for this, may God bless u

Damienmarley:
Op I have the same problem with you but much more worse.
I think you may have anxiety disorders, depression or ADHD.
I have all of the above disorders and more

Can u please share?

Pureheart91:
Young Man everyone mustn't be Equal in Talents and skills. Stop i repeat STOP COMPARING YOURSELF WITH OTHERS; your friend may be good wid books and you may be good in entertainment, wrestling, soccer et a tal.... BOTTOM LINE is go rediscover your passion and i bet that would be the first pointer into molding the MAN in YOU...

Thank u

Mayor21:

I want to say a very big thank u for this, may God bless u

You are welcome any time Bro.

If you are in Lag. I can host u to a lunch one of these days to talk to you.

Divay22:
Just sit down alone and think of what you like,that thing that gives you joy,pick it and work on it......
And for your books it a step by step thing......if today didn't work out,you can always try again tomorrow and even the day after.....

Peace

Thanks for the contribution, i appreciate

accountbalance:
The truth is you have low self esteem, you already see yourself as not being able to do stuffs like regular people do.

Truly, you might have failed in your attempts to do some of the things you mentioned above but the biggest truth is that most skillful people you see out there acquired those skills over time.

About your school works, it's up to you to work hard and pick yourself up. Complaining won't help you. It's not easy for so many others too.

I know you are thinking you have a problem but all of that is in your head. Did you compose and type this post yourself or someone did that for you? If you did it yourself, then trust me, you are ok.

Start seeing yourself differently, acquire skills, life is a process, learn new things, study hard, try harder when it seems difficult.

And you'll see things falling in place for you.

Thanks bro

Lunagirl:
Accept all the things you can't do. I know the feeling. I have been called a lot of things just because I could not do things in a particular order.

Just accept it.

Now, focus your mind on what you can actually do. Increase your skill set. Dwell on one thing at a time. What makes the difference is persistence and determination.

Thank u

torres89:
very simple
start thinking you can do this right and see yourself doing things right.
then practice on your weakness

Thanks

dopedan:
op if u are to ever learn anything on this thread it should be that everyone has a talent it must not be drawing or singing or dancing it could be maths. communication. cooking. skating. running. teaching. there are countless just look for one and be good at it you will progress remember the sky is not your limit only you can decide your limit

Thank u

You obviousy complain perfectly.
Why do you have to be good at what others are good at?

AntiWailer:


You are welcome any time Bro.

If you are in Lag. I can host u to a lunch one of these days to talk to you.

No i don't i stay in Calabar. But can we chat on FB?

Hannysmilez:
You obviousy complain perfectly. Why do you have to be good at what others are good at?

Because i'm good at nothing, thats the problem.

Mayor21:

Because i'm good at nothing, thats the problem.

That's coz you're too obsessed with others and what they can do that you can't instead of what you can do.

Hannysmilez:
That's coz you're too obsessed with others and what they can do that you can't instead of what you can do.

You think so?